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"Dear Anne Hirst: Over a
year ago I married a widower
whose first wife died a tragic
death, and I am bewildered as
well as shocked by his apparent
determination to live his life
with her over again. I honestly
feel the whole house is haunted
by her ghost, and I seem to be
regarded as an interloper by his
relatives. I am sure my husband
loves me, but I am also sure
he has no idea how I am hurt
by his daily references to her.
It is almost more than I can
stand.
"Everything in the house re-
minds him of her, of course. and
I understand that. But why
must he describe why and
wherethey bought an antique
chair, and how much she loved
it? Is it fair that clothes she
wore hang in my closets and
pieces of jewelry are still in
her box on my dressing -table?
Our evenings usually are spent
in reminiscences of trips they
took and wonderful people they
visited including her close
friends, to whom he still writes.
"I seem to resent this more
as time passes, perhaps because
I took it for granted we were to
have a normal married life.
How can . we, when he persists
in recounting the past? Why
can't he keep it to himself? Or
am I being narrow-minded and
jealous?
"SECOND WIFE"
INDULGES HIS GRIEF
* I wonder with you how an
• intelligent man can be so cal-
* ous as to force his present
* wife to share memories of his
* first marriage. His lack of
* imagination and sensitive feel-
* ing is appalling, his confi-
* dences are mentally cruel —
*. and no one would be more
* amazed to hear that than the
* man himself. In his thought
* and acts he is keeping the
* dead woman alive, never
* dreaming how he is torturing
* you. If you had been married
* before, how would he enjoy
* incessant talk about your first
* husband?
* The kindest thought to hold
* is that your husband does not
* realize what he is doing to
* you. If he is .aroused to it, he
* will be careful to keep ' his
* memories to himself; in sheer
* decency he can do no less.
* man of finer feeling would
* have distributed his wife's
* possessions among her rela-
* tives and friends and taken
* care that none weer^ '^a iii
* the house, especially in your
4: room — but I expect he did
* not think that far ahead.
• Try to plan leisure hours
* so you will spend some of
* them in emotion -relaxing con-
* certs, plays, visiting friends
* (including your own). Too
* many evenings at home will
* naturally remind him of the
* past; when you are alqne
* there, guide the conversation
* to other topics — holiday
* plans and other events inter-
* esting to you both. Entertain
* his friends as often as con-.
* venient, so he will see how
* much they admire you and
* how well you fit into their
* group.
* It may be that your hus-
* band married too soon after
* his wife's death; if he had •
* waited longer he would be
* comparing his life today with .
* the dark loneliness he experi-
* enced living by himself. Per-
* haps if he reads this opinion,
* he will better understand
* how you feel. Explain that
* only because you loved him
* you did not protest earlier;
* you love him still, but now
* you want a life with him
* alone, unhaunted. (When he
* comprehends how you feel, I
* think you can trust him to
* handle his relatives, too.)
,: * *
"NOW I KNOW!"
"Dear Anne Hirst: I'd like to
give my idea on married men
who seek companionship away
from home ... About a year ago
I met a lonely, discarded hus-
band. I sympathized with him,
we went out often together, and
(of course) I fell in love. Our
friendship wasn't cheap, it was
wholesome and dignified. We
planned our future.
"All my time, all my love,
were wasted , he went back
to that wife who tossedhim out
of 'his home whenever she
pleased .. .
"Hence my idea: Let us girls
who are attracted to married
men send' them back home
where- they belong. If they have
any problems with their "ter-
rible wives" let them seek ad-
vice from higher authorities.
ONCE BURNT."
* * *
For a husband or wife to
dwell on memories of a first
marriage is sheer cruelty. Lock
the door on the past and shield
your present mate from what
has been. Anne Hirst's counsel
willcomfort you. Write her at
Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New
Toronto, Ont.
SEPARATED — Movie comic Dean Martin was helping out in the
high links at the Hbllywood premiere of "The Desperate Hours"
when he got a phore'call from Palm Springs. It was his wife,
former cover girl Jeanne:_ Biggers, with word that their legal
separation had gonerthrough. Martin says "neitherof us has any
plans for a divorce." They are shown here during less desperate
hours.
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HRONICLES
1NGERFARM
GwendoLine, P. CSa^ke.
This is Thanksgiving Day A
big day for Canadian families.
I imagine we are just as thank-
ful as most people for "the
bounty of the earth" but .yet it
is one season that we have never
made a point of celebrating—
that is to the point of having
Thanksgiving dinner and all the
trimmings. Partner and I were
invited out to a turkey dinner '
but we preferred staying' at
home to travelling the high-
ways, crowded with slap' -happy
motorists. Bob and Joy have
gone to Cornwall for the week-
end but Dee, Art, Dave and an-
other little boy were here yes-
terday. Also friends from the
Guelph district and they all ,went
home loaded down with apples
—Greenings and Spys. I think
between them they stripped the
trees. The apple crop this year
is wonderful. In fact, when you
look back, it has been a good,
fruit year all round. I suppose
most housewives, • like myself,
are finding it quite a job to lo-
cate even one empty sealer.
I am writing this column from
a sunny south room , upstairs.
We have not yet started using
the furnace because we find the
south side of the house, with
• the sun streaming in, is warm
enough, while the . kitchen stove
keeps the north and west 'sides
of the house quite comfortable.
After all why bother fussing
around with a furnace until you
have to. So long as the furnace
is all ready to go at a minute's
notice, that is all that is neces-
sary. It will get plenty of use
later on. Every time I go down
cellar I look at the bulging
bins ... it doesn't seem possible
we shall use all that coal before
warm weather come around
again. In their new three-storey
house (new to them, that is)
•
SOME PUNKIN! — World's biggest "jack-o'-lantern" is this huge storage tank al Union Oil of
California's plant. Each Halloween season, the company paints the ordinarily white tank a
brilliant orange and gives it features. The mouth is 73 feat long with teeth four feet square.
Eyes are 18 feet long. The tank is se situated that it can be seen for miles across country, Flood-
lighted of night, its great grin's enough lo meke a drinking driver swear off.
Dee and Arthur have a stoker -
furnace and they think they are
going to like it better than the
oil furnace they had in the
other house —• more economical
too. So many ways to heat a
house — and most people look-
ing 'for a heating system that
ensures the least possible amount
of work. A far cry from the days
when the majorityof houses --
country : homes, anyway, were
heated with only the kitchen
range and a pot-bellied stove in
the "parlor" -- and perhaps a
box -stove or Quebec heater in
the dining -room. Those were the
days when a pile of dry wood
was our greatest treasure —
preferably hickory, oak or ma-
ple - remember 'the lovely
smell that carne from burning
hickory bark? Occasionally the
housewife would be faced with
nothing but green elm or apple
wood. And then the fire would
smoke arid smoulder' and the
oven wouldn't get hot, and
there would be frequent trips
to the chipyard so as to, get the
potatoes boiled for dinner. Too
many .chips and sometimes the
stovepipes . would catch fire. Ah,
yes,those were "the . good old
days"! Don't you sometimes
leak back and wonder how, we
ever survived? I do.
But every age has its prob-
lems. At present we are faced
with diminishing farm ,incomes,
increased cost of production,
high cost of labour and essen-
tial services, speed on the high-
ways, and increased fees for
hospitalization. Apparently it
.is only a matter. of time before
some kind of Health Insurance
will be inaugurated, whether at
.the national or provincial level
remains to be seen. It, too, will
have its drawbacks. But yet a
uniform scheme of some .sort
will eventually have to be Work-
ed out. At present wage-earn-
ers are pretty well looked after
But what protection 1s :there for
the farmer and his family -
True, they may subscribe to ,an
independent form of hospitali-
zation but farm people seldom
go to hospital if it can be
avoided and hospital insurance
doesn't cover the cost of, illness
in the home. And, as everyone
knows, a person can run up big
medical expenses without ever
going near a hospital. Except
on a farm, this creates a situa-
tion whereby patients, instead
of staying at hone, goto hos-
pital as the only means of col-
lecting insurance. It is one
reason why our hospitals are
over -crowded, A national health
scheme to assist With the fin-
ancial home -treatment •of pa-
tientswould be a step in the
right direction. Two • years . ago,
when Partner broke his collar-
bone there wasnaturally a big
dactor's bill but notone cent
could we get from Insurance as
Partner wee not in the hospital.
IWSra% rib , 195;1
He felt he should stay home
and keep an eye on things.
There must be hundreds of sim-
ilar cases. I remember one
time, during the ' depression a
doctor said this: "The rich can
afford to pay the poor are look-
ed after, but the middle class
person pays his account without
assistance, often as a result of
selling cattle he should keep or
raising a mortgage on the
farm."
Well, Health Insurance be-
longs . to the future, Now sup-
posing we look back a year.
Just about this time "Hurricane
Hazel" hit Ontario, Remember
Itaemore Drive . , . and the in-
ternational Ploughing Match . .
and all the instances of major
and minor damage in so many
localities? By comparison we
have every reason to make this
a Happy Thanksgiving week-
end.
CAT STUFF
The old comedy team of Moran
and Mack had a cat routine that
always won a solid laugh. Moran
claimed that he owned fifteen
cats, and therefore drilled fifteen
holes in his dining room door so
he could get rid of them when
he desired. "But one hole would
be enough," Mack pointed , out.
"The cats could exit one by one."
"Nothing doing," concluded Mo-
ran firmly. "When I say 'scat'
I mean `scat.'"
A pedigreed and very expen-
sive cat was shipped from Phila-
delphia by overnight truck to a
purchaser in New York. The
driver later confessed to Michael
Gross, the poster artist, that
while he was bumping. along the
cobblestones on Eleventh Ave-
nue, the jarring loosened the
cage in which the cat was con-
fined. With one mighty leap he
was off, high -tailing it up the
avenue. Shouts of onlookers
alerted the driver, who instituted
an intensive cat -hunt, but to no
avail.
All he found was a scurvy -
looking scavenger in an alley
Figuring that all was lost any-
how, ' he collared the unsavory
specimen, shoved him into the
cage; and delivered him to the
purchaser. Here's the pay-off.
To • this day the purchaser, evi-
dently highly satisfied with his
• alley et, has never registered a
single' word of protest!
The late Al Jolson had a cat
which he told his friends was
worth $5000. Came the day when
he decided to sell the animal,
and the skeptical friends waited
eagerly for him to, return from
the pet shop and disclose the
selling price. "Did. you get the
$5000??'they jeered: "Certainly,"
answered Al. "Did you think I
was kidding you?" "Show us th.e
dough," demanded the friends.
"Well," admitted Al, "this pet
shop fellow happened to be a
little short of cash so he gave
Me these two $2500 dogs in-.
stead."
Roses are red;
Violets are blue.
Orchids , are $15.95.
Will dandelions do?
Old Style
Delferd Clark, one of the direc-
tors of the Ford Foundation, de-
scribes the visit of a delegation
to the home offices of one of the
country's biggest manufacturers
of business machinery. The head)
of the firm marched the visit-
ing group from one mechanical
marvel to another, and once the
ground floor had been covered.,
led the way to the elevator. One
of the other occupants of the
elevator was a beautiful' young
blonde. Halfway to the second
floor, the blonde suddenly jump-
ed two feet in the air, and
squealed, "Yipes!" The leader of
the delegation nodded. his head
and said with great satisfaction,
"I'm certainly glad to note that
at least one thing in this build-
ing is still done by hand:"
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