HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1959-10-29, Page 6AN NE RIRST
"Dear Anne Hirst: I admit
right here that I was largely to
blame for my wife's divorcing
me two years ago. After the first
year I took to drinking and sel-
dom stayed at home because she
had grown lazy and careless,
didn't keep the house clean nor
take proper care of our baby son.
Finally she applied for a divorce,
which I didn't want because of
the baby, but since she was
admanant, she got it. At first I
was terribly lonesome for my
son, but these past months have
reconciled. me to that loss.
"Now 1 have met a delightful
young woman whom I have
come to love deeply, She is four
years older than I, and insists
that the age -difference is im-
portant. We get along wonder-
fully, and understand each other
better all the time. Each hour
I spend with her only increases
my love, and I am certain if I
were her age she would not hesi-
tate to become my wife,
"As for me, I am not afraid to
marry again, I have learned so
well what marriage demands. I
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knew I had to find a new life to
live, and the only way was
through will power, I have heen
promoted to a responsible posi-
tion, I now stay away from tav-
erns and drink almost nothing.
This experience, I know, has
aged me.
"How can I convince this love-
ly young woman that I am as
old as she is, if not even more
mature? I don't see how I can go
along without her now.
BILL L."
FINALLY MATURE
* Your letter (which I had to.
* shorten) defines your coming-
* of -age. These lonely years of
* self-discipline have not been
* Wasted, you saw the folly of
* your former ways and cast off
* those habits that weakened
* your character, Now you are
* ready to practice the true es-
* sentials that make 'for a good
* marriage, It is not how many
* years one has lived, it is how
* one has learned to master him-
* self that determines his value
* ds a worth -while citizen in all
* its varied relationships. Actu-
* ally, in my opinion you are
* older than the usual man of
* your years,
* This truth, coupled with the
* love and understanding you
* have developed for this young
* woman, should be sufficient'
* proof that you .have achieved
* the appreciation, the tolerance
* and the will to be her sympa-
* thetic companion.
* I hope she will not' weigh.
* the calendar, but recognize the
* man you are now. If she will
* read what I say today (and I
* have concluded my opinion
* from your revealing letter) she
* will no longer count the differ-
* encs in years but appreciate
* the manner of man you have
* grown to be, and gladly give
* her future into your keeping
* without a single doubt.
* Tell her, for me, that one of
• my best friends married a man
* 10 years younger, and those
* who don't know her , history
* believe they are the seine age,
* *
DANGEROUS SITUATION
"Dear Anne Hirst: I am a
widow 48, with five children
home and five married. Some
time ago I met a man who
though married is getting a div-
orce. He says he loves me, and
I really love him.
"He is at present in the hospi-
tal sick. I have tried to break.
off with him, but I have node-
sire for any other man .Please
advise me. — M.C."
* If this man is getting a div-
orce,
ivorce, you are treading on clan-.
• gerous ground to keep on visit-
* ing him. Until he is free he
o has no right to be seeing an-
* other woman, and his wife
• could make the situation very
* unpleasant for you -1 fyou keep
* this up.
* Tell him in all kindness that,
* for both your sakes, you will
* have to cease these visits now.
* When he can ask you to marry
o him, you will consider it.
• Meanwhile, stay clear of
* trouble, if only for the sake of
* your children.
* *
It is not one's age, but self-
discipline one has practiced that
determines his fitness for .mar-
riage. If you are in doubt, write
Anne Hirst about it and 'receive
her honest opinion. Address her
at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New
Toronto, Ont.
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A‘. SINGERI7ARM
I bought a hat! Actually I
bought a • fall suit and a top
coat first, They' met ;with fam-
ily approval: Then Partner said
"But what about a hat — you've
got to have a new hat to go
with that. outfit," So I went to
town - alone — and, as I say,
I bought a hat. It's about as
modern as tomorrow! Really,
it's a lovely number — velour
felt with a high crown and
scoop brim in a soft beige col-
our. I wore it home and you
-should have heard the com-
ments. I'll give you a few sam-
ples:
Partner: "Holy smoke, what
have you got on your head?"
Dee: It's a lovely hat but it's
so different. I'm not sure that
I like it."
Arthur: "What are you talk-
ing about — your mother .looks
very nice in that hat — it suits
her."
Bob: "The coat's all right but
I don't think much of the hat."
Joy: "Oh, is that ever pretty
—so new and so soft and nice.
I LIKE IT."
V a r i o u s friends: "Really
.smart ... not quite your colour
.. wish I could wear a hat like
that ... my word, are we ever
modern .. you're not going to
wear THAT — it's a joke!"
So there you are — just a
few of the comments, for and
against, one poor little hat when
mother goes shopping. A crea-
tion, I must admit, that isn't
quite so conservative as I've.
been used to wearing. What
does it matter anyway, just so
long as it stirs up a little In-
terest? After all it IS perfectly
plain — no flowers or feathers
Its only claim to smartness is
its simplicity and shape, Thirty
years ago the same style of
headgear was very much the
fashion. I can prove it by old
family photographs.
Nof for a Tittle matter that Is
probably of more vital interest
to readers of this column than
my new hat, And that is Bonus
Stamps! Are you for or against
them? The Canadian Consumers
Association is very much
against them. Heads of chain
stores using stamps say their
customers just love therm I
wonder!
Well, I must admit most wom-
en like the idea of getting a
bargain, They love that "some-
thing for nothing" feeling. The
fly in the ointment is that no
one ever gets anything tet
nothing. We never have done.
But open the newspapers and
What db you see? Double -page
advertisements giving all the
details about the bonus gifts
your trading stamps will bring
you. Who do you think is pay-
ing for all that advertising? We
are, naturally. Chain stores soon
cover' the initial cost by an ex-
tra cent here and there on what
we buy — and we are so used
to prices going up we hardly
notice the difference. Now just
multiply those few odd cents by
the thousands in returns to the
retail distributors and it be-
comes quite obvious they are
having a field day, trading on
the gullible nature of the aver-
age housewife.
Everyone knows the cost of
living is sky - high. Retailers
know it too. How much better
it would be, and what a great
service to the public at large,
if retailers got together and'
agreed to cut out all this "come-
on" nonsense and instead ad-
vertised they were offering
goods to their customers at low-
er prices, in proportion to the
amount that is now spent on
trading stamps and give-away
bonuses. Sure, there are occa-
sional genuine price reductions
- known as weekly "loss -
leaders" — 150 less on 10 pounds
of sugar; or two cans of this
and that for the price of one.
But look around the shelves that
same week and you'll probably
find a mark-up on quite a num-
ber of items — just to make up
the difference. Robbing Peter to
pay Paul, so to speak.
Let Chain store officials say
what they will, ALL women are
not in favour of trading stamps.
Many think just as I do that.
they are nothing but a nuisance
and increase the cost of living.
For those who do collect them
they are often traded in for
something the person neither
wants nor needs — just accept-
ed to make use of the stamps.
For little extras that are really
needed fifty cents set aside
every shopping day, and spent
through t h e regular channels.
would bring the same results.
Well, having let loose on the
subjects of hats and trading
stamps I'll now come down to
earth and get my jars of newly
made 'mustard' pickles labelled
ready for storage in the base-
ment. Six pint and six half-pint
jars — and the house smells
like a pickle factory! Alter that
is done . I must go out and get
what may well be our last pick-
ing of mushrooms. Bob and
Joy were here yesterday and
we had a big feed of mush-
rooms
ush-
rooms for supper and there
were still plenty left for them
to take home. They think the
wild mushrooms have far more
flavour than the ones on sae
in the store. I wouldn't know -
we either eat what we find
or go without.
The Big Fight Over
"Featherbedding"
In New York, four stand-by
musicians draw about $70 a "per-
formance" for listening to the
two pianists who actually play
the accompaniment to Broad-
way's "Billy Barnes Revue,"
Across the country in San Fran•
eisoo, a bunch of brawny Teams-
ters helpers collect a total of
about $1,000 a day for watching
fork -lifts unload trucks for them
mechanically, And throughout
the nation, railroads pay out
hundreds of millions of dollars
to employes they don't want and
can't use. It all falls under the
name of feather -bedding, the
"make work" curse that costs
American industry" (and, in the
long run, the American consum-
er) an estimated total of $2 bil-
lion a year.
Last month, with featherbed-
ding the big issue in labor nego-
tiations or outright strikes in-
volving nearly 2 millions work-
ers, the economic fat was in the
fire. Bolstered by steel's un-
yielding stand, company after
company was girding itself for
the showdown battle. After a
quarter-century of giving in to
labor demand's, American indus-
try was showing labor that the
boss is still really the boss,
"The basic question," says
John E. Swearingen, president
of Standard Oil of Indiana, is
whether management or union is
to determine how many people
are to be employed and at what
work." Wayne A. Johnston,
down-to-earth president of the
Illinois Central Railroad, puts it
this way: "There is no desire on
the part of management to rule
with an iron hand . . to be
cruel,` But featherbedding is
wrong and destroys the funda-
mental principles by which a
man makes his living,"
No one doubts that rank -and -
file unionists are ready to fight,
as in the case of steel, to pro-
tect their time -hallowed work
practices. Employers, in many
cases, must take the risk of a
lengthy strike .for the .simple
reason that they can't afford not
to. Inflation is boosting costs at
the same time that foreign com-
petition is growing, cutting into
sales. Then there is automation.
Companies find all too often that
new automatic equipment fails
to produce -the expected; savings
because union rules keep extra
men on the payroll.
"We have no alternative," says
Daniel P. Loomis, president of
the Association. of American
Railroads. "The million men and
women who, work in this indus-
try can no longer tolerate the
bloodletting imposed by feather-
bedding." "When times were
good," observes a West Coast
businessman, "it was too easy to
give in to union demands. But
last year, many companies found
their responsibilities had been
whittled away to the point where
they couldn't discharge their
duties. Now, they're trying to
remedy the situation."
Railroads probably suffer the
most. Industry spokesmen fig-
ure the cost of "make work" on
the rails at more than $500 mil-
lion a year, roughly 10 per cent
of the railroad's total payroll and
about 5 per cent of all revenues.
"What hurts most," notes one
railroad observer, "Is the fact
that 23 states have laws legaliz-
ing featherbed practices," and
sixteen even contribute to fea-
therbedding via 'excess, crew'
laws requiring unneeded person-
nel on trains."
Clair M. Roddewig, president
of the Association of • Western
Railways, says that the rail
heads have known ever since
diesels started sending steam
locomotives to the scrap yards
about ten years ago that sooner
or later they would have to
come to grips wi'els the problem.
With the industry's three-year
moratorium on changes in work-
ing rules ending Oct. 31, at the
same time that present work
contracts expire, Roddewig and
the nation's other railroad lead-
ers figure the time to redraw the
line is now.
The Association of American
Railroads has already .announced
it will try: (1) Yo end the anti-
quated rule that 10Q miles et
freight travel or 100 to 150 miles
on a passenger train is a day's
work;- the rule was set 40 years
ago, when 121/2 miles an hour
was the average speed (count-
ing stops) of a freight train and
20 miles an hour of a passenger
train; (2) to eliminate unneces-
sary firemen from diesel engines
and to eliminate station agents
or telegraphers in situations
where their services are no long-
er needed; (3) to eliminate juris-
dictional work separations —
rules that ban road crews, for
instance, from working in yards
and forbid train crews from
crossing district or seniority
boundaries. To bolster its case,
the AAR has asked President
Eisenhower to set up a special
commission to study feather-
bedding,
In the meantime, railway rules
are still full of "arbitraries," the
term used to describe a bonus
for doing extra jobs not consid-
ered part of a regular job, In
the past, "arbitraries" have been
paid in some weird cases. One,
in the files of the National Rail-
way Adjustment Board, involved
two maintenance men paid to
operate a construction machine
on a track in a railroad yard.
Because the machine used steam
and moved around, an engineer
and firemen were assigned to
the job to sit by and watch.
When one of the maintenance
men failed to report for work
one day, the firemen was assign-
ed to fire up the machine. He
got two days' pay—one for doing
the job, and one for not doing
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