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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1959-12-10, Page 6I4IRST and* aumAselat How many, many parents of. daughters today are disturbed by the kind of boy friends their daughters choose! Forgetful of the standards of refined behav- ior by which she was raised, the girl. is sometimes lured by a new beau's swaggering manner and loose talk, and adopts his ways as her own. Disturbed parents have asked for guidance, as dries the desperate mother 1 quote today: "Froin our daughter's first date with this boy whose family moved near us last summer," she writes, "we warned her against him, and now we are really heartsick by the way his influence has changed her, She mistakes his coarseness for so- phistication. Personally, he is obnoxious — untidy, profane and ruthless. She has taken to smok- ing, and has even been seen drinking with him! She goes where he takes her and some- times refuses to tell us where. She has discarded two nice boys she used to date, and calls them sissies; she seldom sees her girl friends any more and has prac- tieally joined his crowd. She always went to church with us, but since she met him she refuses to. And the pity of it all is she is only 161. * The girl does not, of course, * realize the danger of her course. Dazzled by the boy's * unaccustomed personality, 'she * is blind to the evil influence it * can exert on her future. Only * her parents sense that. Surely. * she owes them something! • Through the years, they have * watched over her, sacrificed to o educate and train her in the * ways she should go. Until now * they have been proud of her. * Will she wreck all their hopes? * Cause grief, perhaps tragedy, * to these two who have loved o her so? * A ' girl or a boy have only ° two parents, and they will not * always have them. Years take * their toll, and sorrows hasten o it. No boy in the world is o worth such a price. If the girl * persists in her headstrong fol- o ly, she will one day find her- * self living with shocking * memories that can destroy her e peace of mind and soul for the ° rest of her days. o The friends a girl makes in o her teen years can enrich her ▪ whole life - or blacken it. * For your consolation, I have t observed that such boys soon * tire of their newest recruit. • Your daughter's servile sub'- * mission is the very attitude. ' that usually sends him off to * other game. When that hap- * pens she will be • desolated,, v later see him as the coarse * male he is and berate her - Applauded By All 'PRINTED PATTERN \4700 All the fashion world hails the wide, wide sailor collar that 'capes" your shoulders above a streak of a sheath. Divine shape r junior figures — front band - rig accents narrow Waist. Printed Pattern 4700: Jr. Miss sizes 0, 11, 13, 15, 17, Size 13. akes IVa yards 35 -inch fabric. Printed directions oneach pat- ern part, Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (400) stamps cannot be accepted, use ostal note for safety) for this attern. Please print plainly IIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, TYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, :oz 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New 'pronto, Ont. * self for being such a silly vie- * tint. After all, your daughter * has a sound moral inheritage, * and if you can be patient a * while longer. I have no doubts * about her awakening. The ex- �' perience is unwelcome (and * devastating to parents) but * that is the way some young * girls have to learn. * You and her father seem to * have done all you could to con- • trol her, except forbid the boy * to come to your home; this you * reject, I expect, because she * would be apt to meet hien else- * where. (Have you thought of * taking her on a trip over the. * holidays?) Let us both hope * (and I believe) that this is * only a temporary phase of * adolescent rebellion which she. * will outgrow, and, thereafter. * she will have more respect for. * your opinions. * Leave this column where * your daughter will see it to - * day. * * * TWO Or A KIND "Dear Anne Hirst: I am just back from a visit, where I met a boy whom I love dearly. He thinks I am two-timing him, and I ant sure. he Is double- crossing 'me with the girl I stay- ed with. I try to make him jeal- ous so he will show his lova, then we break up and make tip again. (He thinks I flirt too much,) "Other boys write me and phone me, but I always tell them I am in love with this one. How can I keep him away from that girl? I think I hate her! . . , CAROLINE" * You must be very immature * to think you can land a boy * by making him jealous; that * can only succeed if the lad * really cares for you, and this * one doesn't trust you enough * to take you seriously, * The way to win and hold * any man's affection is to prove * you are trustworthy, and to * trust him as much. From that * faith springs true friendship * and the mutual desire to * please by bringing out the. * best in yourself and the one * you care for. You are playing * at love,. I'm afraid, and it is * only arousing jealousy and ha- * tred. How can you find love, * or deserve it, when you in- *. dulge in such childish non- * sense? * Play fair from now on, and * expect the young man to do * the same And stop discussing * him with other boys; if this *:romance (?) ends, you will * 'need their friendship and * their respect. • * * * The authority of parents these days can go so far, and, then the choice df behaviour lies in the girl's hands. If you are troubled by a daughter's defiance, write Anne Hirst about_ it, addressing her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Check Your Car Before That Trip Motorists, have a Careful. Christmas ! The. Christmas season is a time of good cheer, but, unfortunate- ly, it nfortunately,it ends on a note oftragedy each year for thousands of peo- ple who eople'who disregard cold weather driving precautions.' Before your holiday travels take you over the hills to Grand- mother's house or to visit friends where you have to leave your car, standing outdoors for hours at • time, here are some pre- cautions, you should. .take. 1. Havefresh, effective anti- freeze put into your radiator.. Don't try to get by with last year's. ' 2, Check the condition of your heater and defroster. To work properly, they depend on a win- ter thermostat. Have your ser- viceman install one. 3. When a car is left outdoors during cold weather, frequently the windshield becomes glazed with ice. If you remove the dee by defrosting rather than scrap- ing,' lower car windows while running the motor. If you don't asphyxiation may result. 4. If you must drive at night, remove snow and ice from your head and tail lights before you start, Otherwise they will be too dim to .add much to your visi- bility or to warn other motorists of your presence. 5, If there is ice or snow on the road, never make sudden moves, either stopping, starting or changing directions. ;Even on warm, sunny days, watch out, too, for those ice patches that linger in shaded areas of roads. 6. Winter .road emergencies require special equipment. Your car tepa.k should contain the fol. lowing shovel and sand, tire chains, spare fan belt and tire, tow rope, lug wrench lei wheel nuts and a first aid kit, Above all, once you get be- hind the wheel of your ear, use common sense, PIPED ASHORE — As bagpipes, blare,.. the pony mascot of the Scottish Battalion is le& gshere ,in 'Southampton, England; The ' troops arrived 'home from a 'tour pf duty in Cyprus.. H1iONICL: INGER.Fruer Today Is my brother's birth-, day. That doesn't sound such an- exciting statement. Nor would ' it be except. that 1 don't : even. know if 1 have a brother. He. • was in Europe when the' Second War broke out — as a civilian '= and that is the last we heard' of' him. He was very much of a rolling stone .and wei'think it more; than likely he weht•.under- ground• during the French Re- . sistance. We , don't :-know and now I.suppose We never shall.. He,was'clever, maybe too clever'. for his, own ,good, artistic, musical and ' a good writer—but never really settled to anything or stayed in one, place for very long. His, name was Evelyn Page Titz-Gerald. We were great con- panione any time'he .Was 'at home so naturally I. have often wished 'I knew what 'happened ' to him. But my sister and 'I ' were living in Canada, .my mo- ther was dead and nay older brother was very much out of patience with Evelyn whom he regarded as the black sheep •of the- family. So there you have. it — one; small fancily mystery recalled to'life •by, a date on the calendar'.'. , 'and not at all. what I intended to write about. No, it's really the weather that, ' makes the news -.around here ,. once again. All our trees, big. and small, are bleak and''bare, leaves stripped from their.. branches in one day by a ruth- less, driving wind. The -next day Joy aridI went .shopping - and to visit nearby nurseries— get-ting a line on ,evergreens. It was so warm we were swelter- ing yet the weather probs call- ed for a forty -degree drop in temperature before' morning. It didn't ,s,eem possible but we ,knew the weatherman could be right. Anyway,to be on the safe. side' -we phoned for fuel oil, things from the garden, and covered potatoes, apples and 'ci- tron left in the 'garage for .cool, storage. Without a fruit cellar we can't keep anything in the 'basement for very long. Was there ever a time, I wonder, that winter didn't catch about fifty per cent of us napping? If not in big things at least in little ones, When. the leaves fall it cer- tainly makes a difference to our scenery. In more ways than one, believe me. Through the bare trees we get a clear view of a wonderful colour scheme over on the next road, Hold your hat while I tell you. Sev rah •house_ have-chanlged hands — and ap- pearances! One frame house with a black roof is painted bright red under the eaves and an equally bright blue the rest of the way, The next house is grey with strawberry -pink doors and trim. And the next a con- servative green and white, Part- ner says we shall at least have something cheerful to look at all winter. I'm hoping we shall also have something cheerful to lis- ten to as well, Which bring me to the subject of television and radio. 'When the fall season started ISSUE 49 — 1959 there was a lot of talk about the wonderful new programmes in store :for' us: There have been some good' "specials" but the regulars are worse than ever. Even the .westerns are not as. good '• as Wyatt Earp and Bat. Masterson used to be. Jazz vari- ety .programmes; are atrocious— however the "singing stars" got contracts I can't 'imagine. Tab- loid has about one good evening a week having apparently drain- ed the well almost dry insofar as interesting personalities are conccrned..Front Page Challenge is still gond and - Lead a .,Bor- rowed Life even better. Charles ,Templeton carries the show right along. Fancily 'life shows are: good but there .are too many of them and too much of a same- ness. Half-hour. dramas are poor: C.B.C. hour long , sliows gond but too depressing. ' Why ,can't we have stories with a happy 'ending once in a while? We need, to be '•reminded 'thatlife still has " its moments of fun and laughter. Jack Benny puts on a wonderful show but I find it hard to, sit through an .hour with Ed Sullivan. Of :course'` sport loversshould have little to com- plain about — just, try find get anything •else when the World Seriesor the football games' are, on, either on TV or radio. AS' -for the fixed quis shows, ,that's :something else again. Cer- tainly fraud, cannot be permit- ted but T am tempted to wish tho investigation had been kept quiet. Why must the public be informed of behind -the -scenes dishonesty? Isn't that something for the management to deal with? After all we were, getting' a lot of enjoyment from .quiz shows but now we have such a let -down feeling. I was going to say Fighting Words had also got very tame but I have reversed my opinion since last night. That discussion on "Trading Stamps" was the liveliest for many months. I hope it clarifies the situation for a good many people. Surely with so many organizations op- posed to stamps they will even- tually be done away with. "Nev- A Strange Year In England Sunday suddenly emerged from Saturday's fog, The light was dazzling for a moment and one seemed to have come out of the tunnel into quite a new country, All along this has been the strangest year in England, built up around a summer made of the sheer memories of child- hood when every summer's day of course was warm and bright, and packed with laughter. And the effect of all this is still visi- ble on the year, There are red blackberries on the bush outside the dining room window, the. yet unripened berries of a unique second crop, and constant' roses in the flower beds. And on this day when we went for a walk the heath was as we had never seen it before. For this is the end of the year when if the sun shines it shines on 'bare• branches and deserted earth. But not this tine. The bracken, standing s t i l 1, rust -rod with a touch of pur- ple, glistened as if It has,been lacquered. There were• laves still on the silver birch, and leaves on the scattered bushes of the wide plain cleared by the 'foresters and they shone like toyalty(s medals in the sunlight. The heather was full' and its last bells gleaned and, with the winter sun so• low, in the Shy, it was •scored with the long sha- dows of evening even at noon, We came to the Black Pond. And it was no longer there. A dog, two little girls in red gob- lin ''suits .and an elder brother about 15 played on the hard beach • by 'the notice, standing on its long single-istork's leg, "No Paddling, Beyond This Board," The . little girls swung on the rustic wooden rails that mark the edge of the swimming area and support the diving board, with their arms stretched over- head, and their -legs tucked up. The brother leaned on, the rail and watched, 'writes John Allan May in t h e Christian Science Monitor. There ,.was a pool a few feet square in front of them in which the dog was splashing. It was half an inch. deep and was fed by a winding trickle of a stream two or threeinches across that came from somewhere in the middle out beyond the second row of rails and the notice, "No Swimming Beyond This Rail." The.uprights supporting the rails were hung, with weblike . Span- ish moss, The tall thin reeds around 'were baked almost white. And in the middle of the "pond" a large flock of little birds, possibly sparrows, fed busily on tussocks of grass. "Poor moorhen," said Joy. There were none there and it was , their absence and the un- known 'troubles they must have. encountered that aroused her compassion. Now this part of the heath, which always looks a little like. Africa, looped' the part coin pletely; a tawny country of bush, plain, desert, and secrecy. We ,walked' on, quite alone ex- cept for a string of horseriders' in the distance, over-. what is usually bog and through the new plantations of Scotch pine. :like ten. _thousand little Christ- mas 'trees and - each dripping with:dew diamonds and .garland- ed with silver webs. We ' had :never walkedin this particular part ,in 20 years, Next•`day it rained, The gray clouds closed in and down and it was like being in a goldfish bowl with: a:'blanket over 'it, A. shallow riv'e'r ran down cur driveway .onto a dark, wet siz-' zling road. • "Back to normal," we said: And sighed;' We sighed because,' perhaps, we will 'never see again er underestimate the power of a woman!" We'll win out:yet. I, for one, make a point of deal- ing with stores that DO NOT have trading stamps or other gimmicks. jalst exactly what we saw yes- terday as we saw it then; and it was very beautiful, But the sigh was tempered with an un- usual feeling of happiness at the rain. For we knew we want to hear again the childish caco- phony of summer at the Black Pond, the shrill swimming and the dares of diving, and the dogs leaping after s tic ks, and to watoh the moorhens sailing among the weeds and to see all round the gentle, green, familiar England. And that takes rain. Modern Etiquette By Roberta Lee Q. Does it really snake any difference whether one sits down from the right or the left side of the chair at the dinner tabic? A. No; whichever side offers the easier and quicker access is the one for you. Q, Is it correct to have a monogram engraved on the en- velope of social stationery? A. No; the monogram should be engraved only on the note paper itself. Q. What should one say to persons who have just had a death in their family? A. Upon the occasion of death, some expression of sym- pathy is always appreciated by • the family, but the less elabor- ate the expression the better. A simple "I. am sorry. Is there anything.I can do?" is sincere and sufficient. 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' STEALING THE SHOW An added attraction ase a Paris theater, Iranian beauty Farah Dibe, far left, faces a crowd of cameramen in the next box. 1