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The Seaforth News, 1959-07-02, Page 6▪ . r: ► v ► ► ►• • ANNE RmS`r "Dear Anne Hirst: Four years ago, When'I was 15, I married a man 10 years older; my parents ected violently, but I was one who knew everything. Now we e a darling little girl, and it is ch" 'fly for her salre that I seek yot•r advice .. , Her father has been . drinking all this thne (e' 'eh I did not know till I mar- ried) and he is getting worse, He mi -treats me physically so that Tree actually afraid of him, "eto far I've been able to pre- yen! re- ve ;I our lIttl'e girl's seeing him at such times, but I can't tell hove long I can keep that up, Strangely enough, he is crazy about her and she loves him with all her heart. He has to be away from home now and then, but When he is here, he drinks al- most all the time. He tells neigh- bors that I am a spendthrift, and spreads tales that 1 see other men in his absence. He give me so little money that I am almost without decent clothes, and I' have to count every dime. The only places I go are to church and an occasional movie with my little girl. "I know you will tell me to leave my husband, but I haven't the heart td separate these two. I expect he will drink more as he grows older, yet how can I let her know what sort of father she has? I must act soon, and I'll do anything you say. DESOLATED" SLIM HOPE • ....Your husband must know * how miserably he has failed * as both man and father. To * spread tales of your loyalty is • monstrous. I am afraid that * your only appeal is through * his love for the child. There * lies your strength. Not for long * can he conceal his weakness. * You will have to make him un- * derstand that if he does not * transform himself into a de- * cent, right -living citizen you * will take her from him, be- * cause you refuse to allow his * influence to darken her life. * The time for him to change * is not next year, nor next * month, but today. If he will * not consent you will have to • carry out your threat, and * promptly. * If he realizes this is a crisis, * and will do his part, you will • be as patient as you can to o help him win out. Perhaps it * is not too late. It is up to him, 0 0 SISTER STEPS IN "Dear Anne Hirst: I am 16, and piu.t consult you on a serious Problem. My boy friend asked y sister to a dance, and though khe is two years older I'm afraid ohe likes him, (My mother says For Entertaining l I, i e fdtere it d iH.48, 1 Drees up a luncheon table ith ihii set — a large doily as enter pi; v , smaller as place ats. Seallop...1 border enhances graceful oval shape. Pattern 660: elirectione for 20 x 30 -inch doily; snatching ones 121/2 x 20 and 7 x 13 Inches in No. 30 cotton. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (Stamps cannot be accepted, use IostaI nota for safety) for this ttern to LAURA WHEELER, Io 1 123 Eighteenth St., New oronto, Ont, Print plainly A T 1 e: It N NUMBER, your AME and ADDRESS. ' Send fur a copy of 1959 Laura Wheel( r Needlecraft Book. It lute lovely designs to order: em- broidery, crochet, knitting, weav- ing, quiltin, toys, In the book, ILL specie! surprise to make a little girl happy -- a cut-out doll, 'Clothes to cc.e.r, Scdn 25 cents for this I:cr' ,. to date him as usual, but keep her out of the way,) "He tells me he loves me, but friends say I'm foolish to hang on to him, they call him a flirt If he should ask me to marry him, shall I accept? BROWN EYES" * If the lad has the reputation * of being flirtatious, why take * him seriously? Why believe * that he loves you when he * even invites your sister out? * He seems determined to play * the field; if you can enjoy * facing such competition go. * ahead, but I am afraid you will * only get hurt. Should he pro- * pose (which I doubt) postpone * your answer until he has * proven it is only you he cares * for. * As for your sister, why don't * you and the young man go, far * a walk or visit friends? It * isn't probable she would * invite herself • to accompany * you, and maybe she will * eventually get the idea she * is intruding. * * * Miracles do happen in this world, and one can • always pray that the love of a little child will move a strong man. Anne Hirst's long experience' and concern for troubled read- ers have brought new hope to, those who .seek her counsel. Write her at Box, 123 Eigh- teenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Grciham Goes Big Down tinder Resting in his Sydney hotel, the Rev. Dr. Billy Graham open- ed his Bible, closed his right eye, and read with perfect ease the twentieth verse of Psalm 66: "Blessed be God, which hath not turned away my prayer, nor his mercy from me." "You see," said the .ebullient evangelist last month, "I 'artt almost completely recovered." Actually, Dr. Graham says he regardsas providential the eye trouble" which ' afflicted him three months ago, impairing the vision in his left eye and delay- ing the start of his Down Under crusade. "I know the Lord meant it," he explains. "Itcreat- ed a tension without which the Australian ' mission might not have been such a triumph." Rarely, indeed, had such crowds turned out to hear Billy. One Sunday at the final Syd- ney meeting, he broke his own record with an audience of 150,- 000 50,000 spread over two stadiums. The total attendance in four weeks in Sydney came to 980,- 000; 80;000; "decisions for Christ" num- bered 56,780 — more than he, won in the sixteen -week crusade in New York's vast population area in 1957. In his nine .weeks of crusading in Australia and New Zealand, the far roving evangelist has faced more than 2 million persons. More impressive to Dr. Gra- ham himself, however, was the geographical range. Aside from these two nations it included, through wireless and tape re- cordings, the islands as far north as Papua and as far east as Fiji. "I'm dizzy with the thought of - what has happened in this area," he said. Next month, after short cru- sades in Brisbane, Adelaide, and Perth, the evangelist will be home in Montreal, N.C. "Then," says Billy Graham, throwing„up his arms, "I'm going to have two and a half months clear — en- tirely with my kids." Next ma- jor domestic crusade target: In- dianapolis, —From NEWSWEEK. H ARD -HAT HALO — Sister Mary Madonna wears a Civil- ian Defense helmet In her role as evacuationdirector for St, Mary's Hospital, during CO ex- ercisea. HONEYMOONERS — As they arrived in New York from the Weaf Coaat,. newlyweds Elizabeth Taylor and `Eddie Fisher were Weary but happy. They were, married in Las Vegas and were planning to we On to Spain. 10 1 HItONICLES INGERFARM Cvden-d No matter what the weather there isone crop that never fails. The baby drop. Come wind or rain, heat wave or blizzard, it makes no.elfference — they come anyway,; those little bundles of • joy. We have a new arrival'right next door to us. Last Wednesday I took the mother to our local' hospital for a blood test while Partner took charge of her small daughter. Next morning the mother went to . the hospital again. That time it was a hurry- up call. The baby was .born three weeks ahead of 'time,' It -was a boy and mother and -stn are do- ing fine so everybody is happy, Another day we were over to a farm ten miles from here where the 'nucleus of another crop was hying seeded. The fields looked 'awfully dry and we haven't had a rain since,so 1 am sure most farmers are getting quite anxious. However, there have been dry spring seasons before at which time the farmers were sure the seed would be blown away. And then a life- saving rain would saturate the fields, the oats, barley and .pas- ture fields would come to • life and the farmers forget their past worries. The age-old saying still holds good — springtime and harvest neverfail• One year can be better than another; isolated sections may be hailed, dried .or eaten out, but there has never. yet been a cropfailure from one end of Canada to the other. True, there may be regional failures. It so often happens one part of the country may be dry and the other wet. But nature has a way of maintaining a balance, al- though to the individual it often doesn't look that way. On yet another day I was at our local W.I. meeting at which the District. President was speak- ing. It was an enjoyable, infor- mal but very worthwhile meet- ing. The President did not give an .address as is usually the cus- tom but discussed with us prob- lems in Institute work. Actually our branch president had writ- ten to her ahead of time, asking a number of questions to which she hoped the answers might be given from the platform. I thought that was really as ex- cellent idea, One question was how and where money should be spent. This is often quite a weightyproblem as the secre- tary receives so many appeals from outside organizations. The District .President con- terded that our own branch ex- penses should be looked after first, „Delegates to the District Annual, .Officers' Conference and Arca •.Convention should have their • expenses paid by their branch. She thought that if dele- gates give their time it is as much as we should expect froth them, They should not also be out of pocket. She also stressed, as so many Provincial officers have done in the past, that money -making project should not be the main objective in WI, work, We should be satis- fied 11 we raise sufficient funds to look after branch expenses and local appeals — such as some from regional hospitals, old age homes, school for retarded chil- dren and the Children's Aid So- ciety. provincial and Federal W.I. expenses are covered by the amount deducted by Head Office from our annual membership fees — except in the case of spe- cial appeals. •I couldn't have agreed more with the District President's re- marks. I have seen more than one W.I. branch lose members and finally disband because too many demands were made upon its members, mostly for fund- raising activities. -At-one time keeping pace with local organizations was easy. Most women found time to work for their church and the W.T. But now there are so many organi- zations a public - spirited club- woman could be away from home , every day of the week. More than one person has had a, nervous breakdown through trying to keep pace with home responsibilities and too many outside activities,' There is a club for this, a society for that, auxi- liaries for hospitals, schools, vet- erans and masons. In fact most men's clubs have women's auxi- liaries. Before she realizes what is happening the average house- wife, urban and rural, finds her- self so involved she doesn't know which way to turn. We need to take an 'interest in community activties but not to • the point of exhaustion. The same principle applies to children. I am thinking now of one eleven -year old girl in parti- cular. A bright, intelligent child'' who•Iearns easily. Yet she makes little progress at school, and array not be promoted next fall. Why? . She is out every night of the: week to dancingclasses,,music' lessons, Girl Guides or dramatic school. And every weeksome one is having a birthdgy party. The child is high strung and pro- bably tired out before the day begins. How .can any: child keep up with her school work with so much after-school activity? The responsibility obviously be- longs to the parents. No child's, health and education should be sacrificed for the sake of over- ambitious parents. And yet itis.. , often done) although a happy, carefree growing -up period is a child's natural heritage. At least, it should be. Little Tommy had been - fas- cinated by his first trip to the ballet. On the way home he said to his mother: "I don't know why all the girls had to stand on their toes. Why can't they just get taller girls?" SALLY'S SALLIES 'Take this back, please, and 'bring nut a pink oae; I'm re- decorating the tseo n." Girls Who Rend 7)ubae Lives By day she was a perfect se- cretary in a shipping office .. . honest, respectable, reliable. By night she was a young wildcat who went out robbing shops and houses with a 'gang of reckless young criminals. Returning to her lodgings af- ter a,day's work, she discarded her well -tailored business cos- t u m e, donned a sweater and tight -fitting red jeans, and tied up her hair in pony -tail fashion. Then she went off to a cafe in London's East End, where she joined her gang. This double life lasted for several months, Then, a short time ago, Janet, the 24 -year-old Scots girl, blundered. Acting as look - out for the gang which was ear -ramming a tobacconist's shop, she screamed a warning as, a policeman rounded the street corner. But it was too late her boy friends had already crashed in- to the shop. The policeman grab- bed her wrist. She bit him and with her free hand punched him in the face, but he -held on. When Janet was put on trial and sentenced to six months' imprisonment, h e r employers were astounded. Il couldn't he she, insisted the shipping office's chief clerk. She always seemed' to him, and to all her business colleagues, sucha quiet, cense!, entious girl, Like certain other people, Janet suffefed from a split per- sonality, a Jekyll and Hyde complex. Sometimes this com- plex plays havoc with a per- son's romantic life. A beautiful 28 -year-old South AfricEen girl,. Sonia, goes through agonies because of her dual personality. She finds her self quite unable to love one person wholeheartedly, S h e craves for the affections of twu entirely different types of men. One is a lad of eighteen just starting a career, the •other a mature man of the world in his late forties. An orphan, Sonia recently consulted a psychiatrist a b o u t her problem. She seemed to be suffering, he said from repres- sion at not having a brother or Rather. • Her nearest approach to hap- piness sees her shuttling be- tween her two loves, This leads to curious complications. A few weeks ago her older man friend, a mining engineer, met with a serious accident, break- ing his leg and three ribs. He - expected her to visit him the next day, but. she said she couldn't because that day she had a date with her younger boy friend! A more piquant if more read- ily understandable double life is being lived ley Yvonne, a 23 -year-old dancer, a girl of French parentage, but since na- turalizedin this country. Her father died because he ,was too fond of the wine bottle. This has made the girl a strict tee- totaler who hateswines as a drink, . yet it has an irresistible and secret fascination for her For, according to -a close friend, she saves all her spare money and spends it on- good quality eethite wine. Then, when she has accumulated sufficient stock,( she.. pours it all into her bath and,wallows in it! "She •seems enormously` re- vived' in vitality whenever she's had one of her white wine baths," says her friend. Angela, a twenty,six-year-old Midland girl, worked in a coal merchant's office. She was a gssiei and efficient secretary,' and her boss entrusted her with some of his private business, Soon she discovered that t'e was being unfaithful to his wife, so either out or greed for more money or disappointed because of his lack of interest, in her, she turned blackmailer, On three occasions he left money at a cert"sin spot, as aa anonymous letter advised' him to do if he wished to keep his guilty secret dark. But wizen this became too costly he pluck- ed courage and told the police. A trap was set. A package, with a15 in marked notes, was left at the foot of an oak, and the police kept watch, The detective in hiding was surprised when a pretty fifteen-. year-old schoolgirl dismounted from- her cycle, went straight to the spot where the package was buried and retrieved it. "What are you going to do with that?" asked the officer. "I can't tell you," replied the child firmly, "Then" perhaps you will tell me who you are. What is your name, please?" She told the detective her name, and the coal merchant's blackmailer was revealed to be her elder sister. Fashion Page Flash PRINTED a»A;t"TERN 611-414,44„, 4444 Spring's most flattering shirt- waist features a dashing, curved collar above a shapely waist and a .skirt-ful of upressed pleats. Casual in cotton — dramatic for evening in fluid silk print. Printed Pattern 4874: Misses` Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16, 18. Size 16 requires 51/- yards 35 -inch fab- ric. Printed directions on each 'pattern part. Easier, accurate. Send FIFTY CENTS (50e) (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal. note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly S I Z E, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, '.Ont. ISSUE 23 - 1959 AUSTRALIA.BOUND — Stanley Yankus is shown with his family on their was; to a new life in Australi)i, The rebel Michigan farmer is leaving the c.uuntry because of federal farm re- stn. -irons Yankus holds daughter IKnren, 3. Below him ars sons Dennis, 11, IeFt, and Russell, 13. Mrs. Yaukus is :at right, 1