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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1957-12-19, Page 21• "Tear Anne Hirst: My real gratitude to you for that article you printed about the troubles of stepmothers! The letter that you, answered could have come from me, for I've been in the writer's shoes for three years. The only difference is that my shoes hurt even more than "hers do. "I should have anticipated my experience, because even before we,married, ray husband's family informed me of the `rules' they were using•;.to bring up his four- year-old son, and said they ex= pected me to follow them. 1 found the boy dreadfully spoil- ed, and obviously their idea was to continue that; but when he aecame so'obstinate there was no managing him, they never ac- cepted the responsibility. I lik- ed the child from the first, and thought I had won his affection, but he has used all his shabby little tricks to defeat my dis- ciplinary efforts, and even boast- ed about it!, "It is frustrating to stand aside and see the life and' soul of a child twisted into -wrong- doing, especially toward deceit. If these people had his good at heart they would let us alone, for only that way is there a chance I can make something decez t'of him. My husband takes his family's part, and thinks they Iron -on Designs in 3 Colours 6r met ►¢i& are wonderful to bother, He will not look ahead and see the awful • consequences that await the boy. I love my husband, and 1 would SAVO him from the remorse he will feel later on. FRIGHTENED" * Your husband is taking the * weakest way to make his child • love .him; by spoiling him so * thoroughly he avoids un- * pleasant argument, but the boy will feel..contempt for a parent * whom he can defy, and will * not be fooled for long. It is , * you who are trying to make * a little man' of him, teach him * obedience and respect for the • rights of others. If he will t' not learn these tw.o vital les- * sons now, the knowledge will, * `have to coine the hard way later on. You must remind * his . father •that it is he who k will be blamed (and despised) • by= his. •son when he is 'old * enough to know what has hap- * pened to him and why. 1 sym- * pathize with you, and hope * that • his 'father • will : wake up * before more damage is done. * I am happy that my opinion * brought you some comfort. '" One can, after all, only do her * best, and you are doing yours * against heartbreaking odds. s• * °Dear Anne Hirst:.._ Four years ago I was widowed, and thought my life was over. But a 'year ago I `began going with a man I had known for years and who was my husband's best friend. We fell in love— "When I found out he was dat- ing another woman, tool It near- ly finished me. I had to take it, though, and began seeing an- other .old friend. Now he de- clares he loves me •and wants me to marry him. "The first man has just come back. He makes no excuse for his conduct, bul; declares he wants me more :thanever and cows he will always be true.;to me. But I have no faith lett in him. Would you? IRENE" You can only pity this man -* who betrayed you. Now he may sincerely regret his de- * ceit, but if you marry him I'm * afraid you would always doubt • him. It is possible, too, that he only returned because he * found someone else desired * you. '* If you con-1'eto casefor the * second friend, I hope you will -* not hesitate between them. I c:; A stepmother's 'trials double when her husband or his family Will not recognize her authority. Anne Hirst understands family • •.Differences and . can offer- sym- • pathy.. and guidance, . through ti such, troubled times. Write her at' Box ,,1,'],23 Eighteenth Street, New. Toronto., Ont. • '':RON them right on—no em- broidery I Beautify linens • with old-fashioned girls and ` nose- gays .in a -combination of pink , blue, ;'green. For bazaar best ;sellers, ' gifts — iron oil towels, . sheets, pillowcases, scarves: Add- - ready=m;ele.,edging for gift. _ Pattern 686 has 12 washable designs. Two girls 41/2x10; two .«r 44 43/2 i our sprays 41/4 x 11/4; foil, 1'L'fii lyes: • '? " • • Send THIRTY- FIVE CENTS (stamps 'cannot be accepted, use •• postal note, for safety)'for this ;, y pattern to Laura. .Wheeler, Box :; : ,lsg Ei-ghteenth St., New Tor- •uito, 5i t. Print PATTERN • NUMBER, your NAM and AD- 9RESS. Tw&'FREE Patterns as a gift-' :o our readers—printed rigliin �,• vie' 1937 Laura., j?heeTer Needle= • >.x it f3ilok.;•Dozens of other de- igns` you'll. want to order—easy fascinating:handworl fQr Your- self, your home, gifts, bazaar items. Send5 cents- for your dopy af't1T`s •booktodayI • Odds • `and. Ends. • ANYTHING YOU CAN DO ... —Stephanie Maclaine, 11..mbnths, mimics the expression of actress mother Shirley perfectly. Stephanie's eyes close in merriment -at her accomplishment. Photo appeared in a current issue of Look magazine. 4.n. TRUNK fitted with : casters and , decorated in g ay colors provides a good place. to STORE TOYS and playthings, . 'out ✓of the way. Paint trunk with .-bright enamel. place ,decal trans- . fess iia appropriate: spots, paint the child's name on the top . , and watch the recipient's eyes shine. Good PROPORTION FOR HARD SAUCE; a quarter cup of butter or margarine blended with a cup of: sifted confec- tioners' sugar. Flavor with van- illa or almond. Need EXTRA SPACE to work on in the KITCHEN for. Christ- mas dinner?: Ironing board, pro- tected with newspapers or , a plastic tablecloth, turns into, handy table. • SECOND QUINT WEDS -Lifting their glasses in a toast :to a happy future cite Phillipe 'and Cecile Langlois in...North Bay, Ontario, . Canada, after their marriage. Mrs. Langlois is the former Cecile Dionne, the second of the world -famed quin- tuplets to -.marry.. Their marriage was performed •ir1 the tiny buck -country church of Sacre Coeur de Jesus at `Corbeil; JO .,- miles south of North Bay, cyfcile('s eh;ikdhoo pa:h.'t'lllipe Is a Montreal braadcasting technician. Quintuplet- Annette: 16Cditi a Mrs*,: t7ertifoin•vA4 arc -less than two Months •.ago+ - When When things start moving around here they seem to keep moving . the Royal Winter Fair; Partner goes north; • visit- ors; an addition to the family; Ress displays two more teeth and then gets up on his feet — at ,I nine months. • Now for the details. Last Mon- day Partner and I put in a few pleasant hours at 'the Royal". We always enjoy it better than the C.N.E. — less crowded and everything being under one roof means less walking. The flowers were simply wonderful, rosea and mums predominating but there were also well arranged exhibits of African violets, cacti and begonias. And we were com- pletely fascinated by flowers re- • sembling birds in flight. I believe the species is called "Bird of Paradise". 'Really gorgeous. •For"awhile we watched the dairy cattle being judged and were absolutely amazed at the number of entries particularly in the Ayrshire class. The Ayr shires have always been our fav- ourite breed but we were often told they, were not popular. 'Aind. yet' -there.' were• 32` entries iri •tlie " one class we' watched being ' judged., At the conclusion the judge was,scratching•��his head — and small.:wonder, it must. 'have been'i`.harder work than judging a beauty contest. ` The World Championship Wheat was of,'special-irii'eresf to us too beeatrse. .it" --Was •grown in our own little corner of England. Mr. Davidson didn't make any mistake in saying Essex is a good • fanning district We' know it. ,We left the Royale about six o'clock and went over to visit Daughter and -her, family. The new baby had had a touch of con- gestion for a, .few days but has since recovered. Late in the even- ing Art drove Us home so we are beginning to feel as if our close proximity to :Toronto is really paying off. Last Wednesday the. switch - over I mentioned the week be- fore went into effect, That is to .say Partner went to Horning's Mills and:' Mrs. K — came to " Toronto to look after that long awaited baby,. It was seven in the evening before Partner was picked up and it'' wasn't a very happy trip. There had been a heavy snowfall north of Orange- • vine and the roads were heavy and treacherefas. In fact the • drive got Partner so an edge his stomach got padly upset. ,How- eiver, he is all right again now except that he isn't • enjoying the wintery climate at all, but he says he manages to keep stoking fires and washing dishes, plus the cream separator and • t SALLY'S SALUES 1st 14,1* sssi • .! y'e.otiild.become.,engaged if you'd won a Cute :gold footbalt « . ..... • fns' cleaning eggs. By the ' time he comes back ,he will know whe- ther he would like to be back Terming again. I think i know the answer. • Thursday morning I was al- most ready to go shoBping when friends from Guelph dropped in, ali set to take Partner and me to the Fair. Partner. being away . was quite a disappointment., However, they insisted that I go with them as they had never been to the Royal and wouldn't r, low their way around. So T Went ' but when we visited the catttle barns I sat . on a bale of hay and let hem wander around by themselves. And you know it is surprising who and what you ca'i see from a bale of hay! Cat- tle going back and forth to the shu`w ring; exhibitors anxious asid pre -occupied on the way out; jubilant or downcast on the way back; depending upon how their animals •perforxned... I . saw the boys and girls of the 4-H clubs showing '92 steers — andwhat a showing•that was. I was so glad • the handsome steer with its love- ly white coat carried away top honours. It had a fine carriage • and 'apparently a- docile' disposi= tion I was also very interested in . the Canadian bred cattle from Quebec, which according to the poster were introduced into Can- ada by the French in 1541. I had visions of French explorers crossing the Atlantic in'a sailing boat :and bringing with them • a few cattle to establish a herd for brpeding stock Imagine being s:"., Weeks on the water With a "cargo 61. cattle . ' t Now I must • . tell you • about "Ditto” our latest addition. Ditto, I would have you know, is a half-grown tortoiseshell kitten. She followed some of the neigh- „ bour-Children' home from school; None of them knew to whom she belonged. For two days she was just a homeless stray. Thursday morning I opened the door " to the baker and in came the kit- ten. Of course I gave her a good meal and then she was so friend- ly T hadn't the heart to put her out. Besides thatshe was exactly like the first eat we ever owned in Canada so 1 said to her — "Now if•you're a very good kitty you shall stay here and we'll' call ycu. "Ditto". "But" I hope she doesn't get too much like Tiny, her predecessor. One time Tiny had a batch of kittens under the front step and then brought them through the window one, by one tothe Warmth' of the. kitchen stove. All EIGHT of thein. !. I wonder . , aizl s fight.• in saying particoloured cats are always female, the males having only two colours black and yellow, or yellow and :white?.;; Cha igedd His Hair Style Every Day Sprawled }sound asleep on a green • leather bench in the sanctum of the House of Com- mons lay a beautiful woman, Discovering her at three o'clock in the morning, a - night watch- man summoned the police. Security departments were alerted and officers hurried from Scotland Yard. The woman ex- plained to them that she had a inania for sleeping in unusual places and thought she would try a night in, the Houses of - Parliament 1 Then there is the woman who was found uninvited in the royal yacht Britannia. No one knows how she managed to dodge the guards and get aboard. Later, ' police reported that she hada harmless mania for treading in the footsteps of the grea.t "Manias are as varied as hu- manity itself," says ;a noted psy-• chiatrist. Hence the bizarre case of the car -park attendant who drove away in and Accidentally smashed tip a dance barrel) lead- er's smart limousine. "Since he worked at the car park he has had a mania for cars," said his wife, begging the magistrates for leniency. A Sheffield youngster desper- ately wanted to join the Army and twice tried to enlist, both times being rejected as unfit. Buying an Army uniform, he began wearing it but, of course, was unable to • produce a pay- book or leave pass when chal- lenged. He escaped with a £1 fine. Then there was the man in a West London suburb whose hair changed colour almost daily. Crisp, curly, blonde, Spanish black, sometimes a ''Brilliant auburn — his hair kept chang- ing. Butpolice investigations re- vealed that he had a 'collection al 120 wigs and was "doing no "harm.". There are eccentrics like the Cambridge professor who in- sists on stoking his fire with cake on Sundays. There are "pillo- philes," such as the Lines far- mer who was recorded in twenty- five years to have swallowed 277,000 -pills and • 40,000 bottles full:. of medicine. • ' I -1o* strange can a mania be-- - come? Hollywood was terrified not long ago by a wardrobe lurker who specialized in enter- ing film stars' homes while they were away and rummaging through:their wardrobes,- piling dressas.' and lingerie„hep on the' floor. ; ••, q -,� He was never caught, but las anontl;•.a man was arrested, ae= cusei1,4sleeping in lovely Kim Noyak's beck. while she was away. Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. What shout T 91.oviete raw a fon at a borne Olhi•istening?. A A silver bowl usually, but if such is not available, a crystal bowl or; china bowl with a ring of flowers or ivy around it will serve very well. • Q, Is it absolutely necessary to send a wedding' gift when once has declined an invitation to the reception?: A. This would be expected ori you only if, you„were vera' illtiT rr:,. ate friends of the bride, that' bridegroom, or their families,.. , • Otherwise, it is not necessary. Q.” Is it proper for a host anal, hostess, who are having a num- ber of guests at dinner in their.. hoarse, to offer a prayer.:' .before' beginning the meal? ` A. Most certainly, this ip proper. Q. When should the bride- groom and his best man arrive aft the church for the wedding? • A. At least 15 minutes irior to the ceremony, thus allowing time for any delay. Upon their ar- rival, they should repair to the vestry where the .clergyman awaits them. They enter through , a side door, not through the. church. • . ''MOTHER LOVE In urgent need of a flat. A woman advertised her wants in; an . Oregoin . local paper:' S* - stated bhat'"she would " . g+0 rid of my pet chinchillas, attire poodle, • budgerigar and ' goldfish, but would like to keep my nine -year -Old son." Best -Dressed Doll PRINTED' PATTERN S ke Your little girl will spend many happy hours .dressing her.— doll in these beautiful 'clothes Printed Pattern includes party dress, jumper, • blouse, school dress, coat, hat, nightgown, robe, slip and panties. • ` Printed Pattern 4526: For dopa 14, 16, 18, 20, 22 inches tall. Sete.'" • - ' pattern for yardages. Printed directions -on each pat- tern part. Easier, . accurate. Send, FORTY CENTS. (400 (stamps cannot be accepted,` use postal note for safety) . for thio pattern.. ` Please print plainly SIZE,` NAME, • ADDRESSp' .: STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAN4 a,; • Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. . ISSUE 51 — 1957 • �'�'+��YH to8• b� . ���• :, ;,,yam.«,. .._...,.�..� _. _ CURB SERVICE -The problem of squeezing ►rtto4.tight. parking spaces is made simple ' Wimlea new device called the "Sidler" invented by e ngine expert Archie Butterworth Green, Surrey, England. To park a car equipped with the invention, � ti hydrahe ulic driver steersriage thl front end into the curb .At the press'.of d dashboard button, from the round. Powered itl , two rubber discs (arrows)' I's lowored; raising the rear wheels ground. • o . e the car sideways•';into< the' parking^ spaoa'- fhe car's trdnsm:ssrosr, the dask.,.s �n and m v •_. 'Lbw gear swings the rear one way, and reverse the, other.,,