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Zurich Herald, 1957-10-31, Page 6ANNE 1141RST . Prot rr QIDOWER'S IN-LAWS HESENT REMARRIAGE "Dear Anne Hirst: My wife died five years ago and she al- ways read your column, so now that I face a delicate situation I ask your advice. I have a son of seven, and his mother's par- ents have been raising hixn for me, Nearly a year ago I fell in love with a fine girl, and we plan to marry soon so the boy can have a real home. Here's the rub: "I took her to see my wife's family and they seemed to like her — but they vigorously op- pose my marrying again. Unfor- tunately, they have tried to in- fluence the boy, too. "When we do marry shall we take him to live with us right away, or wait a while? Or do you think it is my duty to re- nounce this sweet girl and let these older people have their way? UNEASY DAD" DON'T RUSH THINGS * It is not unusual that older e people resent anyone taking * their daughter's place in her ^' husband's home. They forget * that for him life must go on, 'n and especially where a child is * involved the satisfactory an- * swer is to provide a well-bal- ., anced home life for him. Now * you have this opportunity. I * think you should take it. The o boy's grandparents are natu- * rally loath t'o part with him, * but after all, they want what • is best for his future. • Your son should get ac- * quainted with your fiancee * now. I suggest you take him * to visit her on Saturdays or * Sundays, when you three can " have the day together. Plan * real outings that will appeal * to the boy, and he will come * to associate his future step- * mother with the happy times * you and she share with him. * Ali week long he will look for- * ward to these visits, and so * will be eager to come and live * with you when you return * from your honeymoon. * Then you will, of course, • see that he . visits his grand- • parents regularly. As they see * him contented in his new life, * they will give• credit to his * stepmother's influence. It us- * ually works out this 'way, and * I expect it will for you. * Don't worry, about them. It " is almost impossible to please * the whole family in' any mar- * riage, particularly a second * one. Your good fortune in win- * ning this fine girl brings your * son back to you again and o opens up a richer life than his * grandparents, with all their o love, can offer him. They will * grow reconciled to the idea and * realize he is where he belongs. * * MAY AND DECEMBER "Dear Anne Hirst: I am just 18, Shapely Sheath PRINTED PATTERN SIZES 122-20: 40 With this shapely sheathin your wardrobe, you'll never lave another "what -to -wear" worry! It's so smart, new -looking! Choose .faille, wool jersey, win- ter cotton .- fast, accurate sew- ing with our Printed Pattern,! Printed Pattern 4566: Misses', Sizes 12, .14, 16, 18,.20; 40, Size 16 takes 4 yards 39 -inch fabric. Printed directions on each pat- , tern part. Easier, accurate. Send lE'd1RTY CENTS (40¢) `stamps cannot be accepted, use postal not Thr safety) for this pattern. please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., Nero Toronto, Ont. QUEEN VISITS WAR MEMORIAL—THIS IS A GENERAL VIEW OF QUEEN ELIZABETH'S WREATH - LAYING CEREMONY AT THE WAR MEMORIAL" IN OTTAWA. RONICL 1NGERFAR ewenttoline, 2: Cla ole ,e Such a wonderful Thanks- giving weekend — and so much for which to be thankful . beautiful w e th e r, glorious colours, and the visit of our Queen and her husband, Prince •. Phillip. I am sure nearly every- one will be following the Reysl couple by radio andtelevision as they make their various ap- pearances. We who remember and for three.- years I've been going with a man 4F. We have exciting times together, going -al- ways where I choose, and in other ways, too, he• is most con- sderate. I think it will be won- derful to' marry him, ' which . he has 'begged me to do more than once. "I've been told- by three .friends that he has a ,wife, but he de- nies it. Even my Dad feels I would regret marrying him. I have always heard that older men are kinder husbands than young ones, and anyhow, I can't get interested in boys my age. "Yet lately I have felt so un- certain!, I couldn't marry any- body else; . if I couldn't have his love I'd be miserable. RITA" * I hope your will not consider * marrying " a man, more than * twice your age. While he is • dating you heis generous and * thoughtful, but after marriage * he may find a quieter life more o to his taste. In 20 years you • will , be in your prime, while * old age will be creeping up on". * him and he willnot enjoy the * recreations that delight you. * Why have your parents al- * lowed you to date a man of * his age for so long, with no * other boy friends on your list? • I'm afraid you .have been so * dazzled by his sophistication * that your mind is closed to * anyone younger. Your present * uncertainty .is a hopeful sign; * subconsciously you sense how * unfit would be such a union " and your common sense cries • out against it. * His undetermined marital * status is not to his credit. How * did the rumor get started? * Your father can find out, and * 1 hope he will before more * time passes. I urge you to heed. * his, warning, 'and begin now to '•' encourage younger men. Men who read this column ap- preciate Anne Hirst's warm un- derstanding and:• practical solu- tions of their problems. Write her' frankly, addressing her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth 'St., New Toronto, "This cat;. is. absolutely the last word, sir," said 'the. salesman to a prospective uiustomer. "Well, that should suit illy wife," was the reply, "Ifthere's anything she loves, it's the:last word." "Was it a good party you went to last night?" "It was great—while I lasted." "(Salt * 44 195°1 the baby princess, the little girl, Lillibet,'the young bride — nov; find in our • gracious • Queen'.; combination of all the proms- ing attributes' thataccompanued her. period ' of growing up. Yes, we watch her, but often with mixed emotions .glad 'that ,She is- our !Queen,. yet knowing ..flat•_ • but for.' unforeseen circumstanreg' (the.abdication of King>Edward VIII)'our. Queen might even now be leading the ; com rk a- tively free, and much ease'Ye of a royal .princess. We' watched 'on our television set the ;pageantry of the parade from Rideau Hall to the Parna- ment `Buildings and then '•the opening of Parliament. Arid ;we, loved every detail of it. The Queen .seemedmore relaxed than when we had, seen her on any.. previous occasion. Her deli- very' of the Speech from .the Throne was really wonderful. To read faultlessly for half an hour must be 'quite -an ordeal, even for .a Queen. Well, . I hardly need say -any more •about this great and memorable occasion — the first , time in Canada's • history that -a reigning monarchhas opened the Canadian Parliament. P r im.e Minister Diefenbaker, • as head of the Federal Government, must be a proud and happy man. And now • to come back to events nearer home.We have had our own special reason for remembering this as a Happy.. Thanksgiving weekend. 0 u r daughter presented us with an- other grandson — a brother for David and Edward. We would• , have welcomed a little .girl but by the time the baby .arrived we were not caring whether it' was .a boy or a girl — just 'so long as it wasn't. both! Twins wouldn't have surprised' us in the least especially as the arrival was ten days .over -due: This fel- low weighed ' in at a lusty nine . and a half • pounds. 'Dee says he looks like a little Indian — chub- . by face, flat nose, black hair,''.' inclined to curl. Not a very flat- tering . description but then how •often Can newly born' babies' be called attractive? I think . his. name 'will be Gerald Roe— after the • family names of his two grandmothers.' No doubt his everyday name.will be Gerry -- or or Jerry = whichever way they decide to spell it. David •is, al- ready talking very proudly about cis new M`oth'er.leddie, of course, is .unewre e that he is no longer the baby of the family. Which' is just, as well as .he had shed many of his baby ways since. he . came here and is becoming more 'adventurous with each passing day. If my hair were net already white it 'soon would• be. Yesterday I" found hien bugle ly en.ga 4.0 hi an endeavour th,, plug tri the space heater, later on it was the floor lamp. He has alsofound.dut how.to open the • door leading to the basement` and a few days ago he pulled a fresh cherry pie on to the. kitchen floor. So we have our moments! We also find plenty s z^ SMART SACK:- Paris designers have succeeded in changing the 'shape of fashionable wo- men with this year's "sack" dresses. So Myrtice Hunsucker, 'carrying the theory to its logical end, shows that a'printed cotton seed sack can—with a nide • imagination—be turned into a sack. of work to do down in the laun- dry.I sey "we" , betiause Partner ;helps with the 'job. I do the washing and ,rinsing; ' Partner empties ,.the' tubs and 'hangs the washing on the line. He says he never expected the day would ever come when he would be hanging out diapers again. Which goes to show you never can tell. However,` the end is in :sight. By this .time next week I suppose Dee will be 'home and be look,- ing forward to having her three' boys together', again. Until then there is no chance' of my'seeing. the new baby as only fathers ' are allowed 'to visit •the hospital because of the flu epidemic.. We shall miss our ,wee Eddie' when he goes 'home —-but'one • thing is certain, We ought to be able ;to get a, little more, work done than We have done the last few weeks. A little more visiting too. :Yesterday Bob . and • Jay carnes along to take • us for a drive to see -the glorious colour of the.. leaves uparound the Caledon :Hills:- I:couldn't see any pleasure: in taking 'Eddie along so I persuaded • Partner to go and I stayed home: Actually, it was ,the line of least resistance. Trying- to . 'control: a restless, squirming :youngster, it} ,a car already full isn't: my 'idea ofd fun.. y3aby Ross: has,the;bedfroin hie buggy on the back seat. and that takas up a lotof, rooiri: Well, X. wonder haw many folk still have flowers in the garden. We have an absolute' mass of golden. nasturtiums arid guinea gold marigolds. The . geraniums .arid.' petunias are : still. very aaiourful . the. Partner has been Very busy digging up a patch of land for next year's garden • ' and Eddie loves to sit in the middle of - it. We missed having fresh' vegetables this summer. Maybe it is just as cheap to buy what you want but it isn't nearly se "satisfactory. What do ' you ..think? Giant Pees And Even Bigger Cakes Centre of attraction at a re- cent Leicestershire village fair was the biggest pork pie ever made — a monster three feet high and six feet in diameter. Two huge pigs were needed to fill it and more than 1,000 por- tions were cut from it and sold on souvenir plates to celebrate the 700th anniversary of the granting of a charter for the fair. English cooks have achieved some marvellous feats of cooking at various times. The Leicester- shire pork pie was tiny com- pared with the giant pie pro- duced by the people of Denby .Dale, Yorkshire, seventy years ago — on August 24th, 1887 -- to commemorate Queen Vic- toria's Jubilee. It weighed two and a' half tons. It contained 1,850 Ib. of beef, twenty-one ducks, 100 small birds, forty-two fowls, forty pigeons, sixty-four rabbits and half a ton -of flour for the great crust.' Ten horses were used to pull the pie to -the feasting arena,and hundreds looked forward to a meal, but they were disappoint- ed. By the time .the pie could be cut it was a' trifle "high" and only a few people dared sample it. , Colossal cakes? The record probably goes to a Miami, : Flori- da baker, who a few years ago made a cake which contained the .whites of 14,000 eggs, 3,5Q0 whole' eggs, 2,280 pints of milk, 1,400 lb. of flour, 1,066• lb. of fats and but- ter, 3,490 lb. of sugar, 90 lb. of bakingpowder an'd 65 lb. of'salt. Imagine a • sausage 3,000 ft. long. -That's more than half a mile. This fantastic "banger" was carried through the streets of • Koenigsberg,' . Germany, in 1601, by the 103 butchers who had undertaken to make . it as "a labour of love." ' An outsize in omelettes was cooked ' in New Jersey, three years ago. It contained. 2,100 eggs and . was fried beautifully by infra -red rays in ten minutes in ' a frying -pan measuring 13 ft. across. - The reason for this astonishing 'culinary effort? It was a publi- city stunt' to persuade people to eat, More eggs. It was successful, too, for the sales of eggs soared for weeks afterwards. lifridern Etiquette , by Roberta Lee Q, What should one say to people who have just had a death in their family? • A. Upon the occasion of death, some expression of sympathy is always appreciated by the fami- ly, but the less elaborate thr expression the better. "I am sor- ry. Is there anything I can do?" is sincere , and sufficient. Q. I am always uncertain about the lettuce . on which a salad is served. Is it really prop- er to eat this? A. Since . the lettuce is as much a part of the salad as any other of the• ingredients, it is quite proper to eat it. Q. What jewels, if any, should a bride wear for her wedding ceremony? A. Only the - gift from heir bridegroom. Q. Is it ever proper to use the knife for cutting the salad when dining? A. If it .can; be done easily, use just the fork. However, sometimes lettuce can be tough to manage with the fork, and in that case, it is quite all right to use the - knife. Q. How does a married wom- an sign her name to a telegram asking for hotel' reservations? A. She must include the "Mrs." with her name, so that the room clerk will know how to address her when she arrives. Welc ;t me Gilt ° v l• ru'sP,4ke V lI kete24 Be prepared for Christmas and all its joyousness. Make thin apron colorful — quickly em- broidered. Makes most welcome gift. Pattern 803: transfer of Santa head for 17 -inch apron; direc- tions. Done in white and red cotton material. Start early! Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, , use', postal note • for safety) for this pattern to LAURA WHEELER, Box' 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. Two FREE Patterns as a gift • to our readers — printed right in our 1957 Laura Wheeler Needle- craft Book..Dozens of other de- signs you'll want to rder — easy fascinating handwork for your- self, - your home, 'gifts, ' bazaar items. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book today! NQVI/ THEY'LL GO THEIR SEPARATE WAYS—Pamela (left) and Patricia Schatz, Siamese twins from Long Island, strike a similar pose after they were successfully separated in Philadelphia. The twins were born September 26,. joined at the pelvis.