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"Dear Anne Hirst: I've tried
to solve this problem myself
but got nowhere, so 1 turn to
you . " . Since school days I've
been good friends with another
woman. When she married,
'things were rough, and for
years I pitched in and helped
her clean house, baby-sat for
her children, etc.
"Well, time marches on. Her
boys are grown and getting mar-
ried. She has come into money,
bought a new home and two
cars. She has let me down con-
siderably these past few years;
the only times she's invited me
were (shrewdly enough) when
she and her husband were to
entertain, and the visit would
end with me right in the kitchen
helping the servants.
"Recently she visited me for
the first time in ages. A son is
to be married, and (with the air
of a countess) she said: There
will be 100 at the cocktail party
and I need you; I'll have no
other help," and walked out be-
fore 1 could answer! I could not
sleep all night, I'd thought I
would be a guest at the event,
but no, I'm still to be Cinder-
ella.
"For a long time she has been
so overbearing and given me
such a feeling of inferiority!
Now she is on the- way up, and
we are still struggling along ..
I shall be looking forward to
your good, sound advice, and
thank you kindly for it.
CINDERELLA."
TWO COURSES
* Your problem is not so un-
* common as you think. Many a
* childhood friend accepts grate-
* fully all the love, sympathy
* and practical help another
* woman gives her for years on
* end — and when she comes
* into money, changes her en -
f' tire nature. She believes her
* new wealth entitles her to au-
* thority, and she exercises it
'k with almost unbearable arra-
* gance. Instead of using her
* good fortune to brighten the
* lives of less fortunate friends,
* she thinks they should be fiat-
* tered by her recognizing their
* existence. In other words, she
* becomes a first-rate snob.
* You can take either of two
"t courses: keep on serving her
,k in your former capacity as a
• helms and getting a kick out
* of it, smiling beneath your
* hurt, with the conclusion that
* she doesn't know any better
* or you can decline the "honor"
* and end the friendship, The
* latter choice is the customaayy
* one, for there can be little
* true companionship left be-
* tween you. She is not the
* grateful friend she used to be.
* Her ostentation should arouse
* only your pity, because she is
* missing a fine experience in
* life.
* We all know so many peo-
* ple, who, notwithstanding any
* change in social position, treas-'
* ure our friendship through
* the years. They value us for
'k what we are and have been to
* them, and lose no opportunity
to show their appreciation for
* long and beloved associations.
* I know how hurtou are,
,
* but you should not be. It is
'k she who has failed you, and
* her better self. She does not
* need your help now, but she
* would make a slave out of
you notwithstanding. It is she
* who is inferior, of course. I
* think you owe it to your per-
* sonal dignity and self-respect
* to take the strong stand; she
* will have to respect it. You
will suffer no loss in letting
* her go, for she is not the loyal,
* loving woman she once was.
*. She is responsible for the end
of the friendship which today
* is no friendship at all.
* *
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"Dear Anne Hirst: I read your
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curiosity about the advice those
in your position give to peo-
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ful?
"I commend you on the fine
work you are doing and which
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timate contact with human na-
ture (and without benefit of
theological training) you are
able to unravel the skeins of
poorly -knitted lives, and you
remedy defects which negli-
gence and ignorance have
wrought. I expect you to reach
those who would never ap-
proach a minister for advice.
"I hope that your endeavor
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The rice grew swiftly while
we were gone during the sum-
mer and when we came back in
late September the fields were
dry again and the grain stood
high and yellow. Then came the
harvesting when once more the
farm family sallied forth and
with hand sickles cut the
sheaves, and- tied them and
stacked them and carried then'i
to the threshing floors in front
of the farmhouse. There the
sheaves were spread and men
and women lifted the swinging
bamboo flails and beat out the
grain. Women swept up the
grain and spread it in winnow-
ing baskets and men tossed it
up for the wind to clean.
When at last the rice was
harvested it was piled into vats
made of clean rice straw woven
into matting and shaped and tied
into containers. There was poet-
ry in every movement of the
blue -clad peasants, and I see it
all clear in my mind today, a
series of exquisite and symbolic
pictures, memorized through
half my lifetime.
Only in Java, years later, did
I see the process whole and
simultaneous, for there upon the
richest soil and with the finest
rice climate in the world, plant-
ing and harvesting went on in
adjacent fields, the earth in con-
tinual production so that while
some farmers transplanted seed-
lings into the water others bore
home the sheaves. When I think
of Java, I see handsome brown
men carrying on their shoulders
sheaves of rice, heavy -headed
and cut as exactly even as
strands of yellow silk. — From
"My Several Worlds," by Pearl
S. Buck. Copyright, 1954, by
Pearl S. Buck.
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Even When Open
Did you know that a "tin can"
isn't made of tin? It is actually
sheet steel with only a fine
coating of tin plated on both
sides.
And did you know that food
"left in an open tin can today is
just as safe as it would be in
a glass jar or any other con-
tainer? In the early days of
canning housewives were warned
to empty the food from the can
as soon at it was opened because
of the danger of contamination.
Many people are still faithfully
following those instructions, in
spite of the fact that modern
cans are perfectly safe as food
containers!
Years ago ,paint chemists de-
veloped corrosion -resistant en-
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Now you can open up a can of
salmon or any other food and
leave the left -over portion right
in the can. But it's hard to break
a habit and Grandma probably
never will be convinced!
Commercial food canning in
Canada has grown into a multi-
million dollar industry since
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The yearly value of Canadian
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ittiiNGER. Ovo.nricilCl
.Seems to me 1 liavc suite a
lot of catching up to do in this
column — some of it good, some
bad.
Remember I was telling you
about Mac, the dog we got from
the Humane Society. Well, after
giving him a five weeks' trial we
decided there was only one thing
to do—take him back to the ken-
nels. We hated to do it—he was
a friendly and affectionate dog—
but he had bad habits which
seemed impossible to cure. Not
only that but he would not eat
properly and sometimes his eyes
looked as if he were suffering.
Who knows—he may have been
hurt or ill-treated as a puppy?
After our experience with Mac
we gave up the idea of getting
another dog—for the time being
anyway. And then saw a Welsh
Corgi advertised 'for sale. Re-
member? ... I have been want-
ing a Corgi for years. Now I have
one. Long body, short legs, fox -
red hair and a pedigree almost
as long as himself. He is nearly
two years old, quiet, well-man-
nered and friendly. But to peo-
ple who don't know the breed
he looks odd. One farmer, who
had noteepproved of Mac, looked
at our Corgi and exclaimed—
"Well, things are getting worse,
aren't they?" His registered name
is Prince Robert of Green -
sleeves and we call him "Rob-
bie" for short.
It was Tuesday when we got
Robbie. Thursday I was baby-
sitting in Toronto as Dee and Art
were moving. Dave was either
sleeping, playing on the veranda,
or out walking with me. Dee got
home about 5.15. Dave was on
the veranda and I looked at him
every few minutes to make sure
he was all right. The last- time
was at 5.45. I looked and I looked
—but there wasn't a sign of Dave.
'I called to' Dee — "Dave isn't
here!" Then I ran down the steps
thinking, he might have taken a
header over the veranda railing.
Not a chance. But a young fel-
low, rooming next door heard
what I said and called out—"I
know where he is—I'll get him!"
And off he went. He had seen
Dave on the run, going down the
street, crossing the road, round-
ing the corner and heading up
Queen Street! Why he wasn't
run over was a miracle: We car-
ried him home, set hint down on
the veranda, and waited, taking
no notice of him as we talked
with the neighbour next door.
Presently . what we were waiting
for happened. Dave pushed his
way under the folding gate and
was ready to go again. His short-
lived freedom ended with a
spanking.
It was certainly a frightening
experience and made one realize
how easy it is for children to get
killed on city streets ... and how
impossible- to guess what a
youngster's next move will be.
I was glad it didn't happen while
I was alone as Grandma would
have earned a poor reputation as
a baby-sitter. Maybe Dave inher-
its his desire to see the world
from his mother as, until she
was five years old, she was the
world's worst for running away.
But we didn't live in the city.
The wide open prairie, and later
our Ontario farm' fields limited
the area of Daughter's escapadies.
Barring a tumble into the creek
or a mix-up with the cows she
was comparatively safe.
And the weather around here
just lately ... just about every-
thing, including that grand rain
we were needing so badly. Things
were looking much better but
now the weather has turned cold
again. Tornadoes in the States
and in Ontario ... we are
just wondering. Late Saturday
night, just as I'was dropping off
MERRY MENAGERIE
"—and stop calling me your
'fine -feathered friend'!"
to sleep I hbard a newscaster
mention bad storms at Welland
and St. Catharines. Power off
and the lift bridge halfway down
for forty minutes with a long
line of cars waiting on either
side. It sounded quite serious and
yet on Sunday it wasn't even
mentioned on the main radio sta-
tions at all. Had it been a hor-
rible murder or a bank robbery
it would have been mentioned on
every broadcast. Naturally any-
one with friends in . that locality
would want to know more about
that storm if he had once heard
it mentioned.
Freak storms are sometimes
heard of only in the most casual
way. For instance, all Saturday
afternoon the sky had been very
black in this district but we got
only a few rumbles of thunder.
Then a young fellow came in the
drugstore while I was there, said
there had been a bad storm ten
miles farther north but yet when
he got to Milton there was no
sign of a storm at all. So we are
wondering about that one too.
Seems as if the weatherman is
determined not to let his left
hand know what his right hand
is doing. We are particularly in-
terested in the weather just now
as we have a niece on her way
over to Europe and this will be
her first voyage across the At-
lantic. I imagine it is an educa-
tional project as she is one of a
group, all of whom are in their
second year at University. That's
what I call getting education the
painless way. Or is it? I suppose
someone is having to foot the
bill.
Monday morning . . . cold,
windy and overcast—and yet a
little humming bird is flitting
around the sweet rocket in the
garden. Dear, optimistic little
bird, we will take a leaf from
your boolc and hope for brighter
days to come. And in the mean-
time get on with jobs that are
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