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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1960-04-28, Page 6"They Don't Come+ Vror Normal Homes'r Said J. Edgar Hoover, director of the FBI, recently: "I should like to emphasize that tate juvenile problem in any community . . . regardless of eizo and location ... stems pri- Marily from parental neglect and adult indifference." The Christian Seienee Monitor commented on Hoover's state- menta "Surely a people who have made a democracy practical in its political life can learn how better to strike a balance be- tween individuality and re- eponsibility in homes, It often appears to us that our society does not have a clear picture of the type of home con- ditions and family that breeds these misfits. For so often we write and we spook as if these were aver- age or normal homes in which something misfired while rais- ing the children. The normal, average home rarely, if ever, produces the so- cial misfit who is constantly in trouble with the law. Carmen Santor, Clinton Coun- ty's probation director. did a fascinating analysis of the spring grand jury cases which involved teen-agers and older men and women , (He) found that in most cases, the parents of these young people have been involv- ed with the law at one time or another. So t h e parents were snisfits and simply producing another generation of trouble- makers. In many cases, the parents were divorced or separated. The teen-agers were troublemakers in school, poor in their studies even though some had the men - tai capacity to do their work.. They rarely attended elnuelt, The eases bore out Hoover's observation that the young peo- ple were the result of parental indifference and neglect. But, the point we want to stress is that they do not come from average or normal homes. They came from very abnormal home situations in almost all cases. We can't appeal to the parents of these young people to be re- aponsiblo. Most of them don't know what the word means. We can't ask theta to ease up on their desire to be individualists for they wouldn't know what we are talking about. They are people who are struggling for survival. And in this struggle they haven't learn- ed moral principles or ethics, nor do they understand the role of education in helping them to make a better life for them- selves, We approach this whole prob- lem of delinquency and adult crime on a bookish level, phras- ing the problem in terms of "re- sponsibility" and "individuality" and "lack of discipline." It seems to us that if we ever hope to stem the tide of crime and reduce the criminal element, we'll have to roll our sleeves and go to work, Santo's study shows that we will have to do something to break the endless cycle of cri- minally inclined families raising children to be similarly inclined.' And this is a tough nut to crack. i3ut there must be some an- swers to this if those who are truly concerned dig into the problem with sincere intent to finding t h e in. A society that truly wants to lick the prob- lem can do so. — Plattsburgh N.Y. Press -Republican. Little Lacly Lets Her Husband Enjoy Taking All The Bows By ROSETTE HARGROVE Newspaper Enterprise Assn. Paris -- The little woman be- hind the biggest man in France, President Charles de Gaulle, could be expected to remain in the background on their Ameri- can visit. Onlookers, would see a shy, handsome woman of 60 whose coal black hair is flecked with gray, A simple dresser who pre- fers tailored suits to formal eve- ning gowns, Madame de Gaulle, Stow mindful of her rank, has her wardrobe designed by lead- ing fashion creator Jacques Heinz. But unlike many leading French women, she never dons jewelry. Since moving to the Palais de 1'Elysee ( France's "White 1-Iouse" 1, Madame de Gaulle has been seen less rather than more Northern France, the daughter of a prosperous businessman was raised quietly with her three brothers. Her background sharply contrasts to that of her husband who is the son of a professor of philosophy and French literature. They met over a spilled tea- cup, After World War I, the Vendroux family came to Paris to celebrate. At a party, the gan- gling officer de Gaulle, deeply engrossed in conversation, acci- dentally knocked the tea on Yvonne, FIe apologized. A few months later, in April, 1921, they were married. She bore three children: Phil- ippe, a naval officer stationed at Toulon with his family; Eli- zabeth, the wife of an Army colonel serving in Algeria; and Anne, who died at 20. Anne was buried at a little cemetery near La Boisserie, about 200 miles YVONNE "often strolls the streets of Paris incognito." in accordance with her hus- and's desire to separate his Mate and family life. There is no readily available iography of her life nor is she hely to hold a press confer- 1)nce. She often strolls the streets f Paris incognito, her favourite ;pastime. Despite protocol, she bras asked that no tricoloured ronour marks be placed on her teuto; that no advance guard ie traffic for her; and that alace guards refrain from pre- enting arms for her. To some she is known as the "great unknown," to intimates ax "Aunt Yvonne, the great mute enc;' but to most of the world, rahe has been Mme. Yvonne de r tulle since she married her u lean, then a lieutenant, 39 E :es ago. Teen, Yvonne Vendroux in l000 in a provincial town In east of Paris, the home the de Gaulle:: acquired in 1933. In Anne's honour, Madame de Gaulle founded a home for men- tally deficient girls near Paris where she spends much of her working time. World War II 'forced Yvonne from La Boisserie in June, 1940. She joined her husband who escaped to England a n d than went to Algiers. After the war, the de Gaulies eventually returned to La Bois- serie to enjoy some years away from the public eye. But soon villagers noted that the family's black auto left for Paris more frequently. They said, "When she (Madame de Gaulle) goes with him, that will be the day the country will again call upon him to take aver." That day came in May, 1058. LADY LONGLEGS — Connie Sindell stretches her legs and hairdo at the same time on a jetty at Miami Beach. tCwead-oli,t.e P. Ct rl e Only a week since I last wrote and what a change. Hardly any snow to be seen; just the re- mains of a big drift here and there and a little either side of the snow -fence, Never before have we seen so much snow dis- appear in such a short time. Al- most miraculous. And signs of spring everywhere. Two days ago I heard an oriole; yester- day a robin perched for twenty minutes on an ash tree in front of the house. More spring flower's are appearing in the garden every day and to my delight there are pussy -willows showing on our golden pussy -willow tree. It is such a little tree—not more than two feet high, given to us by an old friend two years ago. Because of poor growing condi- tions we thought we were going to lose it. But we babied it along, protected it against rab- bits, so now we reap our reward. In fact we expect a marked in- crease in the growth of all our trees and shrubs this year, the snow will have provided them with plenty of moisture. Thank goodness they have not been cut Fits Superbly PRINTED PATTERN The woman who's always well- dressed — that's you in this slim- ming sheath that travels every- where in the smart company of its own jacket. Easy sew. Printed Pattern 4898, Half Sizes 141/2, 161/2, 18%, 201/2, 22%, 241/2. Size 161/2 dress takes 31/2 Yards 35 -inch; jacket 11/2 yards. Printed direetions on each pat- tern part. E'isier, accurate, Send FIFTY CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 128 Eighteenth St., New . Toronto, Ont, down by rabbits — but that Was' no thanks to the rabbits. Late last fall Partner wrapped the lower part of every small tree end shrub with tar paper, Cor- rection . he wrapped all but two and those same two have had most of their branches whittled away by rabbits, proof positive protecting trees really pays off. Well, instead of snow we now have mud but even that shows signs of drying rapidly once the surface moisture has drained away. We welcome all these cheery signs of better days to come as family -wise last week wasn't ex- actly one of the best. I had a return of flu complications and Ross was in Milton Hospital with pneumonia. Poor little chap, like many another three-year-old he must have wondered why his Mummy should have taken him to a strange place and left him just when he needed her most. However, his parents were al- lowed to see him twice a day, which was a surprise to me as when David was in the Sick Children's Hospital visits by par- ents were not encouraged at all. Not actually forbidden, merely discouraged. The nurses said a small child, too young to under- stand explanations, is better left to adjust to hospital routine, that parent -visits upset hint emo- tionally. That is understandable but hard advise for parents to follow. However, Dee, unknown to David, used to see him through a glass partition and generally he was playing quite happily in his cot. But if he had caught sight of her , , . well, you know what would have happen- ed. Children are usually looked after so well in hospital these days that the kindest thing par- ents can do is cooperate with the nursing staff`. It helps too if •s child has been trained not to fear doctors and hospitals. Sometimes I think that co- operation is a lesson that some of us never learn. What would you think of a case such as this? It happened to European friends of ours, resident in Canada for ten years. Mrs. A.'s widowed mother, until eighteen months ago, was still living in Europe in a country under Russian "pro- tection." Mr. and Mrs. A. were not happy about her so, at con- siderable trouble and expense to themselves they managed to get her over to Canada. They have a nice home, several school-age children, and were able to give Mother all the care and atten- tion she could possibly need. At first she was determined to learn English but after a few weeks gave Up the attempt. Then she SALLY'S SALLIES 'What could have scared ;din, father? Leap year?" got very homesick, complained because she had no one to talk to, other than her daughter, and of course, could not understand what the rest of the fancily was talking about, Tinnily her soli -in-law ar- ranged for her to go back to Europe — at his own expense and inconvenience. An expense which he could ill afford at that time. `-. Now, as you know, there are always two sides to every ques- tion. In this case whom do you consider was at fault? Mother came to Canada of her own free- will. She had no other chil- dren; no close ties with her old home in Europe. And yet she was homesick, Having accepted pas- sage money,. and the offer of a home with her daughter, wasn't it up to' her to try and adjust to a new way of life in Canada? Also to have persevered in learn- ing English. We hear plenty of stories of life in Communist dominated countries, why then, should any- one want to go back? Is it patrlotisnz, a desire to share the up and downs with fellow - countryman? Or guilt —having so much when "over there" they have so little? Or is it a matter of age? "Mother's" tolerant ron- in -law thinks they made a mis- take in expecting the old lady to adjust after more or less being torn up by the roots. What du you think is the answer? Putting Heat On The Hutterites They swarm like bees, say their critics. They use their re- ligion as a front for business, and thus escape income tax. They re• ject citizenship, refuse to bear arms, and contribute little to the community. They are buying up much of the best land in the Canadian prairies with tax-free income. The last charge was the real reason for widespread restive- ness which flared into a recent parliamentary attack by Conser- vative backbenchers on the Flut- terian Brethren. "It is time the Hutterites are treated like all others with regard to taxation," declared Tory John McIntosh. Who are these Hutterites, and why are many` Canadians so exercised? They were originally Swiss pacifists who formed the first Hutterite group in the sixteenth . century. Over the years they wandered from Switzerland through Eastern Europe, to Rus- sia, finally to the U.S. When the U.S. draft laws hit their young men in 1918 they began to move to Canada in sub- stantial numbers. Twelve colo- nies all told moved from North Dakota into Alberta. (Some 8,000 still remain in the Dakotas, Montana, and Washington,) These twelve have now grown to 55 in Alberta, with the over• flow spilling eastward into Sas- katchewan and Manitoba. Al- though there are still fewer than 10,000 of the Hutterites, they now control an estimated 500,000 acres in Alberta. Surplus funds are used to buy more land on which to set up new colonies ("swarming," as non-Hutterites call it). This usually takes place when the population of an estab- lished colony goes substantially above 100. Despite their social eccentric- ities, the Hutterites are law- abiding farmers quite different from the railway -bombing, school -burning, nude - parading Sons of Freedom Doukhobors in British Columbia. Aside from the economic rivalry, they get along well with their neighbors. But now the economic rivalry is be- ginning to pinch. —From NEWSWEEK ISSUE 17 — 1960 Modern Etiquette Ry Anne Ashley Q. At an informal dinner, where there is no maid, wlso is responsible for starting a :Parti• ender dish around the table? A. The person or guest nearest that dish. Q. When eating itt a restaurant where butter pats are served in a paper containers, may one let the knife rest on the pat when not in use? A. No. The knife should rest along the upper right part of the dinner plate, and never, of course, with the handle resting on the table. Q. I received a birthday oard which had a pretty handkerchief enclosed, 1 failed to write a note of thanks, and any husband claims this was wrong. Wbat do you think? A, I agree with your nus - band. One should always thank the donor of a gift, no matter stow small it may be, That is a mark of refinement. Q. I have a very fine engage- ment ring, anti I should like to have it insured. Is it the place of my finnre to pay the prem- ium? A. The ring's safekeeping is entirely dependent upon you, and you should pay the insurance costs. 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KISS AND RUN Runaway heiress Gamble Benedict, 19, and her Rumanian born lover, Andre Porumbeonu, 35, clinch be- fore their widely -publicized runaway wedding.