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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1959-01-08, Page 6ANNE 14U?ST csirt/Sc, I''"+r ri ' (nn,444.4 dot "Dear Anne Hirst: I wish you would write tl piece straight from the horse's mouth about those mothers who insist on living with their chil- dren when they marry. It may clear the way for an engaged couple I know who foresee trouble with a capital T. I fear for the poor man. His fiancee's mother, Who is well - Off; is planning to live with them!" "Even now, he and she don't get along too well. She is with them every chance she gets; she. tries to go along every time they leave the house, and when they don't, she sits in the parlor until he leaves. Besides, she talks top much. "She lavishes expensive gifts on the girl, who dares not de- cline them. It makes her fiance furious; he takes it as a personal reflection on his slim income. "Another couple, married nine months, live with his mother, but if they stay there they won't be married long, They are in their late 20's, and both want a family. His mother is literally. appalled at the idea, but if thev suggest leaving she throws a dramatic scene, "We all need our mothers, their affection, their advice, of- ten their help; but most of the mothers I've observed are born bosses, they stick their noses (and their tongues) in where they're not wanted, and only make trouble. Why don't they stay in the background where they belong? INDIGNANT" * Here is a true story: A dear friend of mine lost '* her husband two years ago. * Their only son had been mar- * ried less than a year After * the funeral my friend told me * excitedly that she was going * "They really want me, Anne, * to move in with the children: * and they mean it. I can do the * marketing and have dinner * ready (the wife still teaches) and relieve them in so many * ways. Aren't they wonder• * ful?" And tears ran down her * cheeks. * I was appalled. I slipped * into another room where the • son and his wife were. "You * two can talk to me, you know. + Now, the truth!" They looked * at each other, and the boy * said, "We do want Morn, of * course, but you know we'd * rather be alone." * Mom and I had a long talk. * I recalled the trouble her own * mother - in - law had caused, * and I knew my friend's tem - Chef's Favorite PRINTED PATTERN SIZES 8-10-12 M-14-16 t-18-20 tit -4;44.4444 Plenty of protective cover for kitchen chores makes this a fa- vorite apron. For bathing baby, "' sew apron in splash -proof terrty cloth. A sew -easy Pattern. - Printed Pattern 4769: Misses' Sizes.. Small (10,12); .Medium (14, 16); Large (18, 20). Medium size lakes 21/4 yards 35 -inch, Printed directions on each pat- tern part, Easier, accurate, Send FORTY CENTS' (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for thispattern. Please print plainly, the SIZE, your NAME, ADDRESS andthe STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. C• 1SSIJ,E 1 — 1959 * perament. I left her with, tl' "You'll decide for ,yourself, of. * course." . . Some weeks later * she was sharing her apartment * with a woman friend and had * got herself a good position that * employs her many talents, The * children contesto dinner once * a week, she visits them now * and then. Meahtime, she lets * them alone. * A few months later she told * how beautfiully things were * working out: "I'm so relieve,! * that I decided to stay here. 1 just bet I couldn't help trying * to boss them!" " What a pity more mothers * are not' as wise, Children do * need their mothers, as you * say, but they are the ones •to * decide when. * * * "Dear Anne Hirst: Congratulations on tat article you wrote about grandmothers - in -law, Everything you said Is so true! It would be well Lf young mothers would read it more than once. "I am happy to say that t does not reflect on me; the grandchildren' really love and trust me, and I am . grateful t i be just a good friend they can turn to when things go wrong. but I have seen and heard so much about the other kind that 1 must thank you again for giv- ing the topic space "So often it seems to me that the only time in-laws are want- ed is when the youngsters need money, or a babysitter for free. ADMIRER" * * * If children are old enough to marry they are old enough to run their own lives. Don't move in unless you must — and then don't dominate them ... Anne Hirst's counsel is at your service. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., N e w Toronto, Ontario. Problem Drivers Americans tend to seek simple answers to complex social prob- =ems on the basis of merely pass- ing a law . . . This tendency was plainly at work the other day when a:. group of members of a special committee of the Utah Safety Council, meeting at the Capitol recommended a number of changes in Utah's driver license laws . These are all questionable re- visions of Utah's driver license laws for the simple reason that they do not get at the heart of the problem. The essence of the driver con- trol problem is not the great mass of good drivers. Most drivers are responeible. Mpst usually obey traffic laws and follow sound driving prac- tices. They make mistakes, of course. They are guilty of some violations. They do have acci- dents. But they are not dangerous, problem drivers, and they do not r.eed specialized enforcement and control. Problem drivers, on the other hand, do need special attention. And they're not getting 'it—or not getting enough of it—in Utah today. Far too many of them are get- ting slap -of -the -wrist punish- ment for frequent misdeeds be- cause of police or prosecutorial or judicial laxity. Far too many, despite sus- pension or revocation of their licenses after serious violations, are receiving "restricted" driv- ing privileges. Far too many, despite loss of license, continue to drive. ROSE BOWL QUEEN — Pamela Elaine Prather, 19, charnis the lens right off the camera to show you how pleased she was to be named Queen of the Tournament of Roses. TOWERING TRIBUTE — Towering 101 feet above ground near • the U.S.A. Capitol is the Taft Memorial Bell Tower. 'Construct- ed Of marble, it was erected'in memory of the late Sen. Robert A. Taft. Cost of some $900;000 was met with voluntary con- tributions. HBONICLES iINGERFARM (lew.Moli�e D. Clark¢ The old year is practically gone; the New Year is .almost with us and so it is time to ex- tend to you my very best wishes of the season. I.hope, too, that you had a most enjoyable Christmas; that 11 will be one more happy memory to carry along into thenew year, December 31 and January 1 are two .days close together in time but worlds apart in sig- nificance. At the end of the old year inevitably we realise that a lot of things we worried .about never really happened. We tried to cross many bridges .before we came to them. Looking back we see how foolish we were. But, by and large, it wasn't such a bad old year, was it? But we naturally hope the New Year will be even better. To the old year belong whatever there was of good and bad; to the New Year belong, as yet, only hope, determination and opportunities. For what'!' That depends on our- selves, doesn't it? We don't all hope for- the same things; we don't all recognise opportunities when they arise, but we all have a certain amount of determina- tion. Oh, yes, the New Year is a wonderful time so let's greet the little fellow with a cheerful grin and make him as welcome as we can. Might as well, he's going to be around for another twelve months anyway. Of course I am of necessity ahead of time in my. writing. This column has to sort of pro- ject itself into space for pub- lishing requirements. So, as I write we haven't even had our Christmas and that makes it a little awkward — in more ways than one. But we're getting there and no doubt when the: New Year dawns I, too, shall be able to look back with a spirit of thankfulness for a Christmas of joy and gladness and look forward to a New Year that could quite easily be better than the last. As I write I know it is going to be an eventful year. In fact it is a safe bet that allyears' from now on in this nuclear age are bound to be eventful. Quite' apart from world affairs we may see a lot of changes in various localities. There are bound to be, with so much road work in progress, mushroom towns, sub- divisions and shopping centres. Time was when a farm was a farm and likely to. be for year's to come. It might change owner- ship but it Still remained a farm. Fields were ploughed, cattle pas- tured, pigs bred and raised, chickens up with the sun, dili- gently.laying eggs as theirshare in providing a living for the farmer and his family. Prices were rarely what they should be but there was a permanence about the oldfarm that gave the family a feeling of security. Now in the more populated areas that ' permanence has all but disap- peared. Many a hundred -acre farm, which, likely as not dates back to the Crown, has now an uncertain future. In a few years time it could be a cloverleaf, e gas station or maybe the site of a new factory, depending on its location. Old buildings, disap- pear, new ones come into being and each time that happens something very precious is often completely lost. By that I mean She early history. Nothing is left to remind those who come after that they are travelling roads that were once Indian trails, and later the .early roads of the pioneers — those valiant souls who braved wind, weather and sickness to wrest a living from the soil and to pave the way for generations to come. Progress is desirable and inevitable but it seems to me every township should do something to nreservP its own history. There should be a printed pamphlet available at cost to all those who are interested — and certainly for use in the schools. It need not be elaborate — just an outline of the district, the names of its first settlers; the location of old mills, churches, taverns and pioneer industries. So much is being lost. Even now construction has al- ready started on a new bridge on No. 5 Highway in Trafalgar Township — at one time called Dundas Street, or sometimes Governor's Road, as it was originally intended as a military road by Governor John Graves Simcoe. The bridge will span a huge ravine. Motorists_ will SALLY'S SALLIES 'I'm going home to Mother to learn how to cook." Land of Patriarchs 71 we draw a line from Egypt through the Mediterranean lands of Palestine and Syria, then, following the Tigris andEuph- rates, through Mesopotamia to the Persian Gulf; the result is an unmistakable crescent. Pour thousand years ago this mighty semicircle around the Arabian Desert, which is called the "Fertile Crescent", embraced. a multiplicity .of civilizations ly- 'ing side by side like a lustrous string of pearls. Bays of light streamed out from them :into the surrounding darkness' of mankind. Here lay the center of civilization :from the Stone Age light up to the golden age of Greco-Roman culture. About 2000 B,C,, the farther we • look beyond the Fertile Crescent, the deeper grows` the darkness, and signs of civiliza- tion and culture decrease. But over` the eastern Mediterranean, already a light is shining. It is the heyday of the Minoan kings of .Crete, .founders of the first sea power known to history . In the Fertile Crescent and ie 'Egypt , . cultured and highly developed civilizations jostled each other in colorful and be- wildered array, Peace and prosperity must have reigned in this world of Nile, Euphrates, and Tigris, for we have never yet discovered an inscription dating from this period that records any large- scale warlike activities. Then suddenly from the heart of this great Fertile Crescent, from' the sandy sterile wastes of the Arabian desert whose shores are lashed by the waters of the Indian Ocean, there burst in violent assaults on the north, on the northwest, on Mesopo- tamia, Syria, and Palestine a horde of nomadic tribes of Semitic stock. In endless waves these Amorites, "Westerners" as their name implies, surged against the kingdoms of . the Fertile Cerseent. The empire of the kings of Sumer and Akkad collapsed in 1960 B.C. under their irre• sistible attack . . Meanwhile one of these' tribes of Semitic nomads was destined to be of fateful significance for millions upon millions through- out the world up to the present day.' It was a little group, per- haps only a family, as unknown and unimportant as a tiny grain of sand in a desert storm: the family of Abraham, forefather of the patriarchs . "Now the Lord had said unto Abram, get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and from thy father's house, unto a land that I will shew thee. (Gen. 12:1.)" The country of which the Bible is speaking in this case is Haran. Terah, his son Abram, his daughter in law Sarai, and drive over it, as they do over the present bridge, and few will know that down in the ravine there was once a thriving pioneer village called "Proud - foot Hollow" Here 'William Lyon Mackenzie is said to have hidden and evaded his pursuers after the disastrous Battle of Montgomery's Tavern. The Tril- ler residence where he once lay hidden in the attic while soldiers played cards on the ground floor, still stands overlooking the ravine. Dundas Street is steeped in history 'and Proudfoot Hollow should certainly be given recog- nition as an historic site before its history is completely for- gotten. Already much has been lost. One of the earliest post offices — "Postville" was re- cently demolished and a gas sta- tion erected on the site. Cars are now serviced where the Stage Coach changed horses be- fore making the perilous journey through Proudfoot Hollow. ' Modern progress speaks for it- self; History depends upon ut for its preservation. Shall we sit back and let the past be more and more obliterated? Surely not. his grandson loot lived there. Mien, 11:31.) What was actually meant by Reran was until recently almost entirely unknown. We . knew nothing ofits eary history, All. the old Babylonian documents were silent about the middle reaches of the Euphrates, Meso- potamia, the land between the rivers, where Haran once stood, A chance find led to excava- tions in 1933, which here also gave rise to a great and exciting. discovery and added consider- ably to our knowledge. They brought the Haran of the Bible and the kind of life lived by the patriarchs quite unexpected- ly into a historical context. -From "Tile Bible as History,", by Werner Keller, translated by William . Neil. Bonus For Weight_ Theeldest of the 12 regular sediarii, the plodding men who bear the Pope in his portable throne, is Pio D'Eusebio, a •gray- ing, 52 -year-old Roman. 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