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"Dear Anne Hirst: I am al --
most too ashamed to explain our
problem, but I need some sound
advice. Our daughter, 19, is
cheating on her fiance during
his absence from home. Her
father and I are frantic, and he
threatens to tell her to leave .. .
The two got engaged at Christ-
mas, and she is wearing his ring.
A. wonderful offer came from the
West Coast that nearly doubled
his income; knowing it meant
they could marry this year, he
Jumped at it.
"By March she had started to
,date another boy almost every
night! She hardly knows hien,
but he has her under his thumb;
she has changed so much we
hardly known her, and she open-
ly defies us. Her fiance senses
something is wrong and. called
her up to ask if she was going
with anyone else. She wouldn't
say yes or no ... We both are
so fond of the fiance and had
thought her future all set. Now
we almost feel she doesn't de-
serve him. Also, he sends her
monthly checks for her savings
account against their future.
"She does read your column
regularly, and we will be so
- grateful for any advice. Perhaps
someone else can convince her
how dishonorable she is. We
have failed miserably.
DISTRACTED"
"' It is heartbreaking to see a
* presumably nice girl double -
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* cross any man, and it is doub-
* ly cruel when he traveled so
* far away to make their fOr-
* tune.
* If
your daughter cannot ex-
* ist on the assurance of his
* love, if she must have other
* men's attentions to keep her
* content, she should never have
* promised to marry him. I
” agree with you: she should
* realize how disgracefully she
* is behaving, and determine to
F stay true to her promise. If
* she cannot (or will not) then
* she should openly break the
* engagement, and return the
* money her fiance has sent her;
* her possession of it adds an
* almost sinister note to her
'k. treasonable behaviour.
* The boy she is dating is
* equally guilty; you say he
* knew she was engaged when
* they met. Unless he upholds
* her casual idea of honor, he
* should realize she cannot be
true to, any one roan.
• Asking her to leave home is
* no solution. No matter how
* she is shaming you and her
* father, she is still your daugh-
* ter and entitled to whatever
* protection her parents can
* provide. Better to have her at
* home.
I sympathize with you both.
I hope when she realizes what
others must think of her, she
will turn to the right before
she tosses aside the love of a
good man and encounters
more trouble than she has
ever known.
* * *
"Dear Anne Hirst: "I've been
going steady with a boy for
seven months; sometimes we've
double -dated with my best girl
and my friend's buddy.
"Now we aren't going steady
any more . My girl friend's
cousin carne here to get a job
and they have taken an 'apart-
ment together. We met her at
church, and right away my
friend asked his buddy to get
him -a date with her! They have
seen each other every night for
the past two weeks.
"What can I do? I still love
him. He hasn't come out and
said we are- through; in fact,
1 haven't even seen him. What
do you think? He is 22 and I
am 18.
LOVE SICK"
* Steady dating for seven
* months is apt to make a girl
* feel so possessive that she
* takes it as a real offence if
* the boy so much as looks at
* anyone else twice. Yet, since
* there is no engagement be-
* tween then, this girl is help-
* less to object. He has the right
* to date anyone he likes, and
* so has she.
• Waiting for a wandering
* lad to come back is one of
e the most trying situations a
* girl faces. She feels so lost,
'^ so lonely. All she can do is
* to hide her hurt and act as
* though her heart were not
* breaking, and this must be
* your role for a while. Let
* the lad pursue his new flame,
* but you go your own way, too,
* and cultivate other boys you
* know, if only to keep yourself
* in circulation.
* He may or may not be dis-
* appointed in the girl. At any
* rate, hold your head high, and
* remember not to speak of him
* to anyone else. That might
* help you keep your dignity,
• which will give you courage
* to mingle with other friends
* and at least appear to be
* enjoying yourself. No mat-
* ter what happens, that will
'" comfort you.
* * *
If you have deceived one who
loves you, straighten things out
immediately before he loses his
faith in all women. Anne Hirst
will help, if you write her at
Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New
Toronto, Ont.
COUNTED SHEEP TO FALL ASLEEP — in this case, real live
sheep. Gerald Wilson, 16, takes time out for a nap at the
Missouri State Fair. The Corridale Iamb satisfying his curiosity
tthrough the barrier is one of 1,500 entries in the fair's wool
show.
AND THE GUARD GOT WET — Smiling under an umbrella as
the rain`pours•down, Queen Elizabeth inspects a guard of honor
of the Argyll and Sutherland Highlanders, during her recent
visit to Oban, Scotland. Her Majesty's escort, sword held high
in royal salute, gallant), got drenched.
•
HRONICLE�
1NGE' FARM
Gv¢n3o:[ne D. Clarke
If we hadn't thought it be-
t ore we would certainly realise
now that television is a great
medium for education. How else
could we have received •such a
clear picture of what. takes place
at the great party conventions
in the U.S.A.? Their system of
preparing for the election of a
government is so different from
our own that it is sometimes a
little difficult to understand.
But now, I for one. certainly
know more about it than I did.
before. I might even offer a
little criticism '— but why
bother — what our friends
across the border do is entirely
their own affairs, so at Ginger
Farm we can just sit back and
remain interested onlookers. Of
course we got a little tired of
some of the speeches but. yet.
we couldn't drag ourselves away
from the TV, particularly on
Friday night. Of course 'we
would have to have done so had
we been getting up • with the
dawn as we used to do.. 'From
now on many of those at the
Democratic convention will be
to us, not merely names in the
news, but definite personalities.
And that, of course will apply
to Republican candidates too,
whose convention we shall
watch with equal interest. But
we are glad we don't have to
vote for either one side or the
other! President Eisenhower
has such a wonderful personelle
ty — but then we found our-
selves equally impressed with
Mr. Stevenson and Mr. Kefau-
ver. But we don't have to
make any decision so we can
straddle the fence in comfort—
if straddling a fence can ever
be described as comfortable.
Altogether, newswise, last
week was quite exciting. The
Suez Conference, and — if it
isn't incongruous to mention it
in the same paragraph — Cliff
L' umsdon's conquest of the
Strait of Juan de Fuca. And I
had a special lit`le outing of my
own. Just another interesting
Women's Institute affair, This,
time it was a tea and the ex-
hibit of prize winning entries in
connection with the annual
competition sponsored by the
Salada Tea Company. There
were three Tweedsmuir History.
Scrapbooks shown, all of them
good, but that of Bridgeport
W.I. in the Kitchener - Water-
loo district — was deservedly
awarded the first prize. Such
beautiful illustration; featuring
pioneer scenes They appeared'
to be three-dimensional. There
were also wonderful black and
white sketches by Mrs. Idessa
Zimmerman. The entire boo],
was well arranged and tabulat-
ed. . Another splendid prize-
winning entry was from Hay-
stack Bay W.I. The distinguish-
ing feature in this book was the
remarkably attractive hand-
written entries. I have beex]e
wondering since whether it was
Italic handwriting. The third
prize history was in two vol-
umes. It, too, was a carefully
arranged and attractive piece
of work. There were also three
beautiful oil paintings of rural
scenes, and three prize-winning
Hope chests which 'included
very tine speciments of crochet,
cross-stitch work and other
types of embroidery. All these
entries were conclusive evidence
o" the talent that exists among
the Women's Institutes of On-
tariofl Of course we were wel-
comed by officials of the Sal-
ada Tea Company, after which
we we`re served with piping hot
tea, dainty sandwiches : and
fancy cakes. I expect this tea
was probably the last function
at which the Provincial officers
of the W.I. will appear before
leaving Canada on their way to
Ceylon and .the Tri-ennial Con-
vention of the Associated
Countrywomen of the World,
taking place this fall
Well, we hear on the radio
that harvest operations in On-
, tario are pretty well over! We
wonder where. In this district
most of the wheat has certain-
ly been threshed or combined
but spring crops are still stand-
ing — and I expect most of the
farmers with spring crop. are
praying that no big storm comes
along and knocks them flat be-
fore -they are ready for the
binder. In fact we know of some
farms where the crops have al-
ready' suffered that fate. We
get such freakish storms these
days. Saturday we had just a
sprinkle of rain. Later when
Bob came up from Oakville he
reported the heaviest rain-
storm of the summer with a ter-
rific electrical storm. At the
construction plant lightning ran
along steel pipes, jumped from
one machine to another, gave
all the employees a scare and
yet no damage was reported
anywhere.
Today the weather is delight-
fully cool. In fact there is a
feeling of fall in the air.. The
wind has a mournful sighing
sound; bluejays are sounding
forth with loud, unmusical
notes, and last night there was
a gorgeous sunset, unusual for
summer evenings. I suppose we
'Might learn more about what
the weather has in store for us
Modern
Etiquette...
Q. What is the rule on the
introduction of young and old
Persons?
A. The younger person is al-
ways introduced to the older or
more distinguished, but a gen-.
telman is always presented to
a lady, even though he is an old
genleman and the lady is a
mere slip of a girl. Of course,
a woman is presented to the
President of the United States,
a royal personage, or a digni-
tary of the church.
Q. How does an unmarried
business woman identify herself
over the telephone?
A. "This is Miss Johnson (or,
Miss Ruth Johnson), of such -
and - such company."
Q. Is it correct to wear ear-
rings at any time, or should
they be reserved only for cer-
tain oceasione?
A. Small earnings can be
worn anywhere and at any
time. But the diamond type and
long, dangling ones are best
worn only with eveningor
dressy party frocks.
Q. Is there any way that one
can possibly rinse one's fingers
at the table if no finger bowl
has been provided.?
A. It is permissible to tip the
waterglass against the corner of
the napkin, and then wipe the
fingers on this damp corner.
Q. Is there any special mark=
ing customary on a cake to be
served at an engagement party?
A. A traditionally favorite
decoration is the first names of
if we had a greater knowledge
concerning plants and trees. For
instance we have a hickory tree
down by the creek that is load-
ed with nuts this year. We won-
der why because we haven't had
hickory nuts around here for
years and years. There are also
quite a lot of wild grapes on
vines where I have never seen
grapes before. There are plenty
of choke -cherries too. Last
year there there wasn't one to
be seen anywhere. Why? No
doubt native Indians could tell
use.
SHE MEANS IT - Close friends
of actress Cleo Moore, above,
insist she's dead serious about
her plans to run for governor
of Louisiana in 1960. "And why
not?" asks Cleo. "All good
politicians are good actors, so
what's so funny° about an ac-
tress being a politician?"
the bride -elect and her fiance
enclosed in a heart.
Q. Op which side of :the plate
should the napkin be placed,
and bow should it be folded —
with the open edge toward or
away from the plate?
A. On the left of the plate
with open edge toward the
plate„ unless it is folded and
there is no edge,
Q. Would it be proper to have
two maids of honor, both of
them dressed in white?
A. This is all right, if you
wish, although usually only the
bride ' is dressed in white. In
some summer weddings, an al.] -
white wedding is very effective.
Of course, the bridesmaids
never wear veils of any kind.
Q. I have been told that one
,who visits a sick friend in a
hospital should always tiring
some kind of gift. Is this cor-
rect?
A. This is not obligatory, You
may do as you wish.
Q. What is the correct way to
eat a banana at the table? '
A. It should be peeled into a
plate, and then eaten with the
fork.
Q. Is it customary to tip ush-
ers in a theater?
A. Not in this country. It is a
European custom.
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