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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1957-07-11, Page 6HUSBAND GOES HIS WAY, WIFE WANTS TO LEAVE "For 15 years I've lived with a husband who is actually mar- ried to his business and his sports, and don't you dare smile for it is NOT funny. Sundays and holidays he is off with his gun or his rod, while I stay home to get hot meal ready when he comes in. . . There just can't be another man as thoughtless! Never has he taken me out anywhere unless I've begged him, which spoils it all; usually he says he's too tired or must go back to work that night. He has never bought ane a gift, nor even a box of can- dy or a flower; yet I know that in his own way he loves me dearly. "I grew so depressed that a year ago we adopted a little girl of six, and my husband is crazy about her, But now I am con- fined more then ever, and haven't had a single evening out for any fun. I'm really afraid I'm going to crack up if something doesn't happen to break this montonye (I have practically forgotten how to laugh.) "Everybody likes my husband and calls him a good man, and he is; he provides well for us, he doesn't drink and I'm surely grateful for that. But for nine years I worked hard so he could buy his own business, and now we have a lovely home and a good income. That isn't enough, Anne Hirst. I want to LIVE! "I have even considered leav- ▪ ing wth the baby and starting all over again. I am in my 30's, and I don't want to stay buried the rest of my life." * After years of reading let- * ters from discontented wives, * I long ago concluded that * more women suffer from neg- * lect than from actual cruelty, * and too many break under the * monotony of their Ionely rou- * tine. To drag through years of *` repititious days with nothing * to look forward to strangles the * spirit and saps one's energies. * Housewives need relaxation * with their husbands, good * tines with their friends, and * wholesome activities in the * world outside. * TO "GERTRUDE": No mat- * ter how low your spirits have * sunk, don't think of leaving. No matter what arrangements * you might make, you would .* bo depriving your • little" girl * or advantages she will need increasingly as she grows up. * She needs both parents, too, ' and your husband will find * her even more interesting as Half -Yard Aprons f'u.AW61114 So thrifty ! Each of these party -thrifty aprons takes only obtne-half yard 1 Use scraps for pocket; ribbon ties; embroider *ay designs. Lovely gifts for ahowers, bstzaars ! Pattern 628; Tissue pattern transfers for making 3 half_ etprons in medium size. Ideal gifts! Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this attern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, ighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont, rnt plainly PATTERN NUM - R, your NAME and AD. ESS. Two FREE Patterns as a gift is our readers --printed right t 1 aur NEW Laura Wheeler eedlecraft .Rook for 1957! Doz_ •ns of Other new designs you'll Want to order --easy, fascinating ;Isandwerk for yourself, your horn°, Be sure to send 25 cents for your copy of this honk now '--don't: rn?v -1 11 ! * she develops, You both want * to provide her with the nor- '' mal home life she deserves, and * enjoys together the exciting years that are. to come. Tell your husband how near " the breaking point you are, how much you need recreation * regularly, doing the things you both enjoyed before you were married. A more active social * life will benefit his business, too, and be useful to the .. child's development later. * Now you can well afford a �1' baby-sitter, so plan that. And * remind your husband that * while financial success is im- portant, no man can be proud * of a wife who is growing old * before her time. It is a die- * tinct reflection on him. Your husband has been * thoughtless in forming the - * habit of spending all his lei- * sure away from home, and " when you explain why you, '" too, must have fun I think he * will understand. * In the remote possibility that " you fail in your plea, why not * send out an SOS signal to * your women friends and spend * the day with thein, getting * home in time to prepare his * supper? RESENTS ADVANCES "Dear Anne Hirst: I graduated from college last year, and for quite a while I've been having trouble with the boys I date. Every last one of them tries to make love to me! We always end up on a lonely road or in the parkaand the arguments be- gin. "Other girls I've talked to don't have this experience, and Lam really worried. I certainly do not lead boys on, and I don't think I am too emotional. Have you the solution? GRETA" * A girl can subconsciously in- * vite advances through her con- * versation or her manner. She * doesn't protest when the boy's arm is around her wait, nor get affronted by his first kiss. But * perhaps her response is warm- * er than she means it to be. " Lots of boys write me that * they try a girl out on the * first date because SHE seems to * expect it. If you are not guilty * of these reactions, console * yourself with the truth: some * girls naturally pulsate with * p h y s is a 1 attraction, while * others leave the lad's temper- * ature as it was. We are as we * are. * Be even more restrained * than you have been, and at * the first danger signal say that * you do NOT go in for that * sort of thing. Avoid surround- * ings which encourage petting, * keep the conversation on the * light side and your good- * nights gay and brief. Any * smart girl can have a good * time without being called a * blue -stocking, you know. * * * If your husband neglects you, don't let it eontinue. He isn't really selfish, he just does not realize how much you need peo- ple and recreation to relieve the monotony. Talk it 'over, and let him plan a brighter life for you with him. Anne Hirst's sympa- thy is comforting - and prac- tical. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Historic Names For Hotel Rooms The romantic history of the beginnings of Canada in New France three centuries ago has given the Canadian National Railways glamorous names for the banquet halls and other pub- lic rooms in its new Queen Eli- zabeth Hotel, now under con- struction and due to open for its first convention next year. Four banquet rooms have been named after early Canadian ex- plorers; Louis Joliett, Jacques Lesperance Marquette, Daniel Du Luth and Sir Alexander Mac- kenzie: The hotel's grill room will be known as the "Beaver Club", re- calling an exclusive rendez-vous of fur traders originally located at the top of Beaver Hall Hill. The original club, founded in 1775, was composed of partners in the North West Company who had spent at least one winter in the north west. It was disband- ed in 1824 when the North West Company amalgamated with the Hudson's Bay Company. Other names to be used in the new hotel are: "Les Voyageurs", the main cocktail lounge; "Le Panorama", overlooking the city from the 21st floor; "Le Rendez- vous"; "Le Bistro"; and "Salle Bonaventure". The hotel's 11 private dining rooms and salons have been ,named after Quebec rivers; St. Lawrence, Saguenay, St. Maur- ice, Richelieu, Chaudiere, Gatin- eau, Bersimis, Matapedia, St, Charles, Harricana and Peribon- ca. s DOLLS AND P1UPPhl'S ATTRACT ATTENTION: Cindy Ann Ryan, left, and Toni Maskell, two school children, admire a doll and puppets from the countless number exhibited in the School Art Display judged at the Women's Division of the Canadian National Exhibition. Prize win- ning exhibits will be on display in the new Queen Elizabeth Building which will house women's activities during theExhibition, from August 23rd to Sept. 7th. Our friends' are beginning to' find out where we live. Last Sunday we had three lots of visitors, one after another, and of course we were glad to see; them all, especially as I had. enough cake and cookies to go around. Not that I would have worried too much if I hadn't, we can always get by on tea and ..: toast. Later in the week I took on e job of baby-sitting for daughter: She is convener of the`iii Guides in her district who' {a taking part in the huge page to be presented at the Maple Leaf Gardens. I went in on the day of the rehearsal. I imagine it was quite an affair with nearly 3,000 Guides and Brownies tak- ' ing part. Daughter's telephone was ringing continually from the time I got to the house to the time when she left for the re- hearsal. Good thing it isn't a • party line! After she had gone I took the boys to High Park Playground - David on foot and Eddie in his push -cart. The entrance to the Park is only a ten-minute walk. The playground was full of pre- 3 . school-age youngsters with mo- ther or father in charge. And ;. what a time they were having. .? Swings, slides, sand -pile and a hand -propelled merry-go-round: The playground must be a won- derful energy -outlet for the many children who may not have so much as a backyard to play in at home. One mother said the days her children came to the park they slept so much better at night. As I watched the youngsters at play I couldn't help thinking how lucky coun- try children are who have sg big farm garden to run around in - and probably dogs, cats and kittens to play with. To my way of thinking the farm is still the best place to bring up a family. The parents may not be over- supplied with money or the home too convenient but at least father, mother and children lead normal family life - they eat, work and play together. And that is more than can be said or .families where father is vav to the office, plant or fac- laey before the children are up n the morning. When he re - urns at night he is tired, and sometimes irritable, and so are the children. It doesn't make for a happy family relationship. Such conditions apply not only to urban homes but also to those in the country from whence father commutes back and forth to Melton, Hamilton or Toronto - or wherever his job happens to be. Conditions are even worse when father is on night shift. Seems to me family living in so many cases requires a_ lot of, ad- justment these days. And when you pull up stakes and settle down in a new dis- trict that takes some adjustment too - especially when there is an election in the offing! Last week we went down to our old riding to make sure our names were on the voter's list. They weren't! Partner just about saw red for awhile. You see we haven't been in our new home long enough to be eligible for a vote here and because we were not at the farm the day the enumerators called - if they did call - our names were left off the list. Now after 35 years residence in one place we shall have to be sworn in before we can vote. And we are not the . only ones either. We hear a lot about padded voter's lists, what about the ones where eligible voters are not listed. Surely one way is as bad as another. Another of our adjustment worries has been mail delivery. On our old snail route there were two other Clarke's and of course we often got each other's mail. Now, in our new location we find ourselves bracketed with yet another Clarke. Not only that but we get mail forwarded to us that belongs to the old route. Very confusing, isn't it? Before we moved we did our best to notify all those from whom we were likely to receive business or personal mail, but there Is al- ways the odd, unexpected letter. As for advertising literature That's where we give up! The same applies to the tele- phone. I put our phone number on most of my correspondence now but it doesn't do much good. The very day I went baby- sitting friends from a distance came to call -- meant to phone but they had lost the number. I didn't get home until next day so I missed them entirely. But we get plenty of phone calls Other than our own. In fact it is hard to know ."for whom the bell `rings'." To close here is a little nature story. Partner 'was cutting brush along the line fence. There he found a flat stone with a carved inscription. The inscription read "Hear lies a Warbler." How long had the little tombstone been there I wonder? Who owned the warbler - was it captive or wounded? We shall never learn the answer but I got Partner to leave the stone anyway. That much we can do for the little song -bird - silent now - and whose story we shall never knew Fine selections of totem poles which have been placed is Thunderbird Park at Victoria and in Stanley Park at Vancouve3 are viewed by thousands of visit- ors to British Columbia each year. Young Play-S• PRINTED PATTERN' SIZES 4863 2—s Printed Pattern that's EASY sewing for you, mother -makes a darling play -outfit for daugh- ter! See the "grownup" styling of the shirt -top (plenty of room for active wear); shorts and pedal pushers to smartly match or contrast. Printed Pattern 4863: Chil- dren's Sizes 2, 4, 6, 8. Size 0 shirt 13/s yards 35 -inch; short 1 yard. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, faster, accu- rate. Send FORTY CENTS .. (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for thio pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. ISSUE 28 - 1957 es GOES DRY --- Esther Williams has dried off to disprove the notion she's only ct star in a swimming pool. She's with Jeff Chandler in her next film, "Raw Wind in Eden," in which she plays a high -living fashion model. She does get to swim twice in the film. "Corn Starch makes smoother desserts" FRUIT :: EAM VA tablespoo sE StO 'S or CANADA IA cup granulated sugar :ew.grains salt 11/4 cups (10 oz.) canned fruitor juice pineapple 1 egg yolk 1/2, tablespoon butter 1 egg white ^ 1 tablespoon' granulated sugar Corn Starch, sugG COM3WE BENSON'S or CANADA until smooth, STI st a juice gradually; mix � cupfruit j Y STIR in g ether until smooth; ADD egg yolk and mix welt together add remaining fruit juice, mixing COOK, stirring constantly, over medium heat until mixture is smoothly thickened and comes to a boil. B011.1 minute, stirring constantly. cool, stirring REMOVE from heat, then add butter; occasionally. BEAT egg white until stiff but not dry;radually beat g until mixture stands in stiff peaks^ in sugar. CONtINU'E beating combine well. 'FOLD lightly into cool mixture; POUR into dessert dishes; chill before serving. "YIELD; 4 servings. 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