HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1959-05-07, Page 2"Dear Anne Hirst; I have been
a very lonesome man since my
wife died two years ago, leav-
ine me with two small children.
I ) rst couldn't find myself - un -
ti' 1 meta girl four months ago
who is so much like my late
wiee that I am desperately in
love She is only 10, but she
se- Ls to care as much for me
and Is as anxious as I am to get
m• .tied,
'' rat her parents are horrified
at the idea, They insist it will
ruin her life. - And don't bring
up the- differences in our ages;
we have never had any serious
arguments, and seem almost
miraeulously intended for each
other.
"She is not a spoiled young-
ster. She seems to understand
my children and they like to be
with her. Sheds much more ma-
ture than her years, I should tell
you that I am well off and can
take good care of them all ...
`She wants har parent's ap-
proval, that is all we are wait-
ing for. How can we make them
see that this marriage is right
for both of us? IMPATIENT" '
BE FAIR
* This girl is undoubtedly in
* love, and just now she is
* luxuriating in the joys of be-
* coning your wife. But man-
* aging an established house-
* hold with its countless duties
* presents a big problem to a
* teen-ager, and marrying a man
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ISSUE 18 - 1959
• with a ready-made family is
* a serious responsibility. Ma
s' ture as you think she is, I hope
* you will not try to rush her
* into marriage,
* A few months' acquaintance
* is not nearly long enough to
• justify marriage; it has the •
* earmarks of strong physical"
" attraction which sweeps all
* else before it. You two need
to explore each other's char-
• acter, temperament and ideas,
to be sure you hold the same
* .ideals of married life and can
* adjust yourselves to the many
s' problems that confront every
* couple. As the older, you
* should restrain your desires
* and hers and realize that mar-
* riage is supposed to last• for
* the rest of your lives, What
assurance does a four-month '
* friendship imply? I feel sure
* this is one vital reason for her
* parents' objections,
* If you want to make sure of
* their approval, promise them
* you will wait until the girl is
* older before pressing your
* suit, and even withdraw en-
* tirely for a period if they in-
* sist, This will impress them
" with your sincerity; it will
* also give her time to evaluate
* the quality of her affection
* and prove to you too, whether
* it is only infatuation you feel
* or a love that will carry you
* through the years,
▪ She respects her parents
* enough to wait until they con-
* sent willingly. If you try to
* influence her she might dis-
* obey them, which could cloud
* the marriage as well as leave
* it open ter annulment. Remem-
* ber, in your state she must be
* 21 before she can marry any-
* body without parental con-
* sent.
* Think it over as objectively .
* as you can, and I believe you
* will decide to play fair all
* around.
* * *
PROBLEMS OF 13
"Dear Anne Hirst: A nice boy
I know in school has often asked
me to go out with him, but he
is dating my best girl friend and
I am afraid it would make her
mad.
"Anyhow, though I am 13, my
mother says I am too young to
go . with any boys. What shall I
do? I do like him! MARIE"
There are two strikes
* against your dating this boy:
* Your mother's opposition, and
* loyalty to your best friend.
* Emotions of teen-agers flare
* at the touch of a spark,. and
* your girl friend might reason-
* ably object to your dating her
* beau. When you are permit-
* ted to go out with boys there
* will be other nice lads to
* choose from, without snatch-
* ing one from a girl who trusts
* you.
* Tell the boy that your moth-
* er doesn't want you to start
* dating yet. That will settle the
* matter for now.
* * *
Anne Hirst is eager to agree
with her readers' desires, but
when she cannot she explains _
practical reasons for her stand.
If you want an honest opinion
on your situation, write Ann
Hirst, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St.,
New Toronto Ont.
LOVE STORY
He loved her.
She loved him.
They loved each other.
But his mother didn't like her
mother.
And her mother didn't like his
mother.
And her father didn't like his
income.
And his father didn't like her
extravagance.
So they were married but lived
quite unhappily until his father
and her father and his mother
and her mother all became grand-
parents.
HIGI4 JINI(S - A make-believe casket containing "Old Man
Prohibition" was hauled through the streets of Oklahoma City,
Okla., with a police escort. Wets were celebrating an election
victory ending 51 yearn of prohibition In that state,
LEASH FOR SAFETY - That automobile in the background
won't endanger Vs -year-old Cynthia Lee Spooner in busy Rocky
River, shopping district. Her aunt, Mrs. Joseph Dunn, keeps
'hold of .Cynthia by means of a leash consisting of a coiled
rubber spring cord attached to a plastic strap around the child's
wrist. The cord extends four feet, retracts to eight inches.
✓ 1'J
HRQNICI,,
%1NGERFARM
Gvaer .doUr�.e
Life is full of surprises -
some good, some bad. .You
never know what is just around
the corner. Last week I was
very concernedabout an elderly
lady who had fallen and broken
her hip. I had just mailed a let-
ter of sympathy to her when
bad news came to our own fa-
mily. Partner's oldest brother,
living in North Toronto, had
died quite suddenly. His pass-
ing is a great loss to all his
family wife, daughter, bro-
thers and sister. He hadbeen
brother, father and family
counsellor for almost as long
as we can remember. It was he
who helped set us • up when we
started farming.' He hada re-
cently been over to England to
see his only sister,, living alone,
presumably to make sure every-
thing was all right with her.
He had been back home only
two and a half weeks when he
was stricken.
The same night we were
over to his home. There was
his hat and coat in the hall
closet; other things around the.
houseso intimately ' associated ,
with, him - driftwood he had
worked on during the winter -
and yet he was no longer there
It seemed almost impossible.
Some people L e a v e a much
greater gap than •others when
they answer the Last Call. His
passing. was swift and merciful.
For that •we can be thankful.
Also for the fact that this was
the first break in Partner's
'family, apart from the loss,
years ago, of his father and
mother,
Naturally there is a busy time
ahead for us for the next few
days. We are having another
brother and his wife froin near
Ottawa to stay with us over
the week -end. Art is running
everyone back .and forth when
necessary. Bob will be coming,
from Milton on Saturday and
taking us to the funeral. Joy
cannot conte .because of the
baby, who has not yet been out
for an airing but is coming
along fine in every way.
The weather has been a lot
r.:^re spring-like just lately.
v •ry little snow left but plenty
of mud , and water - and the
wnship machinery is still busy
!hawing out culverts Robins
ere hopping around all over the
pace and there is a crocus here
%•'-'d there thrusting its purple
or golden crown above the soil.
Trouble is, the ground is too wet
for one to tramp around looking
el them.
Monday. Well., we have just
seen cur week -end guests off on
the bas. I expect they will he
very tired by the time they
roach hcme. And we are too It
Ire. by en a strenuous Week -end.
01 cuurse we were all et the
tuneral service on Saturday,
but three was no trip to the
oetnetc i y as the remains were
to be cremated. It was our first
experience in that type of ser'•
vice and I. must say we thought
it was as simple and dignified
es one could wish. The casket
was open when we entered the
Chapel but before the close of
the service the mourners left
the room -for a few minutes and
in that time the casket was
closed. Then the mourners re-
turned and the minister con-
tinued the service, the latter
part being the equivalent of
what would ordinarily take
place at the graveside. But
there was one noticeable dif-
ference. The minister instead of
saying "dust to dust" said ewe
release this body to the "ele-
ments" from which it came."
Then came the final benedic-
tion and theservice was over.
When we left the Chapel the
casket remained, with just a
few flowers from the immediate
family. (Donations to the Can-
cer Fund from friends had been
requested in lien of flowers)
Personally I am inclined to
think it was a verynice fun -
era] arrangement. To me it was
less distressing than to stand.
by an open grave and see 'the'
casket lowered into the depths
of the earth.,
Afterwards, of course, rela-
tives and close friends went
back to the home and visited
?While. It must have been an
ordeal for the widow and
daughter and yet having people
around for even a short , time
would help to relieve or at
least postpone - that awful
sense of loneliness that must in-'
ovitably follow. . •
Sunday we had a family ga'
thering here - eight grown-ups
and all.five grandsons. A death
in the family is a great lose
but as so often happens it
brought other members of the.
family' together who had not
seen each other for some years.
As we grow older :family , re-
unions become less frequent.
Yes, strange as it may seem
death has a way of bringing
theliving closer together, I am
sure many readers of this
column • must have shared just
such an experience.
SALLY'S SALLIES
'I'm just checking up on the
new styles; you won't get triad
if 1 don't brat
When Holmdel
rE:6ew His Top
Slipping into a concert hall,
a burly man sat down quietly
and listened to an 'orchestra
playing a piece of music by Han-
del, the great composer.: When it
ended, he turned to a stranger
sitting next to himand asked:.
"What do you think of that com-
position?"
!'It's very poor stuff," was the
reply.
"I quite agree -and I thought
so When I wrote it," replied the
big man, smiling,
That was typical . of Handel,
the German -bore genius. who be-
came a naturalized' English spb-
ject, lived in • Britain for fifty
years and whose death 200 years
ago will be commemorated by
music lovers 'in many parts of
the world this month, with spe-
cial performances of his best-
known works. ,
He was always e severe crate
of his own music - and of some
of the singers who did not per-
form his choral works to his
liking. He called two "a pair of
hussies" and another a "s -he -
devil" because she was out of
tune.. His nasty temper led to
his being nicknamed the "Great
Bear," but he had a heart of
gold.
.Each year he gave a concert
for `London's Foundling Hospi-
tal and remembered that insti-
tution in his will. The house
where he lived and died, in
Brook Street, in the heart of
London's Mayfair, still stands to-
day.
Among Handel's greatest
works is the Messiah, which he
composed in less than three
weeks in 1741 when he was fifty-
six and had been before the pub-
lic as composer, producer and
performer for thirty-six years,
The story goes that it was
Handel's one great. wish that he
might achieve the privilege of
dying on Good Friday. His wish,
was granted. He collapsed after
conducting a performance of the
Messiah at Covent Garden and
lingered on until •the night of
Good Friday, 1759.
Is A .Cold
Cure In 'Sight?
Why do men exploring the
polar regions seldom get colds?
Exploring for the answer, which
may provide clues to an all-im-
portant vaccine against the com-
mon cold, Dr. William Sladen
spent four months aboard a Navy
i;ebreaker (U.S.S. Staten Island)
in Antarctica. Last month as the
raw data of "Operation Snuffles"
900 bloodsamples and 1,200
throat swabs, carefully preserved
in two 800 -pound freezers -ar-
rived in the U.S. only a few
weeks after Dr. Sladen's own re-
turn, he offered some interesting
preliminary observations.
First of all, the Johns Hop-
kins public-health expert'report-
ed, many of the icebreakers crew
were suffering mild colds when
they left for Antarctica, but a
month later, when they reached
New Zealand, they were rela-
tively free of stuffy noses. After
port . leave, however,- they broke
down with unpleasant colds.
Then, en route to Antarctica,•tbe
colds - slowly faded. Even so,
when the Staten Island; docked
-at the isolated Wilkes„ Station,
most of the men -there soon came
down with bad colds. •Stops at
other bases did not. touch off
similar epidemics, -mainly, Sla-
den .said, "because other -people,
had come 'in . from the outside
earlier. Some of these -bases 'al-
ready had had their outbreaks.
Just why this strange pattern
of epidemicsand immunities
should occur Dr. Sladen doesn't
know. The answer; he explained,
must await analysis of the blood
samples and throat swabs which
he diligently gathered in Anuric:
tiea. Until now, researchers' have
not been able to isolate all the
viruses which can be blamed 'for.
the common cold. These bugs act
• too much like their cousins, the
viruses that cause serious flu-like
illnesses. Because Antarctica per-
sormel were given flu vaccine -be-
fore leaving the U.S., however,
only the milder viruses should.
show up in their throat and blood
samples. If so, the samples may
suggest ilia way to the long-
awaited cold vaccine.
Modern Etiquette
by Roberta tree
Q, What types of letters must
always be written by band, ra-
ther titan by typewriter?
A,' Letters of condolence, for-
mal invitations. (those written
in the third person), and most
letters of congratulation, such
as on the occasion of an -en-
gagement, the birth of a baby,'
etc., also the thank -you notes
of a bride for the gifts she has
received.
R.• What should a guest do if
he knocks off a glass of water,
spills his coffee, or has some
other such mishap atthe dinner
table? -
A. He tells, his hostess how •
sorry he is, but lets her take
care of the situation, She will
do what she can to repair the"
damage and will probably con-
ceal the soiled spot with a nap-
kin.
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