HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1957-07-25, Page 2"Dear Anne Hirst: Nursing
My ill mother brought on a
breakdown six years ago, and
when I recovereed I moved to
my married brother's home,
where I improved. I would have
stayed but his wife made it
intolerable — to get rid of 'me,
she confessed later. I wanted
her to like me, so the worse she
became the kinder I was. I
worked part-time, paid my
board, helped with the house-
work and the chldren, and did
my own cooking and laundry,
but I was so miserable my
mother made me consult a psy-
chiatrist, which made me more
despondent.
"Now I am back just where I
started, physically, emotionally
and spiritually ill. My faith in
everybody is failing; I see
others, selfish and cruel, who
are healthy and contented. I've
done my best to be good and
kind, and all I've got is poor
health and misery and an ab-
normal life.
"I know you cannot have any
solution but I've got to tell
somebody, and I'll certainly ap-
preciate any comment you may
print.
DESPONDENT"
FAITH HELPS
* It is hard to believe that
* you, an intelligent young wo-
* man pursued by trouble and
* confusion, will let yourself be
* defeated by circumstances you
* cannot change. Where is your
* self-respect? Everything de-
* pends on your will to over-
* come these supersensitive
* tendencies that plague you.
* First, in my opinion, you need
* a guiding hand to point the
* first few steps ahead, and it
* is likely that is all you re-
* quire just now.
;1< I urge you to talk this over
* frankly with your minister.
* He will show you how to re-
* gain self-confidence, and give
* you positive assurance that
* we are not goven burdens we
* are too weak to carry. Regu-
* lar church attendance and a
* firm belief in the power of
'f' prayer have brought peace to
• many a troubled soul and re-
* newed their faith in them-
'(' selves and all mankind. With
• your minister's help, it. should
* do the same for you.
He can suggest activities
- within the church that will
e, lift you out of your sea of
a' troubles and open your eyes
» to the importance of being a
st friend. You will meet some
* people worse off than you; in
• helping them you will forget
your own difficulties and taste
* the joy of service and the
1* satisfaction of feeling needed.
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* As to your sister-in-law, she
e is as she is. Certain tempera -
meats can never assimilate
* with opposites, and it is the
* victim who makes allowances
* and suffers without bitterness.
* You have made encouraging
* progress toward that goal and
* if you build an armor about
• yourself her slurs will lose
* their .sting.
* Perhaps your mother (or
* your minister) knows some
• nearby family who will wel-
* come you as a paying guest;
* there you could know a nor-
mal, perhaps affectionate,
family life and should make
long strides toward a happier
outlook on the world you live
in. The idea may repel you
at the moment, but it is worth
* considering.
* , Meantime, seek help through
* faith. Cultivate an interest in
* other people. If you will your-
* self to, you can dig yourself
* out of this self-pitying slough
* into a useful and richer life.
* My earnest good wishes.
* * *
WISE MOTHER
"Dear Anne Hirst: I am 16,
and going with a boy my age.
Rumors have been going around
high school just before, it closed
that he and some others have
been visiting the house of a girl
whoeverybody talks. about.
"I asked him about it and he
denied it. He has never told me
anything but the truth. His fam-
ily are nice people and he has
always behaved himself with
me.
"Mother wants me to break
up immediately and I can't
bring myself to do it because I
like him too much. What do you
say?
CONFUSED"
* Unless the rumors have
* been proved false, you should
* stop seeing the boy promptly.
* Where smoke is seen there's
* usually a fire nearby, and no
* nice girl can continue to as-
* sociate with a lad implicated
* with a girl of no repitition.
* with a girl of no reputation.
* if she does, her own good,
* name suffers.
* If your friend is innocent he
* should find a way to reassure
* your mother. Until he does,
I agree with her.
* I understand why you be-
* lieve in him, but you are too
* inexperienced in the ways of
* the worldto realize that. the
* lad may be the perfect gentle-
* man with you, yet sow his
* wild oats with a cheap girl.
* Your mother knows this, and
* would protect you from gos-
* sip.
* It is always shocking to
* learn that someone 'we like
* erred. but if the boy is not
* guilty, why was his name in-
cluded?
* * *
When life and love have let
you down, turn for comfort to
that understanding unseen
friend, Anne Hirst. Her sym-
pathy and wisdom will throw
their light on your darkened
path and help guide you toward
peace. Address her at Box 1, 123
Eighteenth St., New Toronto.
One Year rf Life
Spent 0 'hone
When you make a 'phone call
you're REALLY moving . .
around 186,000 miles per second
in fact, at least, that's the speed
your voice is travelling, And
furthermore, you're probably go-
ing to spend a whole year out of
your life on that telephone .. .
about 8,760 hours. Staggering?
Not when you think how many
hours it saves you, You can be
an armchair shopper . , , call the
folks miles away . , . chat with
friends,the other side of town
reah the doctor, police, fire
department ... all through the
magic of your telephone.
Dental bills in Canada run
over '70 million dollars a year.
There is only one dentist to
every 3,000 Canadians. Fluorida-
tion of communal water • supplies
has reduced tooth decay by as
much as • 69 per cent in some
areas. Fluoridation has been re-
commended :,by leading authori-
ties, but has been blocked by
misinformed people.
SALLY'S SALLIES
*"Which of us will propose
first, darling?"
HE WON'T 'SURRENDER - Bill "Patchy" Cook, 73, comes to the
door of an abandoned Army pillbox at Thetford, England', to
receive a gift of milk from neighbors. The•old ge^itleman keeps
the home fires burning in, his unique diggings rather than
give up independence for_ security of an old folks' home.
Alec, et
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Locally, the big news this week
is centred around centennials-?
Centennials at Milton and at;
Oakville—in both of which wee°
are slightly involved. We didtjt'
get to the official opening :of.;:
either but on Saturday we went
to Milton and saw the big par-,
ade. The rest of our family wae,
there including our three grandee
sons. It was really a wonder,.
parade with floats and ant-ku;
vehicles, bands, Indians fro
Brantford Reserve; war
ans, guides, scouts, fire briga
town council, 4-H Clubs, and, of.
course, the inevitable Beauty
Queen. Usually one parade is
much like another but there
seemed to be something a little
different about this one — it's''`'.
showed more imagination and
ingenuity than. most. For in-
stance, there was an old demo;
crat drawn by a team of mules.'`
Where they got them from 1:
don't know for mules these days
are few and far between—that is,
the four -footed variety; the two-
legged type are not quite so
scarce. Probably the young
people had never seen a demo-
crat but in the old days it was
the favorite conveyance . for
taking the family to church.
There was a genuine old stage
coach that had already ..been
touring various towns, cities` and
villages advertising the Milton
Centennial. Its passengers were
dressed in 19th century costumes
and really looked the part.
There was also a covered wag-
on, complete with pioneer sett-
lers and their children just as
they must have appeared a hun-
dred years ago. Possibly a i'w
details were not quite perfect
hut the effect was the same.
There were genuine old -type fire
reels followed by others compar-
able to the changing years.
It took about an hour for the
entire parade to pass the spot
where we were standing so that
is surely an indication of its size
and length. There were, of
course, a 'number of clowns and
I am beginning wonder if clowns
are such a good idea—Some of
our former neighbors were with
us, among them a five-year-old
girl. Mary is absolutely terri-
fied of clowns. At one Santa
Claus parade a clown came up
and took her hand and she was
almost petrified. This time di-
rectly she saw clowns on the
road she started to scream and
ran off and,hid behind a car.
There she styed throughout the
parade. She just wouldn't come
near the road again. David wasn't'
too happ4 about the clowns eith-
er but he stood his ground.
Plenty of other children I no-
ticed were more or less scared
too so I am wondering if some-
thing couldn't be done to change
the situation, Couldn't they be
required to stay in the middle of
the road where their entice
would probably amuse but not
frighten the children. It is .the
close approach of the clowne
that scares the little ones./ felt
and sorry for Mary, .mussing all
the fun because of her fear of
the clown*.
Before we watched the parade
we went up to Ginger Farm and
found the house occupied by a
young couple with four small
children. They had moved in
only the day before so of course
they were only half unpacked.
But, oh dear, the things that
happen when a place is left un-
occupied. Plants and shrubs had
been lifted and taken away. And,
Ln spite of the fact that the
'lntpuse had been boarded up, the
ipata '•_ancl parts of the water
essure system had been taken
away. And yet, in all the time
we were living there, we could
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ISSUE 30 - 1057
French { {' llgh Fashion Creator
Really Puts On e Chien
achieved his dream 24 years
later.
From the day of its opening
the Paris house flourished, even
through the war years. Today he
employs some 350 workgirls, 20
saleswomen and 6 mannequins.
The world's best -dressed women
and the most important Ameri-
can and European buyers have
passed through his salons where
the decorations have scarcely
changed in 20 years.
It has been said that a woman
does not go to the house of
Balenciaga just to buy clothes.
She is likened to a priestess who
takes part in a sacred rite. And
those who come to see his col-
lection out of curiosity are soon
discouraged by the indifferent,
to say distant attitude of his
staff.
Balenciaga creates primarily
for the carriage trade, ignores
current trends. Every year sil-
houettes are launched which lik-
en women to insects,- plants,
flowers or letters of the alpha- ,
tricks so popular with Christian'
to emphasize their personality.
Dior. His aim is to clothe women
bet. Balenciaga disdains these
This is probably one of the rea-
sons why he chooses mannequins
who, when not frankly ugly, are
definitely impersonal. They stalk
through the long, narrow salons
almost "at the double" and make
one think of Amazons who must
have parked their javelins just
behind the silk curtain through
which they appear.
This season like every season
it is anybody's guess what he
will do with waistlines and hem -
set the former where it normally
lines for fall and winter. As,
matter of record, he has neer
should be—but always a few
inches above or below. As for
hemlines,. he plays with them
like a cat with a mouse. Last
season he startled observers by
showing several skirts which just
barely covered the knees.
"Fashion should never be
static," declares Balenciaga. "TD
create you must be something el
an architect—for proportions—a
painter—for color range—with a
little of the poet and the
musician to visualize a woman
when she walks, moves or
dances."
Who are the women who buy
Balenciaga? Not necessarily only.
millionaires' wives. Many fash-
ion -conscious women consider It
a sound investment to buy one
suit or one evening dress, know-
ing that it will be in fashion for
at least two. if not three years.
Besides the timeless quality
there as also the assurance of
perfect execution.
The apostle of simplicity—al-
though he says that a simple
dress can look positively vulgar
on a woman if it is not her style
—lets his imagination run riot
in some' of his evening gowns.
It is here that the Spanish back-
ground emerges in dramatic
"infanta" gowns or dresses that
might have stepped down from
a Goya painting. Balenciaga is
the one man who can impart a
sort of glow to a dead -black
dress.
Only Balenciaga can afford to
show the extravagant, often ri-
diculous and defintely unbecom-
ing hats which accompany his
models and which he seems to
have created with his tongue in
his chek. But here again, the
probability is that the towering
flower pots, lampshades, space
helmets or "circus" headpieces
with waving feathers or abstract
bits of nonsense will be found
the following season to have in-
fluenced the thinking of Parisian
modistes.
PARIS—(NEA)—Twenty years
ago a 40 -year-old Spaniard,
Cristobal Balenciaga, put up his
shingle in the swanky Avenue
George V and went into the High
Fashion business. Today Bal-
enciaga is considered by most
people in the business as the
greatest creator of women's
fashions in history.
He has also been called the
"designers' designer" for the
very good reason that most of
the silhouettes and trends he has
launched have influenced the
world of fashion.
This he has accomplished with
practically no publicity. He hap-
pens not to believe in its power.
Last year he decided that fashion
writers would not be allowed to
see his collection until four
weeks after he had shown to the
buyers. People held their breath
and wondered whether the man
was big enough to be so inde-
pendent. Balenciaga is still in
business as Paris prepares for
another opening.
He was born in a fishing vil-
lage called Guetaria, near San
Sebastian. His father was a sea
captain, his mother a dress-
maker. She worked for some of
the ladies of the Spanish court
who spent the summer in the
then fashinable resort.
At 10 he created his first model
— a coat for his dog, complete
with set-in sleeves. He learned
his first lesson in the "archi-
tecture" of dress when the pup
ran off and the garment burst
at all the seams.
But both papa and mama
agreed thein son was a born
dressmaker and at 14 they sent
him to Barcelona as apprentice
to a fashionable tailor.
Two years later he had man-
aged to save the third-class fare
to Paris. He decided then that
one day he would have a fashion
house of his own in Paris. He
be away all day, leaving the
place unlocked and nothing was
ever touched or stolen.
We were glad to find someone
in the house because they have
already adopted Joe. Poor Black
Joe was a problem. He was such
a nervous cat we knew he would
never settle down in new sur-
roundings so we left him to his
old haunts but went up once a
week to take him food, which,
incidentally, he never seemed to
want. He was fat and in good
condition but we thought it
would finally be necessary to
have him mercifully put to sleep
before the cold weather came
around again. Now we don't need
to worry. The family has a cat
and Joe has a family.
On Sunday we went to Oak-
ville for the day and Bob and
family took us to see the unveil-
ing of an addition to the Ceno-
taph and the ceremonial parade
of seven bands, headed by the
Lorne Scots with their kilts and
bagpipes, with the usual follow-
ing of veterans and others. That
is something we really enjoy, al-
though it makes one's heart ache
to see the brave showing the
"vets" put on, particularly the
"old sweats" . of World War I,
some of them limping and shuff-
ling and doing their best to hide
it, trying to keep step with the
military music — still defenders
of the Commonwealth at heart,
brave testimony to the fact that
"old soldiers never die."
Today I take my part as grand-
mother on a float representing
our Scotch Block Women's Insti-
tute. I feel quite qualified to
take that part!
TYPICAL SAI.ENCIAGA MAGIC is a $30,000 necklace fo hold
the drape of this flesh -pink flecked organza bodice of a short
evening dress. His best trick, however, is showing styles t
buyers four weeks before the press gets a look,