HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1959-07-30, Page 3Ladies ---Here's A
Cure For Shyness
Has shyness always been your
problem?, Do you blush when
you make a faux pas? Are you
embarrassed when singled out in
public or afraid to go to parties
and meet new people beeause
you can never think of anything
to say?
The trouble is that you are
always wondering what sort of
an effect you are having on other
people.
"Am I wearing the wrong
clothes?" you ask yourself. "Did
they see me spill that spot on
the clean tablecloth?"
First step in your cure is to
forget all about yourself and
start being interested in others.
Find out all about them and
don't worry about yourself.
Study that woman who's the
focal point of an admiring group
and decide why she's so attrac-
tive, It isn't her looks, though
she has made the most of these.
It's because she's making the
people round her feel important,
that all they say and do matters
to her. As she listens, her at-
tention doesn't stray, and her
smile shows that she is enjoying
herself.
You can learn a valuable les-
son from her. She doesn't talk
much herself, but she. has taken
the trouble to find out some-
thing about them all, so that she
can ask their opinions on ques-
tions which interest them. They
are flattered and the conversa-
tional ball has been set rolling.
Everyone appreciates a good
listener. Later on, you may
have the courage to join the dis-
cussion. It's easy enough to ask
a man how his children are do-
ing at school, or a woman wheth-
er she has come across any good
recipes,
About parties. Before you go,
check your appearance — back
and front—beforo a full-length
mirror, and then forget about it.
Turn up when the party's just
getting into its swing and it's
easy to mingle.
It is no good standing by
yourself, feeling lonely, so seek
out your hostess, telling her how
pleased you are to come, She
should introduce you to other
guests, but if she doesn't, then
join the outskirts of a talkative
group. If you listen, you will
pick up clues which will enable
you to make an occasional com-
ment and soon you will be ac-
cepted as one of the circle.
More About Those
Plastic Sags
The $20 million -a -year plastic -
bag industry embarked last
month on a massive education
campaign with which it hoped
to save its own life by protect-
ing the lives of children.
Faced with a wave of city,.
state, and Federallegislation
that would outlaw ultra-thin
polyethylene bags because they
have suffocated 54 children since
Jan. 1, the industry anted up
$500,000 for an advertising bar-
rage (aimed by New York's Bat-
ten, Barton, Durstine & Osborn)
that will lastsix weeks, ruri even
longer if necessary,
Full-page ads in 164 metropo-
titan daily newspapers; and spot
snnouncements on hundreds of
radio stations, warned the pub-
lic that a plastic bag should nev-
er be used as a playthingor a
makeshift covering for cribs,
carriages, or . play pens; that it
should be destroyed immediately
after serving its intended pur-
pose. Beginning this week, the
ads will compare plastic bags
with other household items —
such as electrical appliances and
bathtubs — that can be - lethal
CARNEGIE MEDAL FOR HEROINE — Shirley O'Neill, left, coun-
sellor with a San Francisco ,children's youth organization,
will receive the Carnegie silver medal for heroism. Her feah
pulling a companion, mortally wounded by a shark off the San
Francisco coast, to shore. With the medal goes a $750 cash
award.
TM3LE TALKS
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dam Andt'aw.
Here is an onion recipe that
came originally from Southern
Europe, but I think you'll find
that it suits Canadian tastes just
fine.
STUFFED ONIONS,
6 large onions, 3/4 pound each
1 inch boiling water in sauce-
pan
1 teaspoon salt
1 tablespoon butter
IA pound ground lean meat
3 slices bread
1/S cup water
1 teaspoon chopped parsley
1 teaspoon salt
1/e teaspoon ground black
pepper
2 egg yolks
1/ 'cup soft bread crumbs
1 tablespoon olive or salad oil
Boil onions in 1 -inch . boiling
water and the 1 teaspoon salt.
Bring to boiling point, uncover-
ed, and boil 5 minutes. Cover and
continue boiling 5 minutes. Re-
move from hot water and place
in cold water to cool. Drain well.
Remove . 5 ..layers . from , centre,
chop and saute in butter 3 min-
utes or until tender. Add meat
and cook until the red has dis-
appeared. Soak bread in water,
squeeze dry and add to pleat and
onion. Stir in parsley, salt, black
pepper, and egg yolks. Stuff into
the onions. Place in a buttered
baking dish. Sprinkle With bread
crumbs mixed with olive or salad
oil. Bake in a preheated moder-
ate oven(375° F) I hour or un-
til tender. Yield: 6 servings.
* * 5
A clever variant of the ever
familiar meat loaf is to spoon the
ingredients into custard cups and
agents for unguarded children.
Working closely with public
and private agencies .such as the
Public Health Service and the
National Safety Council, the in-
dustry already has initiated re-
search projects intended to elim-
inate any possible hazards, dis-
tributed millions of ' warning
labels and pamphlets. William
Cruse, executive vice president
of the Society of the Plastics In-
dustry, promised the educational.
campaign will continue "until
there is not a mother, father,
boy, or girl in this country who
does not know what a plastic
bag is for ... and what it is not
for."
DEP-SEA FISH TRAP — Three scientists at Scripps Institute of
Oceanography show their invention, a deep -diving fish trap.
They claim the trap will enable exotic fish from extreme depths
to be caught and studied for the first time.
then bake. Served with the sour
cream sauce they make a most
delightful main dish.
VEAL TIMBALES
6 slices side bacon
PA pounds minced veal
1 cup coarse; soft bread crumbs
1i4. cup finely -chopped onion
2 tablespoons chopped stuffed
olives
1 tablespoon chopped parsley
1 teaspoon salt
34 teaspoon pepper
1 slightly -beaten egg
1/e cup milk
Grease 6 heat -proof custard
cups. Preheat oven to 350° F.
(moderate).
Cut up and fry bacon until
crisp; drain bacon from fat. Turn
veal into a bowl and break up
with a fork; add and mix in
bread ' crumbs, onion, olives,
parsley, salt, pepper and bacon.
Combine slightly -beaten egg and
milk; add to meat mixture, and
combine lightly. Fill prepared
custard cups, taking care not to
pack the meat mixture too firm-
ly. Bake in preheated oven about
30 minutes. Serve with the fol-
lowing Sour Cream Sauce.
SOUR CREAM SAUCE
2 tablespoons bacon dripping
or shortening
1/ cup finely -chopped onion
s/ cup sliced fresh or well -
drained canned mushrooms
2 tablespoons flour
1/4 teaspoon salt
1/a pint (134 cups) commercial
sour cream
1/ cup water
Heat bacon dripping or short-
ening in a frypan; add onions
and mushrooms and fry until
tender, Add and blend in flour
and salt. Gradually 'stir., in sour
cream and water. Cook over low
'heat -.stirring constantly, until
thoroughly heated.
5 * *
COCONUT COOKIES
3 squares semi -sweet chocolate
34 cup peanut butter -
1 cup sweetened condensed
milk
1/4 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon vanilla
11 cups .(about) tender thin
flaked coconut
Melt chocolate over hot water.
Add peanut butter and stir until
smooth. Add milk, salt, vanilla,
and coconut. Stir well • to thor-
oughly mix all ingredients. Drop
from a teaspoon onto a well -
greased baking sheet. Bake in a
moderate over (350° F.) 10 to 12
minutes. Remove frombaking
sheet while still warm.' Makes 3
dozen cookies.
Note: Store in a tightly cover-
ed container,
* * *
DATE SQUARES
1/2 cup butter
34 cup .icing sugar
1 cup plus 2 tablespoons sifted
flour
1 cup brown sugar, firmly
packed
2 eggs, well beaten
1 teaspoon baking powder
14 cup chopped dates
1/2 teaspoon vanilla.
l34cups (about) flaked coconut
Cream butter, gradually add
the icing sugar, mixing' well,
Combine 1 cup of the flour with
the creamed mixture, Place mix-
ture in, a 9x9x2-inch pan and
bake in a moderate oven (350°F,)
15 minutes.
Meanwhile add the brown
sugar to the eggs, beating con-
stantly until mixture is light and
fluffy. Then combine the remain-
ing flour and:.the baking powder
With the . egg mixture. Add the
dates, mixing well to blend, Vold
in the vanilla and coconut, Pour
over partially baked shortbread
and bake in a moderate oven
(850°F.) 30 minutes, Makes 9
servings. .
"It's an error to think of birds
as being dumb," says a natural-
ist, Many of them are smart
enough to go south for the win-
ter.
Poodle In Bed
Groom On Floor
It was the first night of meir
honeymoon. "Won't be long,
darling," said the bridegroom,
after seeing his wife settled in
heir hotel, "I'll just park the
car"
But it was next morning be-
fore he returned, a haggard and
frantic figure, He had com-
pletely forgotten the name and
address of the hotel; and even-
tuallyy dozed off in the car, while
his worried bride spent an an-
xious and miserable night alone!
A bad start for a honeymoon,
but other newlyweds have had
similar unfortunate experiences.
When an American couple
went on their honeymoon the
bride insisted on bringing her
pet poodle. Her husband didnt
mind that so much, but he did
object when his bride . took the
dog to bed with her. "If you
don't like it, sleep on the floor,"
a she told him curtly.
He did — but the marriage
was dissolved not long after-
wards. "It is obvious," said the
judge who tried the case, "that
the woman prefers the dog to
her husband."
Another bridegroom left pis
bride to unpack. "Ill be up in
a few minutes," he whispered,
tenderly. Twenty minutes later
he climbed the stairs and made
his way to What he thought was
their room. It was dark, and
he couldn't find the light switch,
But he could hear somebody
breathing in the bed so, un-
dressed quietly, he pulled back
the bedclothes.
Immediately there was a
scream of terror. Realizing that
something was wrong the startl-
ed bridegroom bolted. As he
reached the door it was fling
open, and light streamed in '
from the corridor outside.
In the doErway "stood his
bride. Aroused by the scream,
she had rushed. in from next
door. He had entered the wrong
bedroom . • . and it took a lot
of explaining,
Brides can also make mistakes
on their wedding night, When.
a couple went to register at a
hotel, the over -excited bride
seeized the pen first — and
signed with her maiden name.
That little error took a bit of
smoothing over, too. It was some
time before the desk clerk was
convinced that they were really
man and wife,
Another bride also had good
cause to be indignant. Her hus-
band spent half the night prais-
ing the virtues and attractions
of a previous girl friend. Even-
tually, the angry bride rebelled,
bundled the tactless bride-
groom out of the room and lock-
,ed the door. He sought refuge in
the bathroom, emerging next
morning cold, miserable and
considerably chastened.
During their seaside honey-
moon one bride met an old
flame. Sh, greeted him warm-
ly, and he was equally en-
thhsiastic. Soon they were go-
ing everywhere together, leav-
ing the wretched and fuming
bridegroom on his own.
At last he asserted himse.f,
and there was a flaming row,
White-faced, her eyes glitter-
ing with rage, the bride tore off
her wedding -ring and hurled it
in her husband's face. "If that's
the sort of jealous creature you
are," she snapped, "I'm through
with you!" A few hours later
she and her lover disappeared
— and the next time the three
met was in the divorce rourt.
Another honeymoon didn't
have that result, but it rould
easily have done so. The morn-
ing following the wedding, the
bride ran home to her mother
and, despite her husband's fran-
tin pleas, refused to return. But
thirty-five years later they met
again — and fell in love for the
second time, Now they are liv-
ing happily together,
Mothers-in-law can sometimes
cause trouble, even between
newlyweds, But in one instant9.
this trouble started on the first
night of the honeymoon, This
bride's mother came too -- and
firmly insisted that she intended
sleeping with her daughter,
"We've always slept together
since she was a little girl," she
told the astonished groom. "And
we're not going to be parted
now!"
That marriage also ended
disastrously.
DRIVE WITH CARE
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FRANCE
MILES
NATO PULL-OUT? — Newsmap
spots three French cities (X's)
where NATO fighter - bomber
squadrons are stationed, Gen.
Lauri, Norstad, NATO com-
mander, has threatened to pull
out 200 jets in view of France's
refusal to accept U.S. nuclear
weapons stockpiles without be-
ing given full control over their
use.
ISSUE 29 — 1959
If Johnny Can't Read, It could Mean
That He Is Headed for a Mental Illness
By JERRY BENNETT
NEA Staff Correspondent
Washington — Doctors hope
some day to be able to predict
whether your child will suffer
mental ailment by simply giv-
ing.the youngster a reading test.
And if they know a child is
susceptible to mental illness
scientists have a better chance
of preventing its occurrence.
The idea of using a reading
test, a common educational tool,
to fight mental disease is being
studied by psychiatrists at the
U.S. Public Health Service's In-
stitute of Mental Health. It
stems from twcf discoveries
which point to a connection be-
tween an unstable mind and
trouble in understanding the
printed word.
The. first is that juvenile de-
linquents, many of whom are
mentally disturbed, often have
trouble reading. The ' difficulty
usually is apparent before a
child turns bad.
The second involves a Mental
Health Institute study of poor
readers who live in a nearby
Maryland county. It shows than
instead of 'being scattered
throughout the area, these
youngsters are clustered in spe-
cific neighborhoods. Psychia-
trists say this indicates that
there might be some unknown
factor about life in these com-
munities that triggers the read-
ing difficulties.
They explain, however, that
before they can spend time
tracking down this unknown
villain, they must first make
sure that reading disability is a
symptom of an impending men-
tal affliction. They explain that
reports which show most dis-
turbed kids are' poor readers
don't prove that most poor read-
ers will turn out to be mentally
disturbed or delinquents.
To get the answer, a team of
specialists, directed by U.S. Pub-
lic Health Service psychiatrist
Dr. Stanley F. Yolles, is keeping
track of the school careers of
5,000 Mar y land youngsters.
These kids live in the same
county where PHS officials map-
ped the location of poor read-
ers. They will be graduated
from high school in 1961.
At that time scores on the
reading tests they have taken
throughout their school careers
will be complared with their be-
havior records. If the majority
of poor readers are delinquents
or have mental afflictions, dor,-
tors plan to launch a community
investigation in an effort to find
and eliminate the hidden cause.
When applied on a nationwide
basis, such action could have a
tremendous effect in reducing
the number of disturbed chic
dren. It should give psychiatrists
more time to treat patients
whose afflictions stem from
other causes. For finding enough
time to treat the thousands of
patients seeking help is one• of
the biggest problems of psychia-
trists.
A PHS estimate of the num-
ber of mentally disturbed kids
alone who receive hospital care
each year totals mare than 270,-
000. In addition are unknown
numbers who receive therapy in
a doctor's office.
Dr. Yolles explains, "1 don't
think there is more 'mental ill-
ness among kids today than
there was in the past It's just
that we're paying more atten-
tion to the problem than we
did years ago. Therefore, you see
more kids in clinical centers."
What troubles Dr. Yolles most
about this situation is that doc-
tors are having to spend valu-
able time with kids who don't
need a psychiatrist.
"We get a lot of kids these
days," he says, "who are not
disturbed but disturbing. When
you examine them, it's hard to
find evidence of a clear cut men-
tal disease."
He believes many of these
children could be handled just
as effectively by social workers
and child welfare experts who.
specialize in helping problem
kids. "Sometimes it's their par-
ents who need the treatment,"
Dr. Yolles says.
He explains that a child's'
troublesome behavior of t en
stems from an unhappy situs•
tion at home. And in many
cases, this situation is caused by
misguided or neurotic parents.
Once the parents are straight-
ened out, he explains, the kids
• usuaIly. start to behave.
That's why Dr. Yolles and his
staff have a clinic rule that par-
ents always attend psychiatric -
sessions with their kids.
"You'd be surprised how much
good this can do," he explains.
"When the family members start
talking to each other frankly,
they often realize the mistakes
they are making. Once this hap-
pens, the problem is often
straightened out in a short am-
ount of time."
Sometimes, however, doctors
discover that a child is so con-
fused or upset that he shou d
be classified as mentally ill.
These patients usually require
long-term individual sessions.
It's because of these seriously
ill kids that Dr. Yolles believes
psychiatrists s h.o u 1 d develup
snore therapy short cuts like the
family treatment technique. Ele
declares, "We need to devote
more time to people who need
psychiatric treatment r a t h e r
than social adjustment."
AFTER SPOTTING POTENTIALLY disturbed child through a reading test, a psychologirt could
learn the patient's basic prob.em thrcuch such technic!ues as shown above, The chilli's re. '
action to each small flaw*, provides a key to the diagnosis.