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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1957-02-14, Page 2"Dear Ann Hirst: Where are the men like our fathers, who married and expected her to stay home and raise a family? I've been working since 1 was 19, and when we got married my husband suggested I stay with the job. We didn't need the money, but he thought I'd be happier. He also wanted chil- dren, and when I had our baby three months ago of course I expected to take care of her. But I didn't know my husband; he took it for granted I'd keep on at the office and he employed a young nurse. I was furious but I consented. Now I wish I hadn't. I resent every hour I am not with my baby, and I'm at the point of giving up my position and taking over at home. I think every mother wants to look af- ter her children; nobody else can do it so well. I expect a bat- tle with my husband. But haven't I done my part? Now I want to be all -wife and moth- er. What do you think? SORRY MOTHER." * I think you should take * over at home. 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Modern physicians * agree that babies thrive on a * mother's love; deprived of it, * they do not develp as they * should. For a man to deny his * wife her natural destiny * stamps him as heartless; his * child will suffer for it later * on, and you and I know who * will be blamed. * The average man expects to * support his wife and is proud * to. Many of them who mar- * ried business girls find their * wives insist on working; they *'flnd the field more exciting * •than household routine. They * neglect their homes, feed their * men makeshift meals and' (re- * versing.the normal habit) their * conversation deals largely * with what happened down- * town today. The men mar- * ried the girls because they * loved them, and they have the * right to expect a well-run * home • and children. The busi-: * ness wife who deliberately * denies them these expects- * tions is going to pay more * dearly than she thinks. * The nobleest reason that a * wife wants to stay .home is to * give her child a mother's * loving care. Your husband * seems so devoid of parental * feelings.that he denies his off- * spring the best advantage that * nature offers. * Take your stand and stick * to it. Remind the man you * can budget household needs * within the reduced income; * that is the least important an- * gle. If he still hesitates, sug- * gest he talk this over with * your physician. He seems to * require the facts of life set * before him so he will under- * stand how essential to your * happiness and spiritual peace * it is that you perform the ma- * ternal role to its fullest. You * have my sympathy, but also * my conviction that your hus- * band's objections will melt * beneath your arguments. * e* NO MARRIAGE MART "Dear Ann Hirst: I had begun to think all women are alike, but oneor two who have writ- ten you have changed, my mind. They seem like real ladies, and I'd appreciate it if you could tell me how I can get in touch with, then. "I've been wronged by one woman, and divorced her , two years ago. (Women are so un- predictable these days, and men are too.) I am very lonely. I stay home every night, have a good job, don't drink or play the horses, "I'd like to meet a nice wo- man who is in the same situa- tion. Could you help two of us find happiness? I've tried every- thing else. T. R." • This column, I must re- * mind new readers, is not a * marriage mart. I cannot re- * veal the identity of anyone to * another. * Are you sure you have ex- * hausted all the customary * sources of friendship? Does * your minister know how lone- * ly you are? Your co-workers? * Tell them, if you haven't, and * ask their aid. I am sure they * will look around and intro- * duce you to a few eligible * lonesome young women. *< * * Problems of, every kind flow in to Anne Hirst from readers of all ages. . Her long experience :and human sympathy give her an understanding that has kept many a family, together . If you are troubled, too, write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St. New Torono, Ont. +ACHED WITH POWER — Speed's lacking, but there's plenty of power for this ane -elephant open sleigh. Going along far the ride is seven-year-old Walter Theisinger, of Hamburg, Germany. The plodding pachyderm is 65 -year-old "Mennie", resident at the local zoo, Walter's father is the zoo keeper, thus explaining OW special privilege. W- W -WELCOME B44 -13 -BACK, JOE — Old time vaudeville fans, veterans. of .the Roaring Twenties, will hail the news that Stuttering Joe Frisco, one of the,all-time greats of show business, is making '.a comeback in a couple of forthcoming Hollywood movies. Of late• years the 68 -year-old former headliner has been .in a state of suspended animation inside a racing form. Here's Joe today, complete with cigar and racing magazine, telling folks: "I w=w-was i -I -Lucky at the t•t-track today. I got a r -r -ride home." ,°61117 '-. HRONICLE 1NGERFARM evendQ.i. .e P. Cle ,D1,e kn We are just corning out of the` deep freeze — which we did not like oe bit, The teinperature around here for a whole week ranged all the way from tere:. above zero to twenty below, of- • ten with a strong wind blowing.. • Of course the cold weather. brought with it 'complications; the house was hard to heat acid • the car wouldn't g.i • start,.butc I an k bodnesS' we didn't have i I . hev u l Lest . 'es day we.' had ' business ";to attend to down town and the easiest way was to call a taxi. That time everything was fine. But on Friday I had to go ;down town again — this time to shop. Another trip by taxi — but the result wasn't so good. In fact it practically amounted to a comedy of errors. I got together what I wanted from the grocer's and asked to have my order sent over to the taxi call office. Went up the street and did the rest of my shopping, calling at the but, chers, the drugstore, the bake- shop and the dairy, carrying most of the stuff with me. The same taxi was available and ready to go so I thought all we had to do was stop at the dairy and pick up my order. We got home and Partner was waiting to take everything into the house from the back seat of the car. Without actually checking I knew something was missing.' "The groceries — where's my box of groceries?" I asked the driver. "Groceries? I never saw no groceries." "Well, for goodness sake weren't they sent over?" "No ma'am, else they'd have been here." • The taxi driver drove off and I came into the house and headed straight for the. tele- phone . . . "sure the groceries were sentover, almost as soon as you left the store." A tele- phone to the taxi office ... "the store tells me my order was sent over." "I'in sorry, but nothing came here for any Mrs. Clarke." "Are you sure? There should have been a box of groceries and a small "bag of potatoes." "Oh, that order! 'Yes, I re- member it corning in but the boy said it was for "Mrs, Currie". The taxi is away now -- with Mrs. Currie and the groceries!" "For goodness sake! Well, I wonder if you 'can phone Mrs. Currie's place and see what you can do about it. If you can lo- cate the groceries have the taxi bring them in sometime during the day." The call -lady was most oblig- ing and a little while she phoned back, told me everything had been straightened out and the groceries would arrive before long—which they did. A pretty fine example of the advantage of living in a country district. I suppose everyone was more or less at fault — I for not mak- ing sure the box was in the car the delivery boy for not giving the right name; the taxi-drever for not making sure he had the right box for the right person, And 4p. each case it was excus- able. Being Friday afternoon the stores, and the taxis busy and I, being used to my own car and picking up my own parcels, didn't keep my wits about me. It could be they were partially frozen! However, all's well that ends welt In spite of difficulties yve:now have enough of every- hzng to keep us fedfor another,.. geek,";supposing we either get Iiozen,in. or snowed in. As for the car it hasn't 'been out of the garage for over a week. During rough weather it can stay there so far as I am concerned. What we pay for a taxi we save. on "gas, so what's the difference? The cold weather had its drawbacks for us but the four - legged creatures seemed to like it. Our neighbour's horses were racing, around in the pastures having a grand time. Our few cattle were equally active in the barnyard. As for Rusty he was full of beans and Mitchie- White played around like a kit- : ten. Two big grey squirrels chased each other up, down, and around the poplar tree in front of the house and one day we saw a huge hawk resting on the branches of a nearby oak tree. In fact it looked too big to be a hawk. Perhaps it was some kind of owl. We couldn't tell from the house — and to go out bird -watching didn't appeal to us in zero weather. Well, we got word from Eng- land. this week that Partner has lost two aunts and an uncle since Christmas and the young- est of the' three was 85 — Aunt Lottie. I went to see her when I was in England and found a bright, active little woman, liv- ing alone in a big house and do- ing most of her own work. The other one — Aunt Mary — was around 90, and had been ill for some time. As for Uncles Will, Partner thinks he was crowd - Ing a hundred. The whole fam- ily has been noted for its lon- gevity. The mother — Partner's maternal grandmother died Woman Proposes A good many young women don't bother to wait for leap year before they do the pro- posing. In Queen Victnria's case, of course, she was more or less forced to take the initiative. It wouldn't have been possible for a relatively unimportant prince to propose to a reigning mon- arch. So one day she sent for Albeit and sat him beside her on the sofa. As he told his grandmother later, "She declared to me in a genuine outburst of love and af- fection that I had gained her whole heart and would make her intensely happy if I would make her the sacrifice of sharing her life with her." Barbara Kelly was only seven- teen when she proposed to Ber- nard Braden. They were in Ca- nada at the time, riding in his convertible. Suddenly she announced, "I want to get married and I think it bad better be you." Apparently he held out for a month or so, but as the whole world knows, they are now a very happily married couple. A very forward minx was. painter Jean -Baptiste Greuze's; model. Without the slightest en- couragement, she asked him'' to marry her. Finding it difficult to be dis- courteous to a woman, he agreed, but had to be pushed before he would decide on the date. They were eventually married two years later. Modern misses aren't at all backward in making the run- ning. A few years ago, when a bus conductor put a ticket into the hand of one of his passen- gers, she said, "When will you give me a ring instead of just a ticket?". She was his girl friend, whom he hadn't really noticed in the rush of selling tickets; now she's his wife. In Manchester a young couple were saying good -night and she was upset because she'd been taken to task by her mother for not washing the dishes. "If you don't marry me soon I'll kill myself," she cried; so her boy friend obligingly saved her life. In the film world it seems al- most normal for the usual situa- tion to be reversed. An actor re- ported that a film star asked him to marry her. "It wasn't the otherw a round," h e added y tactlessly. Of course, when there's a for- tune to be gained, women are rarely backward in coming for- ward. In 1953, bachelor Ned Eng - some years ago at the age of 103! She directed her two un- married daughters in their housekeeping duties until two weeks before her death. She might have stepped straight from the pages of Jalna — ex- cept that Jalna wasn't even written then. lish, a 75 -year-old hem KTiin� ane, County Limerick, was left a 210,000 legacy by his brother. More than forty women, be- tween the ages of twenty-nine and fifty, wrote saying that they'd love to become his wife. THAT'S DIFFERENT "A little overweight, dear?' queried a timid husband of hig forbidding wife, as she weighed herself. 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TOP AWARDS — Actress Ingrid Bergman, left, smiles at actor Kirk Douglas as they are presented the New York Film Critics Award for 1956 by Irene Thirer at a party in their •honor in Manhattan. Miss Bergman had flown over from Paris to spend just 36 hours• in this country and receive theaward for her performance in "Anastasia". Douglas received his for his work in "Lust 'For Life", :}i:•rFf:C}';'}}}:::ii'F;;:•`.:«::i�}r}o-}.;•?:G>;i� }:�2::4Y'+.::`}t�:;. . $•:;+.5)<�::isL':it":';f;:R?CE•:.'..S'«>;:i•;^:i}:::;•, :::;: •:,�Yi :';.}•:hyo}:i:,.?}.ry}}:in n'::.•:ry} +.:,:'tI i:y:i :::v':? is i•: •.:'•}•� } vi: c.!;•fifii•}' n.,<{•:iv::T}:•y}$:4�`::j;:::.qh:.i.},}'},� • . yi::::;,A}': 4.1::..,§' E<;:� ::.•a,a.:}:.: •,':a:`;iii::}F:.:op}Si.}}}:?:h:; ;::: e>:iy2 .hL i+g2;.'•;/,;i::; °;�5.,.,:..... • rni PICTURES DON'T LIE ON MATTRESSES — Even when it comes to sleeping, the Russians seem to be far behind the. Western world. 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