HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1959-04-30, Page 6ANNIE 114IRST
"Dear Anne Hirst: A year ago
when I Was a widow with two
small children, I married a man
who I 'thought was everything
that was good. Now we have ca
young baby and I'm still in love,
but I am worried, sick because
1 don't see how that can last,
My husband has changed into
a jealous, vindictive creature,
an 1 he Is so mean to us that
I fear the worst,
"When we were going to- .
gether he was always pleasant
to my family and friends, but
since we got married he de-
clares they are all 'no good,'
I am not allowed to see my
mother nor his, nor even : my
friends; I can't go to card par-
ties or other little affairs, He
declares 'Rou don't need other
people, you have me! - And
what use is he ? He never takes
me anywhere, he won't pay a
baby-sitter, and I miss my
people so much that some days
I have to restrain myself phy-
sically from going to see them.
"Our baby does not interest
him e*eept to show off; when
he cries his father loses his
temper. To my own children
(whom he promised to raise as
4 4r4 his own) he is impatient and
rrs mean, he hollers and often slaps
them. I never had any trouble
with them before, but now they
cringe when he comes home
and run to me. That makes shim
furious.
"He is a good provider, but
that isn't enough; we all must
have love and understanding,
and these he withholds. He
nags me all the time; I can't
do anything to please him, and
be even : calls me lazy ! With
t w o lively youngsters and a
baby I can't snap into it every
time he calls. I don t enjoy
Party Pinafores
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Two pretty ways she can wear
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for you. Pattern 801: sizes 2, 4, 6,
8 included, Pattern, embroidery
transfer, directions.
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NAME and ADDRESS.
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anything any more; I'm sick and
tired of housework, and heaven
help me, I'm tired of my chin
dren, and they are so sweet
and good
"I think I'm the loneliest wife
in the world, I don't know
which way to turn. I still love
my husband, but he is destroy-
ing that love , How can 1
restore peace between us and
between him and the, children?
I don't want my marriage to
fail, but I just can't go on like
this. DEFEATED"
* I wish I could have printed
* all your letter . It' does
* seem that youmarried a man'
* you did not know. He used,
* to be loving and thoughtful,
'K kind to you and your chil-.
* dren;. how could Youforesee
* that would not last?Perhaps,
* it only jealousy that causes
* his selfish prohibitions, and
* he feels he must put you 1n
* the wrong to justi!Ey himself.
* Your lite now has become
* unbearable, and physically
* and spiritually you are at the
* end of your. endurance. Since
* he is getting more intolerant,
* you had better announce your
* . ultimatum.
* If your husband 'wants to
* stay married to you, he must
* be kind and fair to you all.
* He hes separated you from
* your family and your friends;
* these he must restore. He
*
must realize you are over-
* worked,and without the in-
* centive of appreciation or af-
* fection you cannot go on, If
* he will not (or cannot) accord
* you the respect and affection
* and freedom you deserve,
* then he is not the man he
* seemed to be. How can you.
* keep on living with a strait-
* ger?
* You have tried valiantly to
*live up (or down) to his auto-
* erotic demands, and you find
* it increasingly impossible. It
* is your husband who can
* save your marriage if he will.
* Otherwise (and for the chil-
* dren's sake, too) you will
* have to take steps to end it.
* T am so sorry!
* *
TRIALS AT 15
"Dear Anne Hirst: I am just
15, and have gone with one boy
since I was in the fourth grade.
Now he has grown so popular
that he doesn't ask me for a
date any more! I'm sure he
thinks I don't like him.
"But I do, more than ever
I started going with an-
other boy, and now the one I
like hardly speaks to me ! What.
cna I do to win him back?
LONESOME"
* Instead of inventing excuses
* for this boy, why don't you
* admit the truth? He doesn't
* ask you for a date because
r just now he doesn't want one.
Unflattering though that
* sounds, don't despair. Boys
* his age flit from one girl to
* another, and often come back
* to the first one they liked.
* They are gaining experience
* (which is natural and right)
* and no one girl means much
* to them at the moment. You
rr appealed to him once, and
* you may again.
* Meantime, though, amuse
*yourself with other nice boys
* and give the impression
* you're having a fine time.
* This is one of the most suc
* cessful ways to attract an in-
* attentive lad, or even new
* friends. * * *
If you question Anne Hirst's
opnions, or want further assur-
ance of her whole -hearted in-
terest in- her readers, write her
at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St.,
New Toronto, Ont. S h e pub-
lishes criticisms as well as bou-
quets, as she can find the
space.
SWEET BAIT
In Iienora, Ont., Ice Fisherman
Oscar Boivin had 'no luck with
minnows, stuck a marshmallow
on his hook and pulled in a 14 -
lb. lake trout.
1,OO1C MA, NO WINGSI - Full-scalo model of a wingless air-
plane is shown with its designer, Dr, Alexander Lippisch. The
"Aerodyne" can lake off and land vertically and fly normally.
Two contra -rotating propellers force air through the fuselage
and out controllable vents in the belly. Cockpit will bit located
aft under a canopy in the vertical stabilizer.
THE SAME, BUT DIFFERENT'- Both photos are of the same scene
inthe forthcoming movie, "Solomon and Sheba," but two of
the duelistsare different. Top, it's the late Tyrone Power 'cross-
ing swords with -George Sanders.. Bottom, ' Yul Brynner goes
through the action with Sanders in a remake. it was during
thefilming of this scene that Power suffered a •heart attack
and died' last November.
RONICLLS
RF M
This is surely one for the rec-
ord. Sunday, March 22, was of-
ficially the second day of spring,
yet at seven o'clock that morning
it was two below zero. The win-
dows here were all frosted over
and our first job was to rnop up
the water on the hardwood floors
as the sun quickly thawed the
ice on the windows. And., yet on
the two preceding days ditches
were running and water here and'
there flooding the highways. And
well we knew it. Friday seemed
such a lovely day -bright sun, '
crows flying, starlings chirping,
so we thought we would' make
an early start and go to Milton
to see our new grandson, never
realising how bad the roads
were. Of course we hadto take
Ross with us and so as not to up-
set his schedule we planned to
be back soon after mid-day. But
it turned out to be a case of "the
best laid plans ..." About fifteen
minutes walk from Bob's home
we had car trouble and were
stranded. One •of'the fan blades
had pierced the radiator and the
anti -freeze was merrily boiling •
out all over the. place, It may
have .picked something up in a
flooded section of the highway
and got it wedged in the fan. Be .
that as it may the damage was
done. We called for a tow -truck
arid the driver first drove us to
Bob's place before taking the car
away for repairs. We were really
in a quandary. The car would
naturally take some time to fix
and we didn't want to stay at
Bob's too long for fear of upset- '
ting Joy .and the .baby, home
from the hospital just the day
before.. So we came home by
taxicab.
Of course the . whole business
upset our visit but at least we
saw the baby. He doesn't look a
bit like.Ross, did at two weeks
old. An entirely different shaped
head and chubby little face.
Ross was only mildly interested
A GIZL'S CURLS - The old-
fashloned curling iron, heated
on the kitchen stove, is still an
exciting item to this little girl.
Mrs. Norman Paukert'touches
up 9 -year-old daughter Sharal's
hangs in their home.
in "Mummy and the baby" and
came away from home with
never a backward glance. I be-
lieve the infant is to be called'
"Cedric Davis." I like the nanie
but I hope no one calls. him "See-
dric"! That pronounciation is so
hard and ugly. '
Bob brought the car home for
me on Saturday and went -back
by bus. Ross will be staying with
us until Good Friday. Fortunate-
ly for all concerned he is now
sleeping until nearly : seven in
the morning. He is also feeling
more at home and getting into
more mischief. But we survive.
Since he came I have ' been
wondering how many rhymes'
and games have come down to
present-day children through the
ages and when and .where they
first originated. As a means of
amusing Ross I sometimes jiggle
him up and down on my knees
while I recite an old, old nurs-
ery rhyme.
"Timothy Gay went out one
day, into a field all covered
with hay
A lamb and a hog, and a fine
speckled dog
Frightened poor Timothy right
into a bog."
With the last four words I spread
my knees, keep hold of Ross's
hands and •Iet him fall down
"into a bog." I played the same
game with my children and I' am
sure my parents played it with
me. But how much further back
doee it go? Does anyone know?
Another game I remember is
"Ride A -Cock Horse," My Daddy
used to sit with crossed knees
and then jumped me up and
down astride his foot as he re-
cited the old nursery rhyme -
"Ride a -cock horse to Banbury
Cross
To see a fine lady upon a white
horse ... "
And then there -was the story
of "The Conceited Chicken," pre-
sumably a rooster. I loved that.
It started this way:
"Good morning, my dear," said
a chicken one day to a motherly
hen who walked past her. "You
really are looking so horribly
scared, have you heard of some
dreadful disaster?" And then the
Motherly Hen explains that
company is expected. She had
heard the cook talking to her
mistress and, she concluded dole-
fully - "As likely as not you'll
be put in a pot and served up
for dinner tomorrow!" But the
Conceited Chicken "took her re-
marks with some laughter -
"For you know very well that a
chick such. as I knows very well
what sheds after."
They were delightful stories,
those rhymes of yesterday. Are
they being remembered and re-
told to present-day grandchil-
dren I wonder. If so will they in
turn, be told to our grandchil-
dren's children? Or will the old
stories with their homely but
fanciful philosophy be forgotten
in favour bf stories of space ships
and men from Mars. Folklore
and many traditional -dances are
being preserved: I would like to
see a collection of old nursery
'rhymes saved for posterity in
ust that same way. And I be-
lieve children tode-y would enjoy
them just as much air they Over
did.
LUCK WAS BARD
In .Milwaukee, Robert D. Sul-
livan lost a primary election for
a civlil, judgeship by 2,954 Votes,
two days later fulflilled a pre-
viously made commitment to lec-
ture the West Allis ISiwanis Club
on "The Luck of the Irish."
Proposed To
The Wron0 Gail
Sudden shyness had prevent-
ed the sensitive, young fair-
haired Swiss from proposing to
the girl of his choice, although
he had purposely taken her out
to a quiet little restaurant to
lunch in order to do so.
Certainly he had known her
for only a couple of months, he
reflected, as he strode back to
his office an hour later, but that
was no excuse for his silly shy-
ness. He loved the girl. lie sud-
denly realized just how foolish
he had been in not popping the
question as he had planned.
Heentered a telephone box,
determined to propose to her
there and - then over the line.
His firm 'vas sending him off to
Geneva for a fortnight on the
following day and he wanted to
hear his Maria say "Yes" be-
fore he left,
He got through quickly to the
big city office where the., girl
he loved was a member of a
typists pool.
' The operator. at the switch-
board was busy, but a moment
later, after asking for Maria,
the young man, still feeling very
shy, blurted out: "Darling, ` I
know I shouldnt ring you up
while . you're working, ' but
there's something I've got . to
say - something I should -have
said earlier. I love you. Will you
marry nle?"
"Yes . . but . ." said the
surprised girl at the other end of
the linea • • '
"Say no more, sweetheart,',
he interrupted joyfully. "That's
all I wanted to hear. I -know
how awkward it is for you to
talk with the other girl's around
you listening. I'll write directly
I get to Geneva.','
And he rang off - blissfully
unconscious that he had been
speaking to the wrong girl and
had proposed to a stranger.
Yes, the switchboard .opera-
tor had -plugged him through to
another department. The aston-
ished girl he'd proposed to ,was
already engaged and when she
had : first heard his voice had
thought it was her own fiance.
You can imagine Maria's as-
tonishment when the young man
wrote her a passionate love let-
ter from Geneva, beginning:
"Darling little Wife to -be .
and discussing their forthcom-
inf wedding.
The mix-up was soon sorted
out in later letters. When he re-
turned, abashed and shyer than
ever, from Geneva, the young
man proposed to Maria person-
ally, blurting out his apologies
for' the mistake. She smilingly
accepted him.
We all Make mistakes or be-
come involved in amusing mis-
understandings • at times. Look
what happened to a New York
broadcasting official a few
weeks ago. He was very much in
love with his beautiful young
wile and nev - failed to take
home a dozen or so roses fur
her each evening.
He caught a suburban train
Grand Central Station at about
6 p.m. and, on this occasion,
absent-mindedly left the roses
on a platform bookstall while
buying newspapers. On the fol-
lowing evening the bookstall
man insisted on paying for the
roses.
"When 1 found them' 1 sud
denly realized that owing to my
mistaking the date I had over-
looked that yesterday was my
wedding anniversary," he ex-
plained. "It was too late to buy
flowers for my wife. She was
delighted at my thoughfulness.
I was a hero in my own home."
Obey the traffic signs - they
are placed - there for Y 0 U R'
SAFETY
Modern Etiquette
by Roberta Lee
tl, Bow does one properly
signal the waiter hi a hotel or
elub dining room that he le
ready to have his plate' remov-
ed from the table?
A. The knife and fork, placed
side by side onthe piste,
dicates that one has finished
that particular course,
Q. When the bride is being
married in a travelling dressy
what should the bridegroom!
wear?
A. An ordinary business suit;
or one that is appropriate for
travelling, with perhaps a little;
white flower from the bride's'
corsagein his lapel,
Q. Are desserts always eaten
with the fork?
A. This depends upon the
dessert, Some are just too soft to
be handled with the fork. A
good rule to follow is to use
your - fork whenever' possible-
but use good judgment, too.
Q, If a man and woman aro
walking together during a rairy
and both ' have umbrellas, does
each one use his own umbrella?
A: This usually proves awk-
ward. It is much )fetter if both
walk under the man's larger
umbrella.
Q. Is a bereaved person sup,-
posed
upposed to return all calls of con-
dolence? '
A. No; this is neither required
nor expected.
Half -Size Playsuit
PRINTED PATTERN
SIZES
T
..11-24I4
4776
4'. 0144
Modesty plus figure flattery in
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you who are shorter, fuller. Note
bra -concealing straps, built-up
bodice. Easy -sew design.
Printed • Pattern 4776: Half
,Sizes 141/2, 181/2, 181/2, 20?/a, 221/2,,
2412.. Size 161/2 requires 21/2 yards
35 -inch fabric..
Printed direions on each pat-
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ISSUE 17 - 1959
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