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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1954-08-05, Page 2"Dear Anne !thirst: When eie married a year ago, we lived with my husband's mother for three, snonths. Then she asked us to leave ... Her other chil- dren, too, say she is hard to get along with, so I don't feel I am entirely to blame. "Now my husband sees her every night, and leaves me at home alone I don't mind this too much, but he buys gifts for her without telling me! I al- ways find out, and cry myself sick. "I've not had good health, and this has not improved it. What shall I do? ETHEL M, BE HER DAUGHTER * A husband has the right, * certainly, to take his mother * gifts so long as he is not de- * priving his wife of necessities. * But what a pity the presents * do net arrive in your name, * too, * You may say, "I didn't * marry his family!" but you * owe his mother and his father * respect and courtesy, if not * true friendliness. You must have * behaved badly for her to ask * you to leave so soon; after all, * you were a guest there, with * a guest's responsibilities, In- * stead, you apparently made * no friendly gesture, showed *' no intent to cooperate in do- * ing your part as her son's wife. * Do you think she would have * let him leave her house if she * could have found a way to get *'.,along with you? * I do not place all 'the blame * upon you, for I know that * many older women are hard * to live with.' But they are >* quick to recognize a young * wife's desire to be popular * with her husband's people, .-..;,...• * an d given a chance,- they ° * respond to any good will she a shows. * You are not welcome in • your husband's family home. i''Ou expect to be married for Easy To Make; SIZES 5,10-12 let 14-1b I.la-20 talv .4.adiatta WAAL In a few hours, whip up a hal- ter to team with separates all summer! No fitting problems — wraps and ties at waist. No iron- ing worries --• opens flat. Use scraps!! Pattern 518: Small (10, 12); Medium (14, 16); Large (18, 20), Tissue pattern; transfer, State size. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS in coins (stamps cannot be ac- cepted 1 for this pattern to Box 1, 128 Eighteenth St., New Tor - Onto, Ont. Print plainly [*AT- •TEIt,N NUMBER and SITE;;; your NAME and ADDRESS. Dort miss our Laura Wheeler 1954 Needlecraft Catalogue) 79 embroidery, crochet ,color -trans- fer and embroidery patterns to send for --• plus 4 comlete pat- terns printed in book. Send 25 rents for your copy today! Ideas for gifts, bazaar sellers, fashions. ISSUE 32 »-• 1054 * the rest of your life; much of * the pleasure in your marriage * will be lost if you do not get * back in his mother's good * graces. Tell your husband you * are going to try to. * Instead of resenting his gifts * to cher, go with and help choose * the next one. Ask him to tell * his mother you did, and send * it with your best wishes. Now * that you are his wife, your * thinking should be "we" and * ours," and "us"; I'm afraid it * has been "I" and "trine" and * come" * A few gestures like this, and * I think you'll be invited to ac- * company your husband on his * visits. When you do, put your * best foot forward. Tell his * mother, humbly, how sorry * you are if you offended her, * that you love her son, and want to love her. Few mo- * thers can resist such a plea. * From there on, you can win * her over. Ask her advice and * take it often. Show her the * respect you want your husband * to give your own mother. Go * out of your way to do little * kindly, thoughtful things for * her, and show that you want * her for your friend. If you * really love your husband, this * attitude will prove it. * This is a large order for a girl * in your mood, But it can be * done, and you will be wise to * start it immediately. *: * * "Dear Anne Hirst: 1 have read your column for over 10 years, and I think it is one of the best parts of the paper. I have no problems to bring you, I just want you to know that I think your counsel is fair and wise, and you are always kind. "I have been happily married for nine years, have two lovely -.. children, a beautiful home all our own, and a kind husband. I wonder what more one could ask of life? When I read some of. the sickening heartaches you publish, I only wish I could pass on to such people part of our happi- ness. We seem to find each year more lovely than the last, and I do give thanks for our blessings. I wish you continued success. CONTENTED WIFE" * Your letter gives you away — how sweet to want to share * the joy you have known for * nine years! I expect that gen- * erous spirit is partly respon- * sible, at least, for the wonder- * ful life your family knows. * It is good of you to have writ- * ten me. I thank you. * * As a new ineinber of your hus- band's family, do all you can to make thein like you. Forget your prejudices and any jealousy, and try. Anne Hirst will be glad to help, if you write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. .___. Some Do's OfVS For Picnickers DO --•- Plan picnic meals to contain a variety of foods. If food poisoning should develop, symptoms will be less severe if other foods are eaten with an in- fected food. * a: A DO -- Pack sandwiches and other picnic foods in small pack- ages so the cold can penetrate each package when refrigerated, All picnic foods should be refri- gerated immediately after prepa- ration and kept as cool as pos- sible until eaten. DO Add plenty of pickle$, salad dressing, vinegar. lemon juice or other acid food to your sandwich • filling mixtures during hot weather. The danger of food poisoning bacteria developing will be less since they don't grow well in acid media. *, e DON'T Buy unwrapped bread or other unpackaged fresh foods in an unfamiliar store. Play safe and buy sanitary wrapped bread, packaged cookies, canned meats and other foods in cans or packages when away from home, * *, * DON'T ... Taste food suspected of being spoiled. Many food poi- soning bacteria and toxins are tasteless and odorless. It is best to discard or burn the suspected food. * 4 * DONT l' -- Use foods highly sus - And the Roof Como Tumbling Down—The 600,000 -pound con- crete roof of the new Sierra High School is shown being hoisted into position by powerful jacks mounted on supporting poles. Moments later, the roof swayed and crashed to the ground injuring seven workers. 'Officials drill through 10 -inch slab, bottom, to make sure no one is trapped beneath it. Lifelong i' lit For Lost Sweetheart Who was the beautiful guest for whom an Amer'.can waited for thirty-seven years in a lux ury yacht off the Essex coast? We shall probably never know. The man who waited all those years is dead and he carried his, • secret to the grave. The yacht Valfreyia first made, her appearance off Brightlingsea on the Essex coast in 1889. On board was the owner, McEvers Bayard Brown, an American mul- ti -millionaire, with his full staff:. And for the next thirty-seven' years the Valfreyia was kept in • readiness to sail at a moment's notice. Built originally for King Ed- ward VII, as Prince of Wales, the- Valfreyia was bought by Brown for $125,000 especially, it is be- lieved, for his beautiful guest: In England he had met a girl with whom he had fallen in love, and legend has it that she and Brown had had a tiff, butthat she had promised to meet him at Bright- lingsea if she should change her view about living in America: Brown endeared himself to. that.. hearts "-of the.: Brightlingsea 'folly .,1 when, during the harsh winter of 1891, ie distributed money to the people to ward off the hunger which threatened them owing to the bad oyster fishing season. No women were ever allowed on the yachtfi and once when a d i s tent female relative of Brown's arrived, he met her at the foot of the gangplank and told her; 'Your train leave in thirty minutes, madam." Newspaper reporters from Lon- don received short shrift. No in- terviews were allowed. Once a well-known reporter asked him, "For whom are you waiting, if you are waiting for someone?" To which Brown replied, "Aren't we all waiting for someone?" In 1911 the British Government sued him for income tax, main- taining that he was liable as he was within British territorial waters. He lost his case and had to pay. In• 1914 he offered tit Valfreyia to Britain for war u;;e and after the war resumed his vigil on the Essex coast. As he aged the millionaire grew more eccentric. In the town of Wivenhoe, near Brightlingsea, he was walking along a street one day when a woman, leaning over a garden gate, smiled at ' him, "Madam," Brown snapped, "if I give you five pounds, will you take your tace away? I don't like your looks." The amazed woman took the £5 and ran in- side. A few days after his seventy. seventh birthday in March, 1926, he was found stricken on his cabin floor. Semi -paralyzed, he was nursed carefully. But on, the morning of April 8th a cabin steward found the old man half - sitting on the floor against a chair In his right hand he held a photograph -which he had en- deavoured to destroy by burn- ing. Although charred, tiie pho tograph was distinguishable as' that of a young woman, and on the bark a few words were leg-.. ible: "Love . , , Patric . ' Brawl! was dead; the long years of e•eiti:•c for Patricia had ended. eeptible to food poisoning bacte- ria, if you must prepare your pic- nic ahead of time where refrige- ration is not available. Cheese and peanut butter, with or with- out; pickles, jam or marmalade, are the safest sandwich fillers. * DON'T -.. Be afraid to .freeze most kinds of sandwiches for the picnic or motor trip. Out of the freezer and into the picnic basket, they'll keep cool and fresh on the warmest day. WHY HE CHANCED Johnnie Johnston swears he hear two cowboys talking one night in a Manhattan bar, and the conversation went like this: The first cowboy introduced himself: "My naive's Tex." The second one said, curious. "You from Texas?" "Nope," said cowboy number one, "I'm from Louisiana, but who wants to be called Louise?" Expecting Somei ne? Morn -to -be, look young and pretty while waiting! Sew these - smart, new tops to add variety to your wardrobe. - Make shirt - jacket, tie -top blouse in broad. - cloth, cotton tweed, or linen! Mix • - match with cut-out skirt. ' Pattern 4844: Maternity, Misses' Sizes 12, 14, 16, 18, 20, Size 16 tailored top takes 22 yards 35 - inch; skirt 21/2 yards. This pattern easy to use, sim- ple to sew, is tested for fit. Has complete illustrated instructions.. Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTS (35c) in coins (stamps cannot be accepted) for this pattern. Print lainly bIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to or 1, 123 Eigh- teenth St., New Toronto, Ont. er j ;nee i .t .o .x. .e P C l .,tlme All around us these days there is a typical story -book smell. By that I don't mean the atmos- phere of books but the smell that is spoken of romantically in books — the smell of new -mown hay. Yes,.I must admit fresh cut hay is sweet and fresh -smelling before the dew rises. After that it becomes pungent and some- what heady. In fact, insofar as I am concerned a little ,of it goes a long. way. I am more con- cerned these days as to how and when the hay will be taken off the field and moved away in the barn. The weather, as I write, is, very sultry and thunderstorms are forecast, so anything can happen. B u t of course, we always hope for the best — that is part of farm folk philosophy. Without it we could not farm. What I, mean is so well given by a little poem by Norman Gale, quoted in the current issue of Horne and Country: "God comes down in the rain And the crops grow tall. This is the country faith— And the best of all," That much I had written last Friday. Friday night it rained again. More wet hay. Bad for the hay but it made it easier for me to take my annual three-day holiday! When it comes to the last minute I hate leaving home and generally feel like backing out—and probably would except that Partner, knowing this, in- sists on my leaving things ready for him and carrying out my plans. Every farm wife who is the only woman in the house will know what I mean. This holiday of mine was in the nature of a convention—To- ronto and Niagara Falls, with various invitations for lunches, dinners gild . sightseeing tours. The Niagara Trip. was wonderful. We were taken to see the new Power Development project—but not all of it as there wasn't time. Like you I had read about it but seeing it was something else agate.Saturday night we .had,,. dinner at the Refectory over- looking the falls. From the same place we also had a splendid view of the illuminations. As if that were not enough each guest received a complimentary ticket for a trip on the Maid of the Mist and also one for the Scenic tunnel — with the compliments of the Niagara Parks Com- mission. • The next morning I was the first one down for breakfast—or I should say 'up' as breakfast was served in the Rainbow Room at the Sheraton -Brock Hotel— ten floors up. It was the most wonderful experience. There we were in a spacious dining -room with huge picture windows from which we looked 'down' to the tops of the trees, and over the trees to the Canadian and Amer'. can Falls. To me that early morning breakfast was one of the highlights of my little holi- day. There was hardly a car to be seen and very few people. It was obviously not the sight- s e e i n g hour for honeymoon couples. The paucity of people was such a contrast to the day and evening crowds that it was almost unbelievable. Certainly after that experience I am con- vinced that sight -seers should travel before dawn if necessary and view the falls in the early morning hours. I lingered for art hour over breakfast and I was particularly impressed with the difference between the American and Can- adian sky -line which isn't so noticeable f r o m ground level,, Beyond the falls on the Ameri- can side there are tall chimney stacks, neon signs and unsightly factories and industrial plants. On the Canadian side there are beautiful parks, gardens, wort• derful shade trees and restau- rants and hotels that are area. tecturally attractive. For all of which we have to thank the foresightedness of the Niagara Parks Commission, who, seventy- five eventyfive years ago reserved 3,000 acres for park lands, these are self-supporting — no expense to the Ontario taxpayer. This vast area has been pr e s e r v e Q partly in its natural beauty— as along the River Road to Fort Erie—and partly , as remarkably well—kept boulevards, gardens* scenic roads and parks, and the Niagara School of Gardening. Looking down upon the scene from a tenth story window it was easy to visualize what this wonderland might have been had it not been so well planned and controlled. After tearing myself away from this vision of enchantment. I joined fellow -travellers for our trip on the Maid of the Mist and from the spray -washed deck of the "Maid" we got a close-up view of the mighty power and majestic beauty of the Falls of Nigara. Then we went down to the Scenic tunneit and stood at one of the look- outs under the Falls as the thundering waters came tum- bling down just as they have been doing for hundreds -e -per- haps thousands of years. One needs to give one's imagination. • full vent to appreciate the awe- inspiring phenomenon of the mighty Falls. But enough for the present, It is Monday—we are, expecting the baler in and I have straw- berries to can. 'Bye for now. HIS RECORD "The defendant is so crooked," began the D.A. in; his opening to the jury, ,"thaeOp en , he gets! up in the mora ing Mhe has te, .` screw his socks on. He lived in one home for twenty years. He'd be there yet if the gover- nor hadn't pardoned him." Summer Snow—A touch of win- ter is featured in this Adele Simpson brief -jacketed suit of . snow -flecked tweed. Prevued at a summer showing of fall and winter fashions, the con- tour jacket is finished with the new "Cavalier" collar, and tops a slim skirt with a walking pleat. "Atomizers for the Navy—With ail hatches, ports and vents buttoned up, the Tight cruiser Worcester steams through maneuvers in Caribbean waters with her "atom"izers going full blast. The sprinkler system, which is designed to free a ship of contamination when it is subject to effects of radioactive dust and mist from an atomic explosion, was developed during recent bomb tests In the Pacific.