Loading...
HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1953-04-30, Page 6it • Io "Dear Aune Hirst: I am 24, and have an only child nearly six; I divorced her father five years ago. I couldn't seen to settle down, until I met and mar- ried the man who is now my • husband. He is loyal, good and kind; I could not ask for a bet- ter husband, and I lova hirn dearly. But he has no ambition. "He doesn't mind the three of us living in a furnished two - room apartment, surrounded by neighbors who are not good for my little girl. He and she are often at each other's throats, be- cause they are both jealous con- cerning me, I sympathize with her, and she seems so neglected in important ways. "Her own father is ambitious, and a very good provider. (He is really a kind person, but I just never cared for hint). My daughter loves hien very much, and he can give her the things that are rightfully hers. "This past summer we visited him, I haven't been happy since. I keep remembering the good home and the advantages my child would have. The child her- self begs to go back to him. "Must I give up the pian 1 love for my child? Or watch her grow up here, and perhaps later to hate me? I could go back to her father any time, his door is open; but I hate to close niy present door behind me, it seems like giving up part of my life I'm afraid I don't have the intelligence to do what is right. Thank you for your help. CONFUSED" It is easy for someone else to remind you that your first duty is to your child and her future, Yet when that means leaving the man you love, it will take all the moral cour- age you have. Since you your- self feel it is the right thing to do, however, you will find the strength if you must. Your husband and your child do not get along; both demand all your affection, and the. re- sult is a strain on all of you. If this feeling could be over- * * t 4864 SIZES 2—W " come, your little girl might accustom herself to staying * where she is,; with occasional " visits to hez .:.fabler. As she grows older, it could readily happen. But it is the present 's situation that is causing your * distress, which, I am. afraid, °' will deepen as the days pass. * Are you and your husband * to give up your own happiness * for her sake? If you do, what * will your own future be? " You do not dislike your first " husband. Both of you are de- * voted to your daughter, who is the bond between you. Living * with him might be agreeable *, and rewarding—if you could find your recompense watch- * ing your daughter grow up a with the father she loves, en- " joying the advantages to which * you feel she is entitled. It is a decision for a present- " day Solomon. To give up one's personal love in exchange for her child's hap- • piness is a heartbreaking 'deci- sion for a another io make .. . Anne Hirst sees both sides of any problem, and will help you find courage to do what you feel is right. Address her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, One TWO main pattern pieces for dress! Two main pattern pieces for cape! Mother, did you ever see such an adorable outfit? Make this for a spring ensemble! Dress has another version with smart Peter Pan collar and em- broidery. Pattern 4a64:; Children's Sizes 2, 4, 6, 8, 10. Size 6 dress, 2 yards 35 -inch; cape, 11/2 yards 54 -inch, Embroidery transfer in- cluded. Send THIRTY -:FIVE CENTS (35(") in coins (stamps cannot be accepted) for this pattern. Print plainly SIZE. NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Y'zt} dr Etiquette (-1. If a girl is to be married to a "man who has been married previously, is it proper for her to have a big wedding, wear a white gown and veil? A. Certainly. The fact that her bridegroom has been mar- ried before does not alter the fact that this is the girl's first wedding. If, however, she has been married previously, she should not have a big wedding nor wear white. Q. When you are a guest at a small dinner party, and a dish is served that you particularly dislike, what should you say? A. Better say nothing at all. Instead, accept a small portion and at least pretend to eat it. Q. It is proper to leave a tip in a tea room when one is wait- ed on by the owner herself? A. No; this is not necessary in this instance. • Q. When a girl is attending a party or it dance with a young man, isn't she privileged to sug- gest that they go hone at a reasonable hour? A. Yes. This is not only her privilege, but: her duty, as the man should not suggest it. How- ever, she should be thoughtful enough not to suggest leaving when the affair is only half over. Q, Is it proper for a woman to retain her coat in a nightclub,. instead of checking it? A. Yes; it may be slipped over the back of her chair. Q. Is it proper for a mare to use the "double -sheet" type of stationery for his correspond- ence? A. Although this 'is all right, the single -sheet type is gener- ally preferred by men. Q. What should a person say when another asks, "Guess how old I am"? A. It usually would be bet- ter to guess a few years younger than you really think, or say, "I ain seldom correct in guessing ages." You might say "Fifty" to a woman of forty, and thereby spoil a beautiful friendship Q. When jelly is served on the dinner Pilate, how is it meant to be eaten? A. With the fork. as it goes with the "neat. Q. In a double - ring ecre- teeny, who makes the first pres- entation. of his ring. the bride or the bridegrooms? A. The bride receives her ring first, then present' the bridegroom with his. Q. 'What is the proper time to pass olives, pickles and cel- ery at the dinner table? A. During the soup course. HEWTHREADER 1 A ,1;14 VOW, 1'ii:00r. 1 MCI ('r. (.l PT t;4'ERN 1Slld1:lN ss o" nee, ai r'1t11'145 "O1 One Doled, Poet Paid ATOMIC PRODUCTS, Station 8, Hamilton, Ont. IS ITI; 17 -- Ill::},''i Present From The Past—More than 2000 years ago these pottery wine jars were aboard a cargo ship which sank to the bottom of the Mediterranean Sea off the coast of France. Today, rescued, they are being examined by pretty Ann Lunceford of the National Geographic Society.' NICLE IINI3R7 .�I �°ih,rn; N r3 ret ; n The only one around here who had a new Easter bonnet was Partner — and his was not quite the kind of bonnet that would be worn in an Easter parade. You see, this bonnet was used.. instead of a bandage to keep dressings in place over a huge carbuncle very nicely situated right on the back of Partner's neck. Anyone who knows any- thing about carbuncles will realize that the last four weeks have been anything but pleasant what with pain, lack of sleep and frequent dressings. The area surrounding the carbuncle, was so tender Partner could not stand having the dressing" taped on so I invented a bonnet, or rather two bonnets, with holes to let the eara through and strings to tie under the chin. So Partner has been wearing a bonnet for the last three week,. night and day. Now he has got so used to it that if people come in unexpectedly he forgets to ex- , plain what he is wearing it for. No doubt it arouses considerable comment. However, in a day or two the bonnet can be dispensed with, thank goodness. This car- buncle has been a long drawn out affair. Penicillin prevented the spread of infection but did nothing to hasten the healing process. In fact the doctor didn't want it hurried --- said the main thing with a carbuncle is to keep it open and free from further infection. Actually ! am telling you about the bonnet because I have a feeling it might be worth- while information to anyone who has to deal with similar trouble, or with any kind of wound on the head that is difli- cult to bandage. A bonnet, fitted snugly to the head, especially at the neck, will hold any mad or dressing comfortably in place. The first one I tmacle was of flannelette, the second from an old elastic clocking, bound at the neck, with ends left tor ty- ing, This was the better of the two, and even met with the doc- tor's approval. So now I att. thinking of applying for a patent! Well, it looks as if the third. generation has started to arrive. Our niece Labs presented her' small world with a daughter last week. 1 think Babs herselt weigh: a little less than a hun• - dred pound s. incl the baby. weighed just over seven pounds, so it shouldn't take Carol Ann too long to catch up t0 her mother. Mother and slaughter --- aiid evert father -- are doing fine, so I imagine 'everyone is happy. I suppose this event makes Partner arid I a great- uncle and great-aunt -- not quite so good as being grandparents but next thing to it, Isn't it wonderful to see spring "bustin' out all over"? The wheat is green, birds hating, frogs singing, calves • arriving, spring flowers budding, rosy -red crowns of rhubarb showing, lawns and flower beds badly in need of raking, farmers getting things ready for spring -seeding, houswives busily houscleaning and the kindly sun warming everything animate and inani- mate. Or rather, nearly every- thing. Warming an insulated house is something the sun can- not do. For winter and summer insulation is grand -- in winter the heat stays in; in summer it stays out. But in spring and fall insulation isn't 80 good — with- out some stove or furnace beat the house is decidedly chilly. So folks, if you had your house'in- sulated last fall save the chips from the woodpile this spring - for the old kitchen stove. You'll be glad if you clo. But the . joys and sorrows o insulation are as nothing come . • pared with air-conditioning — or so we are told. We had friends visiting us last week who have spent the last six weeks in their son's air-condi- tioned city home. They didn't Like it one bit. They said there was a noticeable current of air on the move all the time from which it was impossible to es- cape. So father eventually de- • veloped a severe attack of neur- algia, and his only refuge from draughts was in bed. There he stayed until the neuralgia had run its course." We were talk- ing about it this week -encs when Daughter and Art were here and Dee immediately said — "Yes, I know exactly what it is like, We had air-conditioning in one big office where I worked and F had one cold after another as long as I stayed there." Maybe pioneer mothers were not so hard done by after all when they worked all summer in the back kitchen with the woodstove going. Uncomfortably waren no doubt, but at least they were free of colds. As for me, I'll take a happy medium -- in- sulation, minus air-conditioning and hot stoves. Eating Problems Of Small Children Wou.tcl sou coin icier siltii4fac• tory eating habits essential to successful living? Well, they are. Any person of any age who is a finicky eater presents a problem. His health is endangered since his diet is not well balanced. He becomes a social "thorn", for one who's "fussy" about food is hard to cater to, Such people clearly show that the. ounce o.t preven- tion which is worth a pound of cure was riot meted out to them in early childhood says Beulah France, Ii;laT. writing in "Country Gentleman." The baby who is lovingly -cud- dled while being fed and is never given a bottle in bed will not become the two- or three- year-old who screams nights for the comfort of a bottle. He'll be willingly weaned to a cup as soon as he begins to resent being held while eating, When solid foods are introduc- ed in small amounts the infant gradually learns to enjoy then. At first he'll. push then out be- cause his tongue is accustomed to fluids. Parental patience will be called for. Etiquette must be for- gotten. The floor, protected with a washable covering will receive food spit out or dropped by hand. No objections are in order till perfect mastery of food consump- tion is achieved. Concentration on one accomplishment at a time is enough. From the day of birth on a time limit should be set for every meal, The end of a half- hour period should also end the opportunity to eat. Strict adher- ence to this rule will prevent the problem of how to handle the child who dawdles. It is important to make meal times happy tines. And here is how to do it. Three times each day provide a happy atmosphere by sharing the experience with your child. Enjoy each mealtime with him. "How can I," you ask, "with housework to be done, heals to be fixed and older children de- manding attention? How can 1 `enjoy" a half hour three tines daily while niy youngest eats?" Now "a happy atmosphere" at 1 nu Can Test no .astonishing New Vire Extinguisher at Our Risk (No ('.p,ll. Cha,'ge)I :inexpensive, ef- fective, and halal!' small size. Details Fro. Name and address000n nrobi rostica;�trlis mint. cient. HENDJ SON. Dept. 1 . P. 0. Dox 41 Colvin Station Syracuse 5, N.Y. x eultirrl<.., does mol cull to.. anr.u:i(anellt; it calls for attention to the business of eating Treat your child as you would an hon- ored guest, Make him feel it is your pleasure to chat cheerily with him. Sete Lista all his deeds are adequiltely met. Never flies or hover anxiously ° over him. Take for granted that he'll eat the food you aol before him. FAIR WARNING Senator Bob Taft tells a story of a thrifty, widow who wanted the town's leading minister to conduct memorial services for her dear d e p a r t e d, but ' was worried about the size of the tab. The minister said, "For $200 l will deliver a eulogy that will enshrine your husband in the hearts of the entire city for the next ten years", "That's too much," said the widow. "I could give a pretty good talk for $100," said the minister reluctantly. "Nothing fancy, you understand, but no one will be able to doubt the solid virtues and endearing qualities of your late spouse." "That's still too much," said the widow. "Can't you give me any- thing for about $15?" "I suppose l . can," admitted the minister, •"but 1 must warn you that for that price I will have to tell the truth about him." YOUR CHILD MAY BE A VICTIM Sleepless nights, crossness anti fidgeting may be signs of pinworms and intestinal worms .ugly parasites infect children of all ages, leaving them run- down and nervous. Pleasant -tasting MILTINENEY's MOTHER'S RIEN i' dispels these pests ... restores appetite, children soon feel better again. ' MULVENEY'S 11'WELL (For adults) A natural herbal tonic that settles upset stomach, tones up the liver and kidneys, also expels pinworms and intestinal worms. MULVENEY'S REMEDIES .gvailaete ad Ail Druggists "14904f 'WOWS Raised light and ender with new last DRY Yeast?. e There's a new twist in doughnuts — a new thrill in all your baking! Say goodbye to perishable yeast -- Fleischmann's Fast Rising Dry Yeast keeps full strength wail you use it — fast -acting aulien you use it, Get a dozen packages --- it keeps in your cupboard! y Scald 1/2 c, antic, 1/2 C. granu- lated sugar, 11/2 tsps. salt and 1/R c. shortening; cool to lukewarm. Meanwhile, measure into a large bowl 1//2 c. lukewarm. water, 1 tsp. granulated sugar; stir until sugar is dissolved. Sprinkle with 1 en- velope Fleischmann's Fast Rising Dry Yeast. Let stand 10 minutes, THEN stir well. Add cooled milk mixture and stir in 2 well -beaten eggs and 1 tsp. vanilla, Stir in 2 c. once -sifted bread flour; beat until smooth, Work in 21/.i c. (about) once -sifted bread flour. Knead on lightly - floured board until smooth and elastic. Place in greased bowl and grease top of dough. Cover and set in a waren place, free from draught. Let rise until doubled in bulk. Punch down dough and roll out into it rectangle, 1/2" thick; loosen dough; roll again to 1/2" thickness, Cut into strips7" long and 1/," wide. :Cold strips in half, twise then, pinch ends together. Arrange, DOUGHNUT TWISTS well apart, on lightly -floured cookie sheets; grease tops. Cover and let rise until doubled in bulk. Carefully lift, a few at a time, into shortening that has been heated to 865° — hot enough to brown a cube of day-old bread in 60 seconds. When under -sides are browned, turn and cook second sides. Care- fully lift from fat and drain 00. absorbent paper. Coat with a mix- ture of fruit sugar and cinnamon or brush hot doughnuts with the following syrup: Heat, stirring until the sugar dissolves, 1 c. granu- lated. sugar, I4 c. butter or mar- garine and 1,.i c. water; simmer 5 mins., than stir in 1 tsp. vanilla; keep liot over boiling water •-•- if syrup becomes too sugary, stir in a little boiling water and heat to boiling point. Yield— 3 dozen doughnuts. Note: Dough may be out with an orthodox doughnut cutter; fry the doughnuts and the "holes". seldadMISIONleasenesitraestraseettesesmsramuseautroose WHY DON'T YOU FINISH YOUR CEREAL, JACKIE ? HERE'S A TREAT THAT WILL MAKE ANY CEREAL TASTY f,ETT"ER TRY I1' NOW, JACKIE- AND TASTE THE DIFFERENCE! WOW 1 rHAr'S TERRIFIC, MOM! WHAT IS IT CALLED? CAN I HAVE MORE ? ar'S DELICIOUS! OF COURSE, JACKIE' , .. IT'S CROWN BRAND ..j� C(M2N SYRUP AND ITS THE BEST -TASTING'. t TOPPER ANY CEREAL �. EVER HAP/