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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1957-07-18, Page 6"If my husband and I could be alone, live in peace, and keep our door open to our friends, what a wonderful life it would be! It is, alas, impossible, be- cause my mother has lived with us for two years." Those years have resulted in near -bedlam, for the writer's mother opposed her marrying anybody and has done her best to create misun- derstanding and suspicion be- twe.en husband and wife. "Since she came," continues the writer," he is so mean and ugly to my husband that I can- not take it any longer — but what can I do? He is a gentle soul and so sweet to ...her that it make me furious; that only eggs her on. Our marriage has been a lovely experience for six years, but now I am thoroughly miserable. "I grew up feeling my mother was my enemy. She was so dic- tatorial it was impossible now to submit (I'm easy-going as my father was) and I realize now I grew up hating her. But when Dad died, my only sister refused to take Mother in and I was weak eonugh to do just that. She would not consent to go anywhere else, though she has an adequate income. "She was never a popular wo- man; she doesn't get along with any of her relatives, and she hasn't a personal friend left. She distrusts people and delib- erately tries to cause trouble. (Please do not print details) .. . Now I am at the end, seeing Princess E sernbff PRINTED PATTERN 4580 l ell -2.114 41 -Afar Summer ensemble in the Iove- liest "princess" silhouette — so becoming to shorter, fuller fig- ures! A cool, graceful sundress; cover-up jacket — easy to sew with our new PRINTED PAT- TERN ! Printed Pattern 4580: Half Sizes 141/2, 16%, 181/2, 201/2, 221/2, 241/2. Size 161/2 sundress takes S3 yards 35 -inch fabric; jacket 11/2 yards. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, faster, accurate. Send FIFTY CENTS (500), (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS. STYLE UMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, ox 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. ISSUE 29 -- 195'1 my husband is so miserable, though he never complains. • Where have I failed? What am 7! 1 to do?" MAKE THE BREAK • If I could print this wife's entire letter, my readers ,' would understand why I urge * her to see that her mother leaves, For years the wife has .K given herself to her family's * problems, and borne with her * mother's idiosyncracies with- _° out a whimper. The older wo- • man has visited them freely * for two weeks at a time, try- * ing to disrupt their harmony, * being rude to their friends, • and shrewdly creating almost * unbearable tensions. Her in- * fluence is little short of sinis- * ter. She has not succeeded in * her intent, but the home at- * =sphere is too strained to * continue. * The wife will have a bat- * tle on her hands, for her * mother is having herself a fine * time weaving her wicked web. * Her husband has been so * generous and sweet during * these two years that he de- * serves a better life alone with * his wife, and I am glad that * she finally realizes it. * TO "DAUGHTER RACHEL": * For years you have tried to * take over the continuing * problems your mother's un- * fortunate nature has brought * upon you all, and taking her * into your home was the final * fine gesture. Now you realize * what a mistake it was . . * Nowhere have you failed, my * friend, rather have you done * more for your people than * anyone else has done .. . * Your mother will object loud- * ly and cry for sympathy, but * you will be firm. Your hus- * band has had enough; his wel- * fare now becomes your first * duty and . your pleasures. * Make the break, and find the * life you both deserve. * * GAMBLER CURED? "Dear Anne Hirst: Soon after we married I found by husband was a confirmed gambler, risk- ing money we couldn't afford and generally, losing. For the past few months, though, he has refrained almost entirely, and I was so happy! "I have noticed, though, that he still likes to lay small wagers with friends on trivial issues, and I am so afraid it will post- pone his ultimate reform. "I don't want to mention it unless I must. What do you say? TROUBLED" * The true gambler believes * that success is accidental, that * it can bring riches and even * power. He knows it provides * an escape from dull routine * and that in itself he feels is worth the losses he incurs. It * is seldom, I am told, that he * reforms for good. • Your husband is to be ap- * plauded for oevrcoming the * weakness he indulged for so * long. I am not a psychiatrist, * but 'I see no harm in his * wagering a bit with friends; * he gets a kick out of it and * he is not betting more than * he can afford to lose. Per- * haps I am wrong, but in your * place I should not worry. * * * If your problem is wearing you down, ask Anne Hirst to clear the scene and guide you through. . . . Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor- onto, Ont. HIGH LIVING — LAID LOW Delighted at having gone through the year without any accidents being recorded the safety committee of a cement works in Olavarria, Argentina, treated the 2,000 workers to a slap-up lunch. The lunch went down well and was appreciated; but the fol- lowing morning over half the employees were absent. They were down with food poisoning. RUSSIAN ROCKIN" µ- The Russians may never claim Rock 'n' Roll as their own invention, but they have dances just as lively These Soviet teen-agers "rock" in gay folk dance at a youth festival in Krasnodar near the Black 'Sea. THEY CAN GROW UP TOGETHER — Married at 12 and a mother at 13, Mrs.. Lewis Curtis holds her week-old daughter cis her 19 -year-old h`lsband looks on in their Nashville, Tenn., home. After the picture session, Mrs. Curtis .told the photographer, "I don't believe in large -families. Lewis and I would like 81 -ie more child—a boy. That's enough." ve . acne P. Cte,t,1 e This column is being written neither at Ginger Farm nor Halfway House but from the city of Guelph. Partner and I left home Thursday morning; he to spend a couple of days with friends on a farm near Puslinch and I to attend the annual con- vention of the Ontario Histori- cal Society in Guelph. Strangely enough we :net history on the road — colourful history at. that — in the form of a Stage -Coach engaged to advertise _the Milton. Centennial. The genial Mayor of Milton was sitting up front With the driver, his round face; 19th Century .toggery ; . him. look ..very :.mm. & illustrious "Mr, Pickwick"': course we had to stop in Mil its' to do a bit of shopping and ' bit of visiting — and then we had a very lovely drive across country to No. 6 Highway. At the farm where Partner is stay- ing we found evidence of a slight twister which struck during that terrific hot spell. Half the roof was gone from the driving -shed, tree branches scattered here and there and standing hay just be- ginning to straighten itself up again after having taken a tre- mendous pounding from wind and rain. Repairs were underway so I imagine Partner won't have any trouble in keeping himself occupied. Dinner was just about ready when we arrived — and Oh, my, it is a long time since I saw a roast of beef so big, or taste so good as appeared on that table. Genuine home-grown,• home -killed, beef, tender and juicy, as different from butcher's meat as hamburg from T-bone' steak. It was a case of eat and run for me as friend Lillian and 1. were due at the Convention at two o'clock. Apparently prose grammes are always slanted to. wards history of the district in. which the convention is held so from excellent speakers we heard brief accounts of the his- tory of Guelph, Elora and Fergus. Dr. Hugh Templin showed over-. , a hundred beautiful pictures `of' • the Fergus and. Elora district --`' Elora Park, the Fergus Dam and' many of the historic homes and buildings, Now it is well after midnight.,- but sleep seems to have vanish-.. • ed so I though I might as well: get this column started anyway, Writing is better than lying•; awake wondering if Partner is'. making .out all right. That may. sound crazy but when a man' hasn't .spent a night way from home -- except for a spell in . hospital fof over thirty years the change might well be a - somewhat mixed up pleasure. Well; I guess this will do for tonight as we have to be up and away by nine in the morning. Friday. A most enjoyable day, Lunch at Elora, excellent speakers and then a tour of the parks and buildings Dr. Temp- lin had shown us in pictures the night .before. Our group includ- ed that well-known writer and historian, ,Dr. Louis Blake -Duff, older in years from the last time I saw him, but still young in spirit and with the .same unfail- ing sense of humour and kindly manner that has endeared him to so many people for a great number of years. We also found Mrs. Ewen in a new role, helping the local executive of the His- torical Society. W.I. members ' will remember Mrs. Ewen as the former Anna P. Lewis, one-time Director of Extension services. And there was Miss Mabel Burkholder, weekly historical contributor to the Hamilton Spectator. Among the visitors was a gentleman and his wife from New Zealand and the rea- son for their coning was a little unusual. The gentleman owns a sheep ranch with approximately -3 ,000 sheep..A son, keenly in- terested in agriculture and wish- ing to expand in knowledge and interest went first to Essex, England and later came to Can- ada to attend the O.A.C. in Guelph. Somewhere along the way he met a young lady from Caledon. They became engaged to be married and his parents have arrived in time for the wed- ding. Later the young folk are establishing a home — but not in New Zealand, England or On- tario, but in Nova Scotia, no less. Now it is Saturday. Last night I went to bed and slept like a log, following dinner at The Royal Hotel and a most enjoy- abie evening that followed. To- day we attended sessions in re- gard to encouraging juveniles in Ontario history. During the after- noon we ,went on a bus tour of the city stopping at many of the historic points of the place. It has been a most wonderful three- day convention, not only be- cause of the places we've been but the people we've met. But alas, all good things must come to an end, so I have just packed my duds and am almost ready to start, out for home, picking up Partner on the way. And when odern vette o * o by Roberta Lee Q, What are the courses that make up a formal dinner? A. There are five or more courses. First, oysters or clams on the half shell, or+ canapes, or other light relish; or grapefruit, fruit cup, or melon. Second, soup. Third, fish. Fourth, game or roast with two vegetables. Fifth, salad. Sixth, dessert, fol- lowed by fruit, nuts, candy, and coffee. Q. What is the correct size of the place card at a dinner? A. • Usually about two inches long and an. inch and a half high. It is usually, plain white, but it may be embossed in white or gold with a monogram or crest. Place cards are inscribed in longhand. Q. If a girl is to be married to a man who has been married previously, is it proper for her to have a big wedding, .wear a 'white gown and veil? A. Certainly. The fact that her bridegroom has been mar- ried before does not alter the • fact that this is her first wed- ding. If she has been married previously, she should not have a big wedding nor wear white. Q. I was recently introduced to a young man and since .then he has tried several times to telephone me at my home, but every time I have been out. Would it be proper for me to • telephone him? - A. It would be all right for you to phone him and say, "I hear you have been calling me. - I'm sorry I was not at home." Q. If one has just moved in- to a - new neighborhood, and some of the neighbors have paid calls, how soon should one re- turn these calls? A. Within about two weeks. Failure to return these calls is we get home there will be three days' mail and probably some of the family sitting on the door- step. But no, they won't have to - de that because we have provid- ed both of them with keys. Maybe by next Week I. shall have collected my wits and be able to write a little more in- telligently. a strong indication that the friendships are not desired. 1.4 v ely Needle Art oa £6.40,4W There's a real art in needle- work -- just see the lovely et. • feet embroidery gives this naturt scene! Single, outline stitches work up quickly in six strandt of cotton. Pattern 808: Transfer of deem - panel 16x191/2 inches. Color chart; directions for lining of framing. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for thil pattern to Laura Wheeler, Bos 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor- onto, Ont. Print PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and AD- DRESS. 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Bushed from 90 -degree heat, he's cooling off in the breeze from fans at either side. Hang( is assembling the Christmas scene for the National Assn: of Display Industries convention, Displays like XTs will be used in stores later --about six months later.