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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1959-04-23, Page 6-� E �r�IRST,. "Dear Anne Hirst: I am 19 now, and everybody thinks I'm a niee girl, but it is all on the surface. Down deep I am sinful and hateful and just downright no good, "When my father died I was sent to my grandmother. She wovidn't let me have any fun like °M..... girls do—so when I was 17 I ran off with a man who was married, which I didn't And out for 10 months . , . I left him right away, and my baby was born later. He never knew I had one. "I came home to my mother and stepfather. My mother sim- ply hates me, and accuses me of being no good. If I ever do get out for a date I've got to be in by 10:30! "I have met a very fine young man, and I think I'm in love, but she refuses to let him come to the house and if he calls ug she won't let me talk to him. I've met his parents, though, and they are sweet to me. He likes my baby, and I believe he cares for me, (I've told all my friends I am divorced.) "I have lived through all the torment I intend to stand. Doesn't anyone ever stop paying? I have no one else to turn to, and I'm afraid to snake any decision my- self. Anne Hirst, please tell me what to do! DESPERATE" • ALL MIXED UP • Before you dream of the fu- * tare, I urge you to make an *' honest effort to get along bet- * ter with your mother. I do not • believe she hates you. Didn't • she give you and your baby a • home? Hasn't she taken care • of you both since? You must • admit that your elopement and • its consequences were a shock, • and I am sure she imposes • these restrictions because she • is afraid you may be tempted • again. You are lucky indeed • that she has stood by. What- ° ever would you have done • without her? * You will have to show her • that she can trust you now. A • straight -forward talk should • dispel her doubts—IF you prat- • tise what you prornise. Assure • her that you will not betray • her confidence, and if she will ° relax, these rules a bit she will • not regret' it. This is the time ° to be humble (which you have • never learned to be) and to • mean every word you say. • Prove your intentions by °. showing her that you have o grown up. Are you assuming Team Ensemble PRINTED PATTERN 4632 SIZES 10-16 Sew -simple, a teener can make this pretty -ensemble all by herself. Princess dress is perfect for sunning; bright col- larette buttons on for city wear, Printed Pattern 4832: Teen. age Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16. Size 12 dress requires 5% yards 35 - inch; collarette, % yard con. trast. Printed directions on each pattern part. Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (400) (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont, LUSL1E 16 — 1959 * the baby's entire care? Are you * relieving your mother of many • household duties? Are you go • ing to church regularly and * trying to be helpful there? • If you are really sincere in • earning your mother's faith * and leading a good life, it will " show in everything you do— * in your manner (less bitter and * more respectful) and in your • attitude toward everyone. Then " it won't be long before she is convinced you are a very dif- • ferent girlthan the one who • brought such shame to her * family, You yourself will soon " know you are, and you will find * tolerance' and understanding * where only suspicion and criti- * cisco existed. * As for this young man, there • is no reason to tell him you * never married until he con- * fesses his love. Then it is his * right to know. You may call. * me old-fashioned, but no mar- * riage that starts with ' deceit * can last long—and there is al- * ways the chance that the truth * will come out some day. It is * when he asks you to marry • him that ydu will have to tell • him the truth. • Take heart. Life can be a * beautiful experience. If you * want to make yours that, begin • today by proving you have • turned over a new leaf. * •• * THERE'S ALWAYS HOPE "Dear Anne ' Hirst: Quite a while ago, I wrote you of my pre- dicament, and I've tried to do everything you told me. Nothing: has happened. There doesn't seem to be a single nice man inthe church I attend. I've talked to all my friends, and they don't know any they can introduce. I'm get- - ting 'desperate. "I had, one bad marriage, as' you know, and I suffered' a .lot. I got to thinking there were no good men left, that they only wanted women who go to road- houses, etc. I've always had a good name and.I intend to keep it. "I know you are not running a marriage bureau, but you don't, seem to realize how hard it is to meet the right sort. of men. I' think God meant us all to enjoy 'the company of the opposite sex. I hope other girls aren't having the trouble I am: MARGIE" * You would be amazed to, * know how many nice young * women have had the same dis- * couraging experience. Those * who write me seem the sort • who would make good wives, * yet month( pass and not a * single eligible male gives them. * a second glance. Sometimes. I * think some men are just plain * stupid to let talented and de- • lightful women live another " year alone. • Has it occurred to you to * branch out among other groups * and find new friends? I mean • women as well as men. If one * is .warm'hearted and kind, this * shouldn't be impossible, and • through them you may meet • others. Look about you, see • what your community offers, • and make your choice though- * fully. Everywhere there are „ popular young women who, * once they like you, are not * selfish in sharing their friends • Give the idea a whirl, * Because yesterday and today * are lonely, don't fear that to- * morrow must be. Stay inter- * ested in what's • going on so * that you will bean intelligent * listener, well-informed and re- * sponsive; remember that sym- * pathy and good humor and in- * nate kindness are treasured * virtues, and men are quick to • respond. * Let us both keep hoping that • your loneliness will soon be • over. * * * One cannot sin without paying, and the cost is high. A girl's whole future depends on her ac- cepting this fact, and her deter- mination to repay those she has hurt , Write Anne Hirst about your problem, and know you can depend upon her understanding and guidance. Address her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St„ New Toronto, Ont. Modern Etiquette b9 Roberta Lee Q. If one is eating in a public place where butter pats are served in paper containers, is it proner to let the knife rest on the pat when not in use? A, Never. The knife, when not in use, should rest along the upper right part of the plate — and, of course, never with the handle of the knife resting on the table, Q. Sometimes at the table 1 am when he has completed intro• ducing two persons? A. He should be the "Modem tor" of any ensuing conversation. It's always nice, if possible to draw two new acquaintances into• conversation by introducing seine subject of mutual interest. EVER SEEN HER? If you say this is Sophia Loren making herself beautiful beside a pool — you're close. She is Scilla - Gabel, Sophist's former stand-in, who hqs struck off • on her own career as Tarzan's most recent cinemate.. RONICLES °N uNGERF firOarandollrus P Cisrkera This house is strangely quiet now — no little .voice 'crying out in the night; .no one to Wake; us up at five - thirty in` the morning. No toys to fall over -. no one to dress 'to, "go walk" — and to .undress again half an hour later' and no, diapers to wash! . All of which means ' our. wee grandson has gone. home— back .to' Muinmy and Daddy and baby brother;' Now I am • won- dering what Big Brother's " re- action will be especially as gee ,'day we were looking through a •mafi: order ,catalogue and at one page 'I said =-- "Look, Ross, there's Mummy — and baby." He gave the ,pictures a perfunc- tory' glance, then turned ".the' pages quickly to the toy sec- tion. "T r nett . . . there's a truck!"" he exclaimed delight ediy, as.much as `to say, "Nov there's something: really worth' getting excited about." How- ever, from •a phone call I. under- stand he is quite Interested in the flesh and blood baby, and in the fact that it can cry.' We miss our little fellow very much' but still it is, mice to sleep without keeping one ear, open for a possible wail of woe.' As we grow older we 'forget howone small child can keep you tied down. You just. can't leave a wee toddler alone for a minute, The last day Ross was here I went out to the gar- age . for my car keys. When I came back I could neither see nor hear him, 'I called and call- ed, went through every room and down to the basement, but not a‘ sign of him - anywhere. Then *I heard a slight , sound.. I' found , him . . . in the cup- board under the kitchen sink, crouched, back of the plumber's goose-neck,=eyes gleaming twith mischief. Of ' c o u r1 e, in good weather our baby-sitting ' job, would have been a lot easier but good weather is something' we didn't' have around here :at that time. ' And now it's Easter „— and did .anyone ever think of sing- ing - "gm .dreaming of a white Easter?" Much;, less diff we ex- pect to ,see one. But yeta white . Easter is what we've; got, and • that's 'the end of it.' Easter Sun- day was nice and .bright any- way. But when it comes down to fundamentals does the wea- ther matter too much after all The Easter message is just the same as always, isn't it? A mes- sage that,:. to• remember 'helps us more 'now than it 'ever: did. 'We are living in troubled•times' and we certainly need' the;as" surance. that the Easter message brings. Incidentally, one -.of` the •finest , pieces'. of Easter writing I have read just recently' is a story by Phyllis Lee Peterson in the April issue of ,Chatelaine magazine. Do read ' it, I know THERE ARE SMILES—Cheek-to-cheek, Sheika Hoses and uni- dentified desert burro smile in Las Vegas. Miss Moser, recent- ly arived from her native Germany, helps widen the burro's grin. you will enjoy it. It makes what we may regard as mun- dane chores of the day seem so very worthwhile,. Mary minds and Martha hands are as essential now as they ever were, We spent Easter Sunday ui - Toronto with daughter and fa. may. We welcomed the change: It was .nice to gel away from the sound of sump pump and pressure. system. We discovered that the reason our sump pump has been going most of the time tor the last three weeks is be- cause the eavetrough outlet be- low the ground is frozen solid so the water Was just circulat- ing around the house, Hearing the pump every little while is annoying . .. not hearing it is worse! That is what happened one night. I woke up and lis. tened. No sound of a pump working, or of trickling water. 1 went down to` investigate without waking' Partner. The pump had blown a fuse. 1 put in a fresh one.: but even then the pump refused to function, So I had to wake Partner after i 11, Between us we got, it going again, Later' it blew another fuse, There was just une ,an- swer — dirt in the : pit getting into the 'pump, We spent the afternoon cleaning it out, Part- ner down inthe' pit,' I carrying the water and sludge away. Since then we haven't had any trouble. But it started us think- ing aboutthe inconvenience of modern conveniences and the. necessity of 'a certainamount of do -it -yourself -know-how i1 one is to make the .best use of the joys of modern living. On the farm the cellar used to flood occasionally but there was natural drainage and it eventually took care of itself. The septic tank had been in use for ten years without giving any trouble. The pressure sys- tem didn't' have the force be hind itthat we have here but it was adequate 'for our needs. But the' hydro 'service, I admit, was far less•efficient than what we, have - here. As far as We know the power has been off only 'twice in two years in this district. And then for not more than ten minutes. We think that is .quite remarkable. And here's hoping its good record con= tines. When the hydro fails almost everything':giites up the ' ghost: It is qne service we would bate' to be without. Detergent Foam Causes Trouble Don't be fooled .,sly the foam! There's a difference between cleansing' suds and the residue from modern detergents. It you use a modern .deter- gent'. instead of an old-fashioned type of cleansing agent, you may innocently contribute to a problem that has increasingly perplexed waste -disposal plants throughout the world. ' That problem is excessive foaming, caused by modern cleansing materials that are synthetic detergents. Such ma- terials have a molecular make- up • that resists the 'valuable "breakdown" action from bil- lions of bacteria acting upon waste to purify and remove it at disposal plants: Most waste -disposal plants depend upon a system of treat- mentknown as activated sludge, in which bacteria . na- turally present in water and soil break down the molecunes in waste. When this action is retarded, or missing, excessive foaming action results. Waves of ugly foam rise rapidly, caus- ing bad' odours and unsightly conditions. To overcome such foaming ac. tion, plants must use more men," add expensive equipment and maintain constant precautions to prevent mountains of foam from accumulating. 'Foaming has been on the increase since World War II, because use of synthetic detergents — known as "syndets" by chemists and engineers -- has increased greatly. fortunately, however, after several years of research, and some practical application of basic engineering principles, scientists at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology have developed a method that may solve this worldwide problem. The process is called "side flow," and is essentially the re- sult of long laboratory experi- ments, plus a relatively simple change In the engineering sys- tems at waste -disposal plants The main testing site,is a mo- dern sewage -disposal plant In Cranston, R.L, where the pro. cess has been in use since last November. Results to date are good, but the tests will continue for at least six months more before final evaluations are made. FAMLIX REUNION Each a - citizen of a : different country, the four 'children of a wanderingcircus clown met re- cently for the first time at 'Capri. The children had been born and left at orphanages in widely dis- tant countries, growing up with- " -out knowledge of each other. The' parents were killed a ,few months ago in a car accident, and the will they left brought to light the fact that they had four chil- dren and suggested their off- spring meet on Capri. At the meeting were Maria from Lima, Peru;, Francisco from Mexico City; Fernanda from Buenos Aires; and Gretchen from Co- logne, West •Germany. Fashion "must" for mother - to -be. This graceful top is won- derfully , cool for summer. Pockets to trim with embroi- dery. Pattern 723: maternity misses' sizes 10-12; 14-16 included. Pat- tern' pieces, embroidery trans. fer, directions. 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