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HomeMy WebLinkAboutZurich Herald, 1957-01-17, Page 6"Desk' Anne Hirst: Nov;e. ha - tore hese I consulted a steak-- er, but your column has often irtrpreeeed me as wise and hon- est. . .We have been married :'int: tears, and I cannot ap- prove of the way my wife is handling our two youngsters. I was brought up to respect my parents and to believe in their kindness and justice, and to- day in my OW11.. home I see these virtues confused. -My wife and 1 have different ideas about child -training. She c•verlooks offenses which i feel ere fundamental, and then pun- ishes the youngsters for what I call minor pranks. She is dic- tatorial by nature, and our many conferences usually end 'in her having her way and my swift retirement from the scene. -How can 1 reconcile her de- cision,: e- ci ionz and make her see how unreasonable they often are? I know I am not always right, but this continuing contention is getting nae down: I know it is not fair to the children. I love them all deeply, and if you have any suggestions that would bring more frequent agreement, I would appreciate them. PUZZLED DAD." LEARN TO CONCEDE * A mother's instincts and * methods usually are sound. • Your wife is with the chis- * •dreg most of the time, and she knows them better than * you. with all your concern, * possibly can. Most mothers sense the need to approve * her,, to discipline there, be- cause they understand the * children's individual persona- * iitiee and differing reactions, * Except for week ends and va- • cations, what opportunities • have you to study them ex- ' sept for a few hours each * night? When you and your wife * disagree, don't take it for * granted that she is always • wrong. Ask her to explain her * decisions, and discuss them * openly and in good humor. * The siutation is too vital to * the children's proper devel- * opntent for her decisions to * be repeated issues between you. * Both of you want to pre- * para the children to get the most out of life. They must '" be taught the- right of others, ' the elements of fair play and "co -,operation, the need for * obedience. It is vital to their * emotional security that. their * parents agree on the pattern +' decided upon, so they will * respect their elders' judg- * meal, accept it as final, and * not run from mother to fa- * ther to gain their ends. Chil- * & 'n are quirk to recognize * justice, you know, and divid- * ed opinions undermine the * confidence they should have * in their parents' wisdom and • kindnese. * li more fathers were as s concerned as you are for their c•hildren's character and de- * velonment, there would be delinquents in our • c i o n ry, A closer co -opera - SALLY'S SA. 5 "'Just think, dear, this may be out' last kiss , . , in 1955;" ' Lim. ,and mutually recognized * reasonableness between you * and their mother, should es- * tablish a friendlier solution * to your problems. * r: * HUSBAND BORES HER "Dear Anne Hirst: We akar- vied nine years ago, and have a daughter of eight. After the tient two years T fell out of love and 1 don't know why; I've never thought of another man, but my husband and I don't see life .as we used to, and have ,many differences. He is 10 years older, and just wants to sit home all the time, while I want to enjoy life; t love people and gaiety, and I .feel I am just wasting myself now. Maybe I married too young'' -1 don't want a divorce. be- cause of our little girl; she adores him and they are great frcinds; and I think she'll need him even more as she matures. , Shall I try to stick things • out, or leave now? �. * • I hope von will compare your marriage with less sans- '" factoty ones, and cease re- * gretting it. How much worse * it could have been: Your Trus- * band is faithful and kind, he * supports you well and seems * to have no vices. If both * would try to be more con- * genial, your life together could e be wonderful. You are restless. I believe, because he doesn't take 3 ,Lt e out regularly, He may pre- * fee his own fireside. but a * man his age shouldn't be too * exhausted to take you danc- * ing, visiting friends, or enjoy * other recreations with you. If * only for your little girl's sake, * you both should be building * an active life for her to step. * into in another few years. If * you 'suggest such a program * with her future in mind, it is * very likely your 'husband will * co-operate fully, and find * himself enjoying outside acti- * vitiee which can refresh you * both. forget divorce now, and * start playing together. for a richer ife for you all. Agreement on the children's upbringing is a MUST, far all parents. It establishes harmony and trust among -the family, and prevents discord all around. Anne Hirst's understanding can be valuable in this situation. Write her at Box 1, 1Eigh- teenth St., New Toronto, Ont, • Healthy Village * Any man or woman who seri- ously wants to live to be a cen- tenarian should go to live in the little village of Cologne Marina, on the Adriatic coast of Italy. Scientists who have been .trying to find out why the villagers live to such ripe old ages confess. that they're baffled. Is it something in the sea air that produces so many centen- arians? The scientists would like to know, since they just can't find any reasonable explanation for the villager;' longevity and extraordinary vitality. When the village's oldest in- habitant died two years ago he was 106. A number of the 500 people he left behind are centen- arians or in their nineties. In- ners is praei c'alI' unknown there. Some of the centenarians are so spry that they get up at 5 a.m. to attend church on Sun- days. One of the villagers, Giovanni Boni, a mere "youngster" of ninety-four, reflects the youth- ful outlook of the community when he says: ' "It's always been my ambition to fly in an aircraft. I'm saving up fur this treat, and T rec•l.on that by the time I reach my 100th birthday 1'Il just about have enough to pay for a long flight," INTO HONORABLE RETIREMENT -•* The veteran battleship, New Jersey, Is off to join the mothball fleet for the second time. When launched Dec. 7, 1942, the 45,000 -ton, three -blocks -long New Jersey and her sister ship, 'Iowa, were the largest war`: ships afloat. In 18 months of World War II combat in the Pacific, she took part in nine major operations. She was first mothballed in 1948, but recalled to service in 1950 at the out - sett aF this Korean War, in which she was damaged in combat. { PAIR Of QUEENS—Radiant charm of two British queens sparkles as Queen Elizabeth 11, right, and the Queen Mother arrive at the Royal Academy in London to attend a reception. Ermine for wraps and jeweled 'tiaras complement the regal setting of royal limousine. &VGv dotLn.e, P. Ct&v ie All last week the telephone repair men were busy stringing extra wires from pole to pole alongside the cable. Now wasn't it niceof the Bell Telephone ' Company to adopt our Sugges- tions so quickly! Of course we don't know exactly what is be- ing done- or why. We can only hope it is another step towards keeping the line in good work- ing order. Years ago the tele- phone was more or less of a luxury; now it is a necessity— one r,eason, we depend nen this one necessity to •keep our lux- uries in order. Or do We have luxuries any more? Have all our luxuries become necessities? I • wonder. Hydro, for instance. In the populated areas of Ontario the percentage of homes with- out electriciy must now be very. small. Even with Hydro there have been .many changes. At first farm folk were satisfied if all • they had was ,electric light in the Norrie. But eventually, with power, easily available carne' an increase inconveniences both at the house and the barn. Now Useful --Decorative ix/ s4.42't.4 '.1'hi; graceful swan is a pocket fur facecloth --matching edging, a pretty decoration. Easy to cro- chet in favorite pineapple. design. Pastern 705: Crochet directions in mercerized string, for "swan" pocket 71:i .inches, For pocket on srnstlier towels, use No, 30 rot - tees Senci TWENTY -EWE CENTS (:tamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for salet.y) for this pattern to LAURA WIIEELER, 123 Eighteenth St„ New To- ronto, Ont. Print plainly PAT-, TERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. Our gift to you — two won- derful patterns for yourself, your home --- printed in our Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Hook . , Plus dozens of other new de- signs to order — crochet, knit ting, embroidery, iron -ons, nov- elties. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book NOW with gilt patterns printed in 111 in some farm homes, besides the usual gadgets and appliances. you find home freezers, automa- tic washers, oil -burning fur - nares and even air-conditioning. (But not at Ginger Farm, .I'm afraid.) At the barns, of course, there is a motor for this and a motor for that -- for chopping, milking and separating. Yes, it is a far cry from the days when Hydro was first installed. Which brings us back to the telephone. The more electrical appliances we have the more chances there are of something going out of order --• and the more we are likely to need the telephone. Perhaps the milking machine refuses to function; the televi- sion blacks out; the controls on the electric stove stop control- ling or maybe a bad storm hits a transformer, Whatever the 'trouble we run to the telephone.. If the line is. out 'of order we feel completely lost. Or there may be other ennergenciea , eve - treed a doctor in a.11urry,' or •a vet, or 'the' fire reel. ''Actually it could be a matter .of life or death. So isn't it only reasonable to want - and expect ere that our aural lines be maintained with maximum efficiency? Every et - :,fort is usually made to keep them that way. We know that. .There is also a tremendous, ex- pension program in progress. I am referring to the importance of the: telephone only as a rea- son for emphasizing that effi- cient service is an absolute must. Well, there hasn't been any drastic change in the weather around here for over a week. Driving conditions on the high- ways have leen good but on the sideroads very bad. Some- thnes I wonder whether it . is really an advantage to live close .to a main highway. It makes you forget that all roads are not equally good. And that's how city visitors driving to the' cou'ntry often get caught nap- ping. Last week I had to snake a call about twenty miles away. To cut down on the mileage I drove across country. It was a grim experience. Where it wasn't slippery it was slushy. At one point I met a truck goring so •fast that it completely splatter- ed my windows and windshield with slush. I couldn't see a yard ahead of nye. How I kept out of the ditch I'ii never knov, as 1 couldn't apply the brakes. Just one more instanee o•f how easily an accident could have happened through the careless- ness of a thoughtless driven' Be- lieve me, I didn't..take any more chances on narrow cross-country roads that day, 1 came back by the highway. The country„ as I write, is look- ing dreary and bleak without a vestige of snow and so on some farms young cattle and horses are ;naming the fields. They don't seem to mind it at all, .suppose they are conditioned to all kinds of weather. With the milking cows it is a different story. They are the farmers' babies. For them winter time is a lazy time -- and they make the most of it. They have no worries whatsoever. All they can eat an d drink is placed right in front of them. They take their fall and then content- edly chew their cud or go to sleep. They are disturbed only at milking time and when the stables 'are cleaned.. ,Under these conditions cows in normal good 'health respond by being the most contented creatures on this earth. Poultry, too, ,must surely pre- fer winter weather. Most birds can stand cold better than beat anyway. But, alas, hens can be killed 'with kindness., Left to their own devices they become fat and lazy. So young birds are, encouraged to be active -- to get up early and go to bed late. Older birds -- if they are held over ---• are allowed a little more leeway to get over. the moult. But if they don't rejoin the pro- duction lines in reasonable time it's the stewpot for thein. Re- cently from one such hen I got a pound and a half of rendered fat. The fat -makes excellent cakes and cookies, which, inci- dehlally disappear in a hurry when we have all the family here. And that happened yester- day -- so the cookie jar is em- pty again. Even Edward shares in the spoil -- possibly to exer- cise his brand new teeth ! Reluctant Hero Riverside promenaders saw an elderly man struggling in the swirling waters and heard 'his shout$ for help. They crowded round as a young man suddenly dived fully dressed into the sea and brought off a gallant rescue, amid. cheers. Everybody showered the res- cuer with congratulations. A proposal that the hero should be honoured was received with ac- clamation. "Oh, well, it's all right with toe," said the young Mao whew they finally..allowed him t speak, "but what I'd like to knew is es who pushed me off the bank?" ISSUE 2 -- 05'1 oppoupgmesoississomputioliploppoilsompois NIB" 1P/Ftl .N TlE1). PA'i" li Eir EASlERR'-FASTER MOIRE ACCURATE 111111011•11111111111111111110114101111111111411111111MISINIANI PRINTED PATTERN With PRINTED directions ars each pattern part — sewing just couldn't be easier? Make a date - dress, or jumper and blouse; its lovely linos are ideal for winter - cotton, corduroy, rich velveteens Printed Pattern 4500: Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16, 18, 20. Size 16 jumper requires 3 a yards 39 - inch fabric; blouse 1`!a yards. Directions printed on each tie.. sue pattern part. Easy-to-ustc, accurate, assures perfect fit. Send TIlII:TY-FI'V.E CENT% (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Print plainly SI NAIVE, ADbRESS and ST1901 NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAKII, 123' Eighteenth St., New To- ronto, Ont, AS THE PINCH BEGINS TO HURT—In England, the lineup of auttPlt at gas stations grows larger each day, cis the British govern. ment makes additional slashes in gasoline for private motor., ists. London garages are now serving only "regular customerFf CHRISTMAS CAME TO THE PEN, TOO / Obscuring the barred windows behind them, theses Nativity scenes stand atop the Ohio State Penitentiary's administration building. They were* recently completed by three inmates, who worked six weeks on the 40 -foot display. It featurc>"is life-sized figures and a lighted star on the prison wall in background. This is the fir',it yam,' the prison hot had such Yule decorations.