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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1959-01-01, Page 6ANNE WPST "Dear Anne Hirst; A little while ago you publish- ed a warning reminding children to be more kind to their aging parents, if only to escape the Punishment which might be meted out tothem later on. It made me feel so guiltyl "But why always blame the. children? "Recently'' I. lost my mother. I loved her, and I know that in her own way she loved us, yet she made it so miserable for all of us in so many ways. SInce 1 married there have been many times I wanted to be with her and I wasn't, because she would make our visits so unpleasant I dreaded to go again. She had s way of 'dawning' us all, even saying things which were not true. "Shall ge get our come- uppancetoo, as you put it? "1 think of my mother day and night, I pray for her. I have cried over her, and wish- ed things could have been more pleasant between us. But she never relented: (I've even blam- Low-Cost Luxury Make a bedset as a gift so easily; Embroider motifs • add ready-made eyelet ruffles. Low-cost luxury for gifts — hope -chest linens. Use smaller motifs as scarf ends, on towels. Pattern 591: transfer of one motif 7 x 18, two 5% x 15 inches. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box I, 123 Eighteenth St., New To- ronto, Ont. Print ' plainly PATTER N NUMBER, your NAME and AD- DRESS. A NEW 1959 Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book, JUST OUT, has lovely designs to order: embroidery, crochet, knitting, weaving, quilting, toys. In the book, a special surprise to make a little girl happy — a cut-out doll, clothes to color. Send 25 cents for this book. ISSUE 52 — 1958 se Inyself for not being more tolerant and understanding.) "But we couldn't do it alone, could we? • ANONYMOUS" * I have known a number of * families where the children * neglected their mothers for * the reason you did. She was • * so hard to get along with that. * t hey avoided visiting her * whenever they could, simply * because they reached the sat- * uration point and could take * no more. She chastened those * who loved her, whom she lov.- * ed, too, "in her own way." !' Violent remorse that flagel- * lates .one's spirit is not the * answer. Such an orgy of self- * punishment renders one unfit * to cope with her own prob- * lems„ and depresses the spirit * to hopeless confusion. Isn't it * better t0 admit that the past * cannot be lived again, and * accept the belief of religious * leaders that your mother's * soul, freed of earthly limita- * tions, is at peace? In other * words, she understands now ' that you all did the best you * could, and she would not have * you live on in self-inflicted * despondency, * If your mother had changed her attitude, you would not * live with such depressing * memories. But she could not * change. Remind yourself that * there' is . a limit to human en- * durance, and more than once * you reached it. I agree that " y0u "could not do it alone." * Life is a challenge to us all, * and a sane approach to the * unknown hereafter c h a r t e * one's ship through calm seas, * * . * "Dear Anne Hirst: A few months ago I was silly enough to fall in love with a young man who attracted me immediately, but he is certainly •'isappointing. He almost never takes me anywhere though he is here at least twice a week. I know he dates other girls, but if I see another boy he walks off in a huff. "T broke off with him twice, but I love him so much I can't bear it and I take him back ... I think I know what you will say, but this time I think I can take it. UNHAPPY" * You guessed it. What are you getting out of * this association but the pleas- * ure of being with the boy * when he condescends to spend s an evening in your house? * Aren't you being foolhardy? • * No girl will content with * him for long; he is too self- * centered to observe the social * rules most of us' live by. If * you keep on dating him you * will find yourself apologizing * for his bad manners right and * left; you must. know other * young men whom you can. be: * proud of. Stop dating this * boy, he isn't worth your time. * —And you need not give * him a reason. Just say you'll * be too busy for a while to '" spare him an evening. * * *• If you have reached a crisis in your life, confide in Anne Hirst, Her frank approach to your problem can calm your spirit and 'guide you toward peace. Address Anne Hirst at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. "What's the idea of suddenly taking lessons in French?" "We've adopted a French baby, and we want to understand what he says. when he begins to talk." :t BACK TO WOR;( — Pat O'Laughlin, a' Trans World Airlines hostess in New York, is smiling as she adjusts her hat before, leaving for Idlewild Airport to board the first TWA flight since the line was grounded by a mechanics strike that stopped aspirations completely on November 24. WELL ORIENTED — Her "Irish" eyes flashing, Nobu Otsumi McCarthy takes it easy in Hollywood. The 'former Japanese model who married an American GI is succeeding.in films. I4,4 - • HxONICLE 1NGERFARM GvzndoLtna P. Clarke Isn't it wonderful to be able to wish each other a Happy Christmas once again? Suppos- ing ive were •not allowed to . supposing there were not any Christmas. Wouldn't it be ghast- ly if December 25 were just an- other date on the calendar? But it isn't, thank goodness—it is Christmas Day—the most glori- ous day of all the year; the birthday of the Infant .Christ. It is a day that means many things to many people.. What we get out of it depends a lot upon what we put into it. You hear so often Christmas isn't what it used to be. Tha is perfectly true, no one realizes and regrets it more than I. But still, underneath all the • commercialism, the •,over -empha- sis On Santa Claus, 'the showers of greeting cards ' given and re- ceived, the Star in the East nev- er diminishes in brightness. It is there if we look for it. It points the way in our hearts and inner consciousness to the won- der and joy of the Saviour's birth. To me, Christmas now is something like the gift parcels we used to delight in as chil- dren. Very mysterious parcels parcels with all kinds of labels and coloured ribbons. You shook the parcel inquisitively — but there was no sound. You care- fully untied the fancy ribbons and tore off the outer layer of bright coloured paper. And what did you find? Only more papers, more ribbons and more labels—maybe even another box.. You removed the second layer only to find the same thing again. This might be repeated several times until a package that started out in dimensions of twenty inches by thirty was re- duced to a small box that could be held in the hand. And what did the,box contain? More than likely' omething that had been chosen with loving care;. bought, perhaps, with nickels and dimes that had been saved for weeks. Something for Mother, Dad, big sister or brother; for Grandma, Gramp or baby sister, Maybe the mysterious wrappings were duplicated in all seven parcels. The tinsel and gilt, the gaudy paper and string; the unneces- sary boxing created an illusion of Christmas. They were all there. So, also, was the gift - of love, often quite inexpensive and sometimes quite inappropri- ate, yet it symbolized all the desire of the giver to bring joy and happiness to loved ones in the. faintly circle. So it is, in ' a way, with our present-day Christmas. There are too many wrappings; many boxes wtihin boxes; coloured labels plastered here and there, together with too much noise and ostentation. But yet if we have patience; if, as it were, we remove the papers one by one, eventually we come to the true meaning of Christmas. It is still there, just as it always has been, but a little harder to find among all the commercial wrappings, The same applies to greeting cards, In our anxiety, not to miss oyone who Is likely to send us a .^,ard, we rush out and buy cards and stamps by the store We send cards to people we hardly know well enough to pass the time of day. We pore over last year's list, fearful of committing the social sin of for- getting someone, even though it. be our next door neighbours to whom we can wish a Happy Christmas just by lifting ` the telephone receiver or calling a greeting as we see them going, from` their house to the garage. So often greeting cards give me . a let -down feeling. I like them, of course, they are so cheerful and Christmassey,. I can't imagine the Yuletide sea- son without them. But how 08 - ten 1 have opened an envelope, sent'by someone I haven't heard from for some time, and I have looked on the inside of the card, on the outside, inside the enve- lope again and what do I find— nothing but a signature. What I like best is a simple card, with a short personal note. Then I feel I've got something. But how many of us have time to take this extra trouble? Most folk have so -many cards to send about all they can' manage is to scrawl their names on the cards and write addresses on the enve- lopes. ' Who dares to be differ- ent? •Very few. But wouldn't it be nice if we took the courage to ignore convention; cut out• sending cards to casual acquaint- ances' and spent more time on those• to whom a personal mes- sage from ourselves might real- lyly mean something. That is just my idea, of course —and one that I don't always live um to. Like everyone else I get caught up' in a last minute rush and cards are popped into envelopes regardless. The road to Heaven is paved with good Intentions and the Christmas season `'is littered with good wishes and loving thoughts, only the half of which are given ex- pression. We all try to do too much in too short a time. And here I am at the end of my column, and I haven't even said "Happy Christmas to you all". But neither have I sent you a greeting card without a message! This time you've got the message and not the card. Which would you rather have? Magic Tape A hundred or so gray metal machines, harmless -looking gad- gets each about the size of a kitchen stove, were whirling brown plastic tape through then, mechanical innards at 15 feet per second last month in net- work studios on both coasts and , scattered stations in between. As they spun, they threatened to project America's hufe tele- vision industry into a whole new broadcasting, era. Thanks to such Videotape re- corders, TV viewers saw snore than 60 hours of taped network programming in New York City, and nearly twice that much out West. On all three networks, Shows,which had prided them- selves on -their "liveness" -- "Hallmark "Hallmark Hall of Fame,""Perry Como," "Steve Allen," 'Play - hope 90," "The Voice of Fire - tone" — reached the unaware TV public Via tape. Considerably less unwitting than the public, the American Federation of Television and Radio Artists made the control and use of Videotape a primary issue in negotiations ..which threatened network TV- with a crippling strike through most of November: One of the main reasons AFTRA is concerned about tape is that networks could pile up a tremendous backlog. "Obvious- ly if a network had enough pro- grams on tape, a strike would mean nothing to them," said a union spokesman last week. Also under current contracts no pay- ments are made to performers after the show has been replay- ed five times. The union would like. a "pay for play" formula. - These quietly whirring ma- chines were indeed remarkable They could record on a ribbon of Mylar plastic — 2 inches wide — anything a TV camera and microphone might pick up. They could play it back seconds later with a clarity that was practi- cally indistinguishable from the live variety of TV. The tape ;could be duplicated or wiped clear and then re -used approxi- mately 100 times. Being turned out at the rate of twenty a month by the Ampex Corp. of Redwood City, Calif., 53 of the machines at $45,000 apiece— had already been delivered to the networks and 54 well-heeled localstationsacross the country. Advance orders already spoke for the entire factory output through. May 1959. Why was tape taking over? For the producer and director it offered the opporunity to dorrect mistakes before air time and present a flawless show to the audience. Run-throughs could be taped and examined immediate-_ ly, and then production values corrected' and improved. Studio facilities and personnel could be used with maximum efficiency, since shows could be tapes either hours or days in advance. Stars, often unvailable for speci- fic shows, could perform at their convenience. Big productions such as last month's "Kiss Me Kate," could be taped in a single day, while filming might re- quire several weeks. There were advantages for writers, too. Because interrupt- ions were permitted, •writers could, have greater freedom in costume and scenery. changes, and not have to worry about putting their actors through the obstacle race that live TV drama sometims does. Actors experienced . certain other benefits. Fluffs could be smoothed out; performances could be viewed and refined right on the set; a little of the disparity between. TV and stage drama due to hasty preparation could be eliminated. Advertisers, too, were dis- covering blessings in tape. De- fects in commercials could be spotted immediately after re- cording; the costly delays and reshooting sometimes required by filmed commercials could be eliminated without risking" any embarrassing lapses that have Occurred in the live variety. Also; nervous sponsors, unwill- ing to sign. up in advance for long series,` could buy a taped show and then cancel it on a few weeks' notice without great loss to all concerned, Thanks. to tape, network sponsors could have shows apl"sr at exactly the same time all '9•er the country —a great' help in gauging au- diences and national promotion, Perhaps most promising of all tape's prospects mos the posSl- bility of distrib:, i1g successful local shows pal'. ally, Sylvester Weaver Tr., * m -f and TV's most qurned'ref kiboitzer,NBC eom- mented: "You suddenly have a whole new world, It is a lot bigger step than any since we started TV. With tape you can produce serious, quality pro- gramming for a small audience at low cost. One of these days the taped programs will be big- ger than the networks."—From • NEWSWEEIf, Modern Etiquette by Roberta f,ee Q. Is it considered excusable now to "reach" at the table? A. While the old "boarding • house reach" is still considered the sign of a chowhound, we can properly reach for things that we can get CZ • easily as out neighbor can, instead of being over -genteel and bothering hin needlessly topass it. Q. When a bride is writing her thank -you notes for wedding gifts received, does she write also to the bridegroom's mother and father, and to his sisters and brothers for the gifts they gave? A. This is not necessary if she has been able to give them her sincere, verbal thanks. Q. At a buffet dinner, should the hostess wait until all her guests have been taken care of before she fills her own plate? A. While she floes not have to make a thorough check of this, she should be among the last to All her plate. Jumper -Dress Jumper with companion gblouss — or figure -flattering dress: 'You'll love the versatility of this pattern. Note dobbte - breasted effect; easy fitting skirt. Printed Pattern 4846: - Misses Sizes 10, 12, 14,' 16, 18, 20. 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