HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1952-05-29, Page 24'Dear Anne Hirst: I and married.
The woman is not, but she has
been. We are not youngsters; I
suppose you'd
call us sophisti-
rates. Perhaps
because we re-
cognize this is
not mere pas-
sion, we have
both made up
excuses to avoid
seeing each
other - at least
until now. We need your advice.
"Our exciting happiness comes
from a perfect blending of ideas,
a harmony of dreams, thoughts in
common that have been kept secret
from the world, but which can be
shared and thereby come to full
bloom.
"The experience has made me
appreciate all women more. I no
longer take my wife 'for granted,
but express a more tender, con-
siderate attitude instead of the in-
difference of most American hus-
bands. She has even commented on
it.
6'What is the answer?"
"Perhaps we may never see one
another again; but I hate to think
of her alone, or going with then
who do not appreciate her as I do.
And I hate to think of myself fall-
ing into the pattern of married men
having occasional flings with wom-
en they care nothing about, simply
because of momentary passion or
lonely boredom.
"I cannot divorce, nor do I be-
lieye in it. Is there a way to keep
this valuable companionship?
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"I have heard of Europeans
working out satisfactory arrange-
ments of mistresses and lovers that
are accepted by society. Can such
psychology be applied here as well?
"Thank you for your valuable
column, and for your help.
NONPLUSSED."
* I understand that, for genera-
* tions, Continental parents have
* chosen mates for their children.
* Love did not enter into it. Per-
• haps that is why the arrangement
* of mistresses and lovers was
* more or less socially accepted.
* Today's conditions over there are,
* I expect, considerably changed.
* To us the idea is shocking. We
* are a young nation who still
* consider romantic love an es-
* sential element in marriage.
* When a husband takes a mistress,
• or a wife a lover, it offends our
* sense of decency.
* Here, it is the woman who pays
* most heavily, as I am sure you
* know. This woman whose corn-
* panionship means so much to
* you would be ostracized; and
* your wife, sensitive as she is,
* could not but know. A man of
* your innate integrity could not,
* I'm afraid, find any permanent
* contentment in a relationship
* which our society still brands as
* offensive,
* Your more tender consideration
* of your wife is a projection of
* your sense of guilt, and a deter-
* urination that she must not suffer
* through your new interestin an-
* other. Resolve to devote yourself
* to keeping her as happy as site
* is today; you are wise enough to
*` realize that therein lies true ser -
i` enity for yourself.
*e Be grateful that you have
* known this other. woman -but let
* her go her way. Her future is in
* her hands, not yours. If she is
* as fine as you say, this will be
* her decision too,
* *r *
* To "D.B.": Only one objection
* exists to your idea of your wife's
* going into business with you-
* the fact that she is not friendly
* with people.
* You realize how essential that
* is, how much your whole success
* depends on it. Talk to her about
* it -and not in a critical way.
* Explain the need for a warmer
* feeling toward customers= -and
* actually toward everyone she
* knows, for many of them should
* bring you business. Remind her
*` that being honestly interested in
* them and their needs will repay
* her a hundredfold in arousing
* their interest in her.
*' 'Practising siich friendliness
should soften her present argu-
* mentative attitude toward you,
* too. No one is always right, nor
* always wrong. Ask her to think
* this through, and to give you (and
* others) the benefit of any doubt.
* What she needs to learn is
* humility, and, though it is not
* an easy lesson, when she realizes
* that not only your success in
* business but actually the success
* of your marriage depends upon
* it, I cannot believe she will not
* co-operate and try to conquer
* this unfortunate trait of hers.
* You have had too much bad
* luck to risk more. Tell her that,
* as your partner, you believe in
* her, and will help her overcome
* this fault. Too much is at stake
* for her to refuse.
* * *�
"All for love" is a tempting in-
vitation. But if its fruition offends
society, the cost is too high to
pay -and the one you love must
share it . . . Anne Hirst is here
to share your troubles, and keep
your courage high. Write her at
Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New
Toronto, Ont.
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Slaughter Of Trees
A Serious. Matter
Not more than 1% of 'the trees
cut down in Toronto in ti#;:.last 10
years have been replaced declares
the Globe and Mail. Similar reports
conte from other Canadian cities,
And this slaughter is not confined to
urban centres. In villages and,;: fields,
and along the provincial highways
mature trees are being destroyed or
mutilated in many cases with no new
planting following.
From both the standpoint of`heauty
and conservation this destruction is
a serious natter. At the present rate
a great deal of Canada, even in those
sectirms where trees grow 'quickly,
easily and naturally, will soon be
stripped bare. There will be nothing
to break the monotony of rows of
buildings, telephone or power poles.
In Europe there are severe laws
about cutting trees. In some cases
two new trees must be planted for
every one removed. In these older
and much more thickly populated
countries there are far more 'trees
in the cities and along, the highways
than in Canada and in farm country
the woodlots are more numerates and
larger.
It takes from 50 to 100. years to
grow a tree in Canada. It takes from
five minutes to 10 minutes tb t7t it
down. We're going to .,ba -V2"
lot more planting and
:ting if:. we hope ;to r&f'"`
balance.
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TENDERFEET
Foot blisters often spoil a hunt,
',ttg trip. One method of prevetlt•
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11,FAIZIN4
/ 6a,eredolit-.'a D Clarke
Another week gone by without
any rain -except for a little shower
the other night. If it were summer
the drought would be more obvious
but with everything so green it is
harder to realize that the lack of
rain is becoming quite serious.
However this morning the radio
spoke of rain in Toronto so maybe
we shall get some yet. Here's
hoping, anyway.
In the meantime,dry weather has
speeded along my painting job in
the sunroom. Queer how much
time one can spend on a little two-
by-four,place. But when the ceiling,
floors, windows, walls, and the out-
side all need a paint job it certainly
takes time, as even in a small' place
one must wait for each coat of
paint to dry. I still have the win-
dows and floors to do -and then
next week maybe I'll be writing
this column in the sunroom.
Of course since I have been up
to my eyes in paint we have had
;;more than the usual number of
-'';callers. That alVeays happens: .Sun-
day I had things more or less
straightened around, and Partner
had found time to get the grass
cut, and then as the day wore on
it appeared no one would be, in to
visit us. Then, just as Partner was
heading for the barn Daughter
breezed in with a girl friend. They
were not here very long and had
hardly gone when a carload arrived
from Guelph and stayed until late
that night. Shall I be glad when
the cows are out to pasture, then
maybe people will realize I have a
husband! The way it is now, when-
ever visitors arrive Partner is at
the barn. So, unless the visitors go
down to the barn, or wait until
Partner is through with the chores
and back to the house, then they
come and go without seeing him
at all. That is one of the disad-
vantages of farthing alone, Partner
says it is also one of the disad-
vantages of his increasing slowness.
He is unable to hurry, and if he
stops to visit, as he would naturally
like to do, then he has to work
that much later to catch up with
his work.
Other arthritic sufferers will
know exactly what he means -and
there seems no alternate. Arthritis
is a hard master: A certain amount
of rest is very necessary but too
much rest and not enough exercise
increases the stiffness and pain
and leads to fusion of the joints.
It depends on the type of rheu-
matism, of course. In some cases
rest is an absolute must, especially
if the rheumatism is of an inflam-
matory nature. I know, because it
took me three years' to get rid of
one such attack.
Rheumatic troubles are getting a
lot more attention now than they
used to -which is all to the good.
Probably many cases of crippling
arthritis could have been avoided
had the type been correctly diag-
nosed earlier and proper treatment
and inedicatiou given in the early
stages. 'There are also cases on
record where rheumatic aches and
pains disappeared once the general
health of the patient had been built
up. 1 know of one case where the
patient took a series of injections
for rheumatism without any notice-
able improvement. But after a num-
ber of intravenous treatments for
anemia, which naturally improved
the patient's" general health, then
it was discovered that rheurnatie
symptoms were also on the wane.
So you see, you never can tell.
Arthritis cannot be fooled with.
ft should also be borne in !hind
that what helped Uncle 13111 may be
no good at all in relieving Aunt
Tane's distress. Self-medication is
'dangerous -•-and yet more remedies
are probably sold for the relief of
arthritis than for any other known
disease, Trying to cure oneself is as
much a gamble as betting at the
races. It is fortunate that the
human constitution is built to
withstand shock otherwise there
would surely be a lot more casuaI-
ties!
Well, radio -reporter Gordon Sin-
clair says the statements concern-
ing the prevalence of tent cater-
pillars must be greatly exaggerated;
that he was in the Muskoka dist-
trict and saw hardly any caterpillars
at all. Maybe . . . but there are
certainly plenty around here. I
was out several evenings last week
cremating the pesky things, and
everyday new tents appear in other
trees. They should be destroyed
even if seen only on wild shrubs.
The job is easily done. Wrap
several thicknesses of .cloth around
the top of a pole. Bind with wire
and dip in coal oil. Just before dark
take pole, matches and a pail of
water to the scene of destruction.
After the worms have been des-
troyed dowse the flaming torch in
water. If there are many trees to
he done several torches may be
needed. One night clo more !tarm
than the caterpillars by carrying a
flaming torch from tree to tree.
P.S. Wonderful . it is actually
raining!
Two Hien in a lighthouse saw a
small boat being rowed towards it.
When it was about half a mile
away it began- to sink, so One of
the men vent out to the rescue.
When the rescued man was in
the lighthouse he told the men it
was a good job they had saved him
because he had come to see them
about their income-tax.
How's Your Spelling
Strangely enough, at one time
it did depend on the taste and fan-
cy of the speller. One authority
tells us that Shakespeare spelled
his name in some thirty different
ways (Shakspere, Shakespeare,
Shaxpere, Sohackspere, Shaxpur
being some of the more frequent
variations). The grandson of James
IT, writing about his father, refers
to him sometimes as Jems and at
other tithes as Gems! Spelling was
a grand and glorious free-for-all.
You spelled the way words sounded
to you, and it was almost a game to
see in 'how many different ways
you could achieve a recognizable
word.
Even as late as 1764, James Bos-
well, famous biographer of Samuel
Johnson, in a letter written to his
friend, William Temple, misspelled,
according to our standards, the
words agreable, allready, stile
(style), beleive, it's (for its),, corn -
pleat, friend, immediately, satisfy'd
english, nonsence, realy, snioak,
yeild, corespond, chuse (choose),
cheerful, alhnost, releiving, sollici-
ted, abhorr, awefull, and character-,
ise. If Boswell had consulted his
friend's celebrated dictionary, pub-
lished nine years earlier, he would
have spelled all but two (conipleat
and chuse are given as variant spell-
ings) as we spell then today.
Twenty-one spelling mistakes in
one letter! Poor Boswell! Miss
Finch would never have let him
pass in English 1.
Today it is no longer fashionable
to misspell. Today such spelling
is not countenanced in high
places. , . .
Many attempts to reform Eng-
lish spelling have been made in the
last one hundred years. And. al-
though one such attempt was sub-
sidized by Andrew Carnegie, super-
vised by Professor Brander Matt-
hews, and sponsored and publicized
by Theodore Roosevelt, then presi-
dent of the United States, it came
to almost nothing. So there's no
sense in sitting around on our in-
ertia, waiting for reforms. We're
faced with a condition not a theory.
Let's roll up our sleeves and get
to work. --Front "What's the Good
Word?" by Maxwell Nurnberg.
Upsidedown to Prevent Peeking
ISSUE 22 - 1952
ALICE UP TO DATE
"A slow sort of country," said the Queen to Alice. "Now here, you
see it takes all the running you can do to keep in the same place. If
you want to get somewhere else, you must run as least twice as fast
as that"
Lewis Carroll made that observation many years ago but it fits
many of today's economic complexities like a Hollywood starlet fills
out a bathing suit.
A few weeks ago, 37 unionized bus drivers staged a 29 -day strike
that tied up the public transportation system of Sydney, N.S., a city of
30,000 people. They finally got a raise of 17%c an hour. Another union,
the big 4,000 zneznbers Steel Workers, at nearby Dominion Steel and
Coal, applauded loudly.
The raise will cost $20,000 a year. The bus company was just brealc-
ing even as it was. To pay the raise, it applied for a fare increase. Who
do you think is the main opponent? You guessed it: the Steel union.
Why: Because the steel workers are the ones who use the buses most.
Who said Alice in Wonderland is a fairy tale?
-From The Financial Post.
Heat -Beaters -- With the heat wave wilting collars and tempers,
four-year-old Butch Johnson decided to take his three-year-old
sister Sandra, for a dip in their back yard pool, pail that is. The
cool water sweetened 'Butch's disposition so muc 7 that he planted
a kiss on Sandra and didn't even fight f
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