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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1952-05-01, Page 2ea sz 4a -d'art taia,Az, "Dear Anne Hirst: Since the rst year of our marriage, my bus - and has spade me miserable by drinking a n d going with other women. Now we have been separated since last June - and I find myself more unhappy every day. "I have the ehiidren, of whom I am very proud, but I am almost crazy. "I have never had much plea- sure. I can't remember my husband ever asking me to go out with &aim . . . I have always tried to live as near a Christian life as 1 could. "Have you any advice for me?" BJ„ Day by Day la 1 wish "you had let me print ' all of your letter. It would con - 4784 10.12 Raest4-i3 1--20 44L r ► r TOPS everything! In denim or print cotton, it's an apron or smock. In a rayon fabric it's an overblouse or jerkin. And do make it in terrycloth as a beach -coat, A wonderful idea, and easy to sew ---no waist seams. Ties to fit, opens out flat to iron! Pattern 4784: Misses' Sizes small 10, 12; medium 14, 16; large 18, 20. Medium, 21/2 yards 35 -inch. This pattern easy to use, sim- ple to sew, is tested for fit. Has complete illustrated instructions, Send THIRTY • FIVE CENTS (35c) in coins (stamps cannot be accepted) for this pattern. Print plainly SIZE, NAME ADDRESS. STYLE NUMBER. Send order to Box 1, 123 Eigh- teenth St., New Toronto. Ont. * Vince many an unhappy wife how * lucky she is in comparison to * what yott have endured ever * since you married this man. * Your letter revealed the real * cause of your leaving him. If * only for the children's sakes, I * don't see how you could have * done less. For that same reason * you dare not, I should say, ex- * pose them again to his inhuman '* cruelties, When your spirit fal- * ters, remember those terrible * days, and be thankful you can * protect then now. * Living a day at a ti.ane is one * of the best prescriptions for one * in your state. As evening comes, ^' remind yourself, "Well, I got * through today. I'll not think of * tomorrow." Keep yourself so oc- * cupied with your church work, * the children, your home and your * friends, that every waking hour * brims with wholesome activity. * Pray for strength to overcome these moods which attack you, • for they diminish your self -con- * trol and can make you physically * ill. You have too many bur- * den, to carry these days to take * such a risk. * 1 wish I could comfort you * with the belief that your hus- * band will change. But you have * to face the sad truth that, in * my opinion, such a miracle is * unlikely. He has betrayed and • mistreated you ever since you * married hint; his shameful fam- * ily history does not encourage * hope for his future. * Live in, and for, these fine * children you have, and console * yourself with the knowledge that * as they mature they will recom- * pense you with increasing affect- * ion and honor. - * You have my deepest syni- * pathy. * e * To "CHERRY": Compati- • Ufiity is necessary for any good * marriage. But there. must be, * love, too. * Before you make up your * mind that you don't love your * fiance, try to analyze what love * means to you. Because you * aren't thrilled every time he * glances at you or 'touches your * hand need not mean that you * are not in love. Even though you * are 24, you can still be emo- • tionally immature. Some people * don't respond as early as others. * When a boy and girl have been * dating as Iong as you ao have, * sometimes they get into a rut * just as married folks do. Have * you tried doing something ex- * citing together? Can you sud- * denly change .your plaits for the * evening and griSstneneivhere you * haven't been?Try.,.i .,: * Force of 1 a1 r‘fteu diminish- * ed our intuit in/people we are * actually devoted tda•Taking each other for granted bored with * doing the &tne old things week * after week, can wear a friendship * thin. Try a whirl of gayety and * see what happens. "Must my life always be like this?" If that fear tortures you, live just for today -and know that as you progress in spiritual de- velopment the way will be easier • . It helps to tell Anne Hirst about your troubles. Write her_�at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. CROSSWOR PUZZLE ACROSS ' 1. Box 5. Narrow opening 8. Pronoun 12, Story 13. Circle of light 14. Regret 15. High cards 16. Pecullarities 18. Episcopal parsonage 20. Meadow 31. Worthless leaving 22. 'Spiritualistic meeting 25. Extra part 28. Auto 29. Plicelike fish 30. Pulled apart 31. Navigational hazard 82. Wide-mouthed 33. Not at homy 84, outfit 26. Charm 36. Jail 88. Policeman (slang) 39. Suit the shans 40, Toiler 44. Copley 4?. Regime 43. 'Warn iah ingredient 43. Color 60. gtron> 1�a ka r,hi line belittle:A E2. Fencing sword 63. Act Dower 1. Headliner 2. Step 3. Irish sauce 4. Put back 6. Brief 3. 'weir -mannered 27, Trick 28. Toothed "ghee`. i 31. Part of a fish I 32, Withstood 84. devolve 36. Weep bitterly 37. occupy e, choir 38. Social division i 40. Smooth 41. Fixed charge ^.::, Bacchanalian my 4".. Tear 44, Poorly 45, is possible 10. Tilt woman 7. Venerabie 0. WVorlcing pian -Three-sided figure 10. Color 11. Affirmative 17. Afternoon party 19. Mineral 22. Droop 23. Short visit 24. of an era 25. Cease 20. Main hard 1111111111111111101101141M'a Ill ua 1111, 11 1111 1111111111111 Mill rov,,4 FP":411111 ail 11111112*. srf • • 30 1111111Mill ill r .✓IIIIIIIL � ill II 1111111A.. acv i•VON1111111, in III 11" 111111111111111 illr 5Z rr 53 a al Answer Clsew re on This Page With Her Hero -Husband -Sinter Jarie Froman stands at the bed- side of her husband, Copy. ;Jahn C. Burn at a San Juan hospital. Burn piloted the airliner that crashed at sea off Puerto Rico, kill- ing 52 persons, and was ,one of the 17 survivors of the tragedy. Miss Froman, who marriod'Brirn after he saved her Life in a Lisbon plane crash in 1943, reached her husband's side after a fear -filled flight from New York. ':mow•.,:,,-,rte„o,• {' HR N INGER y even.aoLtn.e p Cte.D1 IO This has been the wettest; ' aiad most disappointing Easter tat. I remember. Most of us, I thin• 'look forward to fine, bright went i7 at Easter as symbolic of the r ,ewed hope that Easter always b'i`ro `s to a world that is now so oft01, -per- plexed and frustrated in its 1''iirnk- ing. Instinctively, everyone \wants to be happy at Easter-anci:, hap- piness comes more easily :ins nice weather than, as it was this ,,rireek- end, with rain falling steadilye`£ronn daylight to dark. But at least we can be thankful that the tEaster message is far brighter than: the weather that accompanied It"- For lt, -For us it has been a disappointing weekend all round. We e ct ted - daughter and niece Betty Tttraflay nighty. but Betty dislocat'` shoulder and somethingen ti :so that daughter did ntrt . either, At first weeviSee ed -but not after zt ttt'rnes There were no' Easter bftissues around here either-bftt we did have an Easter' calf. • I wonder why it is that Easter, more than any other season, recalls memories of home. Before I got' up this morning I was thinking back to other days, to any home in •England, even before World War 1. We seemed to have an accepted pattern for Easter weekend in' those days, which hardly varied at all from one year to another. Those who were away came home, some- times bringing a friend or friends. Friday morning sve went to a ser- vice, which as children we always Loved -"The Stations of the Ctoss." Goocl Friday was also the day :when country folk liked to plant ',their potatoes. so the day was a mixture of solemnity and relaxation.,, On Easter Sunday we generally started the day by going to the early morning service. After break- fast our family of four would -set out for its traditional Easter Sun- day walk. Our mother did not care too much for our long walks so she would say to us -"You go on now and have your walk and I'll have dinner waiting when you get back". So we started on our cross-country tramp that would be anywhere from seven to ten miles. Our favourite walk was Ryes Laite-a moss -covered path through the woods, where tree branches ;net over our heads and formed a Leafy arcade. And it was here that! we were sure to 'find the first prim- roses of the season as well as sweet -scented violets. Later ,the woods would be fragrant with blue- bells. We also watched for the little English robin, much smaller than its Canadian namesake. And how delighted we were if we heard a cuckoo.. From Ryes ,Lane, which was about three miles long, we came to the top of a steep hill from which there was a marvellous view of the wooded country for miles around. Homeward bound we pass- ed 13allingdon hall where Queen Elizabeth 1. had often stayed. On through the Village of of Balling- don-cum=Brundon, past the old Bull Inn, which features in Dickens' "Pickwick Papers." Through the churchyard of All Saints Church, built in 1450, although early history mentions the Chapel at Ballingdon as early as 1154. In the church there is a beautiful octagonal fifteenth century pulpit, saved from destruction during the wars by being boarded tip and hidden from view until discoveted by accident in 1850. Tired, hungry and often very dusty, we arrived home, quite ready to do justice to mother's dinner of roast beef, Yorkshire pudding and ' light dessert. After dinner :,,we more or less lazed away the afternoon. Tea was at five o'clock. After tea some of us generally went to evening ser- vice with my mother, while those who were more energetic went to ...some church other than our own - maybe to a nearby Village -which meant another walk! Easter Monday was observed as a holiday and I suppose we amused ourselves in various ways as I don't remember any particular family affair. I wonder what Easter week- ends are like in England today? No doubt long country walks are out of fashion. Times change, but of one thing I am certain -Ryes Lane is still in existence, where prim- roses bloom and robins sing. This weekend, while we were being de- luged with rain, the English coun- tryside was bathed in warmth and sunshine. That much I know from the radio. It is nice to know that somewhere the sun was shining, Not that" we have anything to grumble about -wet though it is, we are not quite flooded out, as they are in many parts of the United States. SALLY'S SALLIES t,,, q.Y-y f�11M ,:..� L:,'Wn11 e:M,4111. 'Just a mlliute, Neddie • dear: Was it your` black suit you want- ed pressed?" Drumstick Factory -"tippy/' bantam chick with four kgs, is, ad- mired by Margaret Martinez who says she's never encountered such a bird before, in all heryears of chicken -raising. Tippy, who is the answer to a drumstick -lo'ver's drearn, uses three of his legs to novlgate with, and saves oho for "spam." .Robbie Burns The Gre t Lover "I wish I could find a lassie tae • lo'e me as well as my dog does." With this remark Robert Burns kicked his dog out of the room in which he was dancing and into which the dog had followed him, ruining a reel by getting,' amongst the feet of the dancers. "Wee!, hae ye found the lassie tae lo'e ye as weel as your dog?" asked attractive, gay jean Armour to him as she saw him in the fields next day. The result was inevitable. .Burns was at once launched upon one of his tempestuous, all -absorbing love affairs. Scotland's national poet certainly believed love to be "the first of human joys, our chiefest pleasure here below." And by love lie meant no vague and general affection, but the love of man for maid, and maid for man in the full flood ,of youthful ardour. Amorous Adventures Like many another gay compan- ionable "!pan's man" in masculine tavern society he was the "woman's man" of his age and immediate surroundings. Ile adored the whole sex -and most of that sex to whom he paid address found him irresis- tible, Robert Burns, as all the world knows, was a ploughman. lie was brought up in poor and arduous circumstances, But he exercised over women of all classes and ages a truly astonishing fascination. In that fascination there was nothing of the unpleasant slinking quality of the professional seducer, writes Moray McLaren in "Answers." Burns' appeal to the female sex was based on sheer masculine open- hearted admiration, coupled with a boyishly romantic temperament, and a tongue that could speak poetry that no Scot before or since has surpassed. Poetic, romantic, highly sensitive though he may have been, Robert Burns did not confine his love - Making to the spiritual plane. In- deed, the freedom Ile allowed him • - self in physical love has long be- come a part of the "Burns Legend." It was a freedom which, as is well known, often had unfortunate results. Burns was one of those men who seem by nature to be unusually feta tile. The same Jean Armour who eventually became his wife actually bore him' with startling rapidity two sets of twins before the marriage, Apart for this pre -nuptial adven- ture there were many other amorous adventures with the lassies of Ayr- shire and Edinburgh, which ended in the same way. Amongst all his female admirers there were, however, three who were pre-eminent. Between them they occupied by far the most im- portant part in the love -life of Robert Burns. They were Highland Mary, Mrs. Agnes McLehose, and Jean Armour, whom he eventually married. All three have a certain mystery or at least fantasy attach- ed. to their relationship with Scot- land's greatest poet. The mystery is deepest about Highland Mary, That there was a woman who came from just across the Highland line into Ayshire and into Burns' life, and that this wo- man profoundly affected Burns, and left in him one of the few really deep sensations of remorse from which he suffered, there can be no doubt. But astonishingly little is known about her; so that at the end of the last century some people suggested that she was no more than a poetic fancy. This is n o n s e n s e. Highland Mary, whatever she was like, was a real woman who disturbed the emotions of Burns to their depths. He said little about her at the time. It is known that he pledged his troth with her in the old Scottish -fashion (and a signed Bible is evidence of it exists). But in the complications of his life at the time, and as a result of the loose old Scottish marriage con- ventions, Burns may well have feared. that he was committing bigamy. At any rate, poor Mary, it is now certain. returned to her parents and died of a fever while giving birth to a child, probably Burns'. Those who believe this support their claim by the discovery of a baby's coffin in Mary's tomb when it was opened up in 1920. Mrs. McLehose was a very dif- ferent woman. She came from high society in Edinburgh but had been deserted by a rascally husband. She had made a dead set at Burns when the ploughman poet was being lionised in the Scottish capital, It was a new experience for Burns to be made love to so open- ly by a woman in her class and he was puzzled. She obviously ardent- ly worshipped him, yet her con- science would not let that worship reach the conclusion which he had up till then found invariable in his relationships with women. The result was a prolonged. elaborate, and fantastic correspon- dence (conducted between them even when they were living in iht+ same small town as Fdtnbergb then was). It was a correspondence of love if ever there was one, yet it was conducted in the realm of high arti- cice, like a game. Site called herself And i'he RE! I F IS LASTING For fast relief from. headache get INSTANTINE. For real relief get INSTANTINE. For prolonged relief get INSTANTINE! Yes, more people every day are finding that INSTANTINE is one thing to ease pain fast. For headache, for rheumatic pain, aches and pains of colds, for neuritic or neuralgic pain you can depend on INSTANTINE to bring you quick comfort. INSTANTINE is made like a pres. cription of three proven medical ingredients. A single tablet usually brings fast relief. Get Instantine today and always keep it handy 12 -Tablet TM 25t Ec : noinical 48 -Tablet Bottle 75c Clarinda, he called himself Sl- vester. \'alter Scott described the cor- respondence as "the most ex- traordinary mixture of sense and nonsense, and of love, human and divine, that was ever exposed to the eye of the world." Jean Armour, who eventually be- came Burns' wife, has her own mystery attached to her; and it is a very simple one -why did Burns marry her? After the episode of the dog and the dance Burns not only made love to her but went through a Scots form of marriage with her. He was then young and unknown, and Jean's parents (despite the fact that a set of twins were on the way) destroyed,the evidence of the marriage by trickery, deeply wounding the poet's pride. Burns then went to Edinburgh, became famous, and upon his re- turn to Ayrshire proceeded in the most casual manner to give Jean another set of twins, but he clearly despised ,her and had outgrown her. Then, to everyone's astonish- ment, he, who had now as large an experience of love as is granted to most men, married this cast -of!* whose family had once so grossly insulted him. It was to his friends at the time an inexplicable action, and remains inexplicable to us to- day. There was very little allure- ment left and I am afraid that one must exclude the element of chivalry. "Among the Lasses" However, Burns did marry her and after a fashion she made him not a bad wife. Many have censured Burns for his indiscriminate and wide love- making. Indeed, it is difficult to defend his utter lack of discipline when "amang the lasses 0," but there was about his amorousness a kind of gay healthiness which, as I have said, far removes it from that of the slinking seducer kind. At any rate, reprehensible or not, Burns' love for the lasses of his native land produced a wealth of lyric poetry which has spread his name all over the world. There is no country in which the lines beginning "My love is like a red red rose" are not known. No Scotsman is more internationally famous, And in all Great Britain only two other poets have been more translated --Shakespeare and Byron -- and incidentally Byron was half a Scot. WANTED ADVICE Will Cuppy once reported the receipt of a letter from a faithful fan that reads. "Please send inc the name of some good hook on personal hygiene. 1 think I've got it." Upsidedown to Prevent Peeking ISSUE 1St •- 1952