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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1957-12-05, Page 2ANNE 141 ..*Ziotat Fa** ..attila4cAit "Ever since my husband died nine years ago, my daughter and I have lived alone .,and I have come to depend on her for al] my pleasure in living," writes a distracted mother. "She has had a few beau but none of them stein cl serious, and I never had any idea she would ever leave mc. Now she intends to marry one of them after Christmas! I am almost crazy at the prospect of living without her. I resent her fiance terribly, and I am oppos- ing the marriage with all my heart. "My boys have their own homes, but I don't like either of their wives. When I've visited them they expect me to do most of the housework, and baby sit so they can go out and have a good time. I won't be made use of that way, I'd rather live to myself. I can afford to, and I don't need any of them — "But how can I fill the long days and longer nights after my girl leaves me? I simply cannot face that, and I'm about ready to give up!" THAT IS LIFE *° Most mothers look forward. to the day their daughters will * establish a home of their own; * in that they see the .fruition * of their mutual hopes, and only * pray that her life will be as * richly complete as theirs has * been. Long beforehand they • have prepared themselves for * the leisure that is to come., * They have kept their own * friendships intact; they have := grown useful in their church * and community projects, and • made, themselves almost irre- * placeable in the local scene. * If this mother had been wise * enough to foresee the future, * she would feel only gratitude • today that her daughter is to fulfill her natural destiny and * see in it the natural rhythm " of the generations. She would * give her daughter her blessing, * and send her forth from home * with love and praises to cheer * her on — • Instead, she clouds the girl's • joyous engagement days with" * the blackness of her own des- * pair! If it is living alone in her big '" house that distresses her, sure- * ly she can find among her con- * temporaries some . , congenial,. friend''"who Will '136 glad t"o a share her home. Or a business * or college girl that will ap- * preciate the mothering she * yearns to give? The future is * what she makes it. If she will * plan it sensibly, and welcome • the many avenues of service it One -Yard Wonders PRINTED PATTERN EACH GARMENT One yard 54 -inch fabric for ralero * one yard for skirt! No teed to bankrupt your budget — ihoose a wool remnant, make 'us ensemble! Printed directions ;re easy to follow! Printed Pattern 4860: Misses' glees 10, 12, 14, 16, 18. Bolero, skirt in all given sizes, each gar- ment 1 yard 54 -inch fabric. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate. Send , FORTY CENTS (40a) (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern, Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St,, New Toronto, Ont. * opens for her, she will find the a day too short for all the en- * grossing opportunities that await her, TO "DESPERATE": If your own mother has protested your marriage because she would be left alone, wouldn't you have questioned her love for you and resented her self- ish preoccupation with her own problems? Don't deprive your girl of a mother's love and under- " standing through these pre- * cious days. Conceal your fears * of your future, and threw * yourself whole-heartedly into • her wedding plans., She will * never forget it, and how she * will love you for it! That is * what a mother is for, and I am * sure you will not let your * daughter down. *' Then, as soon as she has left * on her honeymoon, ring up * your minister and your closest * friends. Remind them that now * you will have time on your * hands,' and ask their advice as * to where you can be most use- * ful. They know your talents * and• your temperament, and * will help you find rewarding * fields to explore. Good luck! * * * HE MUST REFORM ., "Dear Anne Hirst: I have found out that the man I expect to marry after Christmas has been seen drinking too much in vari- • ous places lately. I did not even know he touched alcohol, and I am just about frantic. Whatever am I going to do? "I hesitate to say anything to him, but I simply cannot accept this. Is he having one last fling before marrying? Or has he done this before, and kept it from me? . . - I have beenreading your column for years now, and so I turn to you to guide me now. FRIGHTENED" * Tell your parents about this * at once. They are the ones to * put your fiance on probation, * and they will not be so easily * swayed by his pleas as you s might be. * If you have read this column * for long, you cannot have ig- nored all the misery and de- "' gradation that a drinking hus- * band causes. Unless the man " you love conquers his appetite * before marriage, you would a find no escape from the shame • and, grief you woulel,,face; after * ward. Be brave now, and firm. It is * 'for his sake, too,you know. A * man will find the strength to * give up bad habits for his flan- * cee when he would indignant- * ly refuse to reform for hs wife. * a * The role of a loving mother can be heart -breaking at times, but it is only in the faithful ad- herence to her maternal respon- sibilities that she can conquer • In time of anxiety or any other trouble, write Anne Hirst about it. Address her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St, New Toronto, Ont. Mothers-in-law Are No Headache Here Getting on with mother-in-law remains for many couples an acid test of marriage. It is the same practically all over the world. But . in one primitive South American region, mothers-in- law are no headache at all. Among the fierce Campa Indians, living in the jungles of Peru, a man, on taking a wife, at once puts himself beyond his mother- in-law's reach or, perhaps more important, beyond her tongue. Tribal law decrees that she may only talk to him .if a very serious emergency arises. And then not to his face. She can only converse with him, on such rare occasions, on a back-to- back basis. As a result, mother-in-law in- terference among these croco- dile -hunters and monkey -eaters is non-existent. To these tribespeople such a system is quite legica]. For the Campas place no limit on the number of wives a man may take, Skilled hunters and war- riors take their .pick of very young girls. The wedding cere- mony is almost non-existent A batch of wives, too, can be ex- changed for one very pretty one. The women don't object. But, however many wives he has, a Campa is honour -bound to feed and accommodate all of them. A first-class warrior may have ten or more wives living under his thatched roof. Imagine what arguments might arise if moth- ers-in-law had the power to in- terfere! BIG HEART Little Girl — Look at that kind man across the street. Mother What is he doing, dear? Little Girl --- He's sitting on the sidewalk, talking to a ba- nana peel, • SO? IT'S COMFORTABLE—While the modern "sling" chair may , be an abject for derision in many traditional homes, four-year- old Robin Klempuss finds R's mighty handy for a siesta in Ciudad Trojillo, Dominican Republic. Robin's position shows that youngsters can be as free -form as any chair. HRONICLES INGERFAJZM Cw¢ndoLire D. Ctarh¢ Last week eleven hundred' women, mostly farm women, took a brief holiday. Where did they go and what did they do?, They went to Toronto, no less, to attend the last Ontario Conven- tion of the year for the Women's Institutes of the Province held at the Royal York hotel. Many of the women had rooms at the hotel. In some cases -'two wo- men, previously completely un- known to each other, shared one room. It all added to the fun and to the "get acquainted" op- portunities for W.I. members with a cof,;nmon interest. Most of those ,who:.:were..registeeed ere'• deje gates. Some, like myself; were. there through choice — and without the obligation of taking back a report — unless you call this column a "report". Be that as it. may, it will certainly not, be a report in the ordinary sense of the word as I don't want to steal any delegate's thunder. So I'll just be satisfied with giving you my impressions and a few of the highlights. It must be fifteen years since I attended a W.I. Convention in . Toronto — not since the last re- distribution of district areas to convention centres, after which the district to which I belonged was given Guelph as its conven- tion area. This year I was far too busy baby-sitting to get to Guelph but when the Central Ontario branches were schedul- ed to meet in Toronto I thought, here's my chance — and I took it. - Actually, it makes little dif- ference which Convention you attend. You naturally meet the same Provincial officers and the subjects under discussion are common to the W.I. as a whole. Even the reports cover similar ground as every W.I. branch has the same standing committees. But yet there is an individualism among the delegates, partly be- cause the members come from widely scattered districts For this reason they learn a good deal from each other, just by chatting before meetings, or at meal -times, or in little groups gathered together' in one or other of the hotel bedrooms. In- troductions don't matter; the W.I. badge is a passport to friend- ship. Not only on the Conven- tion floor but also in restaurants and on the streets adjacent to the hotel. It is truly amazing the number of women you meet who know someone you know. Be- fore the first day is over you feel more than ever convinced that the W.I. is just one big, happy family, including all ages. races and creeds. But on with the show . . The first day was taken up with re- ports, all of them good, with a variety programme winding up the evening session, acting as a good social ice -breaker, as dele- gates sang, laughed, listened and applauded in unison. You rarely hear a critical or dissenting voice at a W.I. convention. Thrusday, after lunch in the banquet hall, one of the In- stitute's favourite speakers ad- dressed the delegates none other than Dr. Margaret Nix, from McGill University, Medical Vacuity. Dr, Nix has the ability to shake anyone out of the dol- drums. She has a charming, vivacious and completely femi- nine personality. Years ago we used to speak of bitter medicine being sugar-coated for palata- bility. Dr. Nix doesn't use sugar- coating. She takes the stark realities of life and puts them up in humourous wrappings. She makes you see the absurdity of treating everyday problems as major calamities. By just talking wittily and rationally she does more in half -an -hour to disperse, stress and tension than. could be accomplished by ad- minstering double doses of so- called ,tranquillizers. She sym bolizes a happy borne life as be- ing built on a foundation of love and understanding — not de- pendent on the number of gad- gets in the individual home. Another excellent speaker was Dr. Marion Hilliard who urged women to recognize -their own limitations — as all women do not have the same capacity for work and pleasure. "Not only fretting and worrying but some- times what gives you pleasure can lead to a state of exhaus- tion," warned Dr. Hilliard. I am sure most of the women left the lecture room with a better un- derstanding of themselves — the first requisite in learning to live with ourselves. Friday morning the closing address was given by Miss Ethel Chapman, well-known and loved by W.1, members from one end of Ontario to the other. Miss Chapman, by her sympathetic understanding of farm women and their problems has a way of penetrating to the things that • really matter. Recognising the practical side of farm life she shows us how to preserve the idealism of the past — the old principles that still stand for a "satisfying" hone — mentally, morally, physically and spiritu- ally, As to world tension Miss Chapman mentioned one clergy- man's reaction to Sputniks, "So what . . , isn't God still in con- trol of things?" Well, I don't know bow other people feel but that is my re- action too. 1 just can't work up any excitement over Sputnik at • all. Certainly none of the news- paper reports did anything to spoil my enjoyment of the con- vention.: Of course in this column I have only skimmed the sur- face so be sure you read all the details in Home and Country, especially if you are not at your next W.I. meeting .to hear a full report as given by your official delegate. athtub Killers John George Smith, who drowned his wives by suddenly seizing their feet while they were in the bath, publicized the sinister use of this ordinary piece of household equipment. But he was by no means the first to recognize the fatal use to which a bath could be put. The ancient Romans used to commit suicide by cutting their veins and relaxing in a warm bath till they died. In 1922, police looking for a missing woman broke into a shop in Regent's Park, London, and found her body, wrapped in a sheet, laid in an empty bath. She had been shot dead some days previously. Her 4, lover, locked in the fiat above the shop with her, shot himself as the police broke in. He had been eating his meals off a board laid across the bath. The method of Jdhn Haigh, who disposed of his victim's body in an acid bath, was anti- cipated in 1925 by a Frenchman who took a lonely villa at Aix. He ordered a bath and a large quantity of sulphuric acid to be delivered. Then a man whose life was heavily insured was in- vited to the villa. He was shot, his body placed in the bath, and later the resi- due, was tipped on to the gar- den. A ghastly threat was used by a German kidnapper in 1936. He snatched a small boy and sent a note to the father. The note stated that the boy would be trussed up and placed in an empty bath. The water would be turned on slowly while the ransom was being fetched. "If we get the money without any bother," said the note, "your son will only have had a bath. But if there is any delay, you will be responsible for his death." Fortunately, the youngster was traced by the police before the threat could be carried out, and soon afterwards his kidnap- per was arrested. Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. When is the double card for man and wife in good taste A. It is sent with wedding presents, with flowers to a Liner- ., al, uner°al, with gifts to high school col- lege graduates, or with any other giftt that comes from both. It is,, of. course, used also for formal visits. Q. Is it still considered neces- sary for eces--saryfor a man to ask permission to smoke when with a group o>Y women lie knows' do not smoke? Yes, this is still the courteous and thoughtful thing to do. Q. Does it make any difference► whether one sits down from the right or left side of the chair at the dinner table? A. No; whichever side offers the easiest and quickest -access ie- the one for you. Flower Planter Ut� SawcG V V "Flower" beauty for the walks of your home! Crochet this graceful planter in easy pine- apple design—as a lovely holder for artificial blossoms or leaves. Pattern 653: crochet direction* for planter 12x15 inches in heavy jiffy cotton. Quick to do. Send T)IIRTY-FIVI " CENTS (stamps canot be accepted—use postal note for safety) for this; pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New To- ronto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN ATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. Two FREE patterns as a gift to our readers—printed right in our 1957 Laura Wheeler Needle- craft Book. Dozens of other de- signs you'll want to order—easy fascinating handwork for your- self, your home, gifts, bazaar items. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book today! ISSUE 49 — 1957 4 "Try this delicious recipe" CHERRY -NW( SQUARES Ye cup all-purpose flour 2 tablespoons icing sugar Ye cup BENSON'S or CANADA Corn Starch V/3 cup butter or margarine 2 eggs, slightly beaten t/2 cup glace cherries, halved 1 cup brown sugar 1/2 cup chopped dates 1 cup chopped walnuts 1 tablespoon SENSON'S or CANADA Corn Starch 1 teaspoon almond extract SIFT together first three dry ingredients. CUT in or rub butter into dry ingredients. PRESS mixture into the bottom of an 8. -inch square pan. BAKE in slow oven (300°F•) 12 lo 15 minutes or until lightly browned. PLACE remaining ingredients in a bowl. MIX well; spread over cooked mixture. RETURN to oven and bake 35 minutes in a 325°F. oven. COOL; cut into squares. YIELD; 25 squares. For free folder of,other delicious recipes, write to: Jane Ashley, Home Service Department, THE CANADA STARCH COMPANY LIMITED P.O. Box 129, Montreal, P.Q.