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The Seaforth News, 1959-02-26, Page 6ANN£1+iRsr 700.44 "Dear Anne Hirst: I am one of your many male readers who consider y 0 u"r opinions sincere and packed with common sense, This is the first time I've needed to consult you, but my dilemma has got me down, "I am -much concerned about the way my wife is bringing up aur two girls, both under 12. She glosses over what I think are grave offenses, and sometimes punishes them for things that seen to me only childish mis- chief. "We are equally determined to bring out the best in them, and T should be able to reconcile her decisions with mine. So far I've got nowhere. She will not admit how unreasonable she is, so usually she has her way. I love them all so dearly, and this has me up a tree. Can you straighten us out? PUZZLED 'FATHER" * When parents disagree on e this subject it is helpful if the * husband will remember that * his wife is with the children • all day and naturally knows + them better than he, with all * his solicitude, possibly can, * She> understands their indi- vidual potentialities and con- * tradictions, and senses the * need for approval here, for * discipline there. Except for * weekends and vacation, you * can only study them at the end 'of the day, when youngsters * are not always at their best. * Because of her more compre- • hensive knowledge of their re- ▪ actions, a mother's instinct and * methods are usually sound. • You and your wifehave the * same purpose — to prepare " the children to get the most + out of life, to teach them to. * play fair, to acknowledge the * rights of each other (and of + their parents) and to grow up * to be good citizens. It is vital * that you two agree on the pat- * tern decided upon between * you, so the youngsters will * have confidence in, your judg- * ment, accept it as final, and * not run from mother to father * to gain their ends. * When you cannot approve. " your wife's opinions, ask her * to explain them; instead of * taking it for granted that she * is wrong because she does not * agree with you, discuss the * incident frankly and in good * humor. But be sure to talk it * over privately, so the children * do not suspect that their re- * ward or punishment is disput- * ed by either of you. * It is encouraging to learn * how concerned you are for Use Odds and Ends rd4018 Mgt& Pride of the Garden, a quilt that will be your pride. Have fun— use varied fabric scraps tor the 5 -inch tulip Easy applique ... for pillows, too. Pattern 805: charts, direc- tions, patterns for patches; yard - ages for single and double quilt. Send THIRTY • FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use 1,ostal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St„ New Tor- ontn, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN 'NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. Serd for a copy of 1959 Laura Wheeler Needlecraft B o o k, 1 has. lovely designs to order embroidery, crochet, knitting weaving, quilting, toys. In the book, a special surprise to mak ft little girl happy — a eut-ou doll, clothes to color. Send 25 tents tor this book. * your children's welfare Would * that more fathers werel * * * -Dear Anne Hirst: That man's letter saying he is convinced there are no 'honest women left impresses me, I'm in the same boat, Idon't be- lieve there's any good man to be had; I've been betrayed, too. "I would certainly like to meet cne who respects a woman, who needs one to trust and love him, and be trusted and loved in re- turn. Isn't there some way we can meet? "I have a good position and I work hard, and I long for dates with someone who is decent and kind . . . I know this sounds immature, but this life certainly gets one down: SHEILA" * So often I wish I could bring * two lonesome people together, 9 for from their letters I could * almost • guarantee they would * click.' But this column is not * a marriage mart; if you think - it through you will understand * why ' such an idea is im- * practicable, 9 The girl or man who has * had a raw dealsometimes has * a better' chance than those' * whose love' life has run * smoothly. They are more * sensitive, quick to appreciate * attention, yet wary enough not * to give their hearts until long * acquanitanee has justified it. * Your life is still before; you. It seems unbearably dull to- * day, but none of us knows. * what tomorrow's sunrise will bring. Take advantage of * every opportunity that pre- * sents itself — and keep on * hoping. + * * Dissensions between parents is one of the most disturbing con- ditions in family life. They should get together on the vital problem of their children's train- Mg, raining, ' and arrive at a definite agreement . When in doubt, write to Anne Hirst, at. Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ontario. , "Lo! 1 Have Wrought With. Common Clay" Common' clay is the common language fora ceramists from 13 countries whose pottery Is in- cluded in Ceramic International on view at the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York. This exhibition, the first large- scale .contemporary ceramic ex- hibition of international: scope to be shown at the Metropoli- tan in 30 years, contains 203 ,European works and 148 pieces from Canada and the United States, including Hawaii. It in- cludes the work of potters, sculp- tors, and enamelists. Here are not only the utili- tarian pots and bowls, but deco- rative items with cats and birds, children,' men, and women, and whole towns caught in some characteristic mood or pose and made permanent in clay. The works represent those pot- ters' who stick to traditional forms. and also those more dar- ing'ave. experimental ones who words eveAli •high -flying ; exuber- ance,.Asa • whole, the jury has recegniz' ;kill of a high order, and'"thite chenensional" inspira- tion. The'drtlsts shown are those who have `mastered the pure ceramic art. The selections — with their great range of motifs and types of ceramics — illustrate strong national characteristics. Yet, too, they indicate the evolving inter- national style, as potters borrow influence, contribute influence,. and become themselves, inter- national artisans. Besides the, work with clay which they have in common, there is their own dedication — wherever they pa- tiently sit at a potter's wheel — to an age-old craft. In our mass - production society 'this evidence is refreshing and reassuring. Although stone ware domi- nate the exhibition, there is much earthenware and terra cotta and some transparent por- celain vases as thin as eggshell. Glazes which glow like smelted jewels show the vast facility of the ceramists, Modern Etiquette t e t TISSUE 8 -- 1959 • COCKY SPANIEL — You'd.almost•think'this,snooty little guy -won the prize: cup in Epsom, England. it was'awarded to his mother, .but the tiny cocker spaniel: seems pretty possessive. For the past week the wea- ther, I am sure, has been the main topic of conversation. How could it 'be' otherwise when ai- - "ghost every. part of.the country, froin east to west, has suffered' from the unpleasant results of rain, flooding, ice and snow — and thee thermometer, within a few hours dropping from 50 de- grees • above to_5 degrees below zero. Although there were no major disasters in this district there were ,plenty of minor inconveni- ences. Ditches . overflowed, gar- dens were flooded. and here.and there a sump pump refused to function. One night the wind was terrific, lightning'lit up the. eastern horizon,' street lights flickered' and we thought surely the hydro power would give up the ghost. Partner was out until alter. 12 o'clock that night, open- ing up ditches to the road so the water would have.a better chance to run off our own,and our neighbours' properties. To put in time. I turned on the "late show" and after Partner, .. came in it was so good we want- ed to see it,through. Welch was fortunate because the furnace blew a fuse.'Had we been in bed we might not have noticed it-- and with the temperature fall- ing it would have been a nice, cold house by . morning. During the' fined stage our basement stayed dry but outside there was plenty of flooding. Now it is a skating rink—with children and adults alike making good use. of it. Not I — I won't even venture on to our driveway it is so ter ribly icy, and little we can de about it. On the 'farm there was always something to scatter over the ice cinders, straw, sand• or Battle -salt. Here we have nothing, except a. few wood ashes from the'fireplace. J haven't had the car out for five clays — why add to the traffic if one doesn't have to? We al- ways have enough of the esse,1- tialsof life to, last out for a week or ten days. Enough, did I say? 'I should add for ourselves. Thursday was another, story. A long distance call to. say two people, whom we knew only slightly, would like to visit us next day. I said I would be delighted — and meant it — but during the night I wondered what kind of a meal I could put up. Alter having de- cided on my "menu" I had just dropped off to sleep when the telephone rang. At 4.45 a.m,! By the time I got to the kitchen it had stopped ringing. But that didn't stop me worrying. Was' it Bob . had he taken Joy to hospital and was he trying to get us before he went? The things you can think of during the night! Got to sleep again pend at 6.45 the phone rang again. This time Partner was out of bed first. Hurrying to the phone he stubbed his toe on a chair.. Well, it was just the usual — someone hadn't checked the number properly so they had our' number but the wrong par- ty. Psrtner's remarks about his stubbed toe and wrong party calls are not for publication. by Roberta t,'e Q. Is it proper for one to stir one's food together on the plate at a dinner? A. This is very poor manners, since it tends to make the plate messy, like a child's. . You shouldn't vigorously stir gravy into potatoes, or swirl around your portions to mix them to- gether. If you want to mix things, do it by putting a little of each on your fork, and then eating the mouthful. "It's sickening the way my wife keeps talking about her first husband." "You're lucky. Mine keep: talking about her next." Our visitors arrived soon after eleven nextt day and, we had a wonderful visit. I marvelled at their courage as they had driven from the Caledon Hills.— equip- ped with ' snow=tires, plus a shovel. and a ',pail of sand in, the ear. f4pparently they .have just the'sott of place we would like — seven acres, partly bush, a spring and, two streams — but no close neighbours. To me that would be a drawback. We like country, life but we like neigh- bours too. The thought of being isolated gives ,me the shivers. Saturday afternoon I looked at our dwindling food supplies and I looked at the weather, which showed every promise of getting dirty again. So I just had to make a trip to the village store. It is at times like the present we both wish Partner could drive. But when he was young enough to learn . he thought he couldn't take time from the farm. Now he has time he feels it is too late to learn. Although he says he would take lessons if I. would go along with the idea — which I won't -even though I'm sure he would get along all right as he used to drive our small farm tractor all over the place. Anyway I got to the store and back so now we are well sup • plied for another week and can sit back and watch the world go by. Or can we? Staying home means more time to read and to ponder uneasily Over what, we have read. For instance Bruce Hutchinson has an article in the last issue of MacIean's Magazine on Canada's political economy. He claimswe are in real danger because we ' are losing world markets to countries who can supply those markets at prices Women Drivers Face The Weather Mother's role as the family chauffeur doesn't stop with the weather these days, Time was when women' drivers avoided winter's tricky driving condi- tions, but not todayfleecause wo- men become more and more knowledgeable when it cornea to cars and their maintenance, they are able to cope with the diffi- culties of snow and ice. Surveys have shown that tires are one of the first things peo- ple think of when ensuring safe- ty in driving, Blow -outs are con- sidered the- greatest of all tire hazards. Women who drive their children to and froz school, for example, are most 'anxious to have their cars in top shape and to know the safety rules for win- ter driving and tire care. Winter's alternate 'freezing and thawing causes many chuck holes and ruts in city streets and coun- try roads. When a tire jars over a ohuok hole, the reinforcing tire cord is frequently broken. Moisture from wintry rains and slush can seep into tine'. cracks and, cuts in the tire tread or sidewall and set up a rot co'n- dition in tire Gord, Experienced motorists check tires regularly, for cuts, breaks, and imbedded nails, glass, bits of metal. If this type of exter- nal damage appears, it is ad- visable to remove the tire from therim and have it examined carefully by an expert for signs of fabric breaks inside. Inflation should' be checked at least once a week, for tire ex- perts cite :under -inflation as one of the most dangerous- enemies of tire life.'. Signs of poor alignment, such as uneven tread wear, are addi- tional danger signals to the wo- man who cares about keeping herself and her family safe, on the road. • lower than bur own; 'and that our prices are above normal be- cause of our high standard 01 living. Bruce Hutchinson gener- ally knows what he' is .talking about so it is an article well worth considering. After all, it rarely pays to live in a fool's paradise. Some time the awa- kening is bound to come, Late or soon who knows? Loss of world markets would naturally increase unemployment and mass unemployment is a situa- tion we all fear — especially those of us who lived during the '30's. q. What, Is rho procedure when. tnarriage takes place In a clergyman's study? A, The bridal couple goes to- gether and is met at the parson- age by members of the families and a few invited friends. When all have assembled, the service is conducted, Figure -Compliments PRINTED PATTERN SIZES Fashioned for Larger ftgures. with- slimming and 'simple lines - Sew this smart sten-in with car• aigan or scooped neck for year 'round wear, Sew-veryessy, S sleeve versions, Printed Pattern 4504: Women's Sizes 36, 38, 40, 42, 44, 46 48, 50. Size 36 takes 41,e' yards 39 inch. Printed .directions on each pat- tern part Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS i4001 .(stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS. STYLE NUMBER: Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, I23 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. EGGING ON THE PRESIDENT — Embroidered eggshell in o pre- sentation jewel box was presented to Gen. Mohammed Ayub Khan, Pakistan's martial kw president. An artist, known only as Vakiluddin, used heavy gold thread to embroider on the empty shell an inscription in Urdu. It reads: "The saviour of Pakistan, General Mohammed Ayub Khan." Y.. RUSSIANS AT WORK — These five domes are located et Pulkovo Astronomical Observotory of the U.S.S.R. Academy of Sciences, near Leningrad, Here Russian scientists are compiling star catalogues. A new television device for astronomical research Is expected to facilitate exam- !nation of the moon, Mars, Jupiter and its satellites in other work at the observatory.