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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1957-08-08, Page 6A .. n _ ... , .. •N�yuwwwwwewwvManw. . 1PST /'siw�1' "How many other daughters must give up their lives to take are of their mothers, Anne irst, while the boys in the Family sail off into matrimony end leave the girls holding the bag? They only think it is her sluts." So exclaims one young woman who is growing weary carrying the load alone. "My mother is perfectly healthy and could live alone safely and pleasantly, if she would. My brothers insist I assume re- ponsibility for her just because have not married—and how Could I when my mother has discouraged every man I've met and proclaimed far and wide that tee could never separate because `Mary needs me so!' " Mary needs filer like she needs a hole in the head, "My mother, instead of being grateful for all the sacrifices I have made, still tells me what to wear, where I can go, what I ehould say to my boss—and then smugly folds her hands and • says, 'I don't know what Mary would do without me!' "If these brothers of mine would visit Mother now and then, or even write or telephone, I could forgive a lot. But they are too wrapped up in their jobs and their families; they are lavish with their advice, but they never think of the lonely 'existence I must lead. "I know you can't change these inequalities, but perhaps you can Snake one mother (mine) realize what I am relinquishing for her. If I and other burdened women could feel that what we do for Parents is not in vain, it would help; but all we get is a pout- ing old woman who wears her feelings on her sleeve and takes umbrage every time the girl goes out for a walk We old -maid daughters don't want to grow cynical, or sound that way, but aren't we entitled to a single 'crumb of appreciation?" '° TO MARY: Your plaint de- * serves the space I am giving * it. It expresses the dilemma "' of hundreds of thousands of "old -maid daughters" who are ,. being cheated of love and mar- '" riage because their selfish " mothers absorb all their ener- • 9 gies, and apparently regard it * as a criminal offense if the * girl makes one move toward * a life of her own. And be- * cause her sons go their way, a' heedless of the circumscribed * routine their sister must follow, Slim and Smart PRINTED PATTERN This PRINTED Pattern is a wonderfully becoming style for half-size figures! Simple dress to wear for sunning; cover with the little bolero. A silhouette that's neat, smart, slimming! Printed Pattern 4682: Half Sizes 141/2, 161/2, 181/2, 201/2, 221/2, 241/2. Size 161/2 dress requires 23 yards 35 -inch fabric; bolero 11/2 yards, Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, faster, accurate. Send FIFTY CENTS (504) (stamps cannot be accepted, us@ postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER,. . Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. ISSUE 32 -- 1957 * the burden is heavier. Even x' in her own home she has no freedom; her mother directs * her comings and goings as * though she were twelve, exer- * cising her austere authority, antagonizing the girl's friends * and always any possible suitors. * If you expect ever to escape * from this treadmill, you will * have to assert yourself. Call * a council of your brothers and • tell them you intend to leave * soon on the vaaction you de- * scribe, and that in your ab- sence you expect them either * to invite their mother to their "' homes or keep in daily touch * with hen Also that on your " return, other arrangements * must be made to share her re - x sponsibility. If you are firm, they will have to change their selfish ways—for what would * they do if you left home for " good and moved in with a " girl friend? -. " I do salute you and all other * young women in such an ex- * asperating situation, not with a "crumb" of appreciation but * with the whole loaf. * * * DON'T MARRY IIIM "Dear Anne Hirst: I am really in a spot. I don't go regularly with any boy, and now a man in his late 30's is in' love with me. I don't respond at all, but my mother and father keep tell- ing me P11 be foolish to turn him down. "I don't even feel at home with him, Anne Hirst. He is kind, however, and takes me anywhere I want to go . , . should I take the chance?" AFRAID, * Your parents, like all ,others, * want a secure future for their. * children. They are hoping you * will fall in love with the man, * but if you don't I am sure they * will not want you to marry * him. Don't say Yes to any man * you don't love, no matter what * material advantages he can * offer. The fact that you are not * at home with this one is proof * enough to me that you could * never find any satisfaction in marriage, Man and wife * should first be real compan- " ions; the fact that he is so * much older and interested in '' things that do not appeal "to * you makes you feel like a * stranger to him. That, you * won't get over. * Go about with boys and girls * your own age, and :through " them you will meet other * young people. This association, s more than any argument, will * soon prove how foolish you 'k would be even to consider * marrying this older man. * * * If you have carried parental responsibilities beyond reason- able limits, snake a break for a better arrangement before you are too old to care. Anne Hirst is sympathetic, so write her frankly. Address her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth Street, New Toronto, Ont, MODERN ETIQUETTE Q. What is considered the most proper way to eat a banana at the table? A. Peel the banana into a plate, then eat it with a fork. One of the major attractions at the Quebec Winter Carnival is the unique ice canoe race across two miles of ice floes. "PERFECT WIFE" --Marjorie Lord revives the "perfect wife" type as Danny Thomas' Spouse in his television series, Marjorie says she was "too nice" for Hollywood parts of a few years ago. She's riding high naw with a five-year contract a* Don- ny's TV mate. • FAITH QR FIGHT? — This cake Before Kathryn Ann Kelly ancd at their wedding reception, • tJ other by placing their ring h' But what's that at left? A clo' Kathryn's other hand. Perh;. Only. George will know. rtting scene is misleading. Just Qrge P. McCarthy cut the cake pledged their faith in each over the wedding flowers. ok'reveals a fighting fist on aas just a reflex action. Cauz,n.clo Summer storms have made the news in so many localities dur- ing the last week. In this part of Ontario we had high winds, heavy rain, heat and humidity — nothing too serious, except for the farmers. Lucky are the farmers who were able to get any dry hay stacked away in. the barn. There are plenty who didn't. Drive along the country roads and you see field after•' field with bales piled in threes and fours, or in singles just where the machine had dropped_'=' them. Wheat is beginning to turn so now farmers will be -pay ing that damaging storms not flatten the crops aid future operations still more 4,- ficult. How can anyone expec e P. Ctevoke , ingly slept most of the afternoon. The houses were most interest- ing but -what struck me was the -tact that there are many similar Fold houses throughout Ontario and nobody notices thein. It takes owners with imagination to furn- ish and preserve them in such a way to make them comfortable to Iive in and attractive to the public. The first post office at Oakville is now a small but most fascinating museum, not crem- e pied with antiques, the three rooms being furnished only with he essentials for pioneer living itch as the early settlers would ye deemed necessary. A huge fireplace complete complete with a and cauldron. (We had the thing at Ginger Farm but fireplace was boarded up.) A hand-hewn table, four-poster bed, washstand and iron -stone 4 toilet set and of course a num- ' ber of small furnishings of vari- ous kinds. farmers to be other than tree ther-conscious? Always they have to tope for the best — but prepare for the worst. One good thing happened last week — eggs advanced in price by six cents a dozen. The poultryman will make his for- tune yet! But not if he depends on us. We use less than a dozen eggs a week — that is, when we are alone. I suppose we have been surfeited with eggs in the past and would rather have other food for awhile. For years our standby has been eggs — devill- ed, poached, boiled, scrambled and sometimes fried. But no mat- ter how they were cooked they were still eggs — and of course excellent food at that. "What is there that the vintners buy one half so precious as the wares they sell?" That is a good ques- tion and apples to all kinds of farm produce. Perhaps in the past we did not make enough use of the stuff we grew or raised. And now we can't . . , this year we haven't even got a vegetable garden. We were so busy getting settled there wasn't time to get the ground into con- dition to make garden. Next year we hope to do better. Last Monday .we went to'Mil- '! ton to take part in the final Centennial Parade. We hope everyone enjoyed it as much as. we did. The weather was per- fect and most people seemed to be in a gala mood. Our Institute float was in the form of old- time activities on the farm, A quilting patty was in progress with tour members dressed in bodice -tight full length dresses, very busily quilting. At the four corners of the float one house- wife was making bread, another churning, a gay young thing was 7 occupied with an old-fashioned gramaphone and I, as a black - bonneted grandmother, sat in a rocking chair with my knitting and rocking a baby in an old wooden cradle. As we passed along the streets I could see Dee pointing me out to David. Of course he didn't recognize "Gran" in her get-up. When I waved and I saw bewilderment followed by recognition, and finally his face broke into a smile. Yesterday Joy and I toured the historichouses open to the public during Oakville's Cen- tennial. Partner came along too but he took on a baby-sitting job with Ross while Joy and 1 went gadding.ARosal very obli,g- In one privately owned house that we visited, the owner point- ed out the peculiar glass in the windows. At Ginger Farm we had that same type of glass and how I used to bless it! It was full of streaks, bubbles and other imperfections. You couldn't see through it properly and after it was cleaned it never looked •clean, I didn't realize it should Bird Watch I n The Sh _ res I f The Dee In one of his most famous similes Horner compares the movements of the armies before Troy to the flight of wildfowl, 'geese and cranes and long - necked swans' in the storied marsh which has given its name to a continent. "Hither and thither they fly, rejoicing in their wings,' so he describes them; and so the watcher will echo his words when the Knots come streaming to the sandbanks or the Starlings weave patterns oven their roosting -places in the dusk. Beautiful beyond description are the swiftly changing' spirals when the light now catches a gleam of wings and now sets the whole array in silhouette. Mar- vellous beyond its beauty is the dense formation of the squa- drons, their perfect precision and spacing, and the spontane- ous rhythm of their unity; no bird leads; no signal bids them turn; and yet, as if a single will animated them all, a thousand wings beat together. Such displays are most fami- liar of an evening, and at a sleeping -place. One of my earli- est memories is of a big starling - roost in a tiny copse behind the cottage upon the Dee in which we spent our Augusts. Night by night when the sun was setting in splendour behind Hilbre, my father and I would stroll along the old sea-wall, and turning away from the glory of the heavens, gaze at the birds as they rose from the branches in honour of the passing day. The ritual never varied. Long before sundown the flocks would begin to assemble; small bunches of birds from near at hand; then battalions from further afield; then parties of stragglers: at last the boughs were crowded with a clamorous company. Then came the flight a com- plicated manoeuvring over and around the copse, winding in and out in a maze of fluid circles, culminating in a 'grand chain' when the air was dark with a storm of living flakes. Then as darkness closed in, a sudden settlement, a final even - have been treasured and dis- played as an antique! Well, I guess centennial cele- brations are over once and for all for districts a hundred years old. What will happen before each of the celebrating districts reaches its two -hundredth birth- day? Wonder is all we can do — certainly we . won't be around to see it. We can only be glad we were able to celebrate the first century birthday, Now I must see if our visitors have been able to entertain themselves while I have been writing. Sister Kathleen and nephew Klemi are visiting us for a week or two before moving on to make a new home for themselves in Peterborough where Klemi has been appoint- ed music instructor at the Col- legiate. Another reason for stop- ping — a man is pounding at the back of the house installing screen doors. Fresh air without, flies . . , that will be wonder- ful! song, sounding more like mob oratory than psalm, and at last silence and sleep.—From "Mus- ings and Memories," by Charles E. Raven. AIR -BORNE SPORT One of the most fascinating sports tor those who have the courage to tackle it, says the Book of Knowledge, is riding on a glider, or sail -plane, the high altitude pressure waves that sometimes form over moun- tains. Sail -plane flights have been made up to 30,000 feet. At these altitudes the pilot must have oxygen equipment and par- ticularly warm clothes, and the cockpit of his plane must be in- sulated.' Devotees of this sport claim that it is a uniquely weird' and thrilling experience to fly silently •five miles up on the crest of a huge, invisible wave of air. His Favorite tei £AWLCc Vslege Here's just the chair -set to ap- peal to a masculine heart—fora his study or his favoritd chair/ Filet crochet in a nandsome de- sign. Many uses for this et cchet: as scarf ends too. Pattern 536 has charts, directions for chair -set 121/2 x 16 inches in No, 50 cot- . ton. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this pattern to LAURA WHEELER, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAIVIE and ADDRESS. Two FREE Patterns as a gift to our readers—printed right in our NEW Laura Wheeler Need- lecraft Book for 19571 Dozens of other new designs you'll want to order—easy, fascinating hand- work for yourself, your home. Be sere to send 25 cents for your copy of this book now •-- don't miss itl orn Starch makes creamier dressings" SOILED SALAD DRESSING 3 tablespoons BENSON'S or CANADA Corn Starch 1 tablespoon sugm�stard 2 teaspoons dry 2 teaspoons salt Ye teaspoon pepper (optional) Y2 teaspoon paprika VIA cups milk 1 egg, /a cupar 1/3 cup MAZOLA Salad Oil COMBINE BENSON'S or CANADA Corn Starch, sugar and seasonings In saucepan with a sural, amount of milk to make a smooth paste. ,ADD remaining milk, mixing well. COOK,• over low heat, stirring constantly, until mix- ture thickens and boils. COOK 2 minutes, stirring constantly. REMOVE from heat; gradually add to beaten egg. RETURN to heat; cook 2 minutes, stirring Constantly. REMOVE from heat; gradually beat In vinegar using rotary beater. ADD MAZOLA Sala,/ Oil, beating until smooth; cool, YIELD: 2 cups. NOTE; beat slowly far ssi thing rotary beater unBJ! smooth end creamy Por free folder of other delicious recipes, Write to; .lane Ashley, Home Service Department, THE CANADA STARCH COMPANY LIMITED P.O. Box t 29, Montreal, P.Q.