The Seaforth News, 1959-05-21, Page 6I4IPST
(Wig Pa' rownoselat
"Dear Anne Hirst: My family
moved to this town just a year
ago, and I was lucky enough to
get a job as secretary in the
la. 'est department store here,
Everything went line until I fell
in love with the son of the
owei.r. We are planning to get
me :'led, and my family and him
sn her know it. •But he has
nevi r told his father, nor given
m. a ring.
"We hardly ever go to places
th=at his friends do; he says he
do.an't want us seen around
town together. In the office, he
hardly speaks to me. Is he
ashamed of me? My family are
wonderful people; we belong to
the largest church heremy fa-
ther has an imsortant civic posi-
tion and my mother belongs to
the two nicest clubs.
' "I try not to feel hurt, but it
is getting under my skin. What
do you say?
UNHAPPY 1IANCEE"
' If the lad's mother has ac-
* cepted the fact of the engage-
* merit, there seems no imme-
* diate cause for alarm. That he
* doesn't stop and chat during
* office hours is not important,
• but his not dating you publicly
• and avoiding places where his
* own friends go, is something
* else again. Why doesn't he
* want them to meet you? There
* seems nothing to be ashamed
* of; your letter was too long to
* print, but your love seems
* deep and fine. He should be
* eager to show all his friends
* what a lucky chap he is.
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ISSUE 21 — 1959
* As a matter of cause, his
* rather should be told and that
the lad apparently fears to do,
Perhaps he thinks his father
* has other plans for him, or
* realizes he isn't earning
* enough to marry now, or may-
* be he is afraid of his parent
* and puts things off until a
• more auspicious time. But he
* must know that the longer he
* waits the more resentment his
• father might feel, It Is difficult
* to understand why his mother
* permits this silence to con-
e tinue; hasn't she welcomed you
properly?
* The young man is not being
* fair to you, and you should
* tell him so. Whatever his ma-
* son, it isnot good enough; you
* can't be a fiancee in private
* and treated as a stranger pub-
* licly. If his father suggests that
* the announcement be post-
* pond for a while, you will
* wait; but it is only fair to be
* acknowledged and received by
* the head of the family.
* This is your right. Your flan-
* ces needs, I suspect, only a lit-
* tle prodding to behave like a
* man.
* * *
FAITH HEALED HIM
"Dear Anne Hirst; The letter
you printed about the husband
who dranktoo much and led
his family through anxious years
of poverty, has impressed me
tremendously. I had that .prob-
lem, but I let mine go too. far
befort I asked help from the
Only One who could — and did
— give me strength to conquer
it.
"Every city has its skid row
of men and women because they
did not follow the Bible's teach-
ings. God is faithful and just, but
He wants us to be led by Him
every day, not just on Sun-
days....
"I pray that this man• does not
let his drinking get the best of
him, as I did. I lost my wife and
my two children for nearly a
year before I found the way to
be a man again. I can never be
thankful enough that I was led
back to God. K. L."
* Behind your letter lie
* months of heartbreaking temp-
* tation that required all the
* courage your new-found faith
* provided.
• Your experience will inspire
* others, I hope, to strive more
* earnestly for the help their
* church stands ready to give.
* There they can find the faith
* that will sustain them (as it
* sustained you) in their strug-
* gle for the good life.
* * *
When any problem faces you,
Anne Hirst stands by to offer her
wisdom and experience in solv-
ing it. Write her frankly at Box
1, 123 Eighteenth St. New Tor-
onto, Ont. and be sure your con-
fidence will not be betrayed.
Bad Check Artists
Of all U.S. criminals, the pro-
fessional bad -check artist is
probably the most dapper. Be-
tween 25 and 40 years of age, he
is apt to sport a lodge emblem
or a respectable club's badge in
the lapel of his conservative suit.
He is also likely to be highly in-
telligent. When 50 convicted
check forgers were given IQ tests,
42 per cent scored higher than
110, which is the IQ of only 25
per cent of the general popula-
tion. "But he is also likely to be
a man driven by a "deep-seated
feeling of insecurity."
This portrait of the bogus -
check passer was painted by Dr.
John MacDonald at the Ameri-
can Psychiatric Association meet-
ing in Philadelphia. After a study
of 300 check offenders in mental
institutions and penitentiaries,
the University of Colorado psy-
chiatrist found that most of them
wrote bad checks either "to pur-
chase friends and demonstrate
affluence" or to relieve repressed
feelings of hostility.
SIGHT UNSEEN - Head movement restricted because of a
neck injury, Roland Volker, is still able to read a book at Vete
eons Hospital in Minneapolis. Special prismatic lenses in his
glasszs bring pages Into view,
CAGNEY'S BOAT NOW KIDS' PLAYGROUND - Youngsters dive into the water from the "Swift",
an lath century -design boat once owned by Jimmy Cagney. Jimmy's one voyage aboard
her Can be summed up In "Sail, Pale, Rail," Shortly afterward, he 'sold her.
HItONICLES
ki1NGERFARM
(iaaxWoLi�w.DClaeke
Hullo, everybody, aro you still
yawning after being robbed of
that hour's sleep with the clocks
changed to Daylight saving time?
No good protesting now — the
time to do -it was six months ago.
But no one thinks of it then,.and
so we go on year after year, some
people liking the change, some
dislike it, others just tolerate it.
Oh, well , . ,
Well, it doesn't seem possible
but we certainly need rain. Just
imagine that, after all the snow,
ice and near floods we experi-
enced just a few short weeks ago.
One night recently we had a
thundershower but it didn't real-
ly amount to anything—not even
enough, rain •to lay the dust.
Seems as if we ire never satis-
fled with our weather, doesn't
it? And yet I think even the
weatherman will -admit we have
reason for complaint. However,
there isn't much we can do about
it except be prepared. "Prepared
—for what?" you ask. ,Well, 1
mean be prepared on a nice day
to drop everything and get on
with whatever job has been wait-
ing for a warm, sunny day —
whether it's washing blankets,
putting in garden or cleaning
windows. Fit the . day ' to the
deed and you halve the work.
Jobs in the house can wait --
many
many of them can be done just
as well in wet weather as in dry.
That's what I'm telling you ..
now just watch me getting
caught doing the wrong thing on
the wrong day. To err is human
.. , and I'm human.
Partner has been busy digging
the vegetable garden and when
he comes into the house I hear
various grunts and groans. Mus-
cles that have been practically
inactive all winter are protesting
vigorously. Sometimes I tell him
to quit.. "What's the use of quit-
ting?" is his answer. "I've got to
get myself into working shape
sometime." At that I give up ar-
guing.
As for me I am still trying to
catch up on a back -log of cor-
respondence — letters from fam-
ily, friends and "fans." I am still
answering inquiries about a hear-
ing aid, Meantime nieces on both
sides of our family seem to be
producing babies wholesale —
and all of them boys. Over in
England nephew Desmond was
the last surviving male member
of our branch of the Fitz -Gerald
clan. He was married and had
two little girls — the younger
five years old. And then last week
I got word his wife had pre-
sented him with a son — Roger
Edward. I was thrilled . ,• a son
to carry on the Fitz -Gerald name!
And of course he had to be an
Edward, although I imagine he.
will be called Roger, His great-
, greet -grandfather was Edward
and strange to say for some time
he lived in the same house, at
Woodbridge, in England, at the
same time as Edward Fitz -Ger-
ald, poet and translator of Omar
Irhayam. We know this because
some of his memoirs the poet
:' ys "My namesake is still in
t,re room above me but so far has
not yet tried to borrow any more
money from Inc!"
H 1,1 just got over that sur-
prise — and it was a surprise --
''hen we got an announcement
r:rd from niece baba (Partner's
=ide of the family) to say she
also had a son — a brother for
'c,o previous girls. So again there
was cause for rejoicing: And
there was another heir born to
the Clarke family just recently
to nephew and his wife in Aus.
trgilia. I'm telling you, we shall
sr• � t' surfeited with boy be -
hi•:
'.hat's what 1 thought yester-
ctr. ,when the whole tribe was
he: c - and never a girl among
then, Dave, Eddie and Jerry
pr-ndly brought in a bunch of
mayflowers for grandma, Then
they played around for awhile.
They had just nicely gone when
Ross and Cedric came along —
accompanied by their parents, I'
might add. During the week
when our own youngsters are
not around a little two-year-old
girl from next door comes along
and keeps us from being too
quiet. There's never a dull 'mo-
ment around here. Sometimes it
keepsThs busy to get in an oc-
casional much needed snooze.
The other day Iwas dead to the
world when there came a thun-
derous rapping at the front . ,
A little boy on the street couldn't
find his mother and wanted to
know if she were here!
I wonder . , , do you ever look
at your grand -children or the
children in your neighbourhood
and ponder what kind of a world
they will be called- on to face?
Think of that history -making
event that has just taken place
—the opening of the great St.
Lawrence Seaway. Today's chil-
dren will grow up and take it
all for granted. And in ten years
time people will zip along Bloor
and University Avenue in no
time at all. It will be taken very
much for granted too and no one
will remember the hullabaloo
that tookplace over increased
taxes. A lot more farm land will
have disappeared and probably
no one will know where To-
ronto ends and Hamilton begins.
We don't need a crystal ball to
show us the future—only a lit-
tle common-sense and imagina-
tion to make us realise the kind
of world all these new babies
will grow up in. But even imagi-
nation cannot forsee whether it
will be a peaceful or a happier
world. However I have a hunch
that a lot of our present troubles
will eventually be straightened
out. I still hang on to that faith
that I mentioned last week.
New King Of The
!movie Box Office
--
Glenn Ford, after twenty years
as an in -and -outer among Holly-
wood's stars, has suddenly be-
come the biggest box -.office draw
in the country at the age of 43.
Visited on the set of his 56th
picture recently (a comedy, "It
Started With a Kiss"), Ford was
asked: "How come No, I?" He
quickly threw a monologue on
the conversational fire.
"I haven't the faintest idea,"
the still boyish -looking actor de-
clared. "Things just began to
happen to me when I came to
M -G -M in 1954. Before that I'd
been at Columbia with Rita Hay-
worth and Bill Holden. We all
started out together.... Patience
was what I learned at Columbia.
But when I did 'Blackboard
Jungle' for Richard Brooks at
M -G -M, I was finally allowed to
use a lot of theories I'd had stew-
ing in the back of my head for
years,
"Like myself, Dick Brooks be-
lieves in the luxury of imper-
"No sit', you don't need a fuj
beard for Cuba or Spain, but
it might help."
fection—using the little things
that happen spontaneously when
the camera is turning. A door
sticking, for example, or when a
match doesn't light on the first
stroke. Or, most of all, two peo-
ple talking at the same time, A
director with courage will say,
'Print it. That's the truth,' It's
this absence of the old artifici-
ality that has matured both
movies and movie audiences.
"You can't fool audiences any
more. Before, an ideal movie star
was one who had the flawless
face of a model in a collar adver-
tisement. Fortunately the prem-
ium now is no longer on beauty
but on truth. I'm one of many
actors in the business now who
don't have to go to the 'correc-
tive' make-up department early
each morning. I wear no make-
up. In that way the lines and
flaws in my face show on the
screen. This is truth, and people
want to see characters on the
screen who are real,
"The medium has changed, and
possibly that's why my career
changed. too. Hollywood is more
and more a director's and writer's
medium. The picture with the
big -name star is no longer an as-
surance of success. It's now a
team effort, and as, an actor I've
been fortunate to find my place,
to fit better into the medium. My
approach to making' movies' is
simple as failing off a dolly. I
read a script and if I can believe.
in the _character and the story•
line, I do it. If I"can't, I don't."
Another big reason for Ford's
current box-office dominance is
that he has appeared recently in
several good comedies, and there
is no doubt that movie audiences
hunger for fun these days. Glenn
Ford comedies do particularly
well. Why? Unlike the profes-
sional gagman movies, Ford in-
terpolates credible subjectivity
in all he does. As he explained
it: "I don't play it as comedy but
as serious drama. Once an actor
thinks he's funny, he's lost the
audience. If you examine care-
fully each of the comedies I've
been in—Teahouse of the August
Moon' 'Don't Go Near the Water,'
'Imitation General'—you'll' find
that though the movies are billed
-as comedies, the leading charac-
ter is always confronted with a
very serious situation, My new
picture has the same sort of tech-
nique. Maybe that's my secret."
-From NEWSWEEK.
A woman getting off a bus was
seen deliberately to place a pack-
age on the seat. A fellow passen-
ger, alighting at the same time,
asked her why,
"I do it every day," was the
reply. • "It's my husband's lunch.
He works in the bus Lost Prop-
erty Office."•
HOW Can ?.
BY Anne dsbley
Q. What would be A good
closing toa business letter
when one wishes to be as In-
formal OS possible?
.A. "Sincerely yours" is the iso--
cepted fern.
Q. When two men and two
women attend a theatre toge-
ther, In what order should they
enter the row in which their
seats are situated?
A, It is now customary and
acceptable for the two women
to be seated next to each other.
So, one of the men enters the
,row first, followed' by the two
women, and then the second
span.
Q. Just when It is proper for
guests to smoke at the dinner
table?
A. Only when the hostess has
,made provisions for smoking
,matches, ashtrays, placed on the
table. Otherwise, it is bad man-
ners to begin smoking.
Q. Should the dessert spoon
or fork be placed on the table
at the beginning of the meal?
A. No; these utensils are
brought in with the dessert
course,
Sugar' Sweet
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HUNDREDS OF HOOPS — A photographer retreats as she 65th
unnual Wellesley College hoop roll gets under way on the
campus. The race was won by Amalya Kearse, who will bop
according to local belief the first of her class to wed.