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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1959-11-19, Page 6"Deer Anne Hirst:On my re- cent birthday, I to my own sur- prise, got engaged to a young man Pd known for years. His family and mine evidently had planned our future beforeI re- alized it. In their ,presence he gave me a beautiful diamond. I was speechless -and I'm asham- ed to confess that I have not yet found courage to oppose them all. "Why? Because for three years I've been in' love with a man 10 years older whom I mel in business, We have dated re- gularly, and when I' am with him I am thrilled through and through; yet I am at peace. He has never spoken in terms of love until the other day, when I showed him my ring He wish- ed me happiness, and that was that. "I could not bear it. I tele- phoned him and we met, Then he admitted he has al w a y s loved me, but hesitated to say so because he is older. He is a professional man, really a so- phisticated person and earning a large income, Now he seems miserable too, and I am so con= fused I don't know what to do. "I am fond of my fiance, and hesitate to hurt him and our families. Do you think I could learn to love him? Or shall I break things off and tell my family why? IN A {WHIRL" * To test your feelings for " the older man, try to picture * him without a dollar to his * name, Suppose his profession * failed him, his investments * diminish, and he grow bitter * at fate? Could you stick by * him, comfort him, count all * else well lost just to be by *' his side? If you find that you * could not love him for him- * self alone, put him out of * your mind today and forever, * But if you are wholehearted- * ly In love, then break ,your * engagement, * The young man will get over * it. His family would not want * him to marry a girl who * doesn't love him, and your * parents will surely want, first e your personal happiness. "' Whether anyone can 'con- * sciously learn to love a man * is debatable. I hope you will * not go through with marriage' * to your fiance unless you do r' fall in love with him - and if * you renounce this other man * that could haopen. * * * "Dear Anne Hirst: I and a grand young 'man are very much in love and want to get married. I'm not of 'age, how - Pure Flattery PRINTED PATTERN xx% 4556 SIZES 10-18 l - :r5 A superbly shaped sheath - the most elegant way to be no- ticed by day, at dinner, .on a date. Double-breasted buttoning curves a sleek midriff hip pockets accent a long -waisted look. Printed Pattern 4556: Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16, 18. Size 16 takes 4 yards 39 -inch fabric. Printed directions on each pattern part. Easier, accurate, Send FIFTY CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal dote for safety) for this pattern, Please print plainly SIZE, ZIAmlE, ADDRESS, STYLE' DIVIBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, ox 1, 123 Eighteenth St., Neev Toronto, Ont. ever, and my mother will not consent although I wouldn't wantto get married anyhow without that. She had an un- happy life with my father until he died recently, so perhaps, that is why she fears for me. "She knows my fiance's fa- mily and likes them, and she doesn't dislike him. Ilow can I persuade her to help us? MADGE" * Waiting to marry until you * are of age will draw you and * your fiance closer, and should * soften your mother's attitude * considerably. Discouraged by * her own sad married life, she * is trying to protect you from * possible disillusion, * Since she admires the lad's v family, perhaps h i s mother * can influence her to believe * that this marriage is right for * you when the time comes for it. Cheer up ! * * * Whether your probleth is great or small, Anne ?forst will lend a sympatheticear and'giVe it her best thought, Write her frankly at Brix 1, 123 .Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont., and know you will have an honest opinion and safe guidance. Talcum -Powder Tragedy In France "I'll never forget the look in my little Claude's eyes," 'o n e mother said. "He was only a little thing then - 18 months- but he looked as if he wanted to tell me something. And all the time I just kept rubbing on more of that powder." The pow de r, as a court in Bordeaux heard last month in harrowing detail, was a babies' talcum powder called Baumol which pharmacist Jacques, Caze- nave mixed in 1 -ton batches and sold for use on babies' diaper rash and other skin complaints until it was suddenly taken off the market in 1952. By then`doc- tors were being driven frantic by' a wave of infant mortalities that struck • like a plague out of the Middle Ages. Symptoms were always the same: Violent rashes which refused to respond' to treatment, And when mothers dabbed on Baumol the rashes` got worse; in a few days the, helpless child would die. Seventy-three babies died this way and at least 290 others were made desperately ill before in- vestigations - which were made public for the first time last week. - revealed that in 1951 Cazenave had mixed up two batches of powder in which arsenic was substituted for• harmless zinc oxide. The French Government, af- ter seven years of laboriously tracking down the parents of the dead children, accused Ca- zenave of "grave 'professional error," "I admit all shy errors," the druggist replied. •"I didn't have the time . . to perform an analysis of the ingredients." Now 59 and a haunted and broken man, Cazenave sat for- lornly in . a courtroom -packed with the parents who sprinkled, their tots with "the talcum pow- der that kills." He is charged with "involuntary homicide" - for which the maximum penalty is two years in prison. This is the same sentence pow being, served by French pharmacist George Feuillet who in 1957 was found guilty ofmanufac- turing a poison -laden "cure" for pimples which killed 102 per- sons. - From NEWSWEEK: Eight -Year -Olds Enjoy Geometry! "I like arithmetic," said John Crabbe. "But I like geometry better." The statement was re- markable for the simple reason that John Crabbe is only 8 years old. Together with 3;000 second and third graders in the Palo, Alto., Calif., area, John is study- ing rudimentary plane geometry -including the formation of fig- ures and measurement of angles. What's more, he and his class- mates are graspingthe subject easily, Backed by a $32,000 Car- negie Corp. grant, the experi- ment is the brain child of two professors at nearby Stant'md University. Dr. Patrick Suppes and Dr. Newton Hawley, authors . of a 161 -page textbook, "Geo- metry for Primary Grades." "We think it's possible to give them something that tenth graders don't have time to ab- sorb," said. Dr, Suppes recently. "A thorough intuitive feeling for geometry." The easy text- book problems also improve a child's reading comprehension. With some awe, one teacher re- ports that words like "quadrila- teral" are appearing in compo- sition - used correctly and spelled correctly. SAFELY HOMERussell Langelle, ousted from Russia by the ' Soviet Government, carries his two-year-old daughter Mary as .he arrives in New York, The .Reds charged that Langelle had used his job' as security .officer at 'the .U.S, Embassy in Moscow as a fron'k'for espionage activities. Shades of winter! I have knit- ted five pairs of boys' mitts this past week. Jerry and Eddie: were so tickled with' theirs they wore them to bed. Children, get'pleas- ure from pleas- ure.from the' most •: unexpected things. Dave put his into his coat pockets )'ready for ,school". '. Ross'. hasn't got . his yet 'and the fifthpair is,' for a, little •neigh- bour, boy., Incidentally, I' make the' mitts, his mother' pays me. , 754. a pair and that: goes towards my. "talent money" for the W.I. Each member is supposed to'earn money to, the value of $2 or more and hand it in. That little ,scheme'should'sweli the treasury quite a bit. There are no restric- tions as to how the money shall be raised. It can be by baking, baby-sitting, knitting, needle- work orby having a .pay -tea or card party. Thought S would pass the idea along for what it is worth. Talent money isn't a new idea but ways of making it often are. This is Thanksgiving weekend. Dee, and family have gone to the cottage - probably for the last timethis year. Anyway' they'll., be putting the boat -in dry dock, bringing home the motor and all' the other stuff' that was removed to the cottage temporarily. 'Yes,. it really looks as if we have fin- ally ' come to the end of our warm weather. Now what a scramble there will be on farms and in homes - to get all the odd jobs done before freeze-up. And you never know how soon it might come, judging by what is happening on the prairie right now,. Imagine bliz- bards and blocked roads so early in the season. The poor dears. However, I am hoping there won't be too much loss from snow-covered' grain. 1 remember we had ,that happen one year out. west and we were able to thresh in early spring and the wheat was none the worse. It has been rough and windy here today, whipping the leaves from the ash trees and worry- ing the' 'birds. Sparrows have been seeking shelter under our permanent awnings and dozens of little juncos have invaded the lawns and gardens. Such, dainty. pretty little birds. With, this sudden change in SALLY'S SALLIES MENS' HATS "1 forget his size but he stilt wears Ivy league styles. Would that help?" the weather 1 am wondering how many farm folk will be up against ' the lovely job of rescuing contrary pullets and ' roosters from ' the tree -tops. Even though you provide the birds with the best possible ac- commodation .some will escape from custody and take to the trees. Catching them is 'as hard a job as any onthe farm. 'A quick' grab for' a chicken's legs -and if you miss it flutters to the ground and ..then runs squawking into the'. garden or among the shrubs. 'There is nothing more stupid than 'a frightened chicken. Chasing it With a flashlight is a waste of time - unless you can throw a sack over it or chase it into the corner of a building and then make a grab for it in the dark. Dear farmer -friends, I sincerely hope you don't have too many chickens to 'catch. If 'you have than my sympathy is with you. Now ... do you ever get be- hind.• in answering letters? Who doesn t? This may give you an idea.' "Recently I received a three-page typewritten letter from a friend, It was folded over like an advertisement, stapled in ozie place and .came With a flour -cent stamp. 1t be- gan -- "Dear Family. and Friends -" It continued like any ordinary letter giving high-. lights of family news, also little items ef. Interest concerning mutual friends -where 11, went for his holidays, how the boys were getting on with their mu- sio, and so on. The letter hod evidently been taken' off on a home duplicator, obviously with the intention of sending a copy to all those in- terested in hearing from the writer. Fine, if the main pur- pose was to .save time. But I could see drawbacks. For in- stance, how many would write the same type of letter. to Dora as we would to Aunt Min? Per- sonal touches would apply to one and not the other. And heaven help us if we were guil- ty of a little criticism of either. Another type of letter I know of is a sort of family chain- letter. It begins with Mabel who writes all the news relating to the old hometown community. She sends the latter to Katie. K. adds her bit and forwards it to Betty. And so it goes until it has reached each of the seven - member familyand is then 're- turned to the one who started it, Maybe 'that is a better idea than the 'duplicate letter. In this case the letter comes in a seal. ed envelope and has all the in- timate details one' is accustom. ed to in a family .letter. But neither a chain nor a circular letter is as good as a personal letter. Either, of course, is bit- ter ,than no letter at all. Another way is to write a column such as this. I wonder how many hundreds of people I write to each week = and from whom- I get a surprising num- ber • of heart-warming replies. Keep it up, dear people. I love your letters. Why Women Live Longer Than Men While American men ogle the opulent metres of a Monroe or Bardot, American women have been getting thinner. While American women sigh over the hard lean frames of Hudson and Holden, their own •'men have been growing fat. In fact, the average 25 -year-old Ames:lean woman today weighs a good 5 pounds less than her 'mother did 30 years ago, but the average American man of 25 weighs about 5 pounds more than .his' father at the same age. That was what the Society of Actuaries, which has a way with figures, reported last month. In an attempt to find out why people die before insurance con- panies think they should, the society compiled the weights, - • heights, and causes of death for nearly 5 million Americans who have • 'died in the past twenty years. The massive report -the biggest statistical study to 'date in the health field confirms what the insurance men thought all along: Fat Americans. are poor insurance, rieks•because. they are more likely to die of. diabetes, digestive • disorders, and heart disease. The last such study was made in 1920, And the average a •e height, and weight statistIca can still be seen on the charts taelced to thousands of penny scales, But even though the r,ew' average weight f o r American men . is higher (5 pounds more: in young adulthood, less with increasing age) and for women lower (by several pounds for all ages) the insurance men are not suggesting thatthese are the best weights for good health. They found that, for both sexes, the lowest mortality at ages over 30 was among people who tipped the scalesat about 20' pounds below average, What has caused the national change in weight? Good food, the insurance report said, is the main reason why American men have gained weight. As ' fur American women,' they are lighter than 30 years ago pri- marily because of "the greater vogue of slenderness." Chill Chasers 965 rawIAYW h8i24% Delight the snowball set un Christmas with this cap 'n' mitt - ten, set. Done in white and a colur. Gay pompoms for trur. Gay, warm, easy - crochet - practical gift. Pattern 965: three. tions' for cap 'n' mitten set to fit 4 to 10 year old girls. Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTS (s t a m ps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety). for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, ' Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. New! New! New! Our 1960 ,Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book is ready NOW! Crammed with exciting,unusual, popular designs to crochet, knit, sew, emboider, quilt, weave. - fa- shions,' home furnishings, toys, gifts, bazaar hits. In .the book FREE - 3 quilt patterns. Hur- ry, send 25 cents foryour copy, ISSUE 46'- 1959 YOUR WEIGHT WEIGHS HEAVILY IN LIFE'S SPAN - People who live longest ,re people whose body weights and blood pressed es ale below normal - on the average. Weight tables, above, are a distillation from a massive, 20 -year study representing life -and -death eAperience of 26 life insurance companies with almost five million policy holders, Actuarle. - insurance statisticians - determined, for example that men who weighed 20 pounds none .thanthe avclage for their height and age hada' 10 per cent higher death rate, A 25 puund average shot the death rale to 25 per cent above the norm, When the excess reached 50 pounds, the death rate rearhed from 50 to 75 per cent above the average, As with all ." e'ooes figurer are cenditiona'l by your "own personal physical condition, and your own p'lyaleian's advice should be sought in dealing w'th.your problem. "Men Height Ages 15-16 17-19 20-24 25-29 30-39 40-49 50-59 60-69 5'0" 98 113 122 128 131 134 136 133 2 107 119 128 134 137 140 142 • 139 4 117 127 136 141 145 148 149 146 6 127 135 142 148 153 156 157 154 8 137 143 149 155 161 165 166 163 .10 146 151 157 163, 170 174 175 173 6'0" 154 160 166 172 179 183: 185 183 2 164 168 174 182 188 192 194 193• 4 ' ... 176 181 190 199 203 205 ` 204 ,) Women Height Ages 15-16 17-19 20-24 25-29 30-39 40-49 50-59 60-69 4'10" 97 '99 102 107 115 122 125 • 127 5'0" 103 105 108 ' 113 120 127 130 131 2 111 • 113 115.. 119 126 133 136 137- 334 4 117 120 121 125 132 140 144 145 ' 6 ' 125 127 129 .133 139 147 152' 153 8 132 .134 136. 140 146 155 '160 161 10 ..- 142 144 148 154 164 169 . 6'0" ,,, 152 154 158 164 174 180 . YOUR WEIGHT WEIGHS HEAVILY IN LIFE'S SPAN - People who live longest ,re people whose body weights and blood pressed es ale below normal - on the average. Weight tables, above, are a distillation from a massive, 20 -year study representing life -and -death eAperience of 26 life insurance companies with almost five million policy holders, Actuarle. - insurance statisticians - determined, for example that men who weighed 20 pounds none .thanthe avclage for their height and age hada' 10 per cent higher death rate, A 25 puund average shot the death rale to 25 per cent above the norm, When the excess reached 50 pounds, the death rate rearhed from 50 to 75 per cent above the average, As with all ." e'ooes figurer are cenditiona'l by your "own personal physical condition, and your own p'lyaleian's advice should be sought in dealing w'th.your problem.