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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1956-10-25, Page 2"Dear Anne Hirst: lely 'prob- lem concerns my mother, and it is the biggest one I've ever faced. I am 26, married seven years and have two children. My mother was divorced when 1 was Very young; she married again, divorced again. "Until we moved back to my home town, I didn't know she had taken a house and was sent - lag rooms, and that one tenant and she were living together. I 'was ashamed of her, but couldn't bring myself to talk about it -- elle was always dominating, and we didn't get along too well. The two visited us week ends, sad I finally demanded she keep him away. He drank and was loud, and my little boy asked questions. "A year ago we moved 600 miles away. I wrote her I was glad we did, and told her either to marry Mr. X or get rid of him; she replied she didn't know what to do, he was a good man. I said to make up her mind and I'd stick by her. "Now I intend to write her that if she hasn't done anything by next January, I will break off with her. "What do you think? My husband reminds me that even though she is doing wrong, she IS in.. mother. TOO HARSH? • If your closest girl friend * were so involved, would you re- * pounce her family? Or realize 'k it was her own affair and she * must have her reasons? * What right have you to sit in • judgment on your mother? * How can you know what agon- * ies she suffered making such * a decision? What of these a' years since her last divorce, a when she has needed compan- ' ionship and affection desper- • ately? * Shaken by two unhappy ▪ marriages, she snatched at the * thought of being wanted and a needed. She took the wrong * turn, yes; but is that reason '' enough to forsake her? You s' are wondering with me, why a she doesn't marry the man. s" Perhaps he isn't the marrying * kind and she fears to put him x' to the test. Whatever her rea- * sons, know that to her they * seem sufficient. Do not misunderstand me: I * sympathize with you in this painful situation. But how can ' you cast your mother off as you tk threaten, send .chastising let - 't* ters that put her beyond the pale? Why not simply say that 0' you cannot approve, but the tx choice is hers. I expect you • believe you are a Christian; re- * member that charity is the !' greatest of virtues, and if one r' dear to us offends the least we ;' can do is to be kind. I may be entirely wrong, Is but your letter seems to indi- • tate that you are concerned * that the scandal reflects on a you and your children. How * can it touch you, living 600 ▪ miles away? Distance also • will prevent her seeing yon of- * ten, her life need not affect * yours. You still can maintain •' the semblance of good feeling, * and not stoop to hurt the 4' woman who gave you life. • Some readers will agree • with you and reprove me for • being too liberal. But nothing NANCY" * can change the truth that, as * your husband reminds you, * she is your mother. She will 'x not always be here. During the * years left to her, perhaps the * only consolation she will have • is that her daughter has not 'k abandoned her. If you cannot * honor your mother as we are * taught to do, can't you at '' least leave her the comfort of *, your affection? *, * HE'S A BULL] "Dear Anne Hirst: I've been married four years to a man a dozen years' older, and I am mis- erable. My husband is a bully. Nobody really likes him, even his own family. "What he does with • his money, I'll never know; lie doesn't give me any of it. He does pay the household bills, but I work and buy my own clothes, and he even thinks I should pay for his! He is very untidy around the house, and doesn't even care how he looks at busi- ness. He hasn't taken me ' out for months. "I am practically friendless. He is so rude and inhospitable that the friends I had frankly told me they couldn't stand him. . Shall I try to find new friends, or join a club, or do something to get me out of the house a few hours? Or should I pack my things and leave- for good? * When I receive a letter like * yours, my first thought is, " "How long did she know the * man before they married?" " Had you met his family, learn- "' ed their opinion of him? Or * did you marry hastily and in * ignorance of his real charac- " ter? It is your future that con- * cerns you, however. First, re- * fuse to give your husband any * money you earn; if he isn't * really supporting you. you need every dollar you make. * Join a club or engage in * some other community activi- * ty that will require your regu- * lar attendance;, that will give * you some relaxation and in- * terest. It seems futile to make * new personal friends at the * moment; They would be. as * disgusted with your husband * as others were.. ., Try this for a time. If it * does not satisfy' you, you can * fund what grounds you have to * free yourself from a husband * whom, apparently, you should * never have married at all. * * If you cannot agree with Anne Hirst's opinion on a problem, don't hesitate to say so. She ap- preciates intelligent criticism, and will print it as she can. Ad- dress her at Box 1, 123 Eight- eenth St., New Toronto, Ont. GETTING THE PIP Willie, aged seven, was playing in the back garden when lie sud- denly smacked the face of one of his little girl friends. She ran home crying. Out dashed Willie's mother and said, "Willie, you had no right to hit Joan. What made you do it, anyway?" "We were playing Adam and Eve," explained Willie, "and she went and ate the apple instead of tempting me." The mosquito was discovered by the man who was discovered by the mosquito. TESTING POR THE "SILENT KILLER" --Carbon monoxide -- the 'silent killer" -- is the real cause of many traffic accidents. That's the theory the Washington State Patroi is trying to prove. setting Patrol Chief Roy P. Carlson says, "It is a known fact that a small percentage of CO present in a vehicle for 35 iinlnutes to one hour can slow a driver's reaction time, affect its vision, dnd give him a general feeling of drowsiness." The' State Patrol, therefore, has inaugurated a voluntary testing campaign. A motorist merely stops rat one of the patrol's test - Ing posts. A patrolmaan holds a CO tester inside the, car to take ten air sample and then withdraws it to make the reading. BUMBER-SHOOTING STARS—Clouds may hide the skies, but stars will still twinkle for the user of this umbrella. A rainy - day brightener from West Berlin, Germany, the umbrella has tiny bulbs that light under each star when the user presses 0 switch. Power is supplied by a battery in the handle. eata :mak . /7G%,.d�14✓ ewcx doU\,e P. C1o, .e Back to standard time and for some unknown reason we found it very hard to adjust our- selves to the change; much har- der than last spring when we changed over to fast time. Actu- ally we were not at all anxious to take advantage of that extra hour's sleep Sunday morning. Instead we were up an hour earlier — that is, according to the clock. But I suppose in a day or two we won't know the dif- ference. Perhaps it was the reee turn of fine summer weathet that made us feel energetic. We wanted to be up and doing. As to that, do you ever wake up with the thought --- "Here hath been dawning an- other blue day— Think—wilt thou •let it ,slip useless away?" Time is such a precious thing and yet, because there seems so much of it ---. especially when we are young -- we often fail to ap- preciate its true value. Thus we let it slip useless away. We fail to remember that without time nothing can be accomplished; with time all things are possible -•- plus a few items like energy, perseverance and patience. I was going to add "good health" but that isn't always necessary. In many instances much has been accomplished from an invalid's bed. But health is certainly the governing factor in the type of activity in which we engage. It helps us to realize our limita- tions --- to know that while one type of work is beyond our strength another type can quite easily be undertaken. That is the way with Partner and I any- way,. as with countless other folk. Much of the work we used to do is now beyond our strength but that doesn't mean we must be content to sit down and twid- dle our thumbs. No indeed • - for that way madness lies. Come to think of it, for the next two months we are not likely to do much thumb -twid- dling anyway. At the present moment we are making last minute preparations for niece Babs and her two little girls — Carol and Nancy, four years and twenty months old respectively. Ginger Farm will be their tem- porary headquarters until hous- ing arrangements have been completed for them at Blind River. The trio, with Daddy in charge, are supposed to arrive about eight o'clock tonight. What our erstwhile quiet home will be like after that is anyone's guess. I'll tell you next week! Last. week Partner and I took this opportunity of "the lull be- fore the, storm" to do a little gadding. On two occasions we visited friends on farms in Wel- lington and Dufferin county. And on Wednesday and Thursday I was in Guelph, partly to look in on the W.T. Convention. Satur- day was the day of our local fair. And the weather was perfect. The fair must have beaten all records'both in attendance and the number of exhibits. The midway toe appeared to be big- ger Than ever. Whether It was "better" we have no means ot knowing, it beint~ our policy to keep as tar away from it as pos- • sible. As is always the case we met people at the fair we hadn't seen in years, some of whom had come quite a distance. I imagine it was the people, more than the exhibits, that the "old-timers" • came to see. It is just a case of wheels within wheels. Without exhibits there could be no fair; •without people there could be rio exhibits. Put the two to - gather and they attract an out - attendance that come to see to see what his reaction would be to new surroundings. 1 need- n't have worried. He and the children took -to each other as 11 they had been brought up to- gether. So I left him . on pro- bation. I thought if we intended to part with him now was the time — before Carol and Nancy arrive. This morning I phoned to inquire if Robbie had really settled down happily after I had gone. He is still perfectly con- tented. Actually, it is a shame for Robbie not to have a per- manent home with children he is so fond of them. But if other dogs are around there is trouble, as he' is very jealous. . To part with him wasn't easy — he is such a lovable little dog — but I think as • time goes on we shall eventually feel it was the best thing to do. Especially as Robbie is definitely not a "one man's dog" but of the type to be happy with anyone who is kind and makes a fuss of him. Rusty is quite different. We would hate to send Rusty to a new home — I think it would break his heart, unless he was with someone already known to him and whom he recognized as a friend of the family, Tell, 'we had a hard decision to make over the week -end — whether or not to send Robbie, our little Welsh Corgi, to a new home. Two dogs and two people get, along fine. But when you add to the family two adults, two grandsons and one cocker span- iel, things get a little compli- cated. Rusty is supposed to stay out of the house because he is too big and boisterous and up- sets the smaller dogs. Dave, however, loves Rusty so he man- ages to let him into the house every chance he gets. That is when bedlam begins. With Carol and Nancy here I could foresee more problems ahead. It so hap- pened 1 knew - a family where there are •schoolage children who were most anxious to adopt Rob- bie. Yesterday I took him over White Was Mark Of Social Prestige Men who grumble at wo- men's demands for the "imposs- ible" can thank the ladies for the white shirts they're wear- ing. Without womanly persist- ence a hundred years ago, white fabrics might be as rare as white mink. If a lady of 200 years ago could peek into modern bed- room drawers full of gleaming white hankies, white lingerie and white blouses, she would be spellbound with envy. To her, the possession of even ONE white garment was a mark • of social prestige. In those days the process of bleaching fabrics was so long and tedious that only a privi- leged few could afford the fin- ished product. For instance, in order to have a white sheet to sleep on, the material first had to be steeped in alkaline lyes. then washed and spread on the grass for weeks. After repeating this pro- cess five or six times the same material was subjected to a bath of sour milk or buttermilk for a few days, washed and again spread in the sun. This• procedure continued until the material was as white as "could be expected." Although this elaborate meth- od of bleaching was quite . the usual one for many years, it was hardly practical on a large- scale basis and the result would not hold a candle to the "whiter -than -white" fabrics of today. However; practical or not, women insisted on more and more white garments. , And leading men in the chemical in- dustry give credit to the per- sistent little lady, for her in- cessarit demands for more white in her life brought about the birth of modern bleaching techniques. Early in the last century, the search for more. efficient bleach- ing methods brought to light many new chemicals. These turned out to be endlessly use- ful to industry and formed the nucleus of the heavy -chemical economy of England for many years. The development of these eff.. cient bleaching agents such as sodium perborate, chlorine and hydrogen peroxide opened the way for the truly 'white fab- rics of today. No longer are white goods a novelty — mile: of white garments Clutter from clotheslines every Mor day morning. And according to the soap makers, it has now become a matter ofprestige to display the whitest wash in the neigh- borhood! AGE NO HANDICAP The judge studied the twenty- four pairs of trim ankles dis- played beneath a curtain at at angle judging contest at Here. ford, then gave his decision. Up went the curtain to revea the smiling winner—a lady of 81 years of age. ISSUE 43 — 1956 Jumper Dress Jumper with companion blouse —or figure - - flatteringdress! You'll love the versatility of this new style! Note its smart double- breasted bodice effect; easy -fit- ting 6 -gore skirt. Sew it now in corduroy, velveteen, or wool! Pattern - 4846: Misses' Sizes 10, 12,_14, 16, 18, 20, Size 16 jumper takes 4 yards 35 -inch nap; blouse 13/4 yards 39 -inch fabric. This pattern easy to use, sim- ple to sew, is tested fat fit. Han cdmplete illustrated instructions. Send THIRTY FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; us. postal note for safety) for thia pattern. Print plainly - SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLI NUMBER. Send order to Anne Adame, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. l! Ne-0hHoene mtbe-Rh! 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