HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1959-08-27, Page 6"Dear Anne Hirst; I have gone
steady with this boy for eight
months; I'm 18 and he 18, The
only trouble is, we, are always
quarreling! For one thing, we are
both the jealous type — the other
is, he does things like driving.
fast, . racing with other boys,
swearing, smoking, and some
drinking which I despise.
"I told him if he loved me he
wouldn't do these things. He said
he had to keep up with the
crowd,
"So I said that since we are
both young maybe we had made
a mistake, and now wasthe time
when he should be Hying it up
with his friends. He replied
maybe I should keep on looking
for my ideal! He declares he
loves me too much to want to
be free, and why couldn't I ac-
cept him the way he is?
"Do you think he should give
up these things for me? Or
should I agree with him? Or
shall I. call the whole deal off?
I'm so mixed up I've even
thought of that, but I love him
so! And I'm afraid that even if
you say the best way is for him
to stop, he might not understand.
"Of course we have made up,
but nothing is settled. We can't•
go on leaving problems to solve
themselves, I know they don't,
Anything you suggest will be
appreciated. ANXIOUS"
SEE THE TRUTH
* What have you two in tom-
* mon besides your love? That
• seems to be only a strong phy-
• sical attraction which makes it
* a joy just to be together. If
* his idea of living is to keep up
• with his friends, he does not
* understand much about love
o and the obligations it imposes.
• He sees love. as a plaything, a
• lot of fun to have but noth-
* Ing to get serious about. He
o may love you as much as he
*, can love any girl, but more
* important is having his own
• way.
• He is a show-off, too, and
o he smokes and swears and
• drinks because he thinks they
• prove his manhood. If they
• offend you, that's just too bad;
o he wouldn't like to lose you,
° but neither does he intend to
* .mold himself to your pattern.
o Why don't you call things off
o until he grows up ang gets this
e nonsense out of his system?
o Tell him that when he becomes
* somebody you can -respect and
• trust, maybe you will take
• him back. (Once he realizes he
o cannot see you at all, perhaps
• he will find out how much you
* mean to him.)
* It will be the hardest deci-
* sion you have made yet, but
• isn't it wiser than to live in
• such discontent and anxiety?
• You cannot stay in love with
o anyone who rides roughshod
• over all you hold dear; you
• will only wear yourself out.
• Think this over. You will
° miss him'for a while, But you
* will find someone else who
o cherishes you as you deserve,
* whose one intention is to be-
o come the sort of man you can
o be proud of:
• • •
CAN'T HELP HER
"Dear Anne Hirst: I am a wo-
man 34 years old, and have been
married 13 years. We have three
children.
"I have recently found out that
my husband has been dating an-
other woman; the escapade had
been going on for quite some
time.
"I am at my wits' end. I have
no love for him at all ... I don't
know whether to leave film, or
D CK'S KICK — Pat Mollitieri,
16 -year-old who danced in the
crowd for two years on Dick
Clark's television show without
pay, claims the teen-agers' idol
won't have her ort the program
any more. Pat says an article
she wrote about him got her
banned. Says Clark, her state-
ments simply "aren't true."
have him leave, Please advise
me, FRANTIC"
* Iknow you wrote In a state
* of shock' but unless I learned
4' more about your married life
• it is impossible to help you de-
• tide what to do.
• Your . husband may have
* grown bored with marriage, he
° may have sought other com-
• panionship for a thrill. There
* could be many reasons why he
• ' wandered, none of which I can
* guess without further facts
* concerning your background
* and his.
* It will shock you to know
* that many a wife believes
• there are worse sins (and
* harder to live with) than in-
* fidelity. To say immediately
o that you feel no love for him
o is a drastic conclusion; you are.
* mortified and humiliated, and
* after a littletime has passed
* you may conclude that he is
* worth holding on to. After all,
* you are the mother of his chit -
4' dren, and hold a great advan-
* tage there. Would you sacrifice
* those youngsters without long
* and serious thinking what
* breaking up their home could
* do to them?
* If you would like to write
* nae again, I shall look forward
• to your letter, Meanwhile, let
* things ride as they are, and
•take it for granted this is only
* a passing fancy which will not
* distress you long.
• • •
Striving to. become the person
one's beloved wants him to be is
proof of real love. When both
feel that way, there comes the
true marriage which no problems
can destroy. If you are doubting
the one whoclaims to love you,
ask; Anne Hirst what hope is left
for happiness?
Write her at Box 1, 123 Eigh-
teenth St.,- New Toronto, Ont.
How a • Spider Makes
Such a Strong Web
The webs seen in the country,
in the garden, outside houses
and sheds, and in fact every-
where, are rather bewildering;.
there seem to be so many dif-
ferent kinds and so many that
are crude and amateurish, Do
not think, however, as I know .
some people do, that the spider
builds well or badly according
to the mood she is in: each spe-
cies builds on one fixed pat-
tern, but the talents of the dif-
ferent species vary... .
Having got a vague idea of
the more usual types of webs
the time has come to study the
actual making of one of them.
We cannot deal with 'them all,
so naturally we shall select the
spider's supreme art, the orb
web of Aranea, surely lineal des-
cendant of Arachne herself.
When I first saw the Aranea
working I did so more or less
under compulsion. A friend with
one of those shaded watch-
maker's lenses said to me, "You
must see this!" just as I was
leaving the house. I went up al-
though conscious of a bus to
catch. It was an immature spider
making _ a web. Spiders are al-
ways doing this and I wondered
why he wasted my time about it;
just a small "insect" running
here and there dangling- from
time to time on threads. Then
he handed me the lens and the
picture changed. I saw not only
a spider making its web, but a
skilled craftsman engaged in an
intricate piece of work. Except
when joining or fastening lines
(which only occupied a split sec-
ond) this spider did everything
at a run. It was not a flustered
or excited run but a steady
trot....
I soon became aware of some-
one muttering by my side. It
was my friend wanting his lens
back. I gave it to him and wait-
ed impatiently for my turn to
come again. Only dusk and the
inability to see sent us away
I had found a new thrill which
• has never diminished. . .
Whether Aranea gets confus-
ed I cannot say. l think she is
pretty sure of herself by now,
but with six hundred , taps to
think about and five different
kinds of silk at her disposal (to
be mixed or not) the making of
an Aranea web must be a com-
plex affair from the point of
view of selection only.. . .
What then is the strength of
the thread made in the spider's
factory? Experts have gone in-
to this matter and their verdict .
is ; that the tensile strength . of
spider thread.. is second ;only to
thatof fused quartz....
If you watch a web in a gale
you will find that it is strong.
A large leaf will be held, though
it struggles like a live thing in
the shrieking wind to get away,
drawing the web right out, A
split second ought to see it tear
a hole and whisk off, But the
strands hold, Once in such a
gale I saw a spider venture out
and moving with care climb to
the leaf and cut it out just as
a sailor in a hurricane might
cut away a sail for the safety
of his Ship. — From "The Spi-
der," by John Crompton.
THE WEDDING IS SET - Steven Rockefeller,. and financee Anne
Marie Rasmussen, who once worked, as a maid in the Rocke-
feller New York '• home, pose for photographers in the yard •Qf
the Rasmussen .residence. in Soegne, Norway.
Doctors, diagnoses and treat-
ment vary as much as houses and
architecture. Last week the six -
months old baby 'belonging to
one of 'our neighbours wasquite'
sick. with a temperature of 104
degrees. The . mother naturally
was quite excited and phoned.
her doctor.— in this .ease it was
a lady doctor. The doctor heard
her out, said to keep the child
quiet and comfortable and to
let herknow if hedidn't show
signs - of improvement in 24
hours - or if he appeared to
be getting worse. "But, Doctor,
don't I do anything — shouldn't
he have needles or something?"
"Yes, you can do "something.
Here is what you do. Your hus-
band is home? Fine. 'Sit him
down in the rocking chair, put
the baby in his arms and YOU
go off .. and have a good sleep!
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infection that he has without
needles and such -like."
The 'doctor was right. In two.
days the child .was back to nor-
mal and the mother only slight-
ly the worse for wear.
It 'did me good to hear that
story because I am convfnced
that mothers nowadays have be-
come too dependent on needles
and miracle medication. Last
week there were interesting re-
ports coming from the British
and Canadian Medical Conven-
tion beingheld in London, Eng-
land, emphasizing the danger of
antibiotics and so called wonder
drugs being used too freely.
Seems to me it is high time the
public were made aware .of this
danger. It is a "get -well -quick"
form of treatment that has be -
wine very' popular. Why? Be-
cause adults can .usually keep
on their feet while being 'treat-
ed and children don't have to
be kept in bed and fussed over.
Results are fast, reducing time
and tension to a minimum. But
are the over-all results desii-
able ?
A child's temperature goes un
and down very quickly. It is
frightening to a. young mother
but a high temperature in itself
is not a cause for alarm. It is -
nature's way of fighting off in-
fection. The danger lies in the
chance of a chill as the fever
subsides. That is why it is so
necessary for a child to be kept
quietly .in bed, on a light diet
and away from draughts. By
the time the temperature has
dropped, if the child has caught
any contagious disease it will
show itself in some form of
rash — a rash that will conte
out more quickly it the child, is
kept warm.
So. often I am amazed at see-
ing little tots playing around
'the house, and even outside,
whiney, feverish and so obvi-
ously out of sorts. They should
be in bed, getting all the sleep
they, can take, taking plenty of
fluids and their little hot bodies
sponged .off frequently with
waren. water. The lady doctor I
have mehtioned evidentlybe-
lieved in giving nature a chance.
And I might add she is a young-
ish woman so rrouid h u'dly be
accused of having anticipated'
ideas.
Which brings Me to another-
thought -- just What do we
mean when we Say things, or
ideas, are antiquated? 'Laa'e
lawns; for. instance, You have.
seen those unsightly bare
patches that appear from time
to time on the best of well kept
lawns, caused by white
•' during a three-year.cycle. These
White grubs come from June
bugs that burrow into the soil
and lay- their eggs which devel-
op into • White grubs, Maybe you
think this Lawn pest Is some-
thing new, It isn't — in fact it
is quite antiquated. 1' was' read=
ing all about the white grub
pest •iii an old "Canada Farmer"
dated 1873. The We story 'if
the bugs and the inethods used
for their extermination was
much the ' same then as -now,
Penicillin ' we also think of
as comparatively new, Actually •
it is only the culture that is
new. 'What goes into, it is as
old • as .the hills. The same as
true of so many modern drugs.
Rauwolfia 'a n d derivatives of
.;rawolfia are used ,extensively
for high blood pressure. But
long before it was refined .for.
medicinal purposes the people,
of India, including Ghandi, were
chewing the roots of rauwolfia
to keep themselves in good con-
dition, I believe I am right in
saying that high blood 'pressure
hardly exists among the natives
of India.
Well, we had some rain last
week that lasted for quite a
few hours. Not enough by a
long way but we are thankful
for small mercies. One farmer
I know may be wishing it had
never rained. During a terrific
storm in the Brockville district
13 of his pure-bred Holstein cat-
tle were killed • by a lightning
bolt. They were - insured -but the
insurance was a long way, from
covering the- loss. For some o1
the cows the fanner wouldn't
have,taken a $1000 each.
It is hot again now and I
don't like it one 'bit. One day
it was nice - and cool and 1
yanked a roast of beef from the
'frig' .and got it cooked. "Fur
three weeks we' had lived on
cold meats' and minute steaks
rather than have the oven on.
Art hesgoneup to the cottage.
for 'his vacation. Dee .and the
children will be there until the
end at August. -We. think'' that.
older folk like ourselves are' -
more comfortable at home:
How Phoebe Snow
Was Created
In the vaudville of our inno-
cent childhood there was one
joke that never failed to get a
rousing hand, the one about the
little boy who was asked to name
the two most famous women in
history and promptly answered,
"My Mamma's Mamma and
Phoebe Snow." ...
Phoebe Snow came onto the
-American scene for the first time
in 1900, when the country was
just beginning to realize that
such innovations as the tele-
phone, electric light, the solo
saxophone, and. display advertis-
ing had come to stay....
Each new phase of Phoebe's.
activity was presented in detail,
with eye -stopping examples of
the country's top poster art,
which certainly had come a long,
way'from the woodcuts that por-
trayed the . Lackawanna's pot
stacked engines on the timetables
of the seventies. Phoebe in the
beginning had been merely a
pleasant figure posing on the
lower step of a railroad car to
display the whiteness of her
frock. (The comedian Pete Dai-
ley was widely .quoted, for his
observation that she hadnot got.
oft the step nor changed her cos-
tume for two months.) But there
was no kinship between a dress-
maker's dummy and the glamour
girl that Phoebe shortly turned,
out to be... .
By the end of 1907 Phoebe
Snow was a personality definite-
ly established in the American
imagination. There were continu-
ous pleassantries about her in
vaudeville, little articles about
her in the magazines, and • she
made an occasional appearance
in the changing cartoons of the
day. Her diary, if anybody had
kept one for her, would be filled
with somewhat familiar stories,
seine of which may have been
true Like many another vivid
but fletitious character, she had
a heavy fan mail, The railroad
and the adver icing'agenoy re-
ceived
e-ceit d insher name gifts of
ury
Thanlcsig turkeys, samples
of prize-winning tomato -pre-
serves, pleas for. charity, free
horoscopes, and propoaals of
marriage • from loaaesonse home-
steaders in North Dakota. She
got' Several letters- from people
named Snow who wondered.
whether or not they might c' -ins
-relationship (" Let's see,
. there ,was Captain Matthias Al-
fred Snow who came to Massa-
chusetts Colony hi 1747 in the
brig 'Alclades,'' and he .had a
daughter called' Philorne.na,
which night have been a, mis-
spelling, of Phoebe. . . ") And
there was the customary run of
letters from better identified
crackpots demanding money or
threaten in g.exposu re.•..
It Is true that Phoebe's influ-,.
ence on.contemporary Wei -aside
from railroad travel, may have
been neither vital nor .lasting.
But 'at the peak of her popular-
ity the currentequivalent of
bobby-soxers were aping her
manners, ' while their elder sis-
ters'copied her hairdo. In a mod-
est way she set the style for a
large portion of the female popu-
lace.`The world ,was filled with
Phoebe Snow frocks and Phoebe
Snow' hats and Phoebe Snow
handbags and shoes and umbrel-
las and corsets and shirtwaists,
not to mention lines of Phoebe
Snow tennis and boating and
horseback -riding attire and high -
necked bathing suits that would
shock the modesty of nobody on
the "Road' of -Anthracite" or off
it.' From "The _Lackawanna
Story," by Robert .1. Casey and
W. A. Douglas.
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NO NUTS; WE CRAVE WATERMELON - Squirrels Joe and Gus would mush, rather dig into a
cooling walermelon when the weather gets hot. Found as babies by 12 -year-old Diana
Stowell, the animals have new digs In the basement of the girl's home.