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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1959-09-17, Page 6'tDear Anne "Furst: I almost never read such columns es yours and I know little of the way they are handled, but a re- cent letter you printed caught my eye, It was from a bashful bachelor whe was so afraid of single girls that he couldn't be natural with them. I didn't real- ize that men have the same prob- lem that plagues me. "I am all of 24, and more than anything in the world I want a good husband and a large family, and it had better be soon, I'm a • graduate nurse, and in my work I meet all kinds of people and am always friendly, of course. But socially; though I can always feel at home with married men, when a single one comes alang I go tongue-tied . , . Like the man who wrote you, I love children and envy every couple who have them. How can I conquer this foolish self- consciousness? DESOLATED" + Perhaps you fear single :nen ° because you think they will o suspect you of pursuing them. o Men and women are alike in * their need for friendliness. * Showing an interest in their • opinions, their occupations and * avocations is a convenient ges- + ture that starts conversation; * it gives them the chance to • talk about themselves, and * how everybody loves to do * that! + So when you meet an un- * attached man socially, why not • treat him as you would a new * girl friend? After you find • common grounds to discuss, * conversation flows without Dress of Many Uses PRINTED PATTERN 4646 SIZES 12-20 ‘741P AfasereC The allure of a party dress -- In a coverall apron or sun -dress you'll wear and love every day! Not fitting problems — wrap and tie to cinch waist. Printed Pattern 4646: Misses' Sizes 12, 14, 16, 18, 20. Size 16 takes 43/4yards 33 -inch fabric. mbroiderery transfer of pocket. Printed directions on each pat- tern parte Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (40¢) (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS 13ox 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. self-consciousness, Your train- * ing should make thiseasier for " you than for some other we- * men, for you are accustomed to * winning a patient's confidence * first, aren't you? Men and wo- * men differ little in their res- * ponse to simple friendliness. * Adolescent girls and boys * suffer agonies of self-conscious- * ness in their first social con- tacts. It is a bit unusual that a * woman of your age and wide * knowledge of humanity allows * herself to succumb to such * painful feelings. Keeping fn * mind that it is notyourself but * the other person that is im- * portant will get you off to an * encouraging start. * Unaffected kindnes, a little a imagination and the light, * touch are all you need. If you * will give your sympathetic na- * ture the expression it deserves, • it will prove your first ally, * * * HE BREAKS OFF "Dear Anne Hirst: I was en- gaged to a man I dearly love, and we had gone a long way with our plans when he decided it, would be best for us 'to forget each other, He told me he couldn't explain any further. "I was so hurt, and loved him so, that I just told him off; and I still don't know why it hap- pened . .. I have written him and begged forgiveness for any- thing I might have said or done to hurt his feelings, but I had no answer, "I just can't get over him! I've been with different boys since, and find no consolation. What can I do? Please help me! HEART BROKEN,S." * You have done really more * than you need to do in your * attempt to find out what o changed this lad's mind. It is * best to accept his decision as * final. * There are a number of rea- * sons he may have had: he may * have "lost his nerve" as the * marriage plans progressed; his *'family may have convinced * him he is not ready for res- * ponsibilty; his business affairs • could be disappointing. He o even may have become inter- o ested in some other girl, • though that is probably not • true. But he has chosen to let. ° you guess, which is manifestly * cowardly and unjust. * I cannot understand why so * many young men play such a • low trick on a nice girl. They • boast about being good sports, * yet so often they haven't the * strength of character to tell • the truth! You have my sym- * pathy. • Keep on going out with other * friends, and prevent lonely * evenings that will not prepare * you for tomorrow. Grief does • end, and one day you will find • yourself in love with one more o worthy. r * * Most of us know in any crisis which is the right way to turn, but we need the corroboration of one whose opinion is objective and whose understanding is sure. . Write your problem to Anne Hirst, at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto Ont. $1.75 A BAG In 1866 young Wyatt Earp, who later became the famous sheriff, left his family in Los Angeles and went to work as a clerk in a grocery store in the tiny min- ing settlement of Goldfield, Cali- fornia. His employer, John New- hauser, was a hard taskmaster. Wyatt's temper mounted higher and higher. The bulk of New- hauser's bills were paid in gold nuggets, which were kept in a box under the counter. One day lcoung Earp simply poured the gold hoard into a twenty -pound potato sack, added a few spuds on top and sold the whole tree - sure to the next customer for the standard potato price of $1.75 a bag. LION TAKES OFF —• Strapped In his seat, Ethiopian Emperor Haile Selassie, left, the "Lion -of Judah;' is set fol a helicopter ride at Versailles, France, Boarding the craft at right is French Defense Miniell r Pierre Guillaumat. WEDDING PORTRAIT — Stephen Rockefeller kisses his bride, the former Anne -Marie Rasmussen outside the Sogne, Norway, church in which they were married. Father of the bride ,is at left, father of the groom Is at right. Weatherwise, this column is getting downright monotonous - another week gone by — hot humid and dry. Saturday night we did have a brief thunder- storm, with high winds and rain for about half an hour. That has been the only change in our weather pattern from a week ago. But who are we to grum- ble? Compared with m a n y other parts of the world we are lucky. We also have all the water we want and that means a lot, especially as our town- ship water is so tnuch softer than well -water. We are de- lighted but maybe the water- softener companies won't be quite so happy as quite a num- ber of our neighbours have de- cided that they don't need softeners any more. Last Tuesday we had visitors from Elliott Lake — our niece Babs, her husband and three children. The same ones who stayed with us on the farm: for two months about three years ago. Now the little girls have a four -months -old baby brother. And the treatment that poor baby has to take gives me the jitters. He is lugged- around by first one and then the other. I put an old ,sheet on the floor for him to roll an. The gir's promptly used the sheet as a sled and pulled him around the. floor on it. He took all the mauling as a matter of course and never so much as whim- pered. When it carne his feeding time the girls turned their at. tention to Taffy and Ditto. Very soon Ditto .took refuge in the.. basement and Taffy got a lit- tle snappy. Not enough to do any harm but enough to make them realize they were not • go- ing to do as they liked with him. 1 suppose young mothers get used to all this• exuberance but believe me at the end of their six -hour visit, pleased as I was to see them, I was glad they were het staying any longer. And I said so. Babs laughed . . "Poor Aunt Gwen, you can't take it like you used to, can you?" She is right — and either . I have changed or children gen- erally have more life and en- ergy than they had in my younger days. Or is it misplaced energy? One thing is certain, children now seem much less content and far less obedient. No wonder it takes 50 mills of our tax rate to look after their education, Yes, I said 1 would mention our tax bill again, ',didn't 1? The shock has worn off a bit since last week but the bill remains the same. Of aur total tax bill $191,00. is for educa- tion. Our township council fought the requisition of the lo- cal Board of Education tooth and nail but lost out in the end, We know children must be edu• Gated; schools built and teach• ers paid. But surely some of the frills could be cut out. Fur instance the modern trend is for one side of class rooms to be practically all glass, So what happens? The sun. is too hot, blinds are pulled down and lights turned on. More hydro! Many schools are designed on a one -floor plan, sprawling over a large acreage, thus increasing the cost of heating in winter. And all this expense has to be borne by property owners, whether they have children or not. Whereas people `in •rented rooms ,or houses are not requir- ed to pay school taxes. Oh, I suppose there are hidden taxes Four Gay Patches 784 8169 ZteFies MU& Colors run riot in this quilt made of scraps — the more, the merrier! It's just four patches. Easy to piece, Use one. block alone, for ,a gay pillow -cover( Quiltmaking'.is easy! Pattern '784: Chart, directions, pattern .of patches; yardages. Send THIRTY-FIVE • CENTS (stamps cannot_• be accepted,use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura VT/teeter, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St, New To- ronto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME. and ADDRESS.• Send for a copy of 1959 Laura• Wheeler Needlecraft Book, It has lovely designs toorder: em- broidery, crochet, knitting, weav- ing, eaning, quilting, toys In the book, a special surprise ei make a little gir) happy — a cut-out doll, clothes to color. Send 25 cents for this book. included in whatever rent is paid but somehow it doesn't bit home the same. However, there may be relief in sight and some way be found to help equalize the, tax burden. Anyway I heard it rumour thea some kind Of commission is .in the offing to analyze the entire taxation structure in Ontario -- and pre- etunably bring in recommenda- -tions for improvements, Here's hoping! These hot nights are not ex- actly inducive to sleeping. Of- ten I'm awalre during the night. I, and:A lot of ether people too, I. expect.:. Sometimesas a means of relieving my restlessness I watch the traffic go by, Through a gap.. in the fences I can see the heavy transports, anywhere from four to sixteen -wheel ve- hicles, rolling along the high- way all night at the average of one a minute. As I watch I wonder how the roads ever stand up to it: I wonder, too,. how many of the drivers will have fantastic experiences such as "Cannonball" meets with on so many of his trips. That serifs was good when it first. started. Mike Malone is still a like- able, down-to-earth character, But the episodes have become too utterly ridiculous to be in- teresting. Too bad so many T V,_ programes are spoilt by over - dramatization of the ordinary. Just lately I have been read- ing the "Diary of Anne Frank".. It is so terribly poignant I'm not sure that I want to see the film, If Anne had lived I could stand, it but to die so near to the time of her probable re- lease is more than one can bear. Anne's diary must bring back many memories to immigrants to Canada, more fortunate than Anne. Incidentally I notice im- migrants from Middle Europe get along very well with Brit- ish or native born Canadians but seem to be frightfully jealous and distrustful of other new Canadians. I wonder why? I, personally, have come across quite a number ofsuch cases. Prayer Helped An inspiringstory of a teen- ager's faith and courage came out of the Grand Canyon the other day when a rescue helicopter bore 15 -year-old John M. Owens of Savannah, Ga., back to civili- sation. His return climaxed a six-day fight for survival after two companions, one an adult, perished in the treacherous can- yon's wilds. In describing bis ordeal after they lost their :tvay, John recall- ed that when he found himself on the river side that had no vegetation, he knew he must re- cross to find food although he had nearly drowned in the rapids a short time previously. "I chick- 'ened," he remembered, "and then I said, 'Owens, you ain't a man unless you do it.'" So, of course, he did it. Leap- ing back in, he swam out to the sandbar upon which he was sub- sequently spotted by air search- ers, but he doesn't take all the • credit for saving himself. "All along I prayed every minute of every day," he said. "I never prayed so much in my life ... i prayed, that's what helped me." Obviously, as a park ranger put it, young Owens "is a man now," even if he is only 15. It is obvious that John's ordeal taught him one of life's most valuable lessons; that Is, no matter how hard a man fights, he must have help from a power beyond him self. — Los Angeles Times. Niedern Etiquette by ttoherta Lee' Q. What do yell have tit asy about our relationship with sales- persons? A. A sure gauge of mannerm and breeding is the treatment We give persons who serve us. --Dis- courtesy toward a person who la not free to answer back without risking his job is the essence 01 rudeness. Salespersons should never be treated as. inferiors, even by the tone of your voice. Their job is to serve you, just as yours is 60 type letters fox your boss or to manage you% household, Q. When asked to pass a dish at the table, and you were just about to partake of that dish yourself, is it all right to help yourself first? A. No; this would be very crude and ill-mannered, unless, of course, the. other person in. ists that you do so. Q. If a girl becomes engaged, and she has no family, would 11 be all right for her fiance's tam. Ily to announce the engagementl A. No. Thisis always the privi- lege of the bride -elect. If she does not have the means of giv- ing an announcement party, then she can extend her "good news" through the local newspaper. Q. How should the very large type of shrimp in a cocktail be eaten? A' If you can manage it, you 'eut it in half with the fork against the side of the glass — or else, you lift it out, put it on the plate underneath the glass, end cut it in half with the fork. Q. I am a young girl and ans about to apply for my first, job In a large business office. For the interview, should I wear hat and gloves? A. You should wear hat and gloves, by all means. Q. What sort of dress should a woman wear to an afternoon. social function? A. The best policy always is to wear the simplest sort of day- time dress in whech you look well. Remember,`you need never worry if you happen not to be "dressed".as much as the others. The time really to worry is when you are "over-dressed"i Q. ITow should a •married wo- man have her personal stationery engraved as "Mrs. John J. Smith," or as, "Jane Smith"? A. "Jane Smith" is only for a very young girl or for a profes- sional woman who is known by that name. Stationery to be used for general purposes should have the woman's full name — "Mrs. John J. Smith." ' Q. How many vegetables is It necessary to serve at a dinner? A. Two vegetables are suffi- cient. SALLY'S sawn "He never lets me get in the last word. He hangs up." - ISSUE 37 — 1959 COOLING SYSTEM — Sharon Autry relaxes n o tub of wo -r, eating ice cream under the shade et an 'unru.ella. Who could ask for anything more?