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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1957-06-06, Page 2ANE RIRST vidt, 'Dear Anne Hirst: Fifteen years ago I:married a man that T adored. 1' still love him, but I'm wondering how much long- er I can stand working as hard as I do, We have three chil- dren, and when we bought our home four years ago, I took a position to help out, and my husband promised to do the heavy housework. Well, he hasn't. I wash floors and win- dows, do all the laundry, and even during housecleaning, I have no one to aid me, I hate to say so, but I'm afraid he is just plain lazy. "I love our home, and I wouldn't mind the work if he appreciated it; but he has never said a kind word or even taken me out for an evening's enter- tainment. I work nine hours a day, prepare supper, help the children with their homework and get them to bed, and it is often 10 o'clock before I start my cleaning. I'm afraid I am wearing out. "One reason is, 1 have no time for my friends, and they always refreshed me. Now they seldom come, say I'm too busy to sit down and talk. Besides, my hus-. band is the moody type (often sullen) and they've implied they feel unwelcome. It seems to me that he and I ran out of con- versation a long while ago. "My husband doesn't trust me, and I can't understand why. Even when I've taken the chil- Set of Seven IS LOVING AND GIVING Brighten kitelun towels with these gay motifs! Seven little cher- ubs to embroider — a cherry ak1 for each day of the week! Set of seven different embroid- ery transfers included in Pattern 857. Each design about 0 x 6 and a half inches. Ideal for gifts, baz- aars! Send TWENTY - FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal . note for safety), for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PATTTERN NUM- BER, your NAME and ADDRESS. Our gift to you -- two wonder- ful patterns for yourself, your home — printed in our Laura Wheeler Needlecraft book for 1050! Dozens of other new designs to order — crochet, knitting, em- broidery, ironons, novelties. Send 25 cents for your copy of this boot: IOW - with gift patterns printed in it! dren to church, he has to know whom I talked to, etc, He says I'm attractive to men, but I've •,never tried to find out; I'd like to enjoy my husband, but he won't let me. "Is there anything I can do with this man of mine? He is only 39, strong and able, but never loving nor helpful. I'd get more attention if I were his housekeeper! WEARING OUT" * Your husband needs a * shock to wake him up to what * is going on in his household. • Why don't you tell him that * unless he shares the chore he * promised, and provides some * occasional recreation, you will * give up your position? That * would be bad news for you * both; though he will com- * plain loudly at your decision, the children's expenses will * increase as they grow and * with less money corning in, the brunt of the economic * burden would still be yours. * From what you say, you * cannot burn the candle at * both ends much longer; some- * thing will have to give way. * You are not strong, you are underweight, and you are * thoroughly dissatisfied, living * without appreciation in the * monotonous treadmill of your * routine. Most men would be * proud of a wife who manages * the home and the children * and holds down a job, too. * You cannot change his tem- * perament entirely, but a kind * word now and then and * regular evenings out would * quiet your nerves nad revive * your spirits. You would be * even a better wife and mother, * too. How little your man * knows aobut women! * I hope you will not have * to give up your position, but * if nothing else will move him, * why not make the threat and * act? (If you will leave this * page on his chair tonight, he * may see himself as others see * him and be moved to justice * and even kindness.) * * WANTS UIT1MI• ffeACK Dear -An e, Hirst: — Two months ago tr'ty 4 usband left me and our „two tl><ildren, because he listeiied when some evil- minded people told him things were not true. I have seen 'him several times since. and even written, but he refuses even to hear my explanation. "We were married seven years ago, and I thought we had faith in each other that nothing could affect. I love him still, but I cannot understand his closing his ears to me now. I have never done anything wrong, and even if I'd have been tempted, I wouldn't have had time. "How can a man who says he loves you be so stubborn? EDITH" * Why don't you ask some * mutual friend your husband * trusts to talk to hire? In all * decency, he can hardly refuse * to listen to the plea of a man * or woman who is close to you * both; it would mark him as * unjust, and prejudice every- * one against him. How can he * pose as a gentleman and a * Christian if he refuses your * plea for reconciliation? * For the sake of the chil- * dren, he should at least be * be fair, and co-operate in re- * newing the family life to- * gether. ': * Kindness restores one's spirit and leavens the burden of the day. Anne Ilirst's sympathy will lift your spirits, and her coun- sel is safe to follow. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. SHIP-SHAPE—Three beauties strike a nautical pose in Paris„ Prance, before leaving for the "Miss Universe" contest, to be held in Italy. The girls are Monica Lorraine, Miss Czechoslovakia; left; Kristin Hjelkrem, Miss Norway, centre; and Ruby Legrand,, from Paris. NEW TWIST IN ART — A very real Parisian femme puzzles over a very abstract statue of a nude in Paris, France. The statue, which could pass as "Miss Pretzel of 1956," is one of the exhibits at the 40th annual Decoration Artists' show. Let's see now — where do we start this week? Precious little farm activity to report — a veal calf gone out and a dropped calf b r ought in. Thunderstorms, power breaks, rain and still more rain. Ditches and creeks running over the culverts and the ther- mometer finally climbing into the seventies. That, too, pre- sents a problem, Too hot with furnace going; too damp to let it out. Oh, well, let's forget' the weather, there are plenty of other things to write about in e. fact, I almost need a newspaper to myself. Last week was just one thing 'after another. Until Wednesday I was quietly enjoy- ing myself with David. No, that isn't quite right either. You couldn't enjoy yourself QUIET- LY — not with David around. However, we were prepared to keep him for a week or two. Then came a wire ... "could I attend W.I. Conference at Guel- ph, special delivery letter to fol- low?" Actually there was no reason why I shouldn't. Joy would be quite willing to look after Dave if I took him down to Oakville. I phoned her and that is what we decided. "But the best laid plans of mice and men . ." It just so happened I couldn't get away so Joy had to come and get Dave. Then my special delivery letter had the wrong initial and was .delivered five miles up country. I went after that but had to take to the ditch to get in and out of our place. A truck had broken down right at the en- trance to our farm. After sup- per I intended getting myself, my house and Partner's supplies in order, ready for the next two days. And then the power went off! Now I ask you, what extra jobs can one do in a big house with only candles to work by? It was hopeless so we went to bed and got up early next morn- ing. But the gremlins were still at work. Stockings developed a run as I put them on. One strand of a double string of pearls broker in my hand and when 1 was fin- ally on my way I found I had forgotten my gloves. However, I eventually got to the conference, and only ten minutes late. Now 1 am not going to give you a detailed account — W.I. branches will get a full report from their dele- gates, so I will just stick to my impressions. There was the audience . . over 500 rural women, young, old and middle-aged — and you could tell from their faces they were enjoying themselves; that they were genuinely interested in the business of the day; busily jotting down notes so they could take back a full report to their fellow members. And what an orderly audience. An occasional late -comer, of course, or some- one leaving early to catch a bus, but never the continual coming and going that we sometimes find at other meetings, and Which is so distracting. There were the officers and directorate who were taking part in the program friendly„ cap- able, gracious women, anxious from their vast store of experi- ence to pass on their knowledge to all who were ready to accept it. Miss Helen .McKercher, Direc- tor of Extension Services — successor to the former Miss Anna P. Lewis, almost immedi- ately won a place for herself in the hearts of the delegates, Mrs. Gordon MacPhatter, soon to va- cate the office as F.W.I.O. presi- dent, was her usual charming and unpretentious self. Before the conference ended Padre Young stood beside Mrs. Mac- Phatter on the platform, his arm around her shoulders, and led the audience in singing with genuine affection, "Let me call you sweetheart." Indeed, Mrs. MacPhatter, with her simplicity and charm, has endeared her- self to almost every member of the W.I. with whom she has come in contact, and has clone much to promote unity and understand- ing. To know Mrs. MacPhatter is to love her. Mrs. H. E. Houck, Brampton, delegate to the United Nations, in a wonderful address, made us feel we really had a stake in the affairs of the United Nations. Mrs. J. R. Futcher, a past pres- ident, in her review of "Offi- cers' Conferences, Past Present and Future," gave us a pretty good idea of the tremendous planning that is necessary for this annual event. It must cer- tainly be a great satisfaction to Mrs. Futcher to know her ef- forts in promoting this new ,ven- ture have been so successful and so well appreciated. There were also officials from the Provincial government whose addresses were well received, es- pecially as they were brief, as well as being informal and en- lightening. And there was Dr. Margaret Nix, from McGill University, who gave us well-balanced doses of sense and nonsense. But even the nonsense had sense, if you know what I mean. An excel- lent shot in the arm for those who were developing a slight weariness. Finally there was entertain- ment — recitations, vocal duets and wonderful singing by the v)•unior Farmers' Choir from On- tario County, Yes, it was a most successful and enjoyable conference. And now another treat is in store for us. Mrs. Alice Berry, president of the ACWW, is visiting vari- ous parts of Ontario in June. Who wouldn't be a W.I. mem- ber? Real-Estaters The real estate salesmen have an interesting life. No two days are alike. Salo in a Saturday Eve ning Dost cartoon shows the realty salesman addressing the husband and wife in his office. "1 do have something for 0,000. Would you like to ride out and see if it is stilt standing?" Then there was the realtor who took a prospect out to see one of those inexpensive '"ew homes, the kind that are compounded of match -sticks, glue and putty. The prospect stood in one room, the salesman in the other. The lat- ter whispered. "Able to hear me?" "Not very well" "Or' see tae?" tgNo.n The realtor smiled. "Boy, oh boy, brit them's walla for you. Style in Furniture In every age experimentation and invention inspire people to evolve new things. These new things are tried and tested for their worth; some are discarded while others are improved and perfected" Those which endure are bridges connecting civiliza- tions, countries and families, Since the printing press was invented and sketches as well as specifications could clarify the record, each generation has been studying history from many angles. One of the most fascinating studies is the his- tory of furniture. It can easily become a hobby and an avoca- tion, and an absorbing one at that. The journeymen of old who traveled from country to coun- try carried with them the knowledge of their craft. New standards of living were evolv- ing which inspired them to de- velop new materials and new methods of fabrication. These men developed the furniture which is a record of people as they lived from the Renaissance to the present. The same law of economics guiding us today, that of supply and demand, is reflected in the furniture which has lived to be reproduced. Our inheritance from this rich past is more important than actual styles and individual pieces of furniutre. We are challenged by the chapter we are contributing to. Will it seem as rich to pos- terity as what we have inherit- ed? A good reproduction can be worth more than a bad antique. To be well informed in true and fine reproductions, it is neces- sary to know the pieces which may be copied with integrity, as these, if made well, will be worth buying and livireg with even if fashin changes. They give a room a'sense of honesty and charm. Not all reproductions are au- thentic. Certain liberties are taken and these are called adaptations. The quality of the adapatation and the reason for the change should guide the purchaser. Because inlays are costly both as to workmanship and mater- ials, a manufacturer may elmin- ate them but retain the fine proportions, the over-all silhou- ette and detail. Or a manufac- turer may find that the center section of a drop-leaf table is too narrow for comfort and use, and widen it. If the desk part of a slant top is too high for a good desk chair, that section may be lowered. If period details are mixed badly or if the detail of one period is used on a piece never made during that period, er if the deails are correct but the proportion, workmanship and finish are poor — then the adaptation is an unwise selec- tion. Interest in fashion and 'style is just as evident in our own time as in the past, and there is much argument as to the dividing line between the two. An old book on ceramics, pub- lished in 1880, makes a sound pronouncement: "Style is a mood or influence which is sus- tained, developed and disturbed by fashion. Fashion is a social and commercial fact — social because it arouses desire to be like one's fellows; commercial because there are profits to be made from this desire." From "Furniture for Your Horne." by Gladys Miller. Ingenuity We've all heard about the 4ruUt who staggered into the laundratnat and, after glimpsing the sudsy bub- bles being thrown up at the gins', exclaims, "'s lousy television show lf you ask. me." . But John Vollmar, of Green - wick, Conneceicut, observed an el- derly lady sitting with her back against the extractor machine Iq a local launderette. She was cab* ly rending n book while the machine vibrated against her body. For years she had a back ailment that didn't respond to treatment until one day visiting the laundry she had rested it against the extractor, 'That was the cure. Every clay she came in for more treatment. And Royce Fields, of London, Ohio, insists than the woman the came to his home 'to demonstrate a new vacuum cleaner was so stout that every stooping operation brought grunts and groans. "The reason I took this job," she explained, "is because I'm reduc- ing and I hate exercise. This way serves a double purpose. I lose weight and I get paid for it." Nat only does Ephraim Penson, of Elmira, New York, spend every winter week -end skating, but it's possible that this eighty-year-old' enthusiast holds some kind of a record. Ile still uses the skates that were hand -forged by his own grandfather'. Wonder -Topper: SIZES 12-20 4841 30-42 EASY ! EASY! See the diagram —you can make this stunning new topper in s -o- little time; Have It in lightweight woolen, pastel linen, or pique — to star above your summer fashions. Notice its graceful "go -everywhere" styling; jaunty collar, new square pockets. Pattern 4841: Misses' Sizes 12. 14, 16, 18, 20; 30, 32, 34; 36, 38, 49, 42. 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