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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1952-06-19, Page 6To taste it is t superb qui i UUty an refer tit flavour of sew "Mothers have been placed on such a high pedestal that many >. •daughter with mother trouble keeps it to herself for fear of treading •on holy ground." So writes a distracted girl whose love for her mother has been distorted -- because that mo- ther for years has kept the whole family in a turmoil of mu- tual distrust and humiliation. "Our family grew up," she re- lates, "in a highly religious but tense air. of hatred, and ridicule of friends, relatives, and my father. On his death I was left the finan- cial support of my mother... . FUTILE SACRIFICES "She has kept us all in a constant uproar by belittling each one to the other and deliberately creating trouble , . "Finally, my health broke. I left —and had to keep up two house- holds. I still loved her, and had a deep sense of obligation. "But through the years she has grown worse. All of us have done' what we could, in time, energy and money, to make her happy—to no avail. No one will ever know how 1:t £ cd+i1'b4 LOOK, MOTHER! Isn't this adorable for your little Snowman or girl? Make hat and mittens in 2 bright colors of knitting worsted. Bands are popcorn stitch; crown, earmuffs, hand are single crochet. Pattern 782: crochet directions hat, mittens; size 2-4; 6-8; 10-12. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS in coins (stamps cannot he ac- cepted) for this pattern to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto. Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and AD- DRESS. much heartache and anxiety olte has caused me alone. "I have tried every solution, But after each outburst I am in a night- mare, miserably sick with a feeling of frustration and guilt. I've gone through the cycles of initial love, obligation, indifference and, at tines, complete distaste. 1 don't want to have a crop of complexes, feel self-pity for my futile sacri- fices. "I want to live a Christian life,, and marry a wonderful man—which is the second phase of my problem. To marry him, I would have to go overseas—or wait 18 months until he returns. And I don't want hhn to find me a neurotic. "My mother feels my duty is to her. She says she won't live much longer, though she is in good health now. Shall I stay here, be- yond the reach of her temper yet near enough to be of aid if she needs me?— Or go to him, where I can find happiness and tranquil- lity I'm afraid I've reached the saturation point unless 1 find a solution, "There is nothing more pitiful than an aged widow living alone who thinks the whole world bates her. But who can be any unhap- pier than one who has never had love, and is marking off the days before she can start living?" • Every reader of the column to- * day will appreciate how hard it * is for this girl to make her de- cision. Whichever way she turns, she is bound to question the wis- dom of it. Her desire to find tranquillity at last, is understandable.— Not * only because of the attendant * happiness it will provide, but • because she has . almost reached a' the end of her rope, and no doubt * wonders whether ber remaining here would really benefit her * mother. n: Many a daughter would feel * she has done everything possible * for her mother, and can safely leave the responsibility to her relatives. Yet this girl still feels within her a sense of that responsibility. If she can stick it out, would staying home better satisfy her conscience? TO "A DAUGHTER": No one but another girl who has had to put up with such a parent can appreciate all you have endured since your father died. Having observed so many parallel situa- 't' lions, however, I understand the * cost, year in and year out, that you have paid for your loyalty 'd' and your tolerance, e Suppose you go abroad and marry your soldier? "Would your "` happiness retrain untouched by the feeling that you had "de- ' sertcd" your mother? Or would • you feel entirely justified? 'K You must, of course, make up ' your own in i n d. Whichever ;' course you choose, you have my t` understanding and my admire- °: tion. How much does a loyal daughter owe to her mother? Anne Hirst feels it depends on the circum- stances. If such a harrowing prob- lem confronts you, ask her aid. She sees both sides. Address Anne Hirst at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. * Sub Ta The Rescue — Charlotte Knight, magazine editor visiting Korea, is pulled up the side of the submarine Volador after sailors From the sub rescued her from the sea, Miss Knight and two Navy Barrs were dumped into the sea when their helicopter, transferring her from a ship to the sub, crashed. Four sailors dived overboard and made the rescue. New Sunsuits Are Amphibious By GAILE DUMAS The new sunsuits, developed in stark white or clear, fresh colours, can take to water, too. The reason that they're equally at home in sun or water is that they're de- veloped in fabrics that take readily to a dip. Further, these suits have complete linings. The tailored sunsuit, with trim- mer lines and less fussis cut in one piece for 1952. This gives a sleek look to the figure, is good for many types. White gets the emphasis because, obviously, clear white provides a sparkling contrast for a deep tan. But the new colours are, rich and bright, meant to be at home with the blue of sky and water. Shock- ing pink, mauve, maize, emerald and Cotillion blue all favour a tan, too. Beach roaming suit (left) by Brilliant, is emerald -and -white pat- ternedpique with wing -cuffed bra. Pockets and little boy shorts are cuffed, Because of a built-in bra, this lined suit may be worn strap- ped or strapless. Clear white waffle pique (right) makes sun -and -water suit with calla lily neckline tapered into straps that tie halter -style. Little boy shorts are cuffed, cut with deep pockets. This suit, too, has complete lining. ,,' ..... '^a te �kk ICUS t'"."/ rtvn, si nl ;,-, p D rt telt.e GES Atim Ei.. And after Christmas t,mes the New Year—with a. lull al!ibetween when we have a chance. tt{.tsit back and really appreciate all good wishes that came our' i 'tile way; the family presents and fri�iil'dl,gifts; the greeting cards wi,tktilu;!.lcvely, artistic designs and` 'aiiffebriate words; the surcease froth the con- stant hurrying that we kri',vir before the festive season. Yes;'this hill that sometimes foliows;`'ia. storm --in this case it was a storin that began _gathering for at 1 #tst two weeks before Christmas -,a storm of activity which for many farm people included picking poultry, making Christmas cak , and pud- dings; taking in school concerts, trimming the Christmas tree,'^filling stockings, finding out who would be home and when, fighting the weather and taxing our memories in an endeavour to make sure no one was forgotten and ne '-.ing left on the missing list. It was a hectic time but in the lull that follows we have reason to marvel at ,he love and kindly thoughts that were showered upon us. And in this respect your hum- ble columnist is no exception. 1 certainly did appreciate the friend- ly wis;ies that carte my way dur- ing the Christmas season—so many from kindly readers, many of whoiu write year after year, and by their encouragement and inter- est help me to start yet another year, telling you as best I can, of the homely happenings at Ginger Farm, that probably tie in with the happenings on hundreds of other farms. Itt response to several in- quiries perhaps 1 had better admit l did write "The Brown Coat" story which appeared in the Family Herald last September. Thank you, everybody, for liking it -and for telling me .u, Pei -naps," if you watch for i„ yeti may see another story before too long—at least an- other one has been accepted. When it will be published is anyone's guess --a month. slit weeks, three months ---1. never knots. Nor does it really natter—getting a story a ccep.ed is the main thing. 1 ant always glad when my fan mail fans tell me something about their own families . , . Mrs. B. L. of Fort William for instance—her John is in Collegiate now—but the first time she wrote all three child- ren were little more than toddlers. Sotue.imes 1 fot-get that for other folk time passes just as quickly as it does for us ---children grow up, leave school and get married. Queer, when 1 think of it, some young people who are now married and in homes of their own, were not even born when .1 started writ- ing this column! Perhaps Ginger Carni would have better named "'l'he Brook Farm" ---and maybe it should have been dammed occa- sionally to stop its steady flow. Come to think of it, it may have been dammed a good many times. -- just change one letter and you will get the idea. however, 1 have a long way to go yet to catch up with . the record set by the late Dorothy We were a party of six on Christmas Day — our own family and two young friends—just right for the small turkey that was easily disposed of. Holiday time off was a little complicated. Daughter worked Monday and had Boxing Day off. Bob had Monday off and went back to work on Wednesday. Which reminds tie, I don't think I have mentioned that Bob is now boarding at home but working in Oakville. That means leaving home at 6:30 a.m., taking lunch with him, and back home again for 6:30 din- ner at night. It -is nice to have someone coming in and out again— and during --t're 7Stormy, 'weath'er Bob's heavy car helped to keep the lane open. I don't know whether it is the car or the driver but Bob certainly seems to come through anything. As for my poor little Junebug, it has gone in,+o hiber- nation—at least until the weather clears. And I have almost gone into hibernation with it--tu+',- •r1+ to town in eight days! And now. dear friends, t mustn't close this. column without wishing you a very Happy New 'Year. As we look back over the twelve months past we remember many difficulties, many heartaches and fears, but for molt of us the sun- shine was still greater than the cloud. And so it will be in 1952. An unsettled year ahead of us— that much is certain, But if hap- piness is in our hearts we shall have courage to face and overcome our problems as they arise. Don't let us cause a shadow by standing in our own sunshine. Couldn't Sing So Wouldn't Work • Fifty girls at a Belfast factory went on strike recently because their employer refused to allow them to sing while working. When he compromised by allowing them to hunt, they went back to work quite happily. The valve of music is rated highly by efficiency experts, who say it acts as a stimulant to tired workers. As a result, many fac- tories allow radio or gramophone music to be played all day long to busy employees. Even better are the resu its when employees are encouraged to sing among themselves. They work longer and show less strain, des- pite the 'effort wasted on singing. Marty works sponsor their own choral societies, with the belief that they give workers a feeling of pride which makes for loyalty to- wards their employers. In the U.S., where business effi- ciency is almost a mania, it has long been the custom for certain teams of heavy workers to have their own singer, who is not ex- pected to work so long as he leads his gang in loud, hearty choruses. Forerunner of these paid singers was the nineteenth century "shanty -roan," an essential mem- ber of any sailing ship's crew, Be. fore the age of mechanization all the work involved in sailing a ship had to be done by hand. When sails were hoisted or anchors raise ed, the whole crew worked in utile son, to the tunes of a hundred lusty sea -shanties sung by the shanty. man. ISSUE 2 1952 Who Started Ii? Where did they all eoane front— the familiar names and faces which populate the world's nurseries and schoolrooms: the Little Jack Horn- ers, the Georgie Porgies, the old women who lived in shoes? A few weeks ago Britain's grown-ups were getting the scholarly lowdown from an authoritative reference books the Oxford University Press's new Oxford Dictionary of Nursery Rhymes. Editors Iona and Peter Opie spent seven years looking through haystacks of diaries, letters, books and plays to find their needling rhymes & riddles. They dug into the histories of kings and queens, wits and wags, drunks and druids, consulted everyone from George Bernard Shaw to their own child- ren, aged six and four. Some of the famous rhymes they found, are at least as old as the city of Rome. Horace described little children playing Rex erite qui recte faciet—the first version of "I'm the king of the castle." Pet- ronius heard a small boy say Bucca, bucca, quot sunt itis?, which later became "Buck she, buck she, buck/ How many fingers do I hold up?" At least one rhyme in nine, say the Opies, was known in the time of Charles I; a good half are at least 200 years old. The early counting of Yarmouth shepherds (ina, mina, tethera, met- hera) became "Eena, meena, mina, mo"; and Westmorland's hevera, devera, dick (eight, nine and ten) is the most likely origin of "Hickory. dickory, dock." In the 18th Century, "Hot Cross Buns / One a penny / Two a penny" was a street ven- dor's cry. "Baa, baa, black sheep / Have you any wool?" propably dates back to the export tax lin- posed on wool in 1275. The "Four and twenty blackbirds, baked in a pie" goes back to the Renaissance, when live birds really were put in pies, ready to fly out when the pie was cut, to cause a "diverting Hurley - Burley amongst the Guests." Out of the Barracks. Most rhymes, the Opies learned, were never intended for children. Mat-' thew, Mark, Luke and John" was a 17th Century Popish prayer; "Go to bed, Tom" was once a barracks 'ditty„ "Mary, Mary, quite contrary" possibly had a "religious back- ground , . . 'a word -picture of Our Lady's Convent' ... the bells being the sanctus . bells, the cockleshells the badges of the pilgrims, and the pretty maids the nuns . . Only a few rhymes have known authors (e.g., Dr. Johnson, who one - day suddenly spouted: "If a man who turnips tries / Cry not' when his father dies / It is proof that he would rather / Have a turnip than his father"). Many were satire. Some rhyme scholars believe that the downfall of Sir Robert Wal - pole's ministry—popularly known as the "Robinocracy"—gave rise to "Who killed Cock Robin?", and that Georgie Porgie was realh King George 1. —l' rout "Time" Remember Germany 111 a Toronto restaurant the other day a diner remarked that he could remember. only a few years back, when the chicken pie, now 80 cents, was priced at 35. That, he thought, was a good illus- tration of inflation. But it was a far different kind of uiflation from the one that literally destroyed the German economy 30 years ago. "In the summer of 1923," says a writer in the Washington Star, "a New York businessman ordered a beefsteak in the Adlon hotel, .Ber- lin, at the quoted price of one million marks. By .the time it was served it was worth 1.1 million marks and a half hour laced when the check was presented the price was tan to 1.2 million marks." In the middle of this economic catastrophe, the average German, though literally starving. appeared to many visitors as being better dressed, better housed and possess- ing more personal property than ever before. The answer was simple, Seeing the continued devaluation of the currency. the nation went on a gigantic buying spree and amassed real goods, many' of which they did not need or want, while scorn- ing savings accounts. We haven't even approached that stage on this continent and most of us will pray that we never will. .But in this time of a steadily de- teriorating dollar, it is well to re- member where we could end, --- From The Financial Post. By Ante Asblsy Q. How can a silk umbrella tta dried? A. Do not open the silk umbrella to dry it, as this causes the side to stretch and become stiff. Tisa proper method is ti close the unt-. brel:(a and turn It upside down, The water will gradually drain oft without injuring the fiber of the silk. * 4' * Q. How can. I snake wood wea- ther-proof? A. Covering with several coats of hot linseed -oil varnish win make the wood exceedingly dur- able and weather-proof. e: e * Q. How can I prevent my eared ary from picking his feathers and akin after his bath? A. Add a few drops of cologne water to the bird's bath, * Q. How can I obtain an ebony finish? A. First use a coat of vermilion flat paint; then a coat of blade paint that has already been mixed with a small amo'unt of Chinese glue. Finish with a coat of rubbing varnish. '4: Q. How can I treat a burned cake? •.. Allow the cake to stand until thoroughly cold, then scrape it with a lemon grater. The burnt part can be almost entirely re- move'", leaving the cake smooth and ready for the icing, e: * Q. How can I make a firmer 'hem when lengthening or shorten- ing a skirt? A. Take a double stitch every inch or so. 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