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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1954-07-29, Page 6it i4, Anne Hirst Do you think your husband is spoiling your marriage? 1 be- lieve you wilt feel humbled to- day after reading the letter 1 quote fro ma wife who showed indomitable courage for more than 30 years --- and now finds herself cast aside like an old. shoe. "I took my husband for bet- ter, for worse, for richer, for poorer. It has always been poorer. I had taught school, and after I married I worked on his farm and cooked for seven hired hands. I helped him buy three cars — and stayed hoe while he drove around town, came home drunk and mistreated me brutal- ly. And I had two children 15 months apart, DUTY CAME .FIRST "I was brought up as a Chris- tian, and felt it would be a dis- grace to leave him. If I only had, I could have supported the children myself ... After World War I we bought a home with very little capital. I went back to teaching until my son was a high-school junior. My money, with my husband's. went to keep things going. "—And after all this, my hus-, band gets a divorce. Takes his oath to lies; he talked to our son and had him appear against me. "When my husband was small fry, I was good enough for him; now he's a salesman making good money—and goes with a married woman. I wonder what she'd think if she could see him as I have so many mornings, coining home drunk, striking me, and destroying the furniture? "Now I am getting along in years, and must start all over. 1 have to walk to school, while my husband has a new car, a good job, fine clothes, and can afford to sport .. . "So many women today run to tap -rooms, go with other men, iron -o, Designs in Vibrant Colours ri.. No embroidery! A stroke of your iron .- presto! Your linens bloom with pansies in a combina- tion of Night Blue and Sunny Yellow with leaves of Garden Green! In seconds, match a lunch. eon cloth to a serving apron! Or treat guest towels, sheets, pil- lowcases, scarves with colour ma- gic. IROI' ON pansies look hand- painted! Washable, too. Pattern 823: transfer of twelve colour motifs: four 3% x 7, two 3 x 6, four x 2%; two x 2% inches. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS in coins (stamps cannot be ac- ceplect) t'or this pattern to Box 1, 123 r';iglnt:eenth Street, New Tor. onter Ont Print plai.nis PAT- TERN NUMItER your NAME and ADDRESS. - Dcn't miss our Laura Wheeler d 1954 Needlecraft Catalog! 79 em. fi broidery, crochet, eole -transfer and embroidery patteris to send t fez- -- plus 4 complete patterns t 1 and generally do wrong. 11 these things can happen, I am thankful that my daughter and I have been able to live up to aur standards . What can young women look forward to? I always held a good position. I loved my work, my friends, my music and my art -- but 1 could always humble myself to any work. I washed clothes on a board because my husband couldn't buy a machine, and I used an old oil stove a neighbor had cast aside— "Ali to save money. For what? . , ..Please print this, so other women can learn from it." * To "R•. E.": It is unfortunate * that you did not Leave your * husband while you were ,young "' enough to go to work and sup- "` port your children. Now you * are older, and duties which • once were thrilling weigh * heavy. Added to this, you are * bitter because you put so much * into your marriage and got so * little out of it, (You certainly * got a poor deal on the divorce * settlement. didn't you?) "* Yet your life has been a full * one. You started out with love * and the faith that comes with * it, That both were betrayed * was oo fault of yours. You did * your best, you rose to each * harrowing responsibility as it 'n came, you gave it ail you had. * You bore your children, and * one is a great satisfaction, * Even counting the hardships * you suffer now, ,your life has * been richer than if you had * stayed single. * What would become of mar- '" riage and Canadian families * if girls did not follow their * hearts? If they did not take * the bad with the good, endure * their repeated disappointments, • and keep on hoping things will * change? That hope can be car- * ried too far, as yours was, But * while it survives, it -makes life * bearable, * TWO (GIRLS --ONE BOY "Dear Anne Hirst: I am 16, and have been makitig a play for a boy whom my girl friend likes, too, and he likes her. The only reason he sees me, I am sure, is to find out what she's doing and tell me how wonderful he thinks she is, "What can I do to win him? I like the girl, but she is certainly a deadly rival. ANXIOUS" 11 you were a year or so * older, you would know how ", useless it is to try to win a * boy who is more interested in * another girl. His thoughts n are concentrated on her, and * there is no room in his mind * for anyone els, Any effort you * make to attract him will only '" make you look foolish — and * he will have the final laugh. * If you still want to date him, * though, answer his questions * about her. Then he will think * of you kindly, as a good sport, * and not as a girl who would * double-cross her best friend, * There are boys and boys in * the world, but if you have a * girl friend who is loyal, don't * let her down. You can always * find a boy to date, but you will * need girl friends all your Life. * This is the time to make there "' and keep there. * Besides, we .:'ldorn marry * the boys we date at 16! When years bear heavy upon you, and you looks back on a tragic marriage, don't rebel at life --- at least, you have lived. Take comfortfrom what ,you salvaged and from the peace you can know now . Telling Anne Hirst about it will relieve your mind, and perhaps help another woman in het problem. Address Anne Hirst at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St. New Toronto, Ont. - The sweetand amiable old lady accosted the deputy sur- rogate in the courthouse. "Where is the court of reprobates?" "You mean the probate court. It's right through that door" She smiled. " My husband fed, detested and left an in - del to the will." The deputy pondered t h e ranslation. "Do you mean in - estate? That he didn't have a will? An addition . to a will, ady, is art codicil, I'm afraid your, ereavernent has you puzzled" "Maybe it has. But this is the place, isn't it, where you apply to be the executioner?" printed in book. Send 25 cents for ,your copy today! Ideas fer gifts, bazaar sellers, fashions. IT'S A SLEEPER- EATER If you like to eat in bed, a firm in London, •England, hos manufactured at device which can serve as both bed and table. In 13 seconds thispiece of furniture can be converted from During the day mattress, sheets, blankets and pillow are folded a table to ct full-length bed, according to the manufacturer. into the bottom part of the table. Named the "Doo -Stay," it comes in two sizes, a six -seater which makes a single bed, and an eight -seater which makes a double bed. Designed for the small apartment dweller, thg "Doe -Stay" can be used as a table during the day. Cor-12ietely unfolded, -it Becomes a full-length bed, occupying little more space'than when used as a table. With the table top folded cgainst the wall, it allows comfortable eating in bed in this partially unfolded position. 0 er Etiquette Q. Will you please list some of the duties of the best man at a wedding? A. He looks after the bride- groom, generally driving him to the church. He takes care of the ring, giving it to the bridegroom at the proper moment in the cere- mony. He gives the clergyman his fee, and takes care of any tips incidental to the going away, being of course reimbursed bti,. the bridegroom at a convenient time Q, is it all right to lip the waiter or waitress by the week, instead of at every meal, when one is staying at a hotel for sev- eral weeks? A. Yes; this is otters clone, and is more convenient. beQheld,ryw bythe should howirerbet glaes or by the stern, A. The base at ttie bowi should be held with the fingers, and not with the whole hand, Q. Is it good torrni to sip one's coffee first with the spoon in or- der to test its temperature? A. Yes; this is far better than burning the mouth. or perhaps sputtering out the liquid But after testing it, the spoon should be left in the saucer and the re. mainder of the coffee sipped from the cup. 4. Is is proper to close a lit- ter with one word, siren as, "tgg na eerely," "Cordially," "Restieet- ?ally" A. No; the possessive pronoun "yours" should always be in- cluded. Q. Is it considered good form for a family to insert "please omit Rowers" in a funeral notice?, A. Certainly, if that is the family's desire. The request should be respected, and the tno. tive not questioned. Q. Should a young person of. fer a hand when being introduced to an elderly woman? A. Only if the elderly woman offers her band first. emit!- otin.e P. C t&rb e • Well, there has to be a first time for everything and this has been my first time for taking care of our grandson. Tlie whole family came out last Wednesday night about nine o sloe],—just after two visitors had left who had been spending the day with us, Arthur returned the same night. leaving Dee and David to more or less "settle in." Then on Friday noon Daughter went off to spend a week -end at a Girl Guide camp near Oshawa, she being quarter -master for her co epany--if -that is the correct term. Late Friday night Art came back to take charge of David at night. But the days belonged to Grandma and Dave, And Grandma got lost in a maze of formulas, bottles, tiny cans of meat, vegetable. fruit and orange juice, Partner and I looked at this collection and marvelled ..•. and I wondered how on earth 1 raised two childre_, before modern scientific baby care came into being. What did we feed our infants if and when they were weaned? All I can remem- ber is a complicated formula that had to be processed for a certain length of time. Oranges that had to be squeezed, cream of wheat and fine oatmeal porridge; scraped rare beef, zwieback rusks soaked in milk; coddled eggs, arrowroot biscuits and plenty of water. If a baby tripled his birth -weight in twelve months we were well satisfied. But now . here is David at eight -and -a - half . months old weighing twenty-five pounds! Yes, babies come along a lot faster these days. If they kept it up throughout childhood we might have a race of supermen and women. But what happens? As soon as they get to be two or three years old most of them get "choosey." They don't like this and they won't eat that; they sleep late in the morning and stay up until all hours at night; they have too much candy, pop and other 'sweet stuff. Oh, well, I guess we shall have to deal with each problem as it comes. My one concern right now is to sur- vive the week -end. So far I have managed very well — David is asleep right now so I am taking the opportunity to at least get • this column started. Before David comes again 1 think we shall have to invest in a crib for his highness. His car- riage is not really big enough for night-time sleeping. Art wanted to bring his crib along too. But believe me had they brought any more stuff along with them they would have needed a moving van for the job. My next worry is to get everything together for the return trip without forget- ting any of the essentials. And what has grandpa thought about our week -end? Well, I'm not too sure, Partner had a pretty rough field of hay to cut and rake at the back of the farm —rough on the ground, that is. He would come down tired and stiff and it just seemed that Dave was indulging in one of his few whimpering spells every time he came in. However, Sunday he was at his best, so Lha two "men" were soon on good terms. In fact, grandpa is alrer• dy suggest- ing that we might just as well have Dave down here if his mother and dad want to take a holiday somewhere without him! Having Dave for the week -end has made me realize the differ- ence to the relationship between a baby and his mother and a baby and his father—especially when father works away from home. A baby associates mother with his daily care—food, bath, comfort and love, rhen father comes home. tie uati the baby haven't seen each other since joyous occasion. It calls lot cele- bration—for play, fun and laugh- ter. Daddy lifts the baba from his chair, crib or playpen Naturally it isn't long . before baby associates Daddy with the action of being picked up --and very soca. the young rascal trades on it! Dinner is ready; Daddy puts baby back in his chair. And then the fun begins! Solution? I haven't one Far be it for me to offer advice. In most cases r'm just an outsider looking on. I only know that this is a major problem and one that it worthy of consideration. This is Monday morning and it is quiet and peacefui around here now. Partner is raking hay at the back of the farm; the dogs are sleeping stretched out in the sun. The cats have had theirs morning feed and are away to the pasture on the tient for; un- wary mice, Parent swallows and baby swallows are sitting all to a row on the clothesline twitter- ing away to each other, And the weather is perfect — bright sun and a fresh breeze blowing. Truly a pastoral setting. Last week it was very different around here—balers, visitors and homecomers all the time from Sunday to Sunday. If big black crows had perched on the clothes- line I would hardly have noticed them. Cut to Fin Half -sizers! COOL OFF in Wm bright and breezy style. It's sew - simple --- no side opening! Just unbutton the shoulders -- slip it on 1-2-3 quick] Make several in a jiffy in cool, tubbable cottons, Cut to fit the short, fuller figure --- no alteration problems. Pattern 4523: Half Sizes 14%s, 16%, 18%, 20%, 22%, 24%. Sita 16% takes 4% yards 35 -inch. This pattern easy to use, sitrn- pie to sew, is tested for fit. Halo complete illustrated instructions. Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTS (35t) in coins (stamps cannot be accepted) for this pattern. Print plainly SIZE, NAME., ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to Box I, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont, This 'Poston` Barks Twice There's one "postman" who's prepared to bite right back in case a "dog bites postman" sif- uation arises, The letter carrier's name is "t.t'sssie," 11 -year-old pet of Mrs. B. D. Lee, operator of a letter service. At left, Lassie arrives at the letter service from an office building in one of three adjoining buildings 9 serves, At right, she delivers the package to an employee. Lassie knows her customer's by name, barks to announce her arrival with a packet of Netters, delivered by this "doggone" mail service.