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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1955-07-07, Page 6op R, 0 R' 1 1 0. "That letter you published a while ago from the wife who re fused to have her mother-in-law live with her brings sharply be- fore me the nine years I spent with my own," writes a regret- ful wife. "I am glad that her husband stood by her; I don't think mine would have : I had thought I loved his mother, but I came to hate her and hated myself for it," w The nine years that followed * her mother-in-law's coming * have been nine years of sub- * jugation for this couple. The ' older woman took over com- • pletely, She has run their pri- * vate lives, checked their corn- "" ings and goings, even planned -* the family' meals. "All my * husband did was to bring in * the money," his wife tom- * plains. "I have been maid of e all work, cleaning and laun- dering whether I felt like it or not; my mother-in-law, healthy k and active, has never even • made her own bed. She just * had all the fun of running our * lives — and neither of us had * the spunk to prevent it." * As some people grow older, * they are apt to become self- • centered; like spoiled children. * they do as they please with no a thought of the consequences e Here are two nice people who, ° with every good intent, made * the mother welcome. What k happened? pp ned. For nine long years * she has robbed them of the e privacy without which no mar- * riage can flower. She has * supervised their activities as e though they were tenn-agers, * she has even chosen their * friends. Without a qualm she * has swept them blindly on her • imperious way, and today is ' probably preening herself on * how she "helped the children * out." "My husband and I finally faced it — and only a month ego he found a place for her to live with milium f,.' ,� understand how grateful I • am for that, but I still cannot help reproaching myself for not put- ting my foot down from the very Mist. We have tried to be good • Christians, and I learned to con- ceal my feelings, but the strain has told on me," "How true it is, as you've of- ten ,remarked, that even in her own home a wife cannot compete with her man's mother!" — the wife concludes. * To"WEAE WOMAN": If we * could see ahead, how different- * ly many of us would have * planned our lives! Nine years * ago all of your clouds were * rose -lined, and you had not * the heart to refuse your * mother-in-law; don't waste this * new freedom you know today * in regrets, for it is unlikely * your husband would have felt * he could refuse his mother a * home. Now you are both wiser. * The years which Iie ahead * will be all the sweeter for the • memory of those trying ones * you lived through. GRANDMA SPOILS "Dear Anne Hirst: Our tittle son is six, and devoted to his grandmother. We have been dis- tressed for some time by her spoiling him, He has a delicate digestion, and though she knows it, when he is at .her house she lets hien 'nv' foods tint disagree with him. The child and we must pay the penalty. I have talked this over time and again with my mother-in-law, yet she still persists and, of course, our son loves it. "1h 1 s ou d not like to stop his visiting her; they love each other dearly, and in every other way she is discretion itself. But what else can 1 do? His father agrees with tne, but you know a man won't face an issue. 'WORRIED MOTHER" * Your mother-in-law brought un her chilrh'en, I exn'ct, v'ith * the old-fashioned idea that * any foods the youngsters liked * were good for them. Fortu- * nately they survived, so she * can prove her point. But your * little son requires a special * riiet. and !hough she admits * it, she is too tender-hearted to refuse him. * Try once more. Convince her flint you know how she * loves the boy but tell her, Grandma's Gone rl°s kits - Hatwise When it comes to crazy hats, just leave it to grandma. At least that's what Charter 115 of the Federated Grandmothers' Club believes. So they held a Crazy Hat contest and here are the winners: Mrs. R. H. Lambert, top, walked off (a bit unsteadi- ly) with, all the honors for her "Picnicking With My Grand- children in the Park." Mrs. Sophie Lubowski, bottom left, came in second with her creation, which features a hen setting on two hard-boiled eggs in a ncst of yarn. Flag on top reads: "Hatch - ng, Don't Disturb." And Mrs. Jessie Thompson, bottom right, showed. up with a fashion that was super back in 1917—and is still good enough to win the "oldest hat" prize in the contest. Proceeds from the contest; went to youth welfare propects the g, o 'p sponsors. 'This one topped them all . $(000-111 L1,�st * ,y ,* tttid "Poli+ultir" , ,, Qsi 01::. FASHION TELLS SHORTS STORY— Inspired by jockeys' silks, beach outfit, at left, is modeled in Florence, Italy. I't's made of white cotton, features long sleeves and sewn -in neckerchief. Feedbag -like straw bonnet doubles as beach bag, is carried by ear pieces, Three-piece cotton ensem- ble, at right, is in a traditional Bavarian rose -and -scroll print and is an outfit in itself. One-piece playsuit has scoop neckline and above-the-knee Tyrolean shorts; is worn with matching but- ton -front skirt. Short sleeved bolero packet is not shown. * in detail, how much and. how ' I * Jong he suffers the consequent- * es of her indulgence. If you * remind her that these attacks * weaken his resistance and can * impair his general health, I * believe she will co-operate. * Make out a new list of foods * he should not have, and tell * her your doctor insists upon * his following it, Say you must * depend upon her to resist his * entreaties (which you do at * home) and stress your faith. in * her compliance. * This should turn the trick. * If it does not, then you . wil'1 * have to forbid his eating any- * thing at alI at her house. * -* * "If I had only known -" How we regret what we have not done! The fact that we did what we thought right at the time should comfort us; it surely strengthened our character. If you face an important decision, ask Anne Hirst's opinion before you make it. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor- onto, Ont. " Athlete's Foot A Sumner thnzer • Athlete's foot is the popular term for an annoying, itchy, foot condition that develops between the toes. It got this name be- cause athletes seemed especial- ly subject to the complaint. Evidently it's a misnomer. A new study by a public health organization reports that con- trary to public belief, athletes don't get athlete's foot any more than anyone else. It is not usual- ly picked up around the swim- ming pool as commonly sup- posed. Athlete's foot is more pre. valent in summer. If you • de- velop a case of athlete's foot during the next few months it will probably be because you've been carrying the fungus caus- ing the infection on your fret for years. Most people pick up the bug as children, the report adds. It lies dormant just under the skin most of our lives,. coming ,to life when the right condition turns up. When the environment is hot and moist, the fungus lauch•- es a full-scale itching attack — which is why athlete's foot is so often a summertime problem. The way to avoid an outbreak is to keep your feet as dry and cool as possible. Here's a preven- tion routine recommended by foot specialists: (1) Wash feet once or twice daily, and dry carefully between the toes. It's best to use a corner of the towel as a blotter. (2) Use a foot powder after bathing to further absorb moi- sture, and sprinkle some• powder in shoes and hosiery as well (3) Shoes made of leather are recommended because the fib- rous structure permits air to cir- culate inside the shoe and evap- orate foot moisture rapidly, (4) Never wear the same shoes two days in a row — give them a chance to air out, If your 'feet perspire excessively, wear white socks, since the dye in colored socks may act as an ad. ditional skin irritant. (5) Avoid wearing running shoes for long periods. Perspire- tion won't evaporate through the sole and starched canvas uppers. Far from the madding crowd's ignoble strife, Their sober wishes never learn'd to stray; Along the cool, segttester'd vale of life They kept the noiseless 'tenor of their way. Thomas 'Gi'Cyw !' S E E',: Geeze d.olen.e. P Cleseke Last week as I wrote this col- umn we were still waiting for the truck to arrive for transport- ing the cows that Partner had sold. It was almost nine o'clock at night before the big tractor - trailer pulled into the yard. In about half -an -hour it was on its way again — with all our milking cows and three calves at foot. We put in a long nerve-rack- ing day waiting for that truck to come! And of course Partner had to milk the cows again. But now it all belongs to the past and we have already had the experience of ' one week with- out cows. But we are not with- out milk yet — I had plenty stacked away in the refrigera- tor to see us over for a little while. It will seem odd when we start getting our milk in bottles — or cans, or packets — according to what we want. Wednesday morning fate took an ironic twist.I was out in the kitchen at '6 a.m. — force of habit will continue to get us up early for awhile yet, I ex- pect. Looking out the window what should I see but a number of cattle — all over the garden, of course. In a few minutes Partner, in his pyjamas, was out chasing them away from the house. We phoned our nearest neighbour but he was not the owner of the strays, which we found to be five two-year-old Holstein heifers. While Partner was ,,getting dressed the heifers wandered down the lane to the road and the last we saw of them, they were running down the highway ahead of two pre- viously fast-moving cars. At noon we were told they were in a neighbour's wheat -field -- but we haven't heard yet who those cattle belonged to. When I saw those heifers I really thought it was a Nemesis on us for selling the cows! News travels fast these days. Our cows were still in the stable when a young fellow liv- ing twenty' -five m 11 e s away came in to see if partner wanted to sell the milking machine. He did. A little later we had two offers for the milk -cooler so that's going out too. Before long - CAR FINANCING The average financed value of new passenger cars financed through acceptance companies last year was $1,831, some $109 or 6% more than in 1953 For used passenger cars the figure was $826 versus $838 in 1953, for new commercial vehicles $2,191 versus $2,114, and for used commercial vehicles $856 versus $908. SALLY'S SALGES 'It's not a, Bikiriil 'They're 'o !frit' uowtt" I shall really believe we are out of the dairy business! At pre- sent it seems like a wonderful dream from which I fear a rude awakening. It was really splen- did to see Partner stepping out for the O.A.C. at Guelph last Friday without a worry in the world about what time he would be home. However, the forces of nature are conniving to keep him em- ployed. There was a strong wind the other day which blew down part of a big chestnut tree in the backyard completely wreck- ing my triple clotheline. So now Partner has some work to do with buck -saw — plus a clothes- line to fix. There have also been pails and pails of water to carry to the garden — it has been so dry — but thank goodness we had a beautiful rain last night. Also a thunderstorm — and 1 could watch the lightning and listen to the roll of the thunder without caring if the power did go off — insofar as we were concerned. So often storms come up just about chore time and in the past a power -failure was my one fear — forcing Partner to milk by hand—a thing which his crippled, arthritic hands are no longer capable of doing with- out tremendous effort and con- siderable pain. . That rain must have been a blessing to the strawberry -grow- ers. Without it there would prob- ably have been a very short season. Next week I expect to be away so I got my berries early: Now• they are safely stowed away in the jars. Of course it being so nearly in the season I had to pay top price for my fruit. Now I'm thinking per- haps it pays to buy early. These , are such beautiful berries — no waste — so to my surprise I put down thirteen pints from ten boxes of berries. My goodness, I almost forgot to mention that important event that took place last week. The Provincial Election. However, we didn't forget to vote — which is more than some people can say. At the little country school where we cast our votes there were 164 on the voters list. We went along about four p.m. and at that time only 54 citizens had been to vote. How is it possible for so many to care so little for the privileges of a free democ- racy? No doubt there were more out before the polls closed but usually the country people get out early in the day. Well, this chronicle is coming from Ginger Farm. The next one — if my plans hold good. — may be written many miles from here — exact location} unknown. I have been very busy laying in supplies' for Partner—he says it looks as if I were preparing for a siege! However, he will not be alone for long at a time, The family are taking it is turns to come home and seq that all is well. So . you'll be heaz4ng from me again nem week , .. 1 hope! "Pansy Doilies" Dress -up your dining table, with these new "pansy" doilies! Simple crochet forms the prettt design — perfect for buffet, chair -sets 'too! Pattern 883: "Pansy" doilies! Crochet directions for two sizes, larger 15 inches, smaller t inches; in No. 30 mercerized cotton. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENT in coins (stamp cannot be as. cepted) for this pattern to Bon 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Torr, onto, Ont. Address. Print plaive ly PATTERN . NUMBER, youa NAME and. ADDRESS. LOOK FOR smartest ideas In Needlecraft in our Laura Wheeler Catalog for 1953. Cro- chet, knitting, embroidery and lovely things to wear, Iron -one, quilts, aprons, novelties — easy, fun to make! Send 25 cents fox your copy of this book NOW( You will want to order eve new design in it, ISSUE 27 — 1955 PUBLIC MARKET—Ali buyers may sea your stock and bid against each other for its posses- sion when it is offered on the public market. On a normal busy clay, more than 100 different buyers operate on the Ontario Stock Yards market at Toronto. When your stock is sold through the mar- ket, competition influences the price you receive; competitive bidding assures you of maximum rices. FULLY -QUALIFIED SALESMEN—Abattoirs hire well-trained buyers to act for them; their first aim is to purchase as cheaply as possible. You need a fully -qualified salesman to represent your interests, to make sure you receive full market value for your live stock. REMEMBER --The Public Live Stock Market is the only place where fully -qualified salesmen are always available as your representative. This advertisement published in the interest of the, PUISLIC LIVE STOCK MARKET AT TORONTO by two of Canada's leading live stock commission vents-- BLACK BRO5, LIVE STOCK COMPANY LIMITiiD wind McCURDY & McCURDY LIMITED ' Ontorie Stock Yards, Toronto