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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1956-02-02, Page 6.441 NE HIRST awootstiot "Dear Anne Hirst: Practical- ly every letter in your column 14 from wives complaining about husbands. You know sometimes the shoe is on the other foot. I've been married for 10 years (a wartime marriage) and I knew almost immediately it shouldn't have happened. 1 tried to make the best of it, though, being a good and, I believe, at- tentive husband, thinking it might eventually work out. But I've about reached the end of my rope. "It's been nothing but fault- finding, nagging, humiliation and constant grumbling. I know I've never really loved her, but now I've reached the stage where I can't bear the sight of her. My family and even her people have never interfered, but now they all say the same think, `How much can y o u take?' "I've left her now, and if she doesn't divorce me, I intend to le it. I could never stand liv- ing with her again! Certainly Cher' must be some happiness left for me in this world. "I hope you print this, Anne Hirst, and perhaps it will show tome wives that they, too, may be in the wrong before their husbands get to the stage I am In. TOM C" GUILTY WIVES " Perhaps. you.. recall . how Easy to Knit! Knit a shrug to toss over everything, to keep you warm and cozy 1 It's done in a fast 'n' easy pattern stitch—so becom- ing with all your casual and dressy fashions! Pattern 503 has easy -to -follow knitting directions. Misses' Sizes 32-34; 36-38 included in pattern. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS in coins stamps cannot be ac- cepted) for this pattern to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. plainly Print PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. LOOK for smart gift ideas in our Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Catalog, Crochet, knitting, em- broidery, lovely things to wear. ,Dolls, iron -ons, quilts, aprons, novelties—easy, fun to make 1 Send 25 cents for your copy of 'this book NOW 1 You will want to order every new design in it. many times I suggest that a * complaining w if e examine * herself as though she were * somebody else and ask, "Can * 1 be at fault?" There are * women who, swept away by * emotion or deliberately luring * a man into matrimony, ap- * preach the future with the * idea, "Well, I'll change all that," and proceed to nag their man into a state of col- * lapse, usually over nonessen- * tials, from the clothes he wears * to the way he holds a fork. * Having attained the dignity * of marriage, a wife like this revbals her mean nature and * demands a state of perfection * existing in . no living male. * She finds fault with all he * says and does, she grumbles * because he doesn't make more money or doesn't cater to her '• whims as he used to; any ex- * cruse is sufficient to prove her * superiority and her dissatis- ' faction with the mate she * chose. * Most wives (and you and 1 * know so many) have only one * aim in marriage — to make * their man happier at home * than anywhere else. He is the * center of their thoughts. and * plans; they study his habits * and indulge his moods; the * household routine is governed * by his wishes. Their patience * with his peculiarities is infin- * ite, and their reward is his ran- * swerving loyalty and a grati- * tude for all her loving kind- * ness that lasts as long as', he * lives. * You showed more patience. * than many a man would; for * 10 years you did your best. * this, plus the fact that even * your wife's family are sorry * for you, is proof enough that * escape is the only answer. A * man can stand; so much; when * the point is reached, living * with the woman is actually * living in a hell of her de- * signing. A LAD IMPOSES "Dear Anne Hirst: Two of us girls live together, and we have a nice group of 'friends. A young man I've known for• a long time has the habit of inviting himself to dinner at the last moment, taking his welcome for granted.. 1 don't like the habit. "He is really a bore. He never helps wiith' the dishes, just sits and listens to the radio. He hasn't taken me out for a long while. But he is the son of a friend Of. my family, and I don't dare be rude. Have you any ideas? SUSAN" • * This boy, like yourself, * is living away from his people * and he turns to the one link * he knows for companionship. * Many a lad is as thoughtless, * not realizing he makes a * nuisance of himself and ac- * cepting hospitality without re- * turning it. * There is a limit, however, "' to such imposition. * Next time he appears sud- * denly, tell him that you and * your girl friend have a double * date tonight, or you're tired * and going to bed early; or '" you're havi rg dinner out and * going on to a movie, and would " he like to ocme along? * When you write home * again, tell your mother how * things stand. If he is as super- ' sensitive as some boys and * gives his family the idea you * are not being nice to him, * your people will know the * true circumstances. Marriage failure is never the fault of one alone, if you are unhappy, question yourself as to the cause, for the . cure may lie in your own hands. Anne Hirst will help you know yourself, if you write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto HE'U. BE A GOOD SPORT—Marquis Grirnaidi, left, pretender to the throne of Monaco, says he may send "the usurper," Prince Rainier 111, his congratulations when the prince marries Grace Kelly. Grimaldi, shown above in the tavern he owns in Ightham, England, says his grandfather spent most of the fortune establishing the 'Iitte of descent, which he says has been recognized by England's College of Arms. But the Mar- quis, who's known as "George," says it would take too much money to press the claim for the throne. Shown with him are 'this wife, the Marquise, known as "Kay", and an unidentified Customer. Sxx6rtA25a t IT'S A. BOY.— If's hard to: believe, but three-year-old Zbnigniew Skaii'nski is a boy, despite -'the curly locks and the doll. But easy to believe is his happiness at arriving here from Poland. Playing The Organ The organ was .my, first or- chestra- If you have never play- ed the organ, you have never. known the joy of feeling your- self music's master; sovereign of all the gamutof sounds' and • sonorities. Before ` those • key- boards and pedals . and the ' pa- lette of stops, I felt almost .like. a demigod, holding in_ my_.,hands the reins that controlled , the musical universe. played well enough t4., be able to take my father's place in church sometimes and this was my , great joy. Walking along the river.to St. William's, open- ing the little door_ to., the organ with a big old key, looking over the day's hymns lest:I forget the repeats, finding a. prelude ' in a good key in order to avoid a difficult modulation, choosing a gay piece for a wedding .' . not falling .asleep during • the sermon, sometimes improvising a little in the pastor's favorite style, not playing a long• reces-, sional because it would annoy the sexton—all this • filled me with pride. — From "I •Am; a Conductor," by Charles; Munch. • RONICLE S INAElgati It's all over now. The Christ- mas tree stripped of its trim- mings; the gay glass ornaments 'carefully. wrapped and put' away; strings of coloured lights, bereftof illumination, packed in their proper boxes. And the needle -dropping tree thrown on the • -woodpile or, in some cases, out . with the' garbage. Poor little tree ..: such a short while ago we joyously brought you into the house; decked your green 'branches with glittering baubles, and then further en- hanced the glitter by tiny ,'elec- tric lights. You . were very` love- ly, little ove-ly,.little' tree, and served a good purpose so I hope you are not feeling too- badly because your period of' .brightness was so brief.' Yours was a short life but a gay one. In every home you were the symbol of goodwill and laughter. But now, with the New, Year we must discard you as we pick up again the threads of ordinary, everyday life, car- rying with us happy ' memories of ' family gatherings, stacks of greeting cards and perennial letters. At Ginger Farm our letters and cards included greetings from readers of this column. I love to get .your messages Of cheer and encouragement. Writ- ing this• column would be a lonesome sort of job were it not for you; my readers. So keep your ''letters coming. friends. I love them, everyone. But during a special season like this, 1 hope you will forgive me• if 1 reply through this column. Answering a lot of letters at one . time seems to be !more 'than ' I can manage. "Glencoe Reader" advises me to feed our cats a little flaxseed. Thank you for the tip "Glencoe" Half -Size Fashion SIZES ff 4654 ,114.1/2 4/-2 Gr� / aag0 — hr,m Scw-easy jumper and com- panion. blouse -- fashions that double your winter wardrobe These new styles are designed especially for the shorter, fuller figure—with lovely, slimming lines, Proportioned to fit—no al- terations! Pattern 4654: Half Sizes 141/2 161/2, 181/2, 201/2, 221/2, 241/2. Size 16% jumper takes 3 yards 39- in_H fabric: blouse take:' yards. Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTS (35e) in coins (stamps cannot be accepted) • for this pattern. Print plainly SIZE, NAME, AD- DRESS, STILE NUMBER.. Send order to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, 4. ISSUE F 1056 -- it sounds like a good one. "Kendra" you will know by now our little grandson is greatly improved. There were no cat -naps for him over Christ- mas. Sleep in the daytime? Not he -- he might miss something! Thank you for all your kind inquiries and good wishes. We hope you will be feeling much better during the coming year. "Writer" -- that was a grand letter, I have a feeling you 'have what it takes' and I am sure you always make a success of what- ever you set out to do — writ- ing. or anything else. 1 don't think .YOU need much advice from me. Once you are properly settled you should do well. I, too, subscribed to Donald French's magazine and found it very helpful. "Mrs. F ..." So you are going to drive the family car. That seems like an excellent. idea, especially if you make that visit you mention. Start driving now before you get any older and you will learn that much. easier. "Irish" — your letter was most interesting. Your music, the old family `home, and your cats and dogs, seem to provide you with a full and satisfying life. I am sure you never know what it is to be bored. Why should you? Livirig as we all do, in the most interestingand progressive period history has ever known, I cannot see why anyone, at any time, should suf- fer from boredom, • I am sure that your talents, your active mind and hands, help you to forget to some extent, the pain you suffer with those aching joints. "flinois" — your letter and greetings were very welcome. It was nice to -hear from you again. Later on : I will reply more fully. At the moment 1 am particularly busy. David ex- pects to go to. hospital 'again soon. This time for the removal of tonsils and adenoids. The foregoing . will, , I hope, take care of replies to letters for the time being. But in ad- dition to the letters I would also like to ":thank those who remembered 'us' . with greeting cards. It was so nice to ` get them and to know we ,have so many unseen friends. But I wonder what happened to our friend the mysterious "Mr. K.". I was certainly looking for a card with his classic signature! Among our family letters was an "aerogramme" from Part- ner's brother in Australia. He was not expecting his sons home for Christmas as they were both in New Guinea. Last year when we heard from him the oldest boy had lust returned aitei two years in the Antarctic These Clarkes seem to get around, don't they? How strange to spend Christmas in a country like Australia with the thermo- meter around 100 degrees I must ask them' how they cele- brate, Would you like a good sug- gestion for the New Year? That is if you have a lot of un -named and undated photographs as 'we had. One night l got out the whole collection and then sorted them and put, them into enve- lopes labelled according to la- mikes, with each photograph named and dated separately. This idea came to me while I was doing some historical re- search and found families with stacks of photos whom no one could identify. Quite suddenly I realized the same thing could! apply in our family once Part- ner and I were gone beyond re- call. And so I got busy. It takes only a little while. Try it your- selves, and, if I'm not mistaken, you will get quite a lot of fun and enjoyment doing the job. "MINK'S MINE"Film 'bomb- shell Silvana Pampanini bats given a Rome, Italy, court -rea- sons why she .shouldn't return $50,000 in jewels, , minks: onrr other gifts to her movie pro- ducer, Morris Ergas. Ergot: wants everything back because he says Silvana got the gifts under false promise of mar- riage. But she saysit ain't so, because: She never loved Ergtas, and never said she did; she never asked for them anyway.. • 4111 Combine 1 tbs. soft butter or margarine, l c. thick jam, 1 tbs. lemon juice and, if desired,1/3 c. broken nutmeats and divide between 6 greased individual baking dishes. Mix and sifttwice, then sift into a bow1,1 % c. once -sifted pastry Sour (or 11/3e. once -sifted all-purpose flour), 3 tsps: Magic Baking Powder, % tsp. salt, % tsp. grated nut- meg and % c. fine granulated sugar. Cut in finely 5 tbs: chilled shortening. Combine 1 well -beaten egg, 3/2" c. milk and 3 tsp. vanilla. Make a well in dry ingredients and add liquids; mix lightly. Two-thirds fill prepared dishes with batter. Bake in a moderately hot oven, 375°, about 20 minutes. Turn out and serve hot with sauce or cream. 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