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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1952-10-30, Page 6z a& mei Oka OE PE EaDIE "Dear Arnie Hirst: Until the last fees: years, my husband never drank Now he does so regularly, He doesn't get really drunk, just takes enough to make hint !hateful, and hard to get along with, it seems to change h i s personality en- tirely. He knows I've al- ways hated drinking a n d all it stands for. It is tear- ing us apart, and if it continues it will end our marriage. "Last winter I left hint for four months. He begged Hie to a:ome home, promised every- thing. I gave in. Within a few weeks, it was the sante story. • "It is almost driving ine crazy, I don't want to be around him. I can't stand his breath; when he kisses me, I could scream. I go for days without speaking to hie_, and I can't help it, I can't pretend. He wonders what 'is wrong; he will not see it is 'just his drinking that is ruin- ing my life and his. "He says that I can't leave him, that I'll always come back —and if I do go, he will kill me. NOTHING LEFT "I know he can quit drinking if he wants to. He stopped smok- ing when his doctor told him to. "I don't nag, Anne Hirst. I never start a fuss , I used to enjoy going out with him, but I don't now, I never know what to expect! It makes him mad. "1 was never like this before he started drinking. How can 1 make him see that I'm about to crack '.4p? Unless I can respect him and love him again, it *i11 be too late. As he is now, I can't do either. MRS. L. E. H." do not wonder you are • frantic. You have lost faith " in ecur husband — and why • not After giving you his • weed to stop drinking, you • find quarts of liquor around • the house. That makes him * furl„ is, of course. He cannot * see that he fooling nobody * but himself. * Nee., he has become physi- goo' :1 * Cally revolting. Instead of en- * joying his caresses, they make * you ill. (They have the same * effect an many another sensi- * tive wife who is too thnid to * admit it.) It is as though the * man became as changeling — * not the one you loved and de- * sired, but a stranger with * traits yet- never saw in your * husband. He is captious and * critical, arrogant, even abus- e ive: He ridicules you to his * own advantage, and your spit- * it is so crushed that you are * speechless. * Drinking can do this dread- °" ful thing to the gentlest of * men. I have seen it. If he * could only see himself as he * it at such times! For if you * told him, of tours 1 he would * never believe he was guilty * of all the offenses he commits. * . Your husband, however, has * seen its effect on you.. That * should be enough to convince * hint that he cannot go on * drinking, and expect to find * you there to suffer over and * over again. You have come to * the end — as would any other gently reared womaii.. * You say he reads this col- * umn. If he happens to miss * this one, put the paper where * he will see it. I hope, with you, that he will wake up to * the crisis his marriage faces. * If he laughs it off, as he has * done before, he will find out * how wrong he is. For this * time, tell him you will not * come back. The evils of drinking are etch- ed deep in the hearts of thous- ands of wives. Finally the man must decide which he wants most—alcohol, or his wife - If this problem faces you, ask Anne Hirst ws'llat to do. 'Write her at Box I, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. w STsb-Teen Classic And the RELIEF IS LASTING For fast relief from headache get INSTANT/NZ. For real relief get IhssTANrnNE. For prolonged relief get INSTANTINEI Yes, more people every day are finding that INSTANTINEis one thing M ease pain fast. For headache, for rheumatic pain, aches and pains of colds, for neuritic or neuralgic pain you .tan depend on Ifes1'A con z to bring you quick comfort. 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Print plainly SIMM, NANMIt, ADDRESS STYLE NUMBER. :;end order to Box 1, 123 P.fthlee nth St., New Toronto, Ont, Walked For Wedding—Three- year-old Adele ,Poindexter, ill with polio, won her reward for a walking -recovery and went hand -In -hand down the aisle at the wedding of the former Miss Shirley Ludwig, now Mrs. Neil Benford, physical therapist. Seen above, Adele is looking at the bride's prayer book with the new Mrs. Benlord after the ceremony. She was promised she could attend if able to walk then. r..• !1 d RONICLIES RM h E 1,>~ Thanksgiving week -end and what perfect v'eatherl The only nice holiday week -end we have had this year. It gave many people a chance to drive through the country and see the autumn colouring at its best. Red maples everywhere — but they show to much better advantage where there are also evergreens, and maybe a background of limestone rock. In this district we have them all. Even from here the view is perfect so we don't have to travel the high- ways in search of beauty. Well, while this was definitely a thanksgiving season at Ginger Farin, it wasn't exactly a holi- day week -end. Our family from Toronto was here and we had been told to line up any jobs for which we need help. We did just - that. Apples and pears were picked, and then Daughter helped can pears to take home with her. Art helped Partner put up a fence and with various other jobs. And then we moved the hens. Yes, indeed! I stayed in the pen and caught them while the other three carried them away to new quarters — quite a distance. One hen got away and then followed an ar- gument as to who was respon- sible for its escape. Biddy, natu- rally, didn't stop to listen. She went on her way rejoicing, hunting for late worms and savoury grubs. Neither did we waste our energy chasing her but left places open where she could shelter for the night. Of course we had callers while we were busy — I have no , idea what they thought of our dishevelled appearance. Catching hens and blimbing apple trees doesn't improve one's appearance. However, they only stopped long enough to say hullo and goodbye, after leaving some perennial roots which had been promised for this fall. These friends had an old lady with them — mother and grandmother too. They were taking her for a drive and then out for Thanksgiving dinner, g away front her apartment where she lives alone. This old lady has five children and about fif- teen grandchldren. She visits among them during the summer and comes back to her apart- ment for the winter. She is loved and considered and yet says she is often lonely. I looked at her, and my thoughts went back once again to a home I Visited last week where I saw many old. people — our newly opened home for the aged. It is a marvellous place, absolutely modern in every detail. Fur- nishings artistic and comfort- WIiIl IM IIELP OF TOBACCO ELIMar' AT For Iran booklet and anmom et neighbours who gladly teeny to 110 amazing results at this non -habit terming remedy, write I1IsC iPharmaaal dere, Ltd., Dos sto. hoodoo, Oat, able; beds restful; zooms airy and light; meals good and the superizitendent, and his staff effi- cient, kind and considerate. Many of these aged residents seemed well content. But thez'.e were others whom T could not forget, They seemed like people without hope .just waiting. Many of them had been trans- ferred to. thisnew home from a house of refuge where some of them had spent many years. And 1 wondered .. , had they any friends — any family? Had they been placed in the home and forgotten? Did they have visitors who were interested in them personally? What was the story behind their expression- less faces — what were their feelings? In the men's lounge there were about a dozen Hien. Some smoking, others' just sitting. There were papers and maga- zines but none of them was read- ing. They were not even talking. In the women's quarters some were reading, writing letters, or doing fancy work. A few were just sitting with that same hopeless expression, not even curious as to who the unknown person might be when I walked in. Many of them were in the same age group as the old lady who came here yesterday. Yet • she is seldom idle, reads a lot and takes an active interest in church work. Wherein lies the ditferenece? • I may be wrong but it seems to' me our aged citizens may be housed in the most modern and comfortable domes that can be built yet they will` never be happy unless there is someone who cares; someone belonging to them who can make them feel they are still necessary — still able to contribute in ,some way to the happiness of others, even by living, or, if they can, by knitting or malting little things. Grandpa, with- time on his hands, can often make won- derful toys, just by whittling, And grandma should be en- couraged to knit, or sew, even if she makes nothing more than pot -holders, A home for the aged may be the very best place for grand- pa and grandma to receive proper care but they- still need r folks" and a sense of belong- ing_ No home can take the place of filial love and respect. And surely that is not too much to expect. Marching Snails About one hundred years ago a species of large snails broke .loose from its native Africa and went on the rampage. Since then it has ranged all over the tropics, destroying, breeding, spreading, and causing countless millions of pounds' worth of damage., In Africa the giant snail popu- lation had been kept in check by the natives, who prized them as food and wore the bright shells as ornaments, Then a British traveller, W. H. Benson, took some snails to India and let them loose near Calcutta. • The Indians did not take to them as a delicacy, and they be- gan to spread. By 1900 they had reached Ceylon, Malaya, Borneo, Sumatra, and Java. To give an idea of how pro- lific these creatures are, a pair of them were taken to Hawaii by a woman who had holidayed in Formosa. In a fev-yers they were completely out of control. Every single snail is an egg producer. One scientist estimat- ed that a single snail, in five years, could give rise to eleven 'thousand million others, weigh- ing up to a pound each. The snails travel in batches, and are not fussy about what they eat. They strip the country bare of practically all vegeta- tion as they pass over it. So .tar, the travels of the giant snail have inclined to the east. From Africa it has already worked its way round the Pa- cific, and has made a few abor- tive attempts to establish itself , in the United States. 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If a man is forced by cir- oulnstances to send a woman who he has been escorting home in a taxi, is he supposed to pay the taxi fare? A. He most certainly isi He should inquire of the driver the approximate ,amount the fare will be, and then pay him, add- ing enough for a tip. Q. What kind of flowers should a bride wear If she is married • in a traveling costume and pre- fers not to carry an arlo bou- quet? A. She may wear a corsage of orchids, gardenias, or any other flower that sults her fancy, Q. Is a person obliged to give the reason for declifling an ho- vitation? A. While not exactly obli- gated, it still is the gracious thing to offer some reason. Otherwise, it may be inferred that you do not care to prolong the friendship: Q. Is it obligatory that re- freshments of some kind be fur- nished after a wedding rehear- sal? A. While not obligatory, it is customary and a very nice thing to do. 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