Zurich Herald, 1955-12-22, Page 2TYiT'T sy_y y s 7 TT v •
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*tot taAit dithelirt,
'Tear Anne Hirst: Do men
think we are utter fools? We
live in a small town, and so
many husbands are unfaithful
that they all stick up for each
other. Until now 1 felt I could
trust my husband, but I've
heard that he's been seen talk-
ing with a girl who has already
wrecked two homes. If she
breaks mine up, J just can't
take it.
"Ile has denied the story, but
he could easily see her day-
times and I'd never know. When
I get upset I tell him so and
then there's a great* scene, but
It is his fault I am this way. I
hate to think he'd be taken in
by such a low character.
"It is plain hell to live with
a man you can't trust. We have
two children whom we both
love dearly,' and I've tried to
forget all this but I cannot.
What shall I do about it?
ALL UPSET"
ONE WAY TO LOSE
* One sure way to drive a
* man to infidelity is to suspect
* him of it. Why should your
* husband be unfaithful? He
* loves you and he adores the
* children; do you think him so
* stupid he would risk all this?
*• If you continue your ;uspi-
* cions, he will begin to wonder
* whether it is worth while to
* be true to a wife whose every
* other thought is insulting to
* a decent man; if that happens,
* .you will have lost him . as
* surely as though he had walk-
* ed out of the house for good.
r It's a jumper for now — a
sun dress for summer; For
iaohooltime, make one in cotton
plaid, another • in solid colors.
She'll love the blouse too,with
short or •three-quarter sleeves.
She's sure to rate an "A" in fa-
shion, wearing this smart two-
some!
Pattern 4808: Girls' Sizes 6, 8,
g 12, 14. Size.' 10 jumper. 2%
yards 39 inch; blouse, 1% yards.
This pattern easy to use, sim-
ple to sew, is tested for, fit. Has
complete illustrated instruc-
tions.
I Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS
(35e) in coins (stamps cannot
be accepted) for • this pattern.
Print plainly SIZE, NAME
ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER.
Send order to Box 1, 123 Eigh-
teenth. St., Now Toronto, Ont.
* In your present state l ex-
* peat it is futile to remind you
* that few men wander if they
* find at home real friendship,
* love and a healthy, relaticn-
* ship with their wives. ..No
* other woman can take a satis-
• fied. husband away; if he dates—
* her it is usually because his
* marriage was already on the
* downgrade or his ego. demands
* feminine conquests to bolster
* it. Your husband does not
* seem to me to. qualify as a
* philanderer in any. sense.
* I feel there is a deeper cause -
* for your distress which you
* have not confided. For. far too
* long you have been so con-•
* fused that now' you cannot
* judge values clearly. I urge
* you to look back over your
* marriage,. its joys and its dis-
* appointments; for only so can
* you be fair to your husband
,u and yourself. Resolve to sweep
* out these fears. Take it for
* granted that your husband is
* still the good man you have
* loved so long and determine
* that from today you will trust
* him with all your heart, mak-
* ing his hours at home . con-
* tented and heartwarming.
* This is the best way to insure:
* his staying faithful.
* I am not sure you can do
* this, but you can try. It is the
* only course that will restore
* the harmony that is the warp
* and woof of married content-
* meet.
e.
*
HE'S NOT FOR HER
"Dear Anne Hirst: I am. con-
fused and would appreciate your
help. My girl friend and I went
to the 'beach for a week end
and met her cousin and another
boy there. We had several dates
with them, 'though I knew the
other boy was going steady.
"He has asked me for more
dates. I hated to give them on
account of. the girl, but he said
he loves me and was only going
with her because of their par-
ents.
"I love him too, and he says
he wishes he had met me first.
What should I do?
CONFUSED"
* No matter what line. this.
* boy takes to excuse . himself,
* don't you be .a party to such
* deceit as he is practicing.
* Though a few dates -over a
* week end could arouse inter-
* ,eet,
nter;*est, they are not to ,be _ taken
*'serionirr 4 lte s ai`tnsta6le'"'
* as to double-cross. his girl
* friend, be is .not worth'know-
* inge and dating him could lead•
* you into a very unpleasant
* situation.
* No matter how much you
* are, attracted, remember that
* ' a boy • who cheats on one girl
* will cheat on another. Don't
* get involved. It isn't worth it.
* *
Wives who.doubt their hus-
bands can drive them to the
very course they -fear. Trust
your man completely, expect
only the best from him • and
you are likely to get it. Anne
Hirst can guide you in any
time.. of trouble; write her at
Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St.,
New Toronto, Ont.
MERRY MENAGERIE
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"Watch your step, pardner—
that'x the sheriff!,".
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Rtaidiiatgt of dangerous radioactive substances.
Fashion
ints
Modern Etrquette
gy Roberta Gee
Q: Isn't i tall right to send
a typewritten letter of condol-
ence, signing it of course by
hand?
A. , While it is acceptable now
to type most. social letters, it
still is • considered more proper
to write the letter of condolence
by hand — this seeming tp indi-
cate
ndicate . more personal and more
sincere .warmth.
Q. Is it ..considered proper
to use the spoon. ` to test the.
temperature of the coffee at the
, table?
A. Yes, this . is all right. But
after `•that one little "taste -test,"
the spoon should: be placed in
the saucer, and left there.
What apology should one
offer if one accidentally' brushes
against another person on the
street, or in _some public con-
veyance?
A. "1 am sorry," or, "1 beg
your ` pardon,"
Q. What .is one supposed to.
.say to the bride and bregroom
et the wedding reception, also
what do you say to their par-
ents?
A. You ' wish the bride all
happiness, c o n g r atulate the
• bridegroom, tell the bride's par-
ents how lovely the bride is, and
tell ' the, bridegroom's parents
what a charming couplethey
make.
Q. Some men' merely torich
the brims of - their bats, when
greeting women on. the. street.
Is, this considered all right?'
A. No; thisis unmannerly
and lazy. The hat 'should be.
lifted slightly from the head:
Q. Please suggest some light '
refreshments that can be sere•
ed at a small wedding recepe.
tion.
A. Cake, with . coffe, tea or
punch. Sandwiches and ices
can be included if desired.
Q. I was widowed several
months go, and a friend has
told me 1 am supposed either. to..
' discard my wedding Mpg or
wearit on my right hand.
A. You certainly do not have
to do either of these! You may
continue to wear your wedding
ring for as long as yen wish.
Q. Is it all right for a young
Man to aCCept a cigarette of-
fered to him by a girl?
A, This is quite all right.
Q. What Ig the' proper way to
use a finger bowl at the dinner
table?
.A. tip the ands of the fingers
of one hand at 'a time, not both
together, into the water. Then
dry them ' with the napkin on
the lap.
Q. Is it permissable to lean
across one person to shake hands
with a third?
A. It is usually better to
avoid this, if you can. But if
the other person seems bent on
shaking hands with you, be sure
to beg the pardon of the person
across whom you reach.'
HRONICj s
G1NGER1 to,*t M
otinePC
Happy,; happy Christmas,
everyone! Isn't that : a lovely
greeting? -Could there ,possibly
be anything better? A Happy
Christmas is : all -embracing. I't
includes everything - having
those you • love• around you, the
joy of giving and. receiving all:
those .tittle personal gifts that'
mean . so, much tp friends, and
families; Christmas m u $ t c,
Christmas fare, Santa : Claus,
gaily decorated tree, ;the' laugh-
ter and; chatter of little chil-
=dren; .contentment arid. a look of
remembering in the grand-
parent's eyes., And back'. of it
a11 .that consciousnessof the
Christ Child's birth, without
whish We .would •,•not ,no y be
celebrating this joyous season..
As i' sat: down to write this
column I wondered,' ;for a .mo-.
mint, what I could say' that
woula be different some spe-
cial way :of expressing rimy good
wishes • to all ,of you fpr this
Christmas season. And •then,,:.I
realised itdidn't need to be di-
ferent, there couldn't be any-
thing better. than. just to -wish
you a Happy. Christmas. So •
there. you have it, friends --. to
young and old; to farm folk and
townsfolk; to readers near and
far; to the hale and' hearty, and
to those less active but with a
good spirit; and to those whose
joy is • tinged with, sadness be-
cause of . those no longer able
to spend Christmas with them,
In, such .eases wouldn't it help
to remember , the many, many
Christinasea when you were all
happy together? Of what bene-
fit are the good times. unless ere
carry along happy memories to
help us with the days when
skies, are not quite so blue?
And now May I visit in ,your
home fora few minutes and in
my imsnination chat with you
awhile? Maybe you have been
busy in' the kitchen; stuffing the
festive bird. Goose, turkey,
duck ,pr a five -pound chicken
— it doesn't really matter, does
it? They all have that same
Christmassy aroma -when they
are sizzling in the pan. Of
course you think you will never
have everything ready for
Christmas Day. But you will,
you know, you always do, so
don't wear yourself out with
needless ,worry. -I noticed as 1
came in the door your lovely
decorations of cedar and pine;
that nice evergreen wreath on
the door and your lovely
centre -piece - so quaint .
'
driftwood, isn't it? How nice of
the boys to hunt you such an
artistic piece of wood. May I
see the Christmas tree? How
do I know you have one? I'm
just sure of it, that's all—you're
the Christmas tree type. Do you
know, I was 'talking to a
middle-aged couple the other
day who expect to spend
Christmas alone quite a : dis-
tance from here. "Now promise
me," I said, "yotl will • have a
Christmas • tree, won't you?" (I
was sure it would make them
feel less lonesome.)
"Yes;". Mrs.. answered, "we
shall always have a Christmas
tree, every year as long as I
live. One. year'- I thought we
wouldn't bother. It was during
the war, both our boys were
on active service. It seemed.
silly to set up a tree just for
ourselves. And then late on
Christmas Eve I changed my
mind: I insisted my husband
bring home `a tree. He did, and
I trimmed it as gaily as I could
with .lights and decorations left
over'. from `happier years. And
then, would you believe it, on
Christmas morning. John walk-
ed in unannounced, on a forty-
eight hour leave. His first words
warmed 'my heart. "Oh, mother,
you've got a tree. l was so hop-
ing you'd have a tree!" That
taught me a lesson. How let.
down John would have felt if
I hadn't made that extra. effort."
So you see, balks, you never
know what a tree may mean to
somebody else. — perhaps to a
newcomer to Canada a
stranger in a strange land. For
him it might well relieve the
sting of homesickness.
Now let me see your tree. Ale
— beautiful! May I'turn on the•,
lights? Aren't `they pretty? You
know I could sit for an hour
just watching` gaily coloured
lights . on a Christmas tree; My,
such, mysterious looking par-
cels. Not 'allthere yet? Never
mind, they will be: — it it 'doesn't
take' long to, wrap a few par-
cels. .Now. that the .bird.,. is pre-
pared 'for the
re-pared'for;the oven the worst`.is.
over. Oh, those, beatiful roses!
From Mary, who is too far
away to get home. What a love-
ly thought. You know, so many
grown-up ' children ' think up
such nice things to do for their
parents. Maybe now they are -
older • they realise how impar -
tent it was to Mother and Dad
to see them have a happy
Christmas, Remember how the
little ones, tired with play.,
would sit quietly on your lap
While you read them stories
from Hurlburt's Story of the.
Bible? Yes, that book was one
of their favourite presents for
many years to come, wasn't it?
There now,' I do declare, you
looked rested already. Sitting
quietly by the Christmas tree
watching the twinkling tights
was good for you. Come now
I'll help you clean up in the
kitchen then you'll be all
through when the boys come
back from town. Sure, I'll have
a cup of tea with you. Do us
both gopd. And no more work
tonight, 'mind you. Tomorrow
some of the family will be her*
— they'll help you with the,
last minute jobs. Afraid you'll
forget something? What if you.
do - it won't be a major die-
aster. That • family of yours
would sooner do without a few
of the trimmings than to have
mother too tired to . enjoy
Christmas.
Seventy Cats ' In
Her Back Yard
.An elderly Edinburgh widow,
who has 70 cats buried in her
back garden, has for more that*
20 years been secretary to Scot-
land's smallest organization.
This is the 15 -member -strong
Scottish section of the Society
for United Prayer for the Pre-
vention of ' Cruelty to Animals.
The society, although :formed
in England as long: ago as 187$;
has never made any great pro-
gress north of the border: Sub-
scription is only one shilling a
year, which entitles members to
a regular 'supply'of printed leaf-
lets, as well as .prayer and inter-
cession papers.
nter-cession'.papers. `
The aim of its members• is to
pray for the alleviation and pre-
vention of suffering to animals.
The secretary; who has no -fam-
ily and lives alone with six cats
and a kitten, has never met 'all
her fellow -members in Scotland,
But. - she periodically sends out
printed" literature to this tiny
group of animal lovers.
Her whole' life is devoted to
the care and welfare animals.
When one. of her animals :be-
comesvery'.old. or is so ill that
it cannot be cured, airs. Linton
reluctantly falls back, on her
final resource.
"I put them .to sleep myself_
I have- chloroform and a special
box in which I put them out •pf
their' misery," she says: Even
people who are not animal lovers
regard Mrs. Linton as one of the
kindestand most humanepeople
they. know.
ISSUE 51 — 1955
45 aeeas IVC
strct3tfi to Ctfr,
on� moderation
jives it c�iarm•
,
the Jkuse
jcarr Pau(Rlcllter
f eu91'an
Men who thin& of Thmorrow f»wrtice moderation today
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