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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1959-09-24, Page 6"Dear Anne Hirst: Do you think a married man can dash around with his single male friends and still stay true to his Wife? I am growing jealous and suspicious because my husband has started going with old col- lege pals, and he Is drinking too much.. Often he isn't home till Midnight. He Is lying to me, and when I question where he has been he says it is none of my business. He was never rude to me before, and I am sick over the whole thing. "We've been married seven years, and have a, little boy. He Was always a loving husband and father before this. I've remind-' ed him that single men haven't the responsibilties he has, but still he goes out with them. He never takes me or the boy out anywhere unless we ask him to, and then he is truculent. "My nerves are cracking, and I can't stand this much longer. I have no family to turn to, so I ask your advice, MRS. A.M." • When a man starts going out * without his wife, she usually * suspects the worst. But the * worst does not necessarily fel- * low. Your husband is pro- bably true to you, but his * association with these old e friends can be only a temper- * ary rebellion against his own • responsibilities. He sees• them • doingas they please, and aid- * denly he decides to enjoy the • same freedom. So off he goes, * drinking with them, absenting o himself from home, and in ► general having himself a fine o time. o Don't think I do not under- " stand your shock and dismay. * You are interested, however, '" in persuading him to return to * his family. Instead of chiding • him for his neglect, can you ° bring yourself to treat him as ° you would an erring child? • Loving him as you do, try to • trust him. Take it for granted • there is nothing sinister in his u mind, that he is only asserting * what he calls his rights as an • individual. He is not entitled • to them (which he knows) but • when you remind him of that f it only goads him to a declare- / tion of independence that 0 leaves you speechless an d '? heartsick. e During his absences, you i' stand alone to maintain some tsemblance of family life for your boy's sake, to protect him e against the child's questions, e to remind him only of how much you both miss him. If you can do this, it will remove his resentment toward you, o and he will see you not as a Easy 'n' Breezy !PRINTED PATTERN 4753 SIZES 12-20 40 QUICK -CUT, swift -to -sew — and div i n e for a simmering summer day! You'll love the square -cut neck, breezy motion of the skirt as you go from `house to garden, work to vaca- tion, Printed Pattern 4753: Misses' Sizes 12, 14, 16, 18, 20; 40. Size 16 takes 4 yards 39 -inch. Printed directions on each pattern part. Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (404) `(stamps cannot be accepted, ,ase postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plain- ly SIZE, SAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New "Toronto, Ont. • chiding mentor to be avoided * but as his best friend who. is • trying 10 understand — and • failing that, the loyal helpmeet •• who married him for worse as • well as for better. This is not • an easy course to follow when • you are so far from a sympa- • thetic family to confide in — • But isn't it true that your * husband must WANT to stay * home before he will? * Perhaps you feel disinclined * to talk to your minister or * some trusted friend of your * husband. If you are really • desperate, you might present * the facts to the local branch o of the Family Relations As- * sociation and ask their advice. * It is deplorable that associa-• • tion with irresponsible charas- * ters can change a man's habits * to such a degree. I cannot be- * lieve it will last long. When he * does awaken, he will remem- * ber your patience and your. * faith, and love you all the * more for it, • • * "Dear Anne Hirst: My fiance is in the .Mr Force in Europe, and while he is away he thinks I should date other friends, He says that except for writing and loving him, I am quite free. (I. always wrote him about the few dates I do have.) "I don't think I should be wearing his ring, since` I'm afraid other people might think I am, two-timing him! of course they don't know we have this under- standing. But my mother thinks I should wear it. "What do you say? HAPPY GIRL" * If you don't want . to wear * the ring, that is your own de- * cision. Most girls wear theirs, * proudly, and if any boy asks * its meaning, they admit it. * You are a bit confused in o the definition --of' the word en= • gagement. It indicates you, o promise to marry; it does not • necessarily imply you must * refuse dates with other friends. o Boys and girls can have good * times together without getting • romantic, you know. Your • fiance is broadminded enough * to want you to enjoy'" yourself ' during his absence, and it • proves his faith in you. • • When any problem gets you down and you don't know where to turn, write Anne Hirst about It. She will employ her long experience, her wisdom and her sympathy toward guiding you through. Address her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Wings For Flight If a kangaroo, say, or a frog,. or a 'Flea, or any land -living ani- mal, is to lift its body off the ground at all and stay in the air even for a very short time, we know that it has to exert an intense muscular effort to do so. Then 'how can a bird rise so easily from the ground and stay in the air in flight for hours at a time? Flight depends on wings. A wing, we might say, is a limb whose movement through the air produces forces that can counter- act the downward pull of grav- ity, and can also drive the body forwards through the air. It has long been known that wings can do these things, and from time to time adventurous people have tried to design mechanical wings capable of lifting a man and car- rying him along through the air Men tried for a long time, by watching the birds, to learn how a man could fly; to -day, quite the opposite, we are try- ing to understand the flight of birds by applying, principles which have emerged during the design of aeroplanes. The move- ments of a bird's or an insect's wings are extremely complicat- ed, and it is easier to feel our way into the very difficult prob- lem of animal flight by drawing 'a distinction between two kinds of flight — active flapping flight; and passive gliding flight. We can start our inquiry, then, by comparing the motion of a soaring eagle with that of a "glider" aeroplane; in both, the wings are used as fixed and rigid surfaces, and neither glider nor eagle uses an internal engine ur source of power. From the very start of our study we must realize that all flight whether active or glid- ing -- depends on forces set up between the wing and the sur- rounding air, In a vacuum, an aeroplane or a bird would fall to the ground just as rapidly as a stone,' We must also understand that the air only exerts a force against the wing when there is movement between them either by the wing moving through the air or by the air moving past the wing, — From "How Animals Move," by James Gray: SMILING AT LIFE =- The former Anne -Marie Rasmussen, of Norwo"y, and her husband Steven Rockefeller, beam for their wedding portrait. The couple ,are, on their honeymoon in the U.S. She marries into o personal fortune twice that of the richest man in''her native country. Canada—"Lady •of, the Snows" ugh! Yes,, there was a time .when people dreaded' 'Canadian winters, myself among them, but now I have reached the point of dreading Canadian summers. One can, defy the 'cold by using storm windows, extra heating and warm clothing but one hasn't' much protection against extreme heat' — except by air- conditioning, and that is some- thing that few homeowners can afford. And we have come to think we are living in a dust - bowl. Until last Friday there 'was rain .everywhere —• east, west, north and south but never over- head. And then on Friday it actually rained for several hours. But I had -to laugh. After • six weeks of drought — or • was , it eight — the rain came just as I was taking a visitor to catch a bus at Cooksville. Wouldn't you know it? My nephew Kiemi was here for a couple of days and he. certainly didn't appreciate our heat after coming from a pleas- ant holiday in Banff. returning part way by boat, However, it was music to my ears as we sat in the car waiting for the bus with the rain pelting down on the roof and windows. It wouldn't be so pleasant for Klemi after he reached Toronto. And have you discovered the heat can play queer tricks with al] kinds of things. One clay we went up to Milton returning home in the cool (?) of the even- ing. Along the Dundas Partner said — "I don't believe our lights are working." So I pulled into a service station. Sure enough — no headlights at all, high or dim. The service -man said there must be something wrong other than burnt-out bulbs as it wasn't like- ly both bulbs would go at the same time. Well, after a bit of switching on and off everything was all right. It was the switch sticking midway between high and dim, due to excessive moist- ure. The same thing has hap- pened to my brake lights several times, The lights stay on after the brake pedal has been re- leased. Another time, after hav- ing the gas tank filled, the car was sitting in the sun, which caused the gas to expand and leak out around the cap. Partner took care of that by syphoning some of the gas into his lawn mower. Nephew George had a much worse experience, Driving from North Bay in the heat of the day he blew a tire. Changed to the spare and then four miles from his destination the spare tire also blew! He set out to walk to the cottage where his wife and family were staying with Dee and Art. Luckily Art was driv- ing back from Peterborough and overtook George oh his tramp along the road, Then Art had to drive George back' to Peterbor- ()ugh for new tires and rescue George's car off the road. The joys of summer driving! 05 well, bot weather has its compensa- tions too. I lost five pounds dur- ing the last heat. Now after two cool days we are heading into the high 80's again. Far how long — who ;knows? I wonder how many people read the report on the recent farm -accidents survey. You will ' remember the number of deaths and serious injuries was quite staggering. • If`; only farm folk wouldnt take Such chances, espe- cially where children are con- cerned. Youngsters love to ride with Daddy on the tractor. But let the' child make a sudden, un- expected movement, or his fa- ther's attention be momentarily diverted and tragedy can result. Worse still is the folly of allow- ing a young boy to operate a tractor alone. Last spring, if you remember, Jean Tweed was tele- vising'a series of talks on farm life, most of them good. But the last pitcure showed her. 13 -year old son driving a tractor. Now if this had been shown as one thing that shouldn't be allow- ed on a farm that would have been fine. But ne, it was given as one of the attractions of farm life for growing boys. What an example — on what was -sup- posed to be a sort of educational programme Well, to seecXert' ggrden this year is to laughreSuch 'a conglom- eration. The e c tiilye , l,ants that have really made ;progress are those that seeded thethselves; So we have citron' among the to- matoes, cucumbers at the edge of the compost heap, cosmos among the beans and burning bushcoming through the slats pf the board -walk. Most prom- inent of all are the sunflowers —self -sown variety five feet tall, seed that I set out myself 12 to 18 inches high, with poor, miser- able blooms. Like children who survive neglect, they are the sur- vival of the fittest, You will no- tice I said — "who survive" With children and plants there are many who don't. We can't depend on nature's law, for sur- vival. If we could only recognize the middle of the roadit might help. I remember hearing •of one spoilt child of whom the doctor said — "Probably all he needs is a little healthy neglect!" Tollways Increasing attractiveness of the Illinois tollways to motorists is 'evident as the toll highway Commission moves rapidly to get any remaining bugs out of the system. A program to end con- fusion over directional signs is reported to be 90 per cent com- plete. The program includes in- stallation of new signs, relo- cation of others, -and addition of information on some signs. . . A great many motorists are discovering this summer what fine things the Illinois tollways are. Over the July 4 week end, toilway' revenues gave the sys- tem a new high for the sixth week end in a row. The four- day holiday period brought in a total of $255,459... . With revenues increasing at a faster rate than the commission had anticipated, Illinois's .toll highway system is proving its worth as a financial investment. —Rockford (Ill.) Register -Re- public. SALLY'S SALLIES LI Eie RN 4 '1 4 L 01 "Just dash to the grocery dear, and get a pound of Java.' SATELLITE' SUNDAE In Fort WorthLucille )3ridges In Port Worth, Lucille Brdiges won the title of "Fountaineer of '59" 'after she mixed a concoc- tion of vanilla ice cream, pecans, whipped cream, cherries, pretzels and a sugar cube soaked in lem- on extract, set it afire, called it a "satellite sundae." Q. If a woman is wearing a corsage pinned to her coat, when entering a restaurant, what does she do with It at the table? A, She transfers it to her dress. , Shower of Roses. Easy elegance! .Enrich a pair of pillowcases or towels with deep borders of cross-stitch. Lavish, 7 -inch floral borders give ,linens a bridal -bower look. Pattern 665: transfer one 61/4 x 201/2 -inch motif; two 51/4 x 13Y4: colour schemes; . directions. Send THIRTY- FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. to Laura Wheeler. Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN 'NUMBER, ' your NAME and ADDRESS. Send for a copy of 1959 Laura Wheeler Needlecraft B o o k. It has lovely designs to order: cra- b r o id e r y, crochet, knitting, weaving, suilting, toys. In the ,book, a special surprise to make a little girl happy --a cut-out doll, clothes to colour. Send '25 cents for this book. ISSUE 38 —1959 FASHION HINT �pl �i •sl a .11i11160t I 1@ylilll „, PIIII III I;I IIS