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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1952-08-28, Page 8' Dear Anne Hirst: My husband me two years ago. I can get divorce whenever I can afford . I've been in love with a good man for over a year, and he wants to marry me as soon as I'm free. "The trouble lies with my father; my three young sons and I have lived with him since ttaty husband left. All my life my father has dominated me. Now he forbids this man to come to the Mouse ... I stood it for a long while, but lately 1 slip out to sec him. (I am 30). "He is crazy about the boys, and they love hien dearly. He is anx- ious to marry ine and take care of us all. "Would I be doing right to take some rooms for the boys and my- telf? Then at least I could see hint MARIE" SOCIETY IS STERN :. .. .. * You find yourself in that anom- * alous position which distresses * so many women today: Married, * but without a husband. 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Send order to Box 1, 123 Eigh- teenth St., New Toronto, Ont. * cial rules of his generation, So * as you are in his hone, he ex- * pects you to observe them. * Your only release lies in a di • - • vorce. * Can't you reconcile yourself * to waiting a little longer? Hay- * ing the protection of your father's * presence? Saving the money you * would spend on renting a place? * Besides, how could your young- • sters be contented, cooped up in * a couple of rooms when they've * had the run of their grandfather's * house? You must think of thein, * you know. * These questions deserve your * most thoughful consideration, * You know how harsh are the * social rules of civilized living. * As a mother, you would not * choose to expose yourself to the * gossip that would follow your * moving. However innocent your * friendship with this man. who * would believe it? • You do not tell me whether * you have a position or not. If * you (and the man) save every * dollar you can, you will bring * the day of your freedom so mudh nearer. And having played * the game of waiting so bravely, ''' how much sweeter will that day * be! * •* * READER REBUKES "Dear Anne Hirst: You have a very great imagination! Have all these things you write about hap- pened to you? Or how do you know them? "About that wife's letter con- cerning her domineering husband —why don't you get HIS view- point? He may have a good rea- son for the things he does. Some wives imagine a lot when they want their own way. But thanks for your article about her husband. "You talk like a woman that gets off work at 10 or 11 at night and goes to a floor show till three or four in the morning ... 1 feel I have the right to tell you this. LONG-TIME READER" * Every letter that appears in * column comes through the mail * from readers who ask for my * advice. * In many cases I could be twice * as helpful if both people con- * cerned wrote me their individual * viewpoints. Occasionally. they * do, but not nearly as often as 1 should like. * I have no doubt that some of * the complaints are exaggerated. * I have to accept the situation it- * self as a true one, however, and * described with honest intent, at - * least. * * * When you are tempted to break any social law, remember the cost is high and you'll pay it for a long, long time , Anne Hirst's sympathy, and wisdom, are yours for the asking. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St. Ne'v Toronto, Ont. DOWN SOUTH During the train's ten minutes stopover at a small southern town a woman and man walked over to a snack bar. Inside they saw steam- ing pots of creamed chicken, spoon bread, pork drops, creole. and other tempting dishes. "May we have two creamed chickens in a hurry?" the man asked the motherly old lady behind the counter. "Are you from the train?" The nun nodded. "No creamed chicken." Flow about pork chot s?" "Not when you're on the train." When asked what they could have she replied seriously, "cheese sandw''hes. People with only ten minutes ain't settin' here to gobble down food I spent all the after- noon preparin'. I like folks to daw- dle over my food and appreciate it." Grandfather, What A Sig Car You Had—Appropriately shy, De. oorah Collier, left, 3t/2, and Grace Lyons, 4, pose beside the overturned car which gave them a wild downhill ride when they accidentally loosened the hand broke. The car, owned by De- borah's grandfather, went over a curb, sideswiped a tree, knocked down a fence and came to a final halt with its rear end high tend its front wheels hanging over a 15 -foot drop. .tan yz Vrs,'i'�X..L» td'r. (tC•le1.t..6,— i Sally's latest flirtation with disaster occurred when she caught her head between risers of the porch stairs. 'Calamity Sal' Makes Trouble Her Career Sally Richards, 4, has spent most of her short life flirting with disaster. Police rescue squads never know when they'll be called to the Richard's home, and Sally's mother exists in a perpetual state of anxiety. Re- cently, Sally caught her head between the porch steps. Six months ago, she imbibed rub- bing alcohol; a year ago, tur- pentine was the beverage. Be- fore that, disinfectant was the drink of the day. To vary the program, she has even tried to manicure her nails with a meat cleaver. Everyone is afraid to think of what may come next. Sally seems properly penitent, at left, as mother lectures her on the dangers of meat cleavers. At right, the would-be manicurist is patched up for the umpteenth time. ,^4 R. !' t1✓ 9•Mtb9 h 4 S• t,f #t°,3a &wendnlin.e 1 Cto.tr.ke INGE The great need of the moment is for rain—rain and still more rain. Rain for the berries and garden rain for the wheat and *y crops; rain for the pastures } es,! rain for everything is needed— except the hay. And that is where we lose out. Our first field of hay was cut and most of it raked, ready for the coming of the baler next day. During the night it rained— not enough to do good to the thirsty fields and gardens but enough to toughen the hay so that it could not be baled. That was wt the 21st. of June—and the wind was in the east. Old-timers tell us that the weather on the official opening day of summer determines the weather for the next three months. East winds and rain mean unsettled weather for that length of time. That is not a very en- couraging forecast for the haying and harvest season. On the other hand who wants it to be hot and dry? However, I suppose it is foolish to waste time worrying about it --wet or dry, we have to take what conies and make the best of it. Right now, drought is more to be feared than excess moisture. In Australia drought has already killed more cattle than we, in Canada, lost by foot and mouth disease. One hates to think of the poor animals literally dying from thirst—and the ranchers powerless to cope with the situation. Well, we are losing more neigh- bours ---• comparatively new ones this time. The man went back to a government job some months ago, now his wife is joining hint in Ottawa. The farm land has been rented to one man and the house to .another. And again I have fallen heir to an oversize house plant— this time an asparagus fern. And books 1 Enough books to keep me busy all summer if I wanted to spend half of every day reading—. which I am not likely to do. We can find room for the fern; we are only too happy to look after the books; we don't mind adopting "Alicat" but we are thankful we were not asked to take over the seven dogs—registered Irish setters at that, with cups and ribbons galore to their credit. Fortunately the dogs are also moving to Ottawa to the cottage their owners have rented. If the accomodation is not sufficient for then — that is, for humans and dogs—then the dogs will be sent to a boarding kennel. Truly a canine family can become a problem—and an expensive one at that. Actually the same applies t,, books. Many of these books arc: Book -o -the -Month selection for the peat five years. However, they are more easily taken care of than dogs—some have already gone to convalescents --the books, t mean —others are destined for the public library, so there will only remain',a few that I am keeping for myself— .all of which are non-fiction. One 'that I have already started reading is "Saints and Strangers" by George T. Wilson—a history of the Pilgrim Fathers and their families. Another good book is— `.`A Thousand 'Things to Know" a collection of odd and interesting items. For .instance, this will be news to most of us—next year is ti Sparrow Centennial—my own rye"air tption. That is to say, it was in I that..the-€rst successful libera- c- ti7n of emigrant sparrows took place. (Successful, is right I) It was Nicholas Pike, a director of the Brooklyn Institute, who had spar- 'rows—about one hundred to start with—imported from England for :'the purpose of destroying leaf - eating caterpillars. Altogether there were fifteen importations of spar - Transfer Designs h 3, colors Ott' t 1,es VW k z THIRTY -TWO MOTIFS itt color! Red, yellow, green — fruits and vegetables all ready to iron on your kitchen towels, curtains, aprons, potholders. Quick) Easyl Washable! •No embroidery just iron on! That's all! Color in a jiffy) Three - color transfer designs. Pattern 612; thirty-two motifs lx1% to 3x4/ inches. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS in coins (stamps cannot be ac- cepted) for this pattern to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly • PATTERN NtINMBER and SIZE; your NAME and ADDRESS. Such a colorful roundup of handi- work ideas! Send twenty-five cents now for our Laura Wheeler Needle. craft Catalog. Choose your patterns from our gaily illustrated toys, dolls, household and personal ac- cessories. A pattern for a handbag i$ printed right id the book. rows between 1852 and 1881. Of course it wasn't long before people realized that the sparrows' insect - destroying qualities had been over- rated and that the sparrow was fast becoming a public nuisance — multiplying and spreading to other districts, including Canada, in great numbers. But the item ends on a hopeful note. It says nature has taken the problem of the spar- row population in hand and that their number is said to he on the decrease in both urban and -rural areas. Can't say that I have notrc- ed it, have you? Admittedly there are too many sparrows, and they can be an awful nuisance, but yet our farms and buildings would seem kind of lone- some without them, don't you think? After all, "sparrow in a tree -top" ran be a cheerful ittle biddy. And now, to celebrate the begin- ning of summer, I ani going down to put a few sticks of wood in the furnace 1 — Recovery From Within • Excerpt from a I3BC Talk by The Very Reverend M. P. G. Leonard, Provost of St. Mary's Ca- thedra', .Glasgow, Scotland. Sonie years ago a certain board- ing school had fallen on evil days. The tone of the school was low, and public opinion within its walls was apathetic. At this school a certain small boy arrived from a decent Christian home. He was shocked at the things boys talked about and at the jokes they laugh- ed at, and he determined in his heart that he would have nothing to do with it. As a small boy he cut no ice, and of course he was ragged and laughed at, but some- how other small boys found life leas sordid in his company. As be grew older and worked Inc way up in the school he begaut to have more influence, and an in- creasing number of boys sheltered gratfully , behind his sturdy char- acter. He wasn't a great athlete, but everybody respected and ad- mired him. In due course lie be- came Headboy, and when he left, the miracle had happened—the school was reformed. Its tone was clean and fine and wholesome. This wasn't due to any actia+t taken by the Headmaster, or to any .new rules and regulations imposed from above; it was solely due to one small healthy -minded boy hold- ing steadfastly to his ideals, so that his influence was like heaven that ultimately leavened the w o 1 e school. It was a case of reformation from within, and that is the way int which the bounds of God's King. - dont are increased. That is our Lord's own recipe, The Kingdon. of Heaven is like leaven, He said; and if you want to know the joy of a heart uplifted, try to be a bit of leaven in the community iia which you live—and all the raising power of God will be behind you. MISdem Etiquette Q.. Does a divorcee continue t* use her husband's name? A. This depends. Sometimes she has her maiden naive restored. However, it is customary now for a divorced woman to use her maiden and her married name. If her name was Elizabeth Preston and her married nanie is Carlson,, she becomes Mrs. Elizabeth Fres- ton Carlson. Q. Is it good manners to use a toothpick at the table. Lately I have seen this done by people of apparent refinement? A. The rules remain unchanged.. Toothpicks should never be seert in use, at the table or anywhere else. Q. When a young unmarried woman introduces herself to some- one, does she speak of herself ars Miss Jones or as Mary Jones? A. Socially, she says, "I'tn Mary Jones." In business, she says, "I'na Miss Jones." Q. Isn't it all right for a man to take the arm of a woman com- panion when walking along the street? A. No. However, he should as- sist an elderly woman by taking her arum, and he may guide any woman companion i n crossing streets or assist her in ascending or descending stairways, by laying his hand lightly on her arm. Spotty Future — If your wife breaks out in spots this sum-, mer don't call a doctor. Chances are she's just experimenting with a new shampoo that light- ens the hair without ammonia and can be used for spot -dying. The model, 'above, demonstrates; the polka-dot version. Other variations include semi -circular stripes and light chignons with dark hair. Secretaries' Best Friend—Secretaries visiting the annual •Inve •>.tore Fair in Paris have shown so much interest in this gadget that it is to be put into production. A tin can, an auto hub cap, a"'taut pad and an alarm clock were used to fashion the origind'l'm,del, canlitand `ime A nimble secretary light her desk,notes, m g take appointMenin 'with the minimum of effort, l.,,,, r,sinit the ley'ice, it s '.5 • e.