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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1959-03-19, Page 6NE HIRST oto4 FaMail (10144#144Leat "Dear Anne Hirst; Icy hus- band has always been very loyal to his family, but lately I've discovered ugly facts about them. Since our marriage, three years ago, we always got along pleasantly, but lately when I've dropped in on them alone, his mother and sister have criticized little things about me and I am really on the spot, though I still do not know why, I know I have many faults, but I don't believe I was ever knowingly rude or unkind to anybody in all' my life. "I was so upset by these caus- tic remarks that I told my hus- band, I know now that was not right. Since then, we don't visit them at all; I know he misses them, but he refuses to expose me to their rudeness. "Shouldn't I suggest we re• sume our usual visits and take the chance they will again be nice to me? I love my husband so much that I cannot bear to be the cause of his breaking with his people. UNHAPPY WIFE? HIS PEOPLE ARE YOURS * When a girl marries, she * marries her husband's family wliethershe knows It or not. * For. his sake she must main- * 'twin "'friendly relations (at * least on the surface) and ad- * mire what virtues they have * and overlook their faults. * Since you do not know how * you offended them, take it * for granted that their com- * ments were made thoughtless- * ly, and let thein feel your * good will. * Your letter was too long and * involved to quote, but to me * it shows your innate courtesy * and liking for people in gen- * eral, you do not hold a grudge, * and that trait should see you * through, I hope their former * friendliness will be re-estab- * lished. Having your husband's * moral support is the logical * ending to this unfortunate * situation. * If you find on your next visit * that they continue their at- * tacks, at least you will have * made the gracious gesture and * your husband will appreciate * it, Somehow 1 feel you will * win out, especially since they * must have been missing him, * too. Unless they have agreed * among themselves to exclude * you entirely, they should be * relieved that you have made " the first move toward recon- * ciliation. * * O THE OLD STORY "Dear Anne Hirst: I married two years ago, and it seemed then to hurt another man deeply who was in love with me, He Week's Sew -Thrifty PRINTED PATTERN 4520 SIZES 2-10 Ea :y -sew Wonder Pattern! Dre s and bolero outfit for spring — sundress alone for summer. High Empire seaming above prin- cess skirt adds new note, Printed Pattern 4520: Chil- dren's Sizes 2, 4, 6, 8, 10. Size B sundress takes 13/4 yards 35- inch; bolero s/e yard. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate. Sand FORTY CENTS (stamps cannot be aceepted, use postal ,note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STLE NTiMBEP�. Scud order to ANNE ADAMS, Pox 1, 123 Eighteenth St, New Toronto, Ont. ISSUE 11 — 1959 found work in another town, and I've never heard from him until last week when he was here and called me up, He asked me to have dinner with him, "I declined, but invited him to call on us at home before he left. lie said he would but •he hasn't, and I hear he will be here for another two weeks . , "Now that I've heard from him I have a great urge to be frIgnds again, Would it be all right to give him a date just to talk over old:: times? I am sure my hus- band wouldn't object, he is very broadminded. UNDECIDED" • Innocent as the idea sounds, * it has been known to relight * Old flames. You have no such * idea, I am sure, but isn't it better to stay away from * temptation? The young man's * refusal to call on you and your * husband seems significant * enough. * Perhaps he will change his * mind and see you both before * he leaves. Let it stay that way. a *' * if you are engaged, be sure to. cultivate: the man's family and try -to .win' their affection ... If this problem confronts you, tell Anne. Hirst about it and receive her helpful counsel. Address her at Box 1, 193 Eighteenth St„ New Toronto,' Ont. IN THE FASHION — Back in shape. are hair styles for '59. For example: Coiffure, above, follows the natural lines of .the head, with just a bit of fullness at the crown. What Happened Ta This Star ? The evidence — clear, incontro- vertible, inexplicable — was there on photographic plates for any astronomer to study: On Nov. 4, 1958, deep in the southwestern sky beyond the familiar wheeling constellation Aquarius (the water pourer), an uncharted object was photo- graphed exploding into an in- candescent ball as hot as the hot- test known stars. Four years before, an exhaus- tive telescopic survey that cov- ered the same region in the far abyss of outer space had showed nothing was there. Two months after the explosion, a careful search revealed a starless void again. Dr. Willem Jacob Luyten, the respected 60 -year-old University of Minnesota astronomer who re- corded theviolent explosion by chance while photographing Aquarius with California's Mount Palomar telescope, was frankly mystified. "It seems difficult to escape the conclusion," he an- nounced last month via Harvard Observatory's official astronomi- cal reporting service, "that this represents a new type of stellar object." Dr. Luyten was quick to explain that the exploding object fit no known star category. Because a 50 -inch Schmidt telescope failed to- pick up any star at all in the 1954 survey, Luyten had first thought that it might be one -+f the Millis, Way's faint "wi dwarf" stars. But "white dwar a' are extinct, cooling bodies, '� rig past the explosive stage. P. ' ops it was a Nova, an aging star which flares up cataclysmically before dwindling into a feeble "white dwarf." But Novae die lingering, eons -long deaths, while Luyten's object disappeared in an astronomical flash. Had the too -clever inhabitants of some planet probed too far into the secrets of gravity or the nucleus and contrived their own apocalypse? Dr. Luyten thinks not. "It roust be a star," he told the press, "It has the.rproperties of one. Any comments are specu- lation — like Mark Twain's char- acter saying 'There ain't no such animal' while looking at one." "That new man wants me to tend him some money. Do you know anything about him?" "I know him like I know you. Don't lend him e penny," • HAZEL COURT: Big eyes and peaches and cream. English movie star now in Hollywood, j 1NGERFARM Gwev.doline P. Cle ok,e Another week gone by and the weather is still the main topic of local conversation, A young girl from the Midland district was here yesterday and said they had another six inches of snow on top of what was al- ready there. A letter from Shel- burne told us the writer's pick• up truck was frozen to the ground at the back a1 the barn and they couldn't spare hot water to thaw it. All the hot Water was needed for two cows down with pneumonia. Imagine having the worry of sick cows in this weather. There was a picture in a Toronto paper of a car and truck marooned in a farmer's lane near Redick- ville — a little village just about a mile from where our friends live so I imagine their truck is just as well at the barn. They might get into worse trouble if they tried to get to the highway. However, Partner is looking for an early spring. Happy thought, isn't it? I braved the roads and weather last Friday to get a few supplies to keep us fed. We waited two days for the sand - truck to come around — I had. no intention of going out until it had been along our road. Road? It would be nearer the mark to call it a skating ring. But it's a good time for get- ting things done. I finished the double -bed quilt top I was working on and have since piec- ed a crib -size quilt. Then 1 look- ed at a lot of odds and ends v1 white flannelette I had accumu- lated. "Now.what.can 1 do with all that stuff?" I wondered. Finally I got a brainwave. I joined all the pieces together, put a thin layer of cotton bat- ting between pieces 20 by 27 and presto, there were two nice, machine -quilted pads for a baby's basinette. And believe nib I won't have any trouble in' finding babies around here to use them. The crop that never fails! Rough weather also gives one time to read — and still more important to think over what one has read, An item last week was of particular interest to us. It said that Canadians took out more life insurance than people of any other country. The ques- tion was raised — is life in- surance a good investment? From our experience we would say it depends upon the type of insurance — and also one's capital reserve — if any When Partner was fifteen his father took out a thirty-year endow- ment policy for him. That work- ed out very well. At maturity it helped pay off the mortgage on the farm, After we settled in Ontario Partner took out two more policies — one an en- dowment, the other straight hie, carrying a double indemnity clause, That is to say if he was killed in an accident, the cash payment was doubled. At that time the children were small; farm values at a low ebb, so in the event of anything happening to Partner, the insurance was my only security. Then came the depression. Promitims were hard to meet and we were obliged to cash In on the endowment policy in order to carry on the other. When we took out the policies we were very green and ..relied on what the agent told us in- stead of reading the small print. So we were quite surprised whoa, after Partner had reach- ed sixty, we got a notice to say the double indemnity had ex- pired. The policy therefore was worth only half of its original value. Not only that but it be- ing what is known as "a straight life policy" we were obligated to pay yearly premiums as long as Partner lived. So we began to do a little figuring. As a result -we decided instead of paying money out all the tinie we might better cash in on the policy, invest the money receiv- ed and thus get a little income from which we could both 'benefit. That is exactly what we did and we haven't been sorry. To our way of thinking ao endowment policy is a good in vestment for young people. It ,is just a means oI saving. It also offers security if the wife be- comes a widow or provides a nice little nest egg for the family if it matures during the life- time of the father. Without :n- surance some young folk would never save or have anything to fall back on. But it shouldn't be overdone. It is poor manage, rent to penalize the family ex- chequer- for the sake of carry- ing extra heavy. insurance. There is also a superstitious angle to life insurance. Some people are afraid to drop a policy in case the peison insur- ed should diel My mother, a widow, tried to carry life ,insur- ance for all her five children. Eventually she let• the baby's policy expire. Three months later he died. After that, al- though my mother couldn't af- ford the ekpense, she kept the Got Black Memory R dsng Subwc y It is often thought that people who can ariswer difficult quiz questions on television must be exceptionally intelligent, i3ut scientists in many coun- tries who have studied the "memory power" of hundreds of men and women say that a good memory has nothing to do with intelligence. "We have found good mem- ories among.thedullards as well as among the brainy people," they report. We noW know that a ' good memory may be inherited. But you can have a good memory even if your -parents haven't. Women have better memories than men, say the scientists, And they also stress that by trusting our memories we help to strengthen them, Here's a tip—when you want to memorize a long list or'pas sage from a book, do it in easy stages, concentrating on each item and mastering it befors makegoing on n't ' the tonext. the mistake of trying � to memorize them all at once. Scent can often call up mem- ory. A Londoner tried vainly for years to'remembei complete- ly a certain important happen- ,jng sThen he went to Paris and ,(rat'k1led by Metro, the Frenen Uhcfe",,ground. Suddenly the whole scene the had tried to recall same clearly to his mind. It had happened in a Canadian paper mill. What was the connection? The smell of the French Metro is very much like that of damp paper. Modern Etiquette be Roberta Lee Q. Is it proper to ask a mar- ried man to serve as best man or usher at a wedding? A, Certainly. Be sure, however, to include his wife inn any of the festivities that the bridal party may engage in. Q. 1 know that en invitation to both wedding and reception im- poses the obligation of a gift. But if there is to be no reception, what does one do in this case? A. In this case, if you have been invited to the wedding, you surely would want to give a gift of some kind. Q. What is the rule regarding the eating of bread or roils et the table? A. They must be broken oft (not cut) and buttered, one piece at a time as you eat them. You may break off and butter a piece which is bigenough for several bites at a time, but not an entire half of the slice or roll: Hot breads — muffins, biscuits, pop- overs — are often buttered all at once as they taste better when ether four policies paid up, scared to death if she didn't one of us would die. There are still people who Barry a life policy for the same reason. Superstition is hard to kill. But, unless the beneficiary is de- pendent on proceeds from the insurance it is surely poor busi- ness to carry on a "straight life" policy indefinitely. Well, here comes an invading army Dee, Art and the boys! the butter has melted into then, but again you brealr off a piece to eat, rather than to bring the Whole biscuit, for example, up to your mouth. q. Is it proper to send gifts to the mother of a newborn baby? A. Close friends will sometimes send bowers or candy to the new mother, but usually any gifts sent are for the baby. Q, It is my understanding that. a prospective bridegroom's fam- ily is supposed to call on the family of the bride -elect as soon as the engagement, is announced. But what if the nian'a family lives in a distant eity? A. Then, of course, letters ex- pressing mutual happiness ever the forthcoming marriage' should' be exchanged, Q. is it considered good man- ners to eat the garnish that is served with a meat dIsIb A. Certainly, if' one, likes it. Q. What is the preferable time for one to make a chance coil?. A. Sunday afternoons and evenings seem to ibe the most popular times for sincib =R Modern Wall Drama ii►d•ItY cion a keR h. Slim„ tong, elegant. panels — newest approach to decorative drama: Vibe narrow frames, Nature -inspired accents. floe wall, door. Easy, cross-stitch. choose true-to-life colbrs. Pat- tern 529r transfer o€ twos 8, x. M- inch sprays, color chart key. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS, (stamps cannot be accepted, use - postal note for safety)' for this pattern to LAURA WHEELER;. Box 1, 1123: Eighteenth St,. New Toronto, Ont. Prisntplaibliy PAT- TERN NUMBER,. your N'phMtr and ADDRESS. Send' for a copy et 1959, Laura. Wheeler Needlecradt Bbok. Db hes. lovely designs • to 'order.: embroi- dery, crochet, knitting., weaving,. quilting, toys. 1m the hook,. a ape - Mal surprise to. make a little girl, happy — a crit -out db1Q,, clorohes• to color. Send 25'cents tor this book: DARK IS LIGHT ENOUGH — Man is catching u p with the cat.,- A mechanical eye has been developed, a low -light television camera tube that cah "see" in near total darkness, Louise Estes demonstrates the new tube, above, She appear* 4nrn9nitora in both pictures . one taken in normal Tight, left, the other In 'darkness. The tube is far more sensitive than the human eye, or even the human eye aided by night binoculars. This is a new electronic approach differing from infrared rays. Potential uses are varied. Militarily, it could enable submarines to see much better ahead and below the bow when submerged, or permit truck: and tanks to travel without revealing themselves with headlights. Its use will be confined to closed-circuit tefevWon.