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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1953-09-24, Page 6"Dear Anne Hirst: My son, who got married eight years ago, hasfinally left his wife. S h e made life so intolerable, I won- der how he stood it so long. I knew she had a bad temper, and tried to make things easy for them so she would have no ex- cuse to complain. I cooked spe- cial dishes, made homemade breads, and even helped her with the cleaning "But my heart is broken — not Only because of my son's unhap- piness, but because she took heir three children to live with her mother. I am desolated; they seemed like our own, I tried to help her — and now she has done this! "My son has not come back to his own place, but we hear from him regularly. Of course he sends his wife money. She has demanded a divorce . Anne Hirst, these are the saddest days of my life! SO LONELY." * I know how stricken you * feel, how you miss these dear * youngsters you saw almost * every day, but no matter how * you resent your daughter -in - * law's behavior, try to under- * stand her. * She is too obsessed with her * own plight to consider how * you and your husband miss * the children; they had twined * themselves about your hearts, * and your life is empty without * them. ,This she is not thinking * of, I hope you are on good * terms with her family, so you * can visit the children frequent- * ly and have them often in your * home. kk®I on Designs in Vibrant (o ors No embroidery—just iron on! Luscious roses in two shades of rich red with soft green leaves. Beautify sheets, pillowcases, tow- els, scarves, spreads and many other items! Pop 'em in the wash —colors stay vivid and glowing. Just iron on! Jiffy! Washable! Pattern 580 has 14 motifs: four roses 4x4112, four roses 134x2114; six roses averaging 21/2 x 4 inches. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS in coins (stamps cannot be ac- cepted) for this pattern to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St. New Toronto, Ont, Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and AD- DRESS. EXCITING VALUE! Ten, yes TEN popular, new designs to cro- chet, sew, embroider, knit — printed right in the Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book, Plus many more patterns to send for -ideas for gifts, bazaar money- makers, fashions! Send 25 cents for your copy! l ithegat * Don't worry about your * kindness to their mother. Your * actions were well meant, and * if she does not appreciate them "' now, she will later. * * SHE IS OLDER "Dear Anne Hirst: My 34 -year- old nephew, who is like a son to me, has fallen in love with a woman nearly 40. I have always thought the man should be older than, the woman. Do you think this difference important? "In every other way, she seems a fine and talented person. — And incidentally, he has always preferred people older than him- self. MRS. T. R. E." In your nephew's case, the familiar rule you quote need not apply. He is evidently mature even for his age, and more at home with older people. Really, he is old enough to know what he wants. Welcome this nice woman into the fancily, unreservedly, and let him know you do. • * * Kindness is never misplaced; sooner or later, it is appreciated. In any time of indecision, ask Anne Hirst's opinion, She will guide you wisely. Address her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont, and ern Etiquette Q. Would it be proper, as an introduction, to say, "Mr. Mar- shall, this is Miss Wilson?" A. Reverse the names. The man should be presented to the woman. Say, "Miss Wilson, this is Mr. Marshall." However, when the man is much older than the woman, or is a distinguished per- sonality, she then is presented to him. Q. Is it permissible to pick up a chop bone with the fingers, when eating it at the table? A. No. One should sacrifice any meat that cannot be cut off with the knife or fork. Q. Should an usher at a church wedding offer his arm to every woman he escorts down the aisle, whether he knows her dor not? A. Yes; this is one of his duties. Q. .If a anan offers to shake hands with a woman upon being introduced, should she ignore the gesture? A. Certainly not. She would be guilty of ill -breeding if she did. She should respond with- out hesitation. Q. Should the early arrivals at a wedding who have the aisle seats in a pew move towards the center so that the late -comers won't have t o crawl over t hem to their seats? A. This is not at all necessary. In fact, this is one occasion on which the first -coiner has an in- disputable right to the aisle seat. Q. Is it all right to use the telephone to acknowledge re- ceipt of a gift? A. This is not considered good form. A sincere, personally writ- ten note of thanks is in order. Q. When writing to an ac- quaintance who calls you "Mrs. Watson," how should you sign the letter? A. As "Mary Watson." Q. How many wedding invi- tations should be sent to a family where there are several grown sons and daughters? A. Send one invitation ad- dressed to the father and mother, and a separate one to each of the sons and daughters. Q. What should a divorced woman do with the rings , given her by her first husband, after she remarries? A. Some women dispose of their first engagement and wed- ding rings, while others wear the first engagement ring on the right hand. This would, of course, depend upon her second hus- band's attitude. [Cookies—extra tasty when they're MAGIC baked! OAT CRUNCHIES Measure into bowl 3U c. rolled oats and sprinkle with 434 tsps. Magic Baking Powder, % tsp. salt, tsp. grated nutmeg; mix thoroughly. Combine 3 well -beaten eggs, 2 taps. gratedorange rind, I tap, vanilla; gradually beat in 14 c. fine granulated "'. sugar and add lei tbs. butter or margarine, melted. 4,1v, Add egg mixture to dry ingredients and mix thoroughly. 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ONICF LES ' C, x4oU.r C' Ctexke Was there ever a time when so much heat was endured by so many people for so many con- secutive days? At this moment it is 98 degrees in the shade by our thermometer, which coin- cides pretty well with official readings However, there is one consoling thought—this is Sep- tember and the days of hot sun are not as long as they would be if it were July. Nor can the. heat wave last for ever. With:, that idea in mind, last week we ordered our winter's supply of coal. As I watched the coal slid- ing down the chute a consoling question arose in my mind . "If summer comes can Fall be far behind?" Queer, when you think of it, how we react to extreme tem- peratures. In sub -zero weather,; those of us who can take our stride, think of ourselves'dzT' tough, and often we like to boast about it. But who boasts about 'how well they can take a spell of almost tropical heat? That's another story. The boasting we do then is about how hot it was at our house, on our farm, or in: our office or factory. We talk about the meals we couldn't eat, the nights we couldn't sleep, the liquids that we drank and how, we sweated over the work we had to do. And with it all none of us gets any sympathy because the other fellow always has a hotter tale of woe. But when it comes to a pleasure outing, somehow there isn't so much talk about the heat. Which brings me to an outing that Partner had last week—although. to tell you the truth, Partner doesn't mind the heat too much either for work or pleasure, they could get excited about any- thing. But when the race began —"Well, I wish you could have seen those quiet dames i" said Partner. Everyone could see very well sitting down, but there they were, standing on the seats shouting and waving their pro- grammes—"Cone on, Blue Boy come on, come on . , beat 'em, Blue Boy." And then as the race finished, some other fan threw her programme in the air, and shouted to no one in particu- lar --"He made it . . . he made it .. do you hear me . . he made it!" Sitting right next to Partner was an elderly man, apparently a retired farmer. He wasn't do- ing any betting either but be le as getting just as much kick out of it 'all as was Partner. There were eight races during the afternoon. In between races people sat studying their programmes as if their lives depended on the out- come. Sometimes there would be some arguing, then one or other would di appear to place a bet, and all: would be quiet again until the next race began. Well, this column is being Written ahead of time se you Will understand if I am not. up- to-date on the weather. By to- morrow I shall be many miles from here. Partner should be with me but we know it would be too long a drive for him. Des and Arthur will be here while I am away. Where I went and what I did belongs to next week's column—and I am glad the weather probs this morning are for cooler weather! 'Bye, folks—got lots to do be- fore I can get away, Friday night Daughter pnori •:! that she and Arthur were con- ing out later that evening and wanted to take Dad to the city next day, either to the races at Long Branch or to the Exhibi- tion, whichever he preferred. Partner, without any hesitation, decided on the races. Now don't get the wrong idea. Partner• has never followed the races, but he has always said he would like to go some time, and that is what Daughter remembered, So off they went to Long Branch next day. I think it was a mere 90 that time—and of course Pact• ner's shoulders are still warmly wrapped up with batting . and bandages, and will be for a couple of weeks yet After the races the three of them went to see Partner's brother in To- ronto ::o it was midnight when they got home—just is .1 was beginning to wonder whether they had had car trouble •— or worse still gambled away all their possessions. Arthur had told me not to let Partner wear a good shirt because he might come home without it! However Partner came home with his shirt and his looney. In feet, as far as I could make out, he wasn't so much interested in' the races as • in the people who watched them. "When Father,went to the races" is going to be an amusing topic of conversation in our family for some time to come. "you should just have seen those people," said Partner, "at the end of each race they just about_ went crazy!" He mentioned a group„ of wom- en sitting just in front of hula, quiet, neatly dressed, well -poised. —could have been school teatth-' ers. They studied their pro- grammes, talked quietly among themselves and didn't look as if Some Run Lt o=g n d .. a ^Rr on't How long can a play run? Well, there's one called "The Drunkard" which has been run- ning non-stop in Los Angeles for twenty years, It's a temperance drama which was first produced as long ago as 1844. But here's the joke, folks, During the twenty years' run the bar takings at the theatre are estimated to have totalled $4,- 000,000, London's champion long run was "Chu Chin Chow" -2,238 performances. Other early long runs in Brit- ish theatres: "Charley's Aunt" (1,466 ,performances); "Maid of the Mountains" (1,352 perform- ances ; "The Farmer's Wife" (1,- 329 performances). In recent years "Blithe Spirit" topped 1,997 performances. Noel Coward tells this story of the shortest run on record: the play only ran three acts out of four! (It Wasn't one of Noel's, needless to say!) He says: "The critics left at the end of the first act, the audience at the end of the second and the cast at the end of the third." Remove the extra oven shelf to use as a cooling rack for baked goods. IT MAY BE YOUR LIVER Hf life's notrhe living itmayyour liver! we a £soft it takes up to two hints of liver bile a day to keep your digestive tract in top shape! If your liver bile is not flowing freely your food may not digest ... gas bloats up your stomach ... you foal constipated end all ens trs ande sparkle gontle t erter ., LittUe Liretr you need . Ct Liver ,!'ills. These famous vegetable l help stimulate tho flow of liver bile, Soon your digestion starts functioning pieperly and you fool that happy days aro here avant Dont ever stay sumo. Always keep Carter's Little Liver Polis on hand. ISSUE 39 1953 Had Ten Wives - Ninety Children Do you know what a modern Chinese, rich from coastal com- merce, will spend his money on? Wives, mistresses and offspring, Austin Coates, son of the com- poser says one such man, some of whose, children he knows in Hong Kong, has had ten wives, numerous mistresses, several houses, sometimes even main- taining three preferred wives each in a separate one, with her Own car and servants. Mr. Coates reckons that he must have fathered close on ninety children! Another old Hong Kong man was reputed to have had seventy all alive at one time, and not to have known at family parties which were his own! Riches give a Chinese business man the greatest of all opportunities: to father so many sons that, should the worst disasters befall China, his name and seed will survive. The children, however, didn't live like princes — far from it — for the father's family commit- ments were so great that there wasn't enough to educate them 'all,, the sons of the less -favoured wives having to win scholarships, just as if their father had been poor. When one of them had ap- pendicitis there wasn't enough ready money to pay the surgeon's cash fee, so the lad, desperately ill, had to trail from friend to friend to borrow until the Je- suit Fathers who had educated him provided what his own fa- ther either couldn't or wouldn't give — no doubt because he had lost money that night gambling. This is the way of hundreds of China coast families, Mr. Coates says in a book packed with fascinating lore,— "Invita- tion an Eastern Feast" — poor one generation, fabulously rich the next, then poor again. The millionaire, with his pure - white goatee, twinkling eyes and trembling fingers weighted with jewels, May once have been a rickshaw -coolie; his brother may be a bandit made respectable by his own fortune; his grown-up sons, ,{,.faultlessly dressed a n d speaking fluent English and French (taught at the most ex- pensive private school in Lau- sanne), may have close connec- tions with the Shanghai under- world which would have amazed the people who entertained them in Europe. The Chinese have a strong sense of the practical. A friend of Mr. Coates with four daugh- ters who at last became the proud father of a son gave the usual ceremonial party, taking a whole floor in a big restaurant for 400 guests. Mr. Coates was amazed that he should spend so much entertaining many who were mere acquaintances. Then, to- wards the end of the evening, he noticed that as the host went from table to table to drink a toast with the guests, a relative with him held out a tray on which each put a small bright red envelope, for good luck. These all contained a money gift "for the baby" — but really to lighten the host's expense and partly pay for the dinner. Among poorer people no guest would feel comfortable unless he'd giv- en enough to pay his full share;; the host wouldn't think much, a2 a friend if he didn't! Mr. Coates finds the sour grapes attitude to authority in the West -- "Why should he have a big house and three cars just because he's a big business man; he's no better than I am" •— ut- terly.foreign to China, where the humblest feel it is propel'• for those in authority to maintain a suitable state, and knowing they are as good as the great, don't bother to say it or even think about it. The coolie -made -,million- aire, the peasant girl made the emperor's favorite with her vil- lage brother becoming a cham- berlain with escort of fifty sol- diers and a resident scholar to teach him to write like a gentle- man — are common in Chinese history. Mr. Coates tells equally absorb- ing stories of Burma and India, where he dressed as an Indian and lived in Indian homes. An irresistible book, with superb photographs. For Those cho'L i Lunch } ox File gs The lunch your child carries to school is one of his three main meals for the day. .This is a fact oft' forgotten by the lunch pail packer. Doctors and nutritionists agree that every noon lunch should provide about' one-third of your child's food needs for the day. The packed lunch takes on added significance if it is to play its role as a meal, rather than a mid- day snack, Remember — your child's progress at school, as well as his health and well being, may be affected by the foods .he eats. "Plan from a pattern" is the answer to your problem. To pro- vide its one-third share for the day, each lunch should contain one food from each of these groups. 1. Milk—to drink or eat 2. Meat, fish, eggs, poultry cheese, peanut butter, dried peas or beans, or nuts 3. Whole wheat or enriched white bread, bran muffins or oatmeal cookies 4. Fruit or vegetables, raw of cooked • Extras may be added, of course —but this is the basic plan. The easiest way to follow this pattern is to make • sandwiches as the main course of the lunch - box meal. Choose from a variety of whole grain or enriched white breads, fill the slices with a tasty, hearty foods from group 2 (meat, eggs, cheese or peanut butter are the most common), 'add milk to drink, or milk soup or pudding, tuck in fresh fruit or a whole tomato, end there's your meal -- ready to pack its lunch-time punch! Make hamburger. all the same size, by pressing the chopped meat into a Ye or a 1/4 cup mea- sure. Unmold on waxed paper, and press to desired thicknes'' with a spatula. with Modern Fast -Acting DRY. Yeast! FAN TAN$ Measure into large bowl, / c. lukewarm water, 1 tsp. granu- lated sugar; stir until sugar is dissolved. Sprinkle slowly with 1 envelope Fleischtnann's Fast Rising Dry Yeast. Let stand 10 ruin,, THEN stir well Scald 1 c. milk and stir in 5 tbs. granu- lated sugar, 2 tans. salt; cool to lukewar•mn. Add to yeast mixture and stir in 1/2 cup lukewarm water. Beat in 3 c, once -sifted bread flour; beat well. Beat in 4 tbs. melted shortening. Work in 3 c. more once -sifted bread flour. Rnead until smooth and elastic; place in greased bowl and brush top with melted butter or shortening. Cover and set in waren place, free from draught. Let rise until doubled in bulk. Punch down dough in bowl, grease top and let rise again until nearly doubled. Punch down dough and roll out, half at a time, into a rectangle a scant IA" thick; lift dough, cover with cloth and let rest 5 min. 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