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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1954-08-26, Page 2"Dear Anne Hirst: Why will a husband go so crazy over Eoney that he makes his fam- 'iy miserable? When my hus- nd gives me some on Satur- day he always says I'll waste it, and he stays mad till Monday; if only pay bills with itand this year my doctor's fees have been heavy. I am devoted to Our two children, and until this year I was devoted to their fa- ther, but he is so cross with us all that my nerves are going fast, and my doctor is alarmed. (This irritates my husband, too.) "I don't spend money on clothes except for the children; my mother has given me every- thing I've had this year. 1f I were able to work, I'm sure my husband would be different: but I am sick, and he takes every advantage of it. "If I get better, I can go to the city and work with my cousin there, but rd hate to leave the children, and my mother begs ane not to. Yet how can I stay on here and be con- tinually accused of extrava- gance? "My husband's family keep us both miserable telling him what to do. They write him regularly for things they think they need — and never mention my name. His mother wants to visit us, but because of my health 1 can- not have her — and for that reason he is mean to my mother, who has been so kind to us all. "Many other things I could . aHH-Siz '► too! From this minute on, you'll wear and love the slenderizing sheath dress with the box jacket. Make it in cotton linen, or faille. It's easy to sew — proportioned to fit and flatter the short fuller figure. No alteration problems. Pattern 4773: Half Sizes 141/2, 161/2, 181/2, 201/2, 221/2, 241/2. Size 161/2 dress takes VA yards 35 - inch fabric; jacket, 23syards. This pattern easy to use, sim- ple to sew, is tested for fit. Has complete illustrated instructions. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (350) in coins (stamps cannot be accepted) for this pattern. Print Slainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, TYLE NUMBER. Send order to Box 1, 123 Eigh- teenth St., New Toronto, Ont. tell that are destroying my peace of mind, but please com- ment on these. ELEANOR" * Husbands who don't do the * family shopping these days * can have no idea of the in- * creasing living costs. Since * your husband is avid on sav- • ing money, your best chance * to refute his charges of extra- * vagance is to keep a weekly * budget and show him its fig- * ures every Saturday. They * will convince him better than * any argument how well you * really are managing. * Remind him that if things * were going more smoothly at * home, there would be fewer * doctor's bills to irritate him. * Arrange for him to go along * on your next visit, so the * doctor can explain how . much * you need appreciation and * serenity. This gesture has * made many a husband more * understanding and coopera- * tive. * Why not get the habit of * sending his another a friendly * letter regularly, reporting es- * pecially on the children's pro- * gress? It will create a more * friendly feeling among you * all. Intimate that when your * nerves grow calmer you are * looking forward to a short * visit from her. * Don't think of leaving home * now. For one reason, you * would worry too much about * the children; your place, I * feel, is with them and your * husband. Working together * toward a more pleasant life, * facing your problems by talk- * ing then over quietly, seems * to be the best prescription * now. If you will try out these * ideas, I think you will find * yourself in a -few months a * stronger and a happier wo- * man, "Dear Anne Hirst: The young woman I love is expecting her divorce soon. We see each other several times a week and I call her every day. Her family are very nice people, and I feel they approve of me. I would like to marry her, but I'm in no posi- tion to do so yet, "She has all the necessary grounds for divorce and a good chance of getting it, but she i$ t still worried about the outcome. She sees her girl friends often, ;pied I .. always, take her; honteeell we had to palm, it would be the end for me. I do everything I know to make her happy yet sometimes I do fail. "What do you think about us? R. T." * From your long letter * (which I had to edit) I feel * that once this girl is free, you * two can enjoy a fine friend- * ship which may lead to mar- * riage when you both are read* • for it. Meanwhile, remember that * while she is bringing suit * against her husband she must conduct herself most discreet- * ly; I urge you not to force * your attention. She must not * be seen frequently with any ▪ man, so be careful not to em- * barrass her by urging more * dates. She seems to know her * way about, and I feel you can safely leave the initiative * to her. * Being just a good friend is * your role now. The better * your chances with her when * she is free. So many of us are too close to our problems to get a helpful perspective. Telling a friend about them often clears them up. Anne Hirst is your unseen friend, ready to listen and sym- pathize. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St. New Toronto, Ont. Men are not good or bac!: they are good and bad. h telested £pectcator «- As Sister Mary Jacqueline dispiays near- perfeet bowling form, the ball the started to throw sits on then ;alley behind her, apparently watching the nun's follow-through, "hs ball slipped from her grip in the alleys of Lewis Aeronautical lleegeb where several nuns took their turns on the alleys« The Queen And The Crow _ Pretty Lorna Pettis holds Hopper, a tame desert crow, as she sits, next to a prickly cactus. Lorna is now reigning as this, year's Sweetheart of the Victor Valley Future Farmers of America. N!CL S r ' IN E M Goesedeelts e Claeles Partner says he has had his summer vacation! His 'vacation' consisted of a trip last Wednes- day to visit friends at a beau- tiful spot near Shelburne, and on Saturday half a day's visit to his brother's place in north Toronto. Now he says he is ready to work again. - The Shelburne trip was plan- ned on the spur of the moment as other friends who came to visit stayed overnight on con- ,. dition that we take a trip. with them the next day. We had just _ finished drawing in our last field of hay so I guess Partner was in the mood to .celebrate There was a fine drizzle of rain• most of the next day, but we found it much easier on the. weeatltaPkee A:: n sh ' li e.:. Piave 'been `Anyone who ;has been in the Orangeville -Shel- burne district will know it was lovely country w e passed through — hills, streams and wooded valleys. Ideal grazing country for cattle . and sheep: However, we did see quite a bit of cultivated land and Partner said he wouldn't want to drive a tractor on 'them thar hills'! Our destination was a summer home beside a privately owned lake. It was a beautiful spot. The big, English -style country home had been built half -way down a high bank overlooking the lake. Behind the house there was a retaining wall of solid stone about twelve feet high . in front of which flowers and shrubs grew le great profusion. Across the lake was a fine stand of evergreens. The furnishings of the house were simple, but in excellent taste. There wasn't a Godmother — Queen Elizabeth 11 holds her godson, Christopher Smith, after christening ceremo- Hies at the Queen's Chapel in London's St. James Palace, The baby's mother, Mrs. Abel Smith, i±a a lady-in-waiting to the Queen. room that was cluttered up with unnecessary knick-knacks. The sort of house, although it was so big and rambling, that could be taken care of quite easily and time left over to en- joy the scenery, the fishing, the boating and bathing — just so long as one could stand the blackflies. One of our friends had an eye almost closed by a bite the week before. It was a hard place to leave after just a couple of hours' visite,— two months wouldn't have been too long. But it had to be. Coming home we took a dif- ferent route from Orangeville, coming through Erin, Terra Cotta, Glen Williams a n d Georgetown — familiar terri- tory to us . butall new ground to our friends. They expressed great surprise at the lovely country we passed through. They thought they knew Hal- ton County and yet had no idea it: was so well wooded with s0 many little creeks and streams. I felt a thrill of pride, as I al- ways do when returning to our own county, because to me it , $pems.:. that T dtee •.; iefis. ^' lovliest counties in Ontario. Few people who travel our busy. highways realise how much un- spoiled beauty is still to be found away off the beaten track. , We arrived home in plenty of time to milk the caws and feed the hens. Then came Saturday. Joy and Bob were here in the morning so after dinner we set out for North Toronto to visit Partner's brother in his new home. 1 was particularly anxious to go so that Bob could show me the easiest way of getting there. We went by Malton and then along No. 401 to Avenue Road. It was the first time we had seen that part .of our colossal highway system. Highway 401 seems literally.. -a road on stilts. Last time we were over in that di- rection Wilson Avenue was at the grading stage. Now the' whole area — 401 and 27 — seems to be a network of over- passes, underpasses, clover- leaves and service roads. We looked at 401 and wilted, realis- ing it is the same highway that will eventually come through our own farm — unless the De- partment of Highways changes its plans, which wouldn't upset us a bit. We foresee an over- pass extending from the rail - wee track at the back of our farm to the cloverleaf on the highway that runs in front of it. By the time they get through grading there .won't be much farm left. And just to think it is the motor -age that has brought these super -highways into be- ing. And there is Malton . approximately twenty-five years ago - we were driving along country roads and I do mean country — and we saw the first of the plowed fields levelled by a grader for - futa;e runways. Now there are huge hangars, planes coming a n d going; grounded sabre -jets ready to take off at a moment's notice. Industrial plants, • immense park- ing areas and housing projects. We were glad to get away from it all and looked forward to getting back to our own peaceful surroundings. Peaceful! In our absence it had been any- thing butt The whole farm was literally strewn with tree limbs and the oat field knocked flat A. huge limb off the chestnut tree at the beck of the house. An elm tree split in half near the barn. One side of a dozy maple tree touching the ground, although, curiously enough, it had not broken away from the root. The telephone out of com- mission but hydro service had Husband Gave His Wil The F iv ups You can be in love with your husband and yet allergic to him -- literally. In Canada you prob- ably wouldn't get a divorce on these grounds, but at least four have been granted in the United States. Ruled the judges: if a husband brought his wife out in an allergic rash, that consti- tuted cruelty. A pretty blond called Louise Law gained her divorce after doctors had stated that if she continued to live with her hus- band the allergy would be ag- gravated. The exact way iri which she suffered wasn't reported, but in the case of Mrs. Grace Groat, of Des Moines, Iowa, the trouble in the first place was a rash. She unsuccessfully petitioned for a divorce on this ground, but two years later managed to persuade the courts to reverse this deci- sion. On this occasion she ex- plained that every time she saw her husband, she started to hic- cup violently. Twenty -year-old Phyllis Pew's complaint was that living with her husband brought her out in a rash. Away from him she was perfectly well, indeed, only just ' missed winning a beauty con- test. "I got nervous upsets, constant headaches and skin eruptions," she informed the judge. A spe- cialist in allergies supported her case. "Her health would be com- pletely broken down if she was forced to remain with her hus- band," he said, A divorce was granted, too, to Joyce Holdridge. Joyce quite genuinely thought a great deal of her husband, Nolan, but when- ever she was near him a rash spread over her arms and body. To begin with, a Los Angeles judge maintained that the hus- bands wasn't guilty of cruelty. The decision was reversed two months later. A few years ago in London, a young wife visited a specialist because she was so worried about the state of her skin. The specialist passed her on to a psychiatrist, after finding out that the rash became worse when she was with her husband. There was no divorce. It was discovered that the wife had a guilt complex because she had once been unfaithful. She was advised to confess, the husband forgave her and the rashdisap- peared. isc - gp peared JFlueleands can be allergic to wives 't _:Oneis tai merica `ob n ed a decree because his wife's hair made his asthma worse.. Certainly, genuine. allergy seems a more reasonable ground for divorce than some of the rea- sons produced in British courts recently. A Peckham wife accus- ing her husband Of cruelty, fail- ed to convince the judge. The alleged cruelty? That he had told her what clothes to wear to chapel. But a Bristol man won his case because his wife punctured his bicycle tires. CHALLENGE -, On Red Skelton's first ocean voyage, he spent about five minutes watching the wave go by and then, as the water became a little choppy, reeled into the dining salon and began to turn various shades of pale green. The dining steward hurried up to him, insisting, "Come, sir, you can't be sick here." Skelton looked up painfully. "Can't I?" he asked. "Watch." already been restored. By get- ting in touch with our neigh- bours we learnt that all this was the result of a terrific local- ized hail and windstorm last- ing about fifteen minutes. For- tunately I had closed all the windows in the house before we left home so there was no other damage. But we certainly got a surprise as there was .no evi- dence of a storm until we were less than half -a -mile from home. Ever Col Catughli A Shower of Fro4s? Weather students who keep careful records of weather phen- omena in all parts of the world noted with special interest a re- cent - report that black radio- active rain had fallen in Calcutta The news was later confirmed by the Institute of Nuclear Physica of Calcutta University. So to the long and authentic- ated list of strange showers was added radioactive rain. Soot, sand, ashes have figured in freak showers in the past, but queerer phenomena have , surprised peo- ple at various times. It's never rained cats and dogs but it has rained sprats and frogs The naturalist, Thomas Cooper, described how he was once ' caught in a frog -storm in India. The frogs had been whisked by et whirlwind from a large pond, taken for a ride in the clouds and had then showered down on a village. One report said three were thousands of them. Fish showers have frequently descended inlanded. In 1826 at Fodderty, in Scotland a farmer saw a hailstorm of herrings on part of his land. Each was three to four inches long, "Rains 0£ fish" were first mentioned by a Greek writer nearly 2,000 years ago. A cloud of millions of grass- hoppers, about an eighth of a mile wide and three miles long obscured the sky above Pontiex, Saskatchewan, for three hours in 1923. The insects, blown along by a wind about 100 feet above the ground were carried for miles before falling on to farm- land and villages. Zoo Para=.'e%e tti .C4et.e.Wi See how fast Baby makes friends with all these farm and circus pets 1 Before long, he'll. know each by name. Use scraps for gay, little animals - fun to make! Zoo parade quilt! Pattern 654 embroidery transfers, applique pieces for quilt, 32x44 inches. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENT -in coins (stamps cannot be ac- cepted) for this pattern to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., Neer Tor- onto, Ont. Print plainly' PAT TERN NUMBER, your NAM and ADDRESS. Don't miss our Laura Wheeler 1954 Needlecraft Catalog! 79 em- broidery, crochet, color -transfer and embroidery patterns to send for — plus 4 complete patterns printed in book. Send 25 cents for your copy today! Ideas for gifts bazaar sellers, fashions. One of the pleasures of age is looking back at the people one didn't marry. Team Work — Louis St. Laurent (left), Canada's Prime Minister, New York's Gov. Thomas 11. Dewey (center) and Leslie M. frost, Premier, of the Province '¢f Ontario, team up to do the honors during groundbreaking ceremonies for the St. Lawrence River , Project et Cornwall, Ont.