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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1959-06-11, Page 6ANN'E I4IPST ,"Dear Anne Hirst: My only xon has just passed his twenty first birthday, and seems deter- mined to marry a woman eight years older than he when he graduates this spring. She has an 11 -year old daughter„ and he tic ^fares they all get along won- derfully, I am at my wits' end le=ing to help him see that such a marriage would be wrong for hi,.,, At my request, he sought professional guidance but that, did not alter his plan, which Is to be married this summer. "A few weeks ago he told nie he was giving her up --- but the °deer night he said he finds he lovesher too much! I have not bullied him, nor resorted to un- derhand tactics of persuasion. Prize -Winner r+c;tnes VA'fie a This picture delights the needlewoman making it as much as those who later ad- mire it. This panel is entirely in cross- stitch. The large colour chart included•makes it simple to em- broider. Pattern 508: transfer 80-•26 inches; colour chart. trend TBIRTY -FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor- onto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. Send for a copy of 1959 Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book. It has lovely designs to order: em- broidery, cr oche t, knitting, 'weaving, quilting, toys. In the book, a special surprise to make. 8 little girl happy — a cut-out doll, clothes to colour. Send 25 cents for this book. WATERING PLACE — Pre ty Sharon Kaplan takes a dip out of the Atlantic instead of in it, She's frolicking in Florida, • I've tried to appeal to his corn - neon sense, but as you can guess, that is not functioning now. "Will you please advise ma so I can help him avoid making such a tragic mistake? By the way, there is no financial prob- lem involved, they both have their own incomes.. WORRIED MOTHER" a i+ * PASSION VS. REASON I bow to your wisdom in ap- • pealing to your son's common sense in this crisis; some moth- • ers would not have been so * fair. Yet how much reason can * a _young man employ when he * is at the height of his first pas- * sion? As earnestly as he has * tried to agree with you he is * net thinking, he only feels. * He may yet win the . conflict,. * or at least agree to postpone * the marriage. He should admit * that to leap straight from * graduation to marriage. (with * no interim to mateur) is fool- * hardy, and reduces the chances of lifelong happiness. If he ° will not understand, however, * you will have to accept his de- * vision. - * After all, he is of age. * In which circumstances; your * position is clear. Instead of• * assuming he has been caught * in the clutches of a designing * female, you will wish them * well and be as friendly with * his bride as he could hope. o Restrain your impulses, never * intrude, and let them alone to * work out their destiny. o There have been exceptions * to your rule, and perhaps this * is one. For your son's sake, o believe me, you must hold. on * to his confidence in you. o We can hope he will recon- °.sider his plans quickly, and * realize that if the love they * feel is as deep as he believes, * waiting a year or two will not * lessen it. A TROUBLE• D READER "Dear Anne Hirst: Four years ago I lost my husband, and I have been at loose ends since. I've not been able to stop miss- ing him and in trying to, I find myself in love with a man we've both known for years — "But he is married. "Almost every day he drops in at my office for a chat, and I can hardly stand it. I mustn't let him know, of course, but I am' convinced I shall love him as long as I live, wrong as I know it is. Can you help me? GUILTY" * Discourage the man's visits • tactfully, plead you are too • busy to chat, or make any * other excuse that he is'not wel- * come. * There is one thing you can * do to make him seem less im- * portant: * Keep yourself oc- " cupied with other friends and * fill your evenings regularly, so * you,have not time to dream as * you've been doing. That is * wishful thinking that can * drain your spirits and energy * to the breaking point. * Follow thiscourse by plan- * ping your leisure deliberate- * ly, and I think you will find • yourself thinking of him less * and less. It does take will pow- * er, but you can cultivate that, ° you know. o * * Sometimes it is a mother's part to make one sacrifice after an- other, often against her better judgment. For the sake of all, she mustplay fair and give her children the responsibility .for their decision :.. Anne Hirst can simplify your course, if you con- fide in her at Box 1, 123 Eigh- teenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Modern Etiquette by Roberta I,ee Q. Is it permissible for a din- ner guest to ask for a second helping of some dish? A. Not unless eating with relatives or good friends. The hostess should see that her guests' wishes are fulfilled with- out the necessity of their ask- ing. Q. Is it proper for the bride to carry the bridegroom's wed. ding ring to the altar with her? A. The maid or matron of honor usually takes care of this ring, and hands it over to •the bride at the proper moment during the ceremony. Q. When a hostess passes ci- garettes after a meal in her home, isn't Itpermissible for a guest to refuse her offer and smoke one of his own cigar• ettcs if he prefers to do so? A. No; the guest should ac- cept the cigarette offered by his hostess. Q. Is one supposed to mail out the wedding invitations with or without the tissues that accompany them from the prin. ter's? A. With the tissues it place. HE DRILLS 'EM Edgar Buchanan lives a double life in Holly- wood, but drills people in both. As the disreputable old, goat, left, on television's "Wells Fargo," Buchanan is always ready to use his six-shooter. And, as a dentist in real life, right, his drill 1s usually available. Isn't it lovely to step outside these days and see. and hear all the signs and sounds of spring? Swamp frogs singing; orioles melodiously calling to each other from the tops of the leafless trees; yellowing branches of willows and forsy- thia; buds bursting .on the,lilaes: a reddish tinge to the maples;_ red robins bobbing along on grass that has ' definitely taken on a greenish hue. "God's, in His heaven,' all's right with the world." We appreciate it all the more when we' think back a few weeks to the time when gardens and 'fields were • cov- ered either with snow • or ice. The winds are still coolish but the sun is warm and. bright .. . and glory be, the furnace :s. going less and less, Of ccurse it is too risky yet to do much in the garden. — but at least we can get a bit ahead in the house so we are ready for working outside as soon as it is fit. And there are plenty of things to do away from 'home too. Various organi- zations .are busy these days put- ting .on money -making drives to supplement their dwindling funds. And oh dear! the trou- bles we occasionally run into. T was musing the other day how we , generally think of di- plomats as men in high office. But believe me there is an- other kind of diplomat — the president of any local organi- zation or/and the convener of a standing. committee. Just last week I saw a good demonstra• tion of the tact and good sense that is required to keep club wheels oiled and running smoothly. Our W.A had a quilting party at which two quilts were set up in frames. One quilt was mark- ed with the "double goose -egg." No complaints. But the other quilt ... ! The marking was an original design, done by an ex- perienced quilter. It was pretty but the work ! And hard to do, some of it uphill work. Present- ly the women began to grumble "Whoever put in these stars" , "if I'd known there was going to be all this work I'd have stayed home" "I can't work on this pattern, I'tn going back home." In the mean- time the convener of the quilt- ing party was working at the other end of the roam on the other quilt and didn't knew what was' going on. She knew after she got home! Telephone calls "couldn't she do some- thing about changing that.pat- torn?-Putting all that work on a mission quilt was ridiculous." The •poor lady was in a quan- dary. The quilt •had to be fin- ished but did she dare change the pattern — wouldn't the meraber who -did the original designing take offence? She sent an S.O.S. along to me so on the Monday three of us looked over the situation to see what could be done, We sort of adopted a middle course by keeping the original pattern as a border and doing a diamond pattern in the middle. That worked up quickly and we got along fine. 'Thursday We Were at it again, This time there ISSUE 20 — 1959 0. were more quilters and among them the originator of the troublesome design. I saw her comein and said to . myself, "Now what's going to happen?" But our convener was equal to the situation — explained the situation and said — "I hope you don't mind but we had to change' your quilting pattern." Well, I am glad to say the lady was a real good sport. She showed not the least bit of re- sentment but sat down and worked like a trouper, as good- natured as you please. .H o w easily she could have upset everyone by being hurt, and disagreeable. The convener too showed courage and wisdom. If she had been afraid of giving offence to one person she might eventually have had trouble with all the members. A presi- dent or convener cannot hope to please everyone. The only solution is to size up the situa- tion and take the best possible course for the organization as a whole. And above all, anyone holding any kind of office should be prepared to face cri- ticism. A person who cannot take criticism shouldn't accept an office. No one person can expect to please everybody. it just isn't possible. Try to please everyone and you end up by no one being satisfied. The same applies to writing. I am quite sure there- are many people who think this column is a lot of drivel. On the other hand there are some who like it be- cause I deal with homey topics and make no attempt to tackle or discuss the major problems of the day. But don't ever think I am ignorant of what is going on. I am often troubled but generally wind up by taking a philosophical attitude. Take this Strontium 90 situation. It sounds quite serious but on the other hand worrying about it might do us more harm than the amount of strontium that is likely to enter our systems. I feel that tense world problems will eventually work themselves out for the betterment df the majority of mankind. And after all there is a Higher Power. Let us remember that, and have FAITH. An abundance of faith can't hurt anyone. Too little might turn us into nervous wrecks. Haff Of Italy Never Reads.. That industrious `private eye," the Italian Central Institnte of Statistics, has turned up some facts 'which will make many ;Italians hang their heads In em- barressment. • The, institute recently udder- togir an exhaustive inquiry into the reading habits of the Italian people. It discovered, among other things, that in half of Italy's families no book, maga- zine, or daily paper is read from one year's end to another. If any printed matter penetrates • into these homes it is in the form of comics or pictorial magazines.. For a country which can just- ly claim to have fathered much of Western civilizationthis is a surprising and sorry state of affairs. But unforutnately, ac- cording to the institute's investi- gations, there is worse to come, It is disclosed that only in seven out of every hundred Italian families are books bought and read, It appears that there is in these days little sale for novels by even the best modern Italian authors; even' the most popular and successful . writers, whose books sell•for $1.50 or $2 a copy, think that they are doing well if 'they sell a few thousand copies, The majority of authors have to satisfy themselves with sales of a few hundred. An expert writing in the in- fluential newspaper La Stampa put it like this; "In Italian homes there is less and less of that old patriarchial atmosphere in which, before and after dinner, the family used to gather to- gether to read, some the news- papers, others novels and the children would sink their heads upon their arms and go to sleep. "Today by comparison, when the day's work is done, the fam- ily splits up, some get ready to .go out, others settle down at the card table, and the majority ar- range themselves around the TV set . . . culture is falling into decay; there is' an indifference and even open scorn of spiritual values. The family hearth has now only • the vaguest signifi- cance." The incidence of newspaper reading varies widely from re- gion to region. In the industrial north the proportion is much higher than in .the south. While the figures for Piedmont and Lombardy are 34 per cent and 25 per cent, respectively, that for Calabria is 9 per cent. In Sicily even this low per- centage is not maintained. As an example it was' found that at Porinico, a moderately well-to- do Sicilian town of 25,000 in- habitants, only 180 newspapers are sold a day. In less prosper- ous, smaller communities with populations of from two to three thousand anyone, but the mayor, the doctor, the priest or•chief of police who bought a paper;, would be thought to be eccentric. With these figures in mind the conclusion which must be drawn is that by and large the Italian people are uninterested in pub - lie affairs and woefully ignorant in tine political sphere. The lack of interest and ignorance ex- plain, perhaps how the Com- munist party could muster 0,000,- 000 votes or more in p general election. Look This Way PRINTED PAT'L IiRN 4594 SIZES 14Ya-2410 'Young, smart, cool — this day -to -dinner sheath is design- ed to slim inches off short. fuller figures. Note ' shuulder line —• suggests flattery of u sleeve. Printed Pattern 4596: Half Sizes 141/2, 161, 181/2, 201, 221/2, 243. Size 161 requires Syn yards 35 -inch fabric. Printed directions on each pattern part. Easier, accurate. Send FIFTY CENTS (5041 (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please, print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. HEMINGWAY ON TOUR — Ernest Hemingway and his wife, Mary, are off on .a tour of Spain, France and Italy. The writer says he wants to see some bullfights and finish a new novel. TRYING TO MAKE THE CLUB — An intent session of tiddlywinks occupies ,ring of University of Chicago students. They're hopeful of making the school team which has accepted a chat - lenge from England's Cambridge for a fall ma tch.