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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1957-04-11, Page 6ANNf I4IPSTJ Dear Anne Hirst: I am shock- ed to learn that my fiance's family object to his marrying me, and atter we have been en- gaged for two months! I have met most of them and believe I could get along well with them all. He claims he still loves me but is too confused to think straight. He is obligated to his father for setting him up in -business, and I can only think he fears to oppose their wishes. Why don't they like me? My people have been here for three generations, and my family life has been a happy one. I'm a col- lege graduate and hold a good position, belong to two good clubs and have many fine friends. If his people have any. -- reason for their attitude I don't know what it is, and apparently my ex -fiance doesn't either. (I broke the engagement at once, of course.) I know he is seeing another girl who his family have enter- tained; he says he feels he "must play along with them." We still date once a week, but it isn't the same. What is the matter with him? He is 30, I'm 26, and we are both mature enough to know what we want. Why won't he fig;t for us? Shall I keep on seeing him? Or leave town for a while? I can get a leave of absence. Please advise me, for I am— MISERABLE. A WEAK CHARACTER " I don't quite get the point * of this man's feeling obligated * to his father. His father's * starting him in business is not * reason enough to allow his • family to run his personal * life; his financial arrangements * with his father can be carried * on no matter whom he mar- * ries. * Why his family suddenly * object to you I cannot know, unless they have chosen this • girl for him and demanded * that he marry her. (Why • didn't they say so earlier?) ▪ And what does his acquies- cence indicate? That he is a * spineless creature whose love • for you is not so deep as to * make him strong enough to • battle for his rights? • In such a crisis, it will be " well for you to take a leave • and disappear from his sight. • Only missing you • can reveal * to him the real state of his * heart. When you come back • you will find out where you * stand, and design the pattern * of your future accordingly. * I am so sorry! * * * WIFE MISSES FUN Dear Anne Hirst: After two Easy Crochet ty matte.V M 1tARlt. ONE STRAIGHT PIECE for skirt! Little shaping needed for the bodice! Petal stitch and chain - loops — easy crochet indeed! Thrifty — size 4 takes just 6 balls of cotton! Pattern 637: crochet directions for children's sizes 2, 4, 6, years included. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to LAURA WHEELER, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN, your NAME and AD- DRESS. Our gift to you—two wonder- i'u1 patterns for yourself, your home — printed in our Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book . Plus dozens of other new designs to order crochet, knitting, embroidery, iron -ons, novelties. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book NOW -- with gift pat- terns printed in it! years of marriage I've decided that all my husband enjoys is his radio and TV. He doesn't care to visit nor to entertain; he thinks married couples should stay home, period. He used to enjoy the theater, but we haven't been for nearly a year. I used love dancing more than anything and I miss it so much! Before we married he promised we would go dancing regularly, but now he says he thinks it's silly. My friends are gradually pas- sing us by and I can't blame them. I feel we are shutting our- selves off from the usual social life, and I confess the prospect alarms and irritates me, when it is so easy to solve. I would compromise if he would. What do you think? ESTHER. * You have struck the chord * that can bring harmony into * your married life. If your hus- * band will take you to the * theater once or twice a month, * welcome your mutual friends * at home, and plan evenings of * dancing, you will be as gen- * erous and sit before TV with- " out a whimper. * Radio and TV, to my mind, * can never take the place of * friends. They are one-sided * entertainment, they permit of * no participation. One needs * the give-and-take of good con- * versa Lion, the exchange of " opinions and idea s, t h e * thoughtfulness and kindness * and loyalty that hold people " together throughout the years. * Your husband mixes with oth- * ers all day, but you have no * such outlet; it is you who need * social intercourse, the lift of * spirit and laughter that it sup- * plies. * Marriage is always a com- * promise of conflicting tastes, * and most of us work it out * satisfactorily. I am sure that * you can, too. Whether your problem is large or small, write to Annie Hirst about it. She has helped two generations through devious sit- uations, and been able to com- fort and guide • them safely through. Address her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toron- to, Ont. Boy's Toy Rang Wedding Bells After a Bolivian tourist had hurled a stone at the famous Mona Lisa painting in the Paris.. Louvre, he explained 'away his action by saying simply, "I was seized wth the desire to do so." Such impulses; however start- ling, are not so very unusual. A middle-aged businessman, high- Iy respected and a pillar of his church, stood somewhat follish- ly in the dock of an East Anglian court. With his umbrella he had smashed hundreds of eggs dis- played outside a store. "Some- thing came over me," he told • the puzzled magistrate. "I just felt that I had to break those eggs." In yielding to this impulse he risked nothing more than a fine —and his reputation. But how can you explain the conduct of a normally steady and sensible motorist who, driving along a country road, suddenly swerved to the right and crashed through a thick hedge into a field. An amazed spectator asked if his steering had gone wrong. "No," he replied, dazedly. "But I had an irresistible urge to see what would happen." These people were seized with a sudden impulse, like the sailor who walked into a pub soon af- ter stepping ashore, was at once attracted to the barmaid and al- most immediately found hmself popping the magic question After a moment's hesitation she softly murmured, "Yes," Friends of both parties shook their heads, prophesied that the marriage would quickly go on the rocks. It didn't. The impe- tuous couple were ideally hap- py. A sudden kindly act was the inspiration of another happy marriage. A girl was looking round a big store when she saw a poorly dressed small boy gaz- ing longingly at a toy. Then he pulled out a few coins, counted them, and sadly started to walk away. His wistful expression . touched the girl's heart. "Let me buy it for you," she said gently. Standing near was a young man. He was deeply impressed. "There's a girl in a thousand," he told himself, and made an excuse to get acquainted. Not long afterwards wedding -bells rang out for the couple, brought together by a generous impulse. Now they have a little boy of their own. Cancer is the disorganized, unregulated growth of body cells. Although a great deal has been discovered about the nature of this growth, the cause is still unknown. COMMAND PERFORMANCES—Photos above, made on the eve of their visit to France, are royal "command" pictures of Great Britain's Queen Elizabeth II, and her husband, Prince Philip. The Queen wears a white satin evening gown embroidered in gold and pearls. With it, she wears the riband and star of the Order of the Garter. Her diamond -and -emerald tiara and necklace belonged to the late Queen Mary. Prince Philip wears the 'uniform of a field marshal. The win.gs above his ribbons indicate he is a qualified pilot in the Royal Air Force. HRONICLL5 i1NGERFARM Gawndoli�.e P. Cla ck¢ Last week. was "wrecking week" — the first of several I imagine. Sometimes, in a pian-, ner of speaking, things wreck us—this time we were wreaking. things. While I was in the house ruthlessly filling up boxes for a bonfire, Partner was out: in the driving -shed wrecking the,. faithful . old,binder. Johnny came along t•help him. There• ° it was iri the corner of the shed, untouched for several years, •its canvasses rolled and stacked on the platform, along with. the reel -arms and ,other parts. It was a dusty, cumbersome look- ing piece of machinery that no one .would have said thank you for had it been offered as a gift. And yet, were it not for the in- _troduction of modern machinery that same old binder would have given good service for a number of years. The iron on it was still good and •the woodwork as sound 'as , a bell. .Machinery was built to last when we bought it over thirty years ago. And what a .history is con- nected with that old binder. Money was hard to come by when we started farming so machinery was bought on time. It took us three years to pay for the binder. It cut good crops and poor. Sometimes the sheaves were so heavy you would won- der how it could deal with them, Or sometimes,' after •a bad rain, and windstorm "lifters" had to be used to get the crop cut at all. One year, when spring crops were very heavy, and a ten -acre field of oats half cut, there came a terrific rain—a regular de- luge. Before the field had a chance to dry out there was more rain. The first storm had come suddenly. All that could be done was loosen the canvas- ses and leave the binder in the field. It sat there all fall. It couldn't be drawn through a slough of mud, even by horses. We lost heavily on our spring crop that year—and I believe it was before the binder was en- tirely paid for. Of course all our implements at that time were horse-drawn. Perch and Queen were hitched to the binder for the first round, then I would take Prince to the field and Partner would carry on with the three horses while I went along the outside of the field throwing the first sheaves out of his way. Sometimes, if we could afford it, we had a hired man for a few weeks. We paid him the going wage—a dollar a day and his keep. But even so I had to help in the field' and at the barn. Partner stayed out until dark (by Standard time) and then did the chores after- ward. It was usually ten o'clock before he was through. The chil- dren were not old enough to do . much more than set the table, wash dishes and feed the chic- kens. Of course we occasionally had binder trouble and I would be sent to town post-haste in the horse and buggy to get a new reel -arm maybe. Partner would be stooking until .I got. back. I - can't remember that we ever had any major breaks although we sometimes lost 4considerable ,tune when the knotter refused to function or the twine would break. Eventually we got a tractor— a used one of course. Adjust- ments were made to the 'binder and it continued to give faithful service. By this time Bob was able to drve the tractor while Partner rode the binder. And what a' beating he and the bin- der took! The horses had had far more intelligence than the tractor. Instinctively they slowed up and prepared for the jolt that always followed after cros- sing a water -furrow. 'But, with a somewhat inexperienced driv- er, the tractor kept right on ,,-)- ing. I was no longer needed in the field but my services were definitely required to keep the binder canvasses in order. Some- times by hand, sometimes with the sewing machine, I struggled to get patches on those blessed canvasses, year after year—and they were always brought in for repairs on the hottest and stick- iest days. But perhaps my work paid off as in the years the. binder was in use we bought only one extra canvas—and that was a used one. During World War II Johnny was with us and we got through a lot of work. About the time Bob came out of the army Part- ner more or less went to pieces. Help was hard to get and com- bines came into their own. We had our grain custom -harvested. The Old binder stayed in its cor- ner of the shed until now, a dusty derelict of the past, re- minding us only of the years that have come and gone; of good fortune and misfortune that came our way—but most of it, as I look back, was good. The hard times taught us much that we would never have learnt had it been easy going all the time. And the binder . . well it is bringing us more now as scrap iron than it would as a piece; of machinery, And what of the scrap metal? Ploughshares to swords, swords to shares, binders to battlefields —where does it all end? I won- der. The binder had a long and useful life. It would appear its final destiny will be undeserved- ly uncertain and inglorious. And yet, how are we to know — it mght be just the opposite! ISSUE 15 — 195'7 Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. If one is eating in a rwp- taurant where small butter pate are served in a little paper con- tainers, is it all right to let tut knife rest on the pat when not in use? A. Never. The knife, when"not in use, should rest along the upper right part of the plate and never, of course, with tfie handle of the knife resting. on the table. Q. When approaching a re- volving door with a woman, does the man enter first so as to push the door for her, or dost he allow her to enter first? A. He allows the woman to ge ahead of him. In fact, he is better able to control the re- volving door if she does go first, Jiffy -Cut, Sew! PRINTED PATTERN eaeV; 4784 ,'-ts 17-41;fte. 4444 JIFFY -CUT Printed Pattern is a cinch to sew! Tissue pattern is all one piece; cut out the en- tire dress at once! Such a flat- tering lattering style, too — with lovely princess lines; soft back fullness, cinched by tiny belt. Printed Pattern 4784: Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16, 18. Sizes 1i requires 4 yards 35 -inch fabrie. Printed directions on each pat- tern attern part. Easier, faster, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Print plainly SIZE, NAME, AD- DRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. "Cord Starch Makes Creamier Puddings!" 4ORW AR PUDDING 1 cup cooked prunes Y2 cup prune juice Corn Syrup Va cup. CROWN BRAND 1 cup boiling water 3/4 cup granulated sugar Ye teaspoon salt 'A teaspoon cinnamon 4 tablespoonsBENSON'S Starch S or CANADA Co 1/3 cup cold water 1 egg, well -beaten alnuts 1/3 cup choppedjuice 1 tablespoon Lemon j of double PIT and chop cooked prunes; place in top uice,.CROWN BRAND Corn Syrup and boiler. ADD prune I +$ or CANADA boiling water; heat well. and BENSON'S MIX sugar, salt, cinnamon Corn Starch together; stir in cold water mixing thoroughly. to hot prune mixture; y ADD corn starch mixture slowly COOK, over boiling until thickened nand stir well. water, .stirring stir frequently. for 10 .,minutes,. smooth;. cooking COVER; continue ADD well -beaten egg, coati 3 minutes longer. occasionally. REMOVE from heat; add nuts and lemon jIales, POUR into serving dish andchill. SERVE with whipped cream, if YIELD: 64 servings. • For free folder of other delicious recipes, write tos Jane Ashley, Home Service Department, THE CANADA STARCH COMPANY LIMITED P.O. 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