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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1959-05-07, Page 2"Dear Anne Hirst; I have been a very lonesome man since my wife died two years ago, leav- ine me with two small children. I ) rst couldn't find myself - un - ti' 1 meta girl four months ago who is so much like my late wiee that I am desperately in love She is only 10, but she se- Ls to care as much for me and Is as anxious as I am to get m• .tied, '' rat her parents are horrified at the idea, They insist it will ruin her life. - And don't bring up the- differences in our ages; we have never had any serious arguments, and seem almost miraeulously intended for each other. "She is not a spoiled young- ster. She seems to understand my children and they like to be with her. Sheds much more ma- ture than her years, I should tell you that I am well off and can take good care of them all ... `She wants har parent's ap- proval, that is all we are wait- ing for. How can we make them see that this marriage is right for both of us? IMPATIENT" ' BE FAIR * This girl is undoubtedly in * love, and just now she is * luxuriating in the joys of be- * coning your wife. But man- * aging an established house- * hold with its countless duties * presents a big problem to a * teen-ager, and marrying a man t ii J,utbh.a Whei2vt, Such popular doilies - their petite size enables you to use them here, there, everywhere! Dainty as a dresser -set or to spotlight brie -a -brae. Welcome gift any time. Pattern 905: direc- tions for 7 x 13 inch oval; round 101/2; square 8r/x in No. 50. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and AD- DRESS. Send for a copy of 1959 Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book. It has lovely designs to order: embroi- dery, crochet, knitting, weaving, quilting, toys. In the book,`a spe- cial surprise to make a little girl happy - a cut-out doll, clothes to color. Send 25 cents for this book. ISSUE 18 - 1959 • with a ready-made family is * a serious responsibility. Ma s' ture as you think she is, I hope * you will not try to rush her * into marriage, * A few months' acquaintance * is not nearly long enough to • justify marriage; it has the • * earmarks of strong physical" " attraction which sweeps all * else before it. You two need to explore each other's char- • acter, temperament and ideas, to be sure you hold the same * .ideals of married life and can * adjust yourselves to the many s' problems that confront every * couple. As the older, you * should restrain your desires * and hers and realize that mar- * riage is supposed to last• for * the rest of your lives, What assurance does a four-month ' * friendship imply? I feel sure * this is one vital reason for her * parents' objections, * If you want to make sure of * their approval, promise them * you will wait until the girl is * older before pressing your * suit, and even withdraw en- * tirely for a period if they in- * sist, This will impress them " with your sincerity; it will * also give her time to evaluate * the quality of her affection * and prove to you too, whether * it is only infatuation you feel * or a love that will carry you * through the years, ▪ She respects her parents * enough to wait until they con- * sent willingly. If you try to * influence her she might dis- * obey them, which could cloud * the marriage as well as leave * it open ter annulment. Remem- * ber, in your state she must be * 21 before she can marry any- * body without parental con- * sent. * Think it over as objectively . * as you can, and I believe you * will decide to play fair all * around. * * * PROBLEMS OF 13 "Dear Anne Hirst: A nice boy I know in school has often asked me to go out with him, but he is dating my best girl friend and I am afraid it would make her mad. "Anyhow, though I am 13, my mother says I am too young to go . with any boys. What shall I do? I do like him! MARIE" There are two strikes * against your dating this boy: * Your mother's opposition, and * loyalty to your best friend. * Emotions of teen-agers flare * at the touch of a spark,. and * your girl friend might reason- * ably object to your dating her * beau. When you are permit- * ted to go out with boys there * will be other nice lads to * choose from, without snatch- * ing one from a girl who trusts * you. * Tell the boy that your moth- * er doesn't want you to start * dating yet. That will settle the * matter for now. * * * Anne Hirst is eager to agree with her readers' desires, but when she cannot she explains _ practical reasons for her stand. If you want an honest opinion on your situation, write Ann Hirst, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto Ont. LOVE STORY He loved her. She loved him. They loved each other. But his mother didn't like her mother. And her mother didn't like his mother. And her father didn't like his income. And his father didn't like her extravagance. So they were married but lived quite unhappily until his father and her father and his mother and her mother all became grand- parents. HIGI4 JINI(S - A make-believe casket containing "Old Man Prohibition" was hauled through the streets of Oklahoma City, Okla., with a police escort. Wets were celebrating an election victory ending 51 yearn of prohibition In that state, LEASH FOR SAFETY - That automobile in the background won't endanger Vs -year-old Cynthia Lee Spooner in busy Rocky River, shopping district. Her aunt, Mrs. Joseph Dunn, keeps 'hold of .Cynthia by means of a leash consisting of a coiled rubber spring cord attached to a plastic strap around the child's wrist. The cord extends four feet, retracts to eight inches. ✓ 1'J HRQNICI,, %1NGERFARM Gvaer .doUr�.e Life is full of surprises - some good, some bad. .You never know what is just around the corner. Last week I was very concernedabout an elderly lady who had fallen and broken her hip. I had just mailed a let- ter of sympathy to her when bad news came to our own fa- mily. Partner's oldest brother, living in North Toronto, had died quite suddenly. His pass- ing is a great loss to all his family wife, daughter, bro- thers and sister. He hadbeen brother, father and family counsellor for almost as long as we can remember. It was he who helped set us • up when we started farming.' He hada re- cently been over to England to see his only sister,, living alone, presumably to make sure every- thing was all right with her. He had been back home only two and a half weeks when he was stricken. The same night we were over to his home. There was his hat and coat in the hall closet; other things around the. houseso intimately ' associated , with, him - driftwood he had worked on during the winter - and yet he was no longer there It seemed almost impossible. Some people L e a v e a much greater gap than •others when they answer the Last Call. His passing. was swift and merciful. For that •we can be thankful. Also for the fact that this was the first break in Partner's 'family, apart from the loss, years ago, of his father and mother, Naturally there is a busy time ahead for us for the next few days. We are having another brother and his wife froin near Ottawa to stay with us over the week -end. Art is running everyone back .and forth when necessary. Bob will be coming, from Milton on Saturday and taking us to the funeral. Joy cannot conte .because of the baby, who has not yet been out for an airing but is coming along fine in every way. The weather has been a lot r.:^re spring-like just lately. v •ry little snow left but plenty of mud , and water - and the wnship machinery is still busy !hawing out culverts Robins ere hopping around all over the pace and there is a crocus here %•'-'d there thrusting its purple or golden crown above the soil. Trouble is, the ground is too wet for one to tramp around looking el them. Monday. Well., we have just seen cur week -end guests off on the bas. I expect they will he very tired by the time they roach hcme. And we are too It Ire. by en a strenuous Week -end. 01 cuurse we were all et the tuneral service on Saturday, but three was no trip to the oetnetc i y as the remains were to be cremated. It was our first experience in that type of ser'• vice and I. must say we thought it was as simple and dignified es one could wish. The casket was open when we entered the Chapel but before the close of the service the mourners left the room -for a few minutes and in that time the casket was closed. Then the mourners re- turned and the minister con- tinued the service, the latter part being the equivalent of what would ordinarily take place at the graveside. But there was one noticeable dif- ference. The minister instead of saying "dust to dust" said ewe release this body to the "ele- ments" from which it came." Then came the final benedic- tion and theservice was over. When we left the Chapel the casket remained, with just a few flowers from the immediate family. (Donations to the Can- cer Fund from friends had been requested in lien of flowers) Personally I am inclined to think it was a verynice fun - era] arrangement. To me it was less distressing than to stand. by an open grave and see 'the' casket lowered into the depths of the earth., Afterwards, of course, rela- tives and close friends went back to the home and visited ?While. It must have been an ordeal for the widow and daughter and yet having people around for even a short , time would help to relieve or at least postpone - that awful sense of loneliness that must in-' ovitably follow. . • Sunday we had a family ga' thering here - eight grown-ups and all.five grandsons. A death in the family is a great lose but as so often happens it brought other members of the. family' together who had not seen each other for some years. As we grow older :family , re- unions become less frequent. Yes, strange as it may seem death has a way of bringing theliving closer together, I am sure many readers of this column • must have shared just such an experience. SALLY'S SALLIES 'I'm just checking up on the new styles; you won't get triad if 1 don't brat When Holmdel rE:6ew His Top Slipping into a concert hall, a burly man sat down quietly and listened to an 'orchestra playing a piece of music by Han- del, the great composer.: When it ended, he turned to a stranger sitting next to himand asked:. "What do you think of that com- position?" !'It's very poor stuff," was the reply. "I quite agree -and I thought so When I wrote it," replied the big man, smiling, That was typical . of Handel, the German -bore genius. who be- came a naturalized' English spb- ject, lived in • Britain for fifty years and whose death 200 years ago will be commemorated by music lovers 'in many parts of the world this month, with spe- cial performances of his best- known works. , He was always e severe crate of his own music - and of some of the singers who did not per- form his choral works to his liking. He called two "a pair of hussies" and another a "s -he - devil" because she was out of tune.. His nasty temper led to his being nicknamed the "Great Bear," but he had a heart of gold. .Each year he gave a concert for `London's Foundling Hospi- tal and remembered that insti- tution in his will. The house where he lived and died, in Brook Street, in the heart of London's Mayfair, still stands to- day. Among Handel's greatest works is the Messiah, which he composed in less than three weeks in 1741 when he was fifty- six and had been before the pub- lic as composer, producer and performer for thirty-six years, The story goes that it was Handel's one great. wish that he might achieve the privilege of dying on Good Friday. His wish, was granted. He collapsed after conducting a performance of the Messiah at Covent Garden and lingered on until •the night of Good Friday, 1759. Is A .Cold Cure In 'Sight? Why do men exploring the polar regions seldom get colds? Exploring for the answer, which may provide clues to an all-im- portant vaccine against the com- mon cold, Dr. William Sladen spent four months aboard a Navy i;ebreaker (U.S.S. Staten Island) in Antarctica. Last month as the raw data of "Operation Snuffles" 900 bloodsamples and 1,200 throat swabs, carefully preserved in two 800 -pound freezers -ar- rived in the U.S. only a few weeks after Dr. Sladen's own re- turn, he offered some interesting preliminary observations. First of all, the Johns Hop- kins public-health expert'report- ed, many of the icebreakers crew were suffering mild colds when they left for Antarctica, but a month later, when they reached New Zealand, they were rela- tively free of stuffy noses. After port . leave, however,- they broke down with unpleasant colds. Then, en route to Antarctica,•tbe colds - slowly faded. Even so, when the Staten Island; docked -at the isolated Wilkes„ Station, most of the men -there soon came down with bad colds. •Stops at other bases did not. touch off similar epidemics, -mainly, Sla- den .said, "because other -people, had come 'in . from the outside earlier. Some of these -bases 'al- ready had had their outbreaks. Just why this strange pattern of epidemicsand immunities should occur Dr. Sladen doesn't know. The answer; he explained, must await analysis of the blood samples and throat swabs which he diligently gathered in Anuric: tiea. Until now, researchers' have not been able to isolate all the viruses which can be blamed 'for. the common cold. These bugs act • too much like their cousins, the viruses that cause serious flu-like illnesses. Because Antarctica per- sormel were given flu vaccine -be- fore leaving the U.S., however, only the milder viruses should. show up in their throat and blood samples. If so, the samples may suggest ilia way to the long- awaited cold vaccine. Modern Etiquette by Roberta tree Q, What types of letters must always be written by band, ra- ther titan by typewriter? A,' Letters of condolence, for- mal invitations. 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