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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1956-09-06, Page 2AN NE RI 1i. ST lOUhFicitozaw cottpvieecrt NEW DAUGHTER-IN-LAW TELLS A nArry Tax Instead of the forlorn recital of marital woes that usually starts'this column, today I quote from a bride's paean 'to a another -in-law whose under- standing presents a pattern that others could well follow. "Please print this, Anne Hirst," the joyful girl writes, "to show your readers that all mothers- in-law are not like those they write you about. "My new husband earns a small salary, so his mother offered us her upper floor until we get a place of our own. She added a bath and kitchenette, and we have private lock on our door. We live in such seclu- sion that sometimes I feel. em- barrassed. Our privacy is com- plete. She never comes up with- out telephoning first; she goes marketing with me only when I ask h.er, and never advises what to buy nor tells me how her son likes things cooked. She is more like an old friend than an in- law. "Our friends run in and out as they like and, though some- times they stay late, she never lets .on that she knows it If she finds we expect company, a cake out of her oven appears, or a tray of assorted sandwiches; she. never joins us unless we especially invite her. We all go to the same church, and when my husband wants a round of golf e arl y, she never says a word. There are things we don't agree about,. of course, and by consent we don't discuss them. Her son worships her, and I am beginning to, "I was the daughter of par- ents who got a divorce, and now I often think if my mother had been like her, they wouldn't have. "My husband and I have our differences, too, but we've al- ways had too much respect for each other to let it come to a quarrel. Persaps this is just a continued honeymoon phase and our marriage may descend to such things later, but I don't believe it. Since I've known his mother. I see why he is so sweet and thoughtful. I am happier than I ever dreamed of, and all I want is to deserve it. My only concern is that when we can afford a place of our own, I won't want to go!" * TO "HUMBLE": A mother- * in-law like yours brings out * the best in everyone who NEW PRINTX6 PATTERN ,( EASIER -FASTER M OREACCURATE v•- . • • : PRINTED 4614 12-20: 40 PATTERN Our new PRINTED PATTERN —makes sewing a cinch! Dreamy tyle, this shirtwaist dress—and what could be prettier than a summer fashion of airy voile or lawn! vsflattering in all 3 ;leve versions; sew -easiest for gout Printed Pattern 4614: Misses' Sizes 12, 14, 16, 18, 20; 40. Size 16 takes 5% yards 35 -inch. Directions printed on, each tis- sue pattern part. Easy-to-use, wccurate, assures4perfect ht. Send TWTY-FiVE CENTS (stamps- cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this attern. Print plainly . SIZE, STA141E, ADDEESS, S T NUMBER. Send order to ANNE, ADAMS, 123 Eighteenth St, New Toronto, Dna. * knows her. She understands * haw precious one's privacy is, * so she minds her own affairs * and just stands by if you need * her. Ho* fortunate you are, * and how wise to be humble! * She has her reward too, in * your appreciation and grow- * ing devotion. * Let us both hope that pos- * sessive mothers-in-law read- * ing your tribute today will * resolve to cut the silver cord * and let their sons' and wivse * live their own lives, too, How * splendid their reward 'would * be! * * BOY PROBLEM "Dear Anne Hirst: Since my freshman year I've like a boy very much. This year we'll both be seniors..He has never dated me, and twice backed out at the last minute from going to gild. - and -boy dances with me. But I can't forget him, and when- ever I see him • (which is sel- dom), 1 like him more. "Another boy has been fairly interested in me this summer, but whenever another girl comes along, he turns his at- tention to her. He is very popu- lar, and I like him a lot. I see him almost daily, since he is a lifeguard at the pool where I 'swim. I've never dated him. "A, third boy has been dat- ing me, but I wouldn't want him as a boy friend. I know he's going to ask me to go steady; how can I refuse with- out hurting his feelings? He gets too familiar. "I don't know what to do about the first two, and I res- pect your opinion, I know one girl whom you have helped very n-auch. Thank you. MIXED-UP TEEN-AGER" * Your experience with these * boys is characteristic of teen- * age friendships. You will be * smart (and avoid disappoint- * ment) if you do not take any * of the lads seriously. Never * forget that the initiative be- * longs to the male sex, and. * they will run like everything * if a girl assumes it. * Tell the third boy you don't * approve of going steady with * anyone — and avoid being * alone with him hereafter. * Share your dates as they * come, for that is the best way * to learn how to enjoy young * men without getting pain- * fully involved. * * If you -have faced problems like those that appear here, tell Anne Hirst how you solved them. Other readers will ap- preciate sharing your experi- ence. Write Anne Hirst at )3ox 1, 123 Eighteenth Si. New Tor- onto, Ont How Supermarkets Trap) Your Dollars An efficient superrnarket op- erates at a net profit of only about one percent,of sales. Thus when a super fails to make money on the bargains that pull you into the store, it must see to it that you also buy some high -profit merchandise like candy, jellies, spices, gourmet items—and. all non-foods. How is that done? You sell these things to yoursell. You drift around the self- service super in a kind of trance. Touching, feeing, pick- ing up the merchandise, you buy on impulse—far more la- vishly than in a clerk -manned store. The average supermarket customer makes seven unplan- ned, impulse purchases for ev- ery three planned purchases. a study of shopping habits has shown. Have you ever gone into a supermarket for a pound of coffee and come out with two jars of olives, a new anchovy spread and a gadget can -opener as well? If. so, you're only be- having normally in a market astutely designed to turn your visit into a buying spree. For exarnple: 13end down at the dairy rase for egga. Sudden- ly your eyes come level with jars of fresh fruit salad, or cel- lophane - wrapped, imported Swiss cheese. You can't resist sliding these high -markup deli- cacies into your basket. Super- markets rarely make you stoop for impulse items; only tor sta- ples, you, steer around a corner and nearly collide with a red, pyramid of tomato -ketchup bot- tles. 1-Iypnotizerl by the mass display, you take a bottle—even. though you, may have had no notion of buying ketchup. Su- pers have found that any item erected into a solid display will sell perhaps ten times faster than the same item set out on regular shelves, Another stratagem is to spot certain big -markup items iri several different plaees, Count how maey times you see olives BATTLE OF THE STREET CORNERS — Chicago Board of Health mobile inoculation team sets up on a street corner of the polio - stricken West Side as the city fights to curb the outbreak before the peak of the polio season, which usually occurs in mid-Au- gust. Door -to -Door solicitation was used to bring people to the makeshift clinics as polio cases topped 600 in the city's worst siege of the disease. Previous worst season; 1952, with 170 cases totaled during the same period of time. Hardest hit; chil- dren under five, with a ratio of 89.5 polio cases per 100,000 children, compared to a ratio of only 25.8 cases per 100,000 in children between the ages of five and 15 — the group previously most inoculated with the Salk vaccine. el* ; /Lev- ran /442,111:77: ',",n'efathl.tas'ata,,,,..0a'eaSease4 ew.xvioti.n.e P. Ctozke This has been the most insec- tivorous summer I ever remem- ber. Look where you will the air is full of bugs of some kind — things that hop, fly or rawl. Some that do all three. And I should know! Some kind of lit- tle black fly has nearly driven me crazy — and 1 am the only. one it bites. The flies are so small they can get through the screen netting. They have tiny wings, they also hop and they are almost black. You wouldn't think anything so small could be as vicious. The aftermath of their bites has given me rest- less nights for the last fortnight except the last two nights — And then only because I have been buying and spraying in - on your next visit. You'll find them on the relish shelf. next to the cold cuts, the crackers, and near the hardware where male shoppers tend to be. Some markets bait the lowest shelves with cereals, cookies and candies advertised on chit- dren's TV programs. When tod- dlers help themselves, harassed mothers often buy rather than, risk tears. Aisles are sometimes ar- ranged to direct you into sec- tions you didn't intend to visit, tempting you to go on buying. One new supermarket has a bank of short diagonal aisles between the long front -to -rear shelves and the checkouts. You hit the diagonals and deflect in- to the main, food -packed corri- dors. Meat -selling frequently comes in for special attention. In some supers the chrome rail of the enfrigerated meat case is warm- ed just enough so you can rest your arms on it in comfort. Re- laxing there, you ponder the goodies spread before you and. convince yourself that the rib ' roast' for $4.25 is a sounder in- vestment than the frankfurters for 49 cents, Steaks and chops are often entwined with green leaves or green plastic ruffling. Green creates an after -image of red in the eye which makes the meat look redder and more ap- petizing. "The right colors put women in a buying mood," says 'Crone R. Lane, consultant for a Texas chain. Turquoise, yellow and pink are the colors, experts think, with most appeal for women. But whatever the super's de. con the checkout is the pay- off, Here the customer's mood abruptly changes. Suddenly, af- ter a leisurely tour of the•pri- mises, she's in a hurry. To keep her patronage, th.e market must avoid a bottleneck. Big markets put on extra clerks at peak hours; one packs while the other rings up. Xtt some supers moving belts slide the merchandise into position for stowing, Most markets price- staiate every possible item to prevent errors ,and save time. A new cash register automatiA cally computes correct change. secticide with reckless extrava- gance. I thought if I got bitten up much more infection might get into the blood stream, and then dear knows what might happen. Some folk tell me these insects are grass fleas. Could be as there is a hayfield right next to the house. But we have never been bothered with them before. 'However, bites or no bites, I have been very busy • . . mov- ing house. Until now, with eleven rooms. to play around in X seem to have managed to spread myself and my belong- ings all over the house. And if there is anything that clutters tip a place like old papers, books, clippings and so forth, I have yet to meet it. So, after a consultation with Partner, it was decided I should take over a room upstairs — it used to be Bob's bedroom, First it had to be cleaned and a new. place found for boyhood's remaining treasures. And, with .Partner's help a double bed to take down and. remove to the boxroom; and cupboards and shelves tO set up in its place. And then began the grand job of. collect- ing my belongings and carting them upstairs. In the middle of this things began to happen outside. One man. t ane hi to cut a field of hay at the back of the farm. Another man was busy in the front field. Then came the hayloader and after him a big rig from the Department of Highways. I never saw any- thing with such huge rubber wheels — all four of thein. It was a soil -testing outfit, sent in to take samples of the soil for construction purposes. The men used a 12 -inch bore, went down about eight feet, took a sample of the soil, and then filled the hole up again, I think they Made four holes. While this was going on I was busy with any job — taking twenty-five vol- umes of an encyclopaedia up- stairs. .Two volumes at a time was all I could carsy with com- fort, Later I got into trouble for Bonnie ScQUand Comes With his Our vacation was over. We had already said good -by to Peter's family. Now the time had come to say good -by to Scotland. Peter and I stood on the deck . of the 'Transylvania, anchored in the Clyde, our elbows on the rail, watching twilight thrust- ing her lengthening fingers IMO the lanes and streets of Glas- gow -town. But our thoughts were far away—up wild glens to the north, down pleasant countrysides to the south, sort- ing 'out a hundred meinories, mentally packing them into neat bundles to store in mind and heart. . . , Memories are riches, and we had great riches in store—the memory of Oban, where we ate fish and chips on a red -checked tablecloth, where we lingered long over the woolens for sale, soft as a baby's cheek to the finger tips; Oban, where the sea air was, cold sharp with the pungency of salt spray and the romance of the Western Isles just over the tumbling horizon; Oban, where the lone piper on the Esplanade issued an invita- tion hard to resist. . . How could we ever forget the magic of "the bonnie, bonnie banks o' Loch Lomond" where I had stooped to pick up a pocketful of smooth milk -white pebbles, in an effort to carry some magic away with me; or the banks of the River Tay and the River Tummel, Inverurie, Pitochry, Drumlithie — places whose very names were music? On some distant night on a far-off shore, we would unpack and dust off these memories, and find them untarnished by the years. Once again we would be standing on a swinging bridge in Inverness, watching the sun sinking in a soft glow of Turnerian colors behind the chimney tops, turning the River Ness into a painter's palette. And in the distance we would hear again a woman's deep - throated laughter and the haunt- ing strains of the bagpipes. Or we would be seeing again the wistful ruin that is Melrose Abbey, with the fragile lacework of its Crown of Thorns window, open to the wind and the rain, its cobwebby traceries silhouet- ted against a darkening sky. We would not soon forget the jewel-like nsetting of Dryburgh Abbey, with its yew • trees and hawthorne hedges, or that per- fect moment when two wee las- sies asked us the tima of day and then disappeared like frightened deer , toward a cot- tage among the trees, from which smoke curled lazily up- ward; . . —or the beautiful cop- per beeches, the rose trees, pink and yellow and salmon; the del- phiniums at an intense, heaven- ly blue. I would remember inconse- quential things, like hotel cor- ridors. . Si.iddenly someone took me firmly by the arm, and a fami- liar voice with a burr to the "r's" said, "Come on, Kate, you've dreamed long enough. Let's go below and unpack...." And I knew that already Peter had left Scotland behind. and was thinking of the new reponsibilities that a w a i t ed him in the city of Washington. —From "A Man Celled Peter," by Catherine IVrar'Shall. There's one good thing about ignerance—it causes a lot of interesting arguments. doing the job myself. If I had known it was going to pour with rain so soon I would have waited. for help as the storm very effectually put an end to all outside activity for the rest of the day. However, the job is done now and I am settled down -- more or less — in my new quarters. But I have run up against another problem. Until I get used to it I won't be able to write for looking out of the window! I didn't realise what a grand view I would have from upstairs. The win- dow faces north-west, overlooks our driveway,' lots of trees and green fielda, No, 25 Highway, Do-ItiYourselli &if fe;i437.4 43. WI) fi Easy as 1-2-3 to make rickrack jewelry! It's so dramatic, so ex- pensive looking, you'll want a set of earrings, pin, necklace! Combine pearls with rickrack— so thrifty! For bazaars and gifts. Pattern 605: all directions for rickrack jewelry—easy to make! Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note fax 'safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and AD- DRESS. Our gift to you—two wonder- ful patterns for yourself, your home — printed in our Laura 1956 Dozens,, of other new de. signs to order — crochet, knit- ting, enabrOilery, iron -ons, novel- ties. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book NOW -2- with gift patterns printed in it! --- • and. in the distance the "moun- tain." And of course, the setting sun. What more Gould anyone want? Bat 1 was careful to place my typewriter desk well away from the window. where neither birds nor scenery wilt distract my attention when 1 really settle down to work. Of course this new set-up has its disadvantage e too . . the stairs for instance. Sornetimes nO sooner have I got upstairs than the door bell or telephone rings. And the phone rings five times before I can get to it Daughter says — "Put in an ex- tension phone." .Good idea, but that costs money and I don't think we have enough calls coming in to warrant the ex- pense. Outgoing calls I can ar- range to make when I am downstairs. Partner says it looks as if we have come to the part- ing of the ways — he living downstairs and I on the second floor! But we do have our meals at the same table and in the evening we share the television together! It isn't even as bad as when we had a lot of cattle. Then I did used to think we led separate lives — with Partners at the barn most of the time and I at the house. But come to think of it there is nothing extraordinary about that. A professional or businessman'3 work is usually away from home isn't it? On a farm just seems qtteer because a far- mer's wife is used to having her menfolk within earshot most al the time. Yesterday we had a quiet day until about four o'clock. Then things began to pop. First a very welcome caller, then our Toronto family, and finally Bob and Soy. And they -all wanted eggs to take home with them. With eggs seying. at 740 they are glad to get them at whole - get better and bigger eggs, but at tt lower Price. EGYPY GIRDS FOR SHOWDOWN — This pict,re, transmitted by radio shows teachers, recruited under egypi's Notional Guard mobilization pr?grarn, being instructed in use of rifles at Gezir'n. Egypt. Egypt's president, Gomel Abdel Nasfkir, has threatened all-out resistame should any attempt by force be made to take over th vt& Suez Canal.