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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1952-10-30, Page 2arielOael f ivL q - ...... dd.iSr.,a7�' ,, dODear Anne Hirst: Until the last 'few years, my husband never drank, Now he does so regularly. He doesn't get really drunk, just takes enough to make him hateful, and hard to get along with, it seems to change h i s personality en- tirely. He knows I've al- ways hated drinking a n d all it stands for. It is tear- ing us apart, and if it continues it will end our marriage. "Last winter I left him for four months. He begged me to come home, promised every- thing„ I gave in. Within a few weeks, it was the same story. "It is almost driving me crazy, I don't want to be around him. I can't stand his breath; when be kisses me, I could scream. I go for days without speaking to him, and I can't help it, I can't pretend. He wonders what is wrong; he will not see it is just his drinking that is ruin- ing my life and his. "He says that I can't leave him, that Pll always come back —and if I do go, he will kill me. NOTHING LEFT "I know he can quit drinking if he wants to. He stopped smok- ing when his doctor told him to. "I don't nag, Anne Hirst. I never start a fuss ... I used to enjoy going out with him, bur I don't now, I never know what to expect! It makes him mad. "1 was never like this before he started • drinking. How can 1 snake him see that I'm about to crack up? Unless I can respect him and love him again, it will be too late. As he is now, I can't do either. MRS. L. E. H." a 1 do not wonder you are * frantic. You have lost faith • in your husband — and why * not? After giving you his * word to stop drinking, you * find quarts of liquor around * the house. That makes him * furious, of course. He cannot * see that he fooling nobody a. but 'himself. '* Now, he has become physi- sn And the RELIEF IS LASTING For fast relief from headache get IxsTANTINE. For real relief get INSTANTINE. For prolonged relief get INSTANTIVEI Yes, more people every day are finding that XNSTANTINE is one thing to ease pain fast. For headache, for rheumatic pain, aches and pains of colds, for Neuritic ,or neuralgic pain you can depend on INSTANTINTS, to bring you quick comfort. INSTAwTINE is made like a pre- scription of three proven 'medical ingredients. A single tablet usually brings fast relief. Sat Instontine today and always keep if handy istaiine 12 -Tablet fin 254 5.conottioul 418.Tablet Bottle 750 ISSUE 44 • cally revolting. Instead of en- joying his caresses, they make "! you ill. (They have the same " effect on many another sensi- "` tive wife who is too tined to * admit it.) It is as though the * man became a changeling — * not the one you loved and de- " sired, but a stranger with * traits you never saw in your * husband. He is. captious and * critical, arrogant, even abus- * ive. He ridicules y ou to his * own advantage, and your spin- * it is se crushed that you are * speechless. • Drinking can do this dread- * ful thing to the gentlest of * men. I have seen it. If he * could only see himself as he * .it at suck times! For if you "' told him, of course he would never believe he was guilty * of all the offenses he commits. * Your husband, however, has * seen its effect on you. That * should be enough to convince * him that be cannot go on * drinking, and expect to find . * you there to suffer over and * over again. You have come to * the end — as would any other * gently reared woman. * You say he reads this col- * umn. If he happens to miss * this one, put the paper where * he will see it. I hope, with * you, that .he will wake up to * the crisis his marriage faces. * If he laughs it off, as he has * done before, he will find out * how wrong he is. For • this * time, tell him you will not * come back. The evils of drinking are etch- ed deep in the hearts of thous- ands of wives. Finally_ the lean must decide which he wants most—alcohol, or his wife If this problem faces you, ask Anne Hirst what to' do. Write her at Box I, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. S»•r.b-Teen Classic 4605 ! I I SIZES 1 6-14 4-44 For your smart little Sub - Teen daughter, this smart little dress. There's style aplenty in that wing collar, those jaunty pockets. Add interest aplenty with plaid bow, pockets and bands, on sleeves, Sensible for school and play, pretty enough for dress -up! Pattern R4605 in Girls' Sizes 6, 8, 10, 12, 14. Size 10 takes 3 yards 35 -inch; % yard contrast. This pattern easy to use, sim- ple to sew, is tested for fit, Hast complete illustrated instruc- tions. Send THIRTY-FIVE OENTS (354) in coins (stamps cannot be accepted) for this pattern. Print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS STYLE NUMBER, Send order to Bos 1, 123 Eighteenth nth St.. New Toronto, Ont. lea "I eia Ole; beds restful; rooms airy and light; , meals good and the superintendent and his staff' off - dent, kind and considerate. Many of these aged residents seemed well content. But there Were others whom I could not forget. They seemed like people without hope . . .just waiting. Many of them had been trans- ferred to this new home from a house of refuge where some of them had spent many years. And I wondered . had they any friends — any family? Had they been placed in the home and forgotten? Did they have visitors who were interested in them personally? What was the story behind their expression- less faces — what were their feelings? In the men's lounge there were about a dozen men. Some smoking, others just sitting. There were papers and maga- zines but none of them was read- ing. They were not even talking. In the women's quarters some were reading, writing letters, or doing fancy work. A few were just sitting with that same hopeless expression, not even curious as to who the unknown person might be when I walked in. Many of them were in the same age group as the old lady who came here yesterday. Yet she is seldom idle, reads a lot and takes an active interest in church work. Wherein lies the difference? • I may be wrong but' it seems to me our aged citizens may be housed in the most modern and comfortable homes that can be built yet they will never be happy unless there is someone who cares; someone belonging to them who can make them feel they are still necessary — still able to contribute in some' way to the happiness of others, even by living, or, if they can, by knitting or making little things. Grandpa, with time on his hands, can often make won- derful toys, just by whittling. And grandma should be en- couraged to knit, or sew, even if she makes nothing more than pot -holders. A home for the aged niay be the very best place for grand- pa and grandma to receive proper care but they still need " folks" and a sense of belong- ing. No home can take the place of filial love and respect. And surely that is not too much to expect. RFF,; Walked Par WWVedding—Three- year-old Adele Poindexter, 111 with polio, won her reward for a walking -recovery and went hand-in-hand down the aisle at the wedding of the former Miss Shirley Ludwig, now Mrs. Neil Seaford, physical therapist. Seen above, Adele is looking at the bride's prayer book with the new Mrs. Benford after the ceremony. She was premised she could attend if able, to walk then. 3`:I lelCL,it., INGER Pi' Thanksgiving week -end — and what perfect ti •eather! 'The only nice holiday week -end we have had this year. It gave many people a chance to drive through the country and see the autumn colouring at its best. Pied maples everywhere — but they show to much better advantage where there are also evergreens, and • maybe a background of limestone rock. In this district we have them all. Even from here the view is perfect so we don't have to travel the high- ways in search of beauty. • Well, while this was definitely a thanksgiving season at Ginger Farm, it wasn't exactly a holi- day week -end. Our family from Toronto was here and we had been told to line up any jobs for which we need help. We did just that. Apples and pears were picked, and then Daughter helped can pears to take home with her. Art helped Partner put up a fence and with various other jobs. And then we moved the hens. Yes, indeed! I stayed in the pen and caught them while the other three carried them away to new quarters — quite a distance. One hen got away and then followed an ar- gument as to who was respon- sible for its escape. Biddy, natu- rally, didn't stop to liste.n. She went on her way rejoicing, hunting for late worms and savoury grubs. Neither did we waste our energy chasing her but left places open where she could shelter for the night. Of course we had callers while we were busy — I have rio idea what they thought of our dishevelled appearance. Catching hens and climbing apple trees doesn't improve one's appearance. However, they only stopped long enough to say hullo and goodbye, after leaving, some perennial roots which had been t promised for this fall. These friends had • an old lady with them — mother and grandmother too. They were taking her for a drive and then out for Thanksgiving dinner, away from her apartment where she lives alone. This old lady has five children and about fif- teen grandchldren. She visits among them during the summer and comes back to her apart- ment for the winter. She is loved and considered and yet says she is often lonely. I looked at her, and Ivy 'thoughts went back once again to a home I visited last week where I saw many old people --- our newly opened home for the aged. It is a marvellous place, absolutely modern in every detail. Fur- nishings artistic and comfort - see. Mfiti�llMiPU ll1i TOBACCO ELIMINATOR a`or tree' booklet and carnes of n.eign,,um P who gladly teett0' to the alumina results of this norl-hablt ferrahut reweds,. a'r`tP Hine 1Phermaeal Cog% Lt41.., 1gne s7a. i,oadoa, Oat, Marching Snails About one hundred years ago a species of large snails broke• loose from its native Africa and went on the rampage. Since then it has ranged all oyer the tropics, destroying, breeding, spreading, and causing countless millions of pounds' worth of damage. In Africa the giant snail popu- lation had been kept in check by the natives, who prized then as food and wore the bright shells as ornaments. Then a British traveller, W. H. Benson, took some snails to India and let them loose near Calcutta. The Indians did not take to them as a delicacy, and they be- gan to spread. By 1900 they had reached Ceylon, Malaya, Borneo, Sumatra, and Java. To give an idea of how pro- lific these creatures are, a pair of them were taken to Hawaii by a woman who leaa holidayed in Formosa. In a fey- yers they were completely out of control. Every single snail is an egg producer. One scientist estimat- ed that a single snail, in live years, could give rise to eleven thousand million others, weigh- ing up to a pound each. The snails travel in batches, and are not fussy about what they eat. They strip the country bare of practically all vegeta- tion as they pass over it. So far, the travels of the giant snail have inclined to the east. From Africa it has already worked its way round the Pa- cific, and has made a few abor- tive attempts to establish itself in the United States. Once it has reached that far one more step would bring a plague of giant snails to Europe. WHY YOU MOULD NOT TAKE SODA If you suffer from acid indigestion, gas heartburn, scientists say baking soda can add to your upset, destroy vitamins, cause alkalosis, acid rebound. "After meals T had indigestion and gas yercetbaking MOIS," eae Per George,'Lhbriidge,lta "ea X started taking Dr. Pierce"s Golden Medical Discovery and the pains went away and X could oat and enjoy my meals again. 1 gained 30 pounds and felt much better." Thousands who suffered pooh distro:s, due to no organic tames, tried Dr. Pierce's Golden Medical Discovery with amazing results. Over 85,000,000 bottles of this great non-alcoholic medicine, with its wonderful stomachic tondo action, have been sold to date. ,And no wonder, First, taken regularly. It promotes more normal stomach activity, thae helping to digest food better so you won't have .gas, heartburn, sour stomach. Sabend, with stomach activity improved, you OM oat the foods you like without fear of after•distreso. Try it. Meows/ s/ et ourrdruggist, toodday!u l drat cio ti) ig(K 1, Gundy Limited 36 ming Street West 'i'e.1e1001em43e: GI',1pire 4-43211 Y D pa iiiY Toronto I Modern Etiquette Q. is it considered proper to use bread for sopping up the gravy in one's dinner plate? A. Yes, if done in the right way—by putting a small piece of bread down on the gravy, and then eating it with the fork as though it were any other help- ing on your plate. Q. How should gifts and flowers received during an ill- ness be acknowledged? A. If the patient is too ill to acknowledge the gifts prompt- ly, notes of thanks should be written as soon as possible af- ter recovery. Q, When the wedding is to ' be a double -ring ceremony, does the bridegroom buy his own ring as well as that of his bride? A. No; the bride buys his ring. Q. If a mail is forced by cir- eunistances to send a woman who Inc has been escorting home in a taxi, is he supposed to pay the taxi fare? A. He most certainly is! . He should inquire of the driver the approximate amount the fare will be, and then pay him, add- ing enough for a tip. Q. What kind of flowers should a bride wear if she is married in a traveling costume and pre- fers not to carry an arm beis- quet? A. She may wear a corsage of orchids, gardenias, or any other flower that suits her fancy. Q. Is a person obliged to give the reason for declining an in- vitation? A, While not exactly obli- gated, it still is the gracious; thing to offer some reason. Otherwise, it may be inferred that you do not care to prolong the friendship. Q. Is it obligatory that re- freshments of some kind be fur- nished after a wedding ' rehear- sal? A. While not obligatory, it itis customary and a very nice thing to do. The refreshments are usually served after the rehear- sal at the home of the bride — or the bridegroom invites the little party of attendants to some eating place. Q. If a person asks you how old you are, or what your salary is, or some such personal dames -- tion„ what should you do? A. You are perfectly privi- leged to reply, "There are soma questions that I prefer not to answer." It is only a very rude„ ill-bred tactless person who ask such questions. 844470 &se ar Speedier wyfli Wonderful New Fcis'' Rising Dry Yeast! titOwr- DRY YEAST ACTS FAST( SIMS FRR54itl a„d.,d bran* amw.d „e""e1.tM,Me Minnipop'Vm:,.eM CINNAMON BONS Measure into large bowl, 1 c. lukewarm water, 2 tsps. granu- lated sugar ; stir until sugar is dissolved. Sprinkle with 2 envelopes Fleisehmann's Fast Rising Dry Yeast. Let stand 10 fain., THEN stir well. Scald 1 c. milk and stir in 1/2 e. granulated sugar,11/4 tsps. salt,6 tbs. shortening: cool to lukewarm. Add to yeast mix- ture and stir in 2 well -beaten eggs. Stir in 3 e. once -sifted bread flour; beat until smooth. 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