The Seaforth News, 1954-08-05, Page 6�rxc
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"Dear Aline Hirst: When we
married a year ago, we lived
with my husband's pother for
Beret. months. Then she asked
Us to leave , , . Her other chil-
dren, too, say she is hard to get
along with, so I don't feel I am
entirely to blame.
"Now my husband sees her
every night, and leaves me at
Mime alone I don't mind this
too much, but he buys gifts for
her without telling tnel I al-
ways find out, and cry myself
sick,
"I've not had good health, and
this has not improved it. What
shall I do?
ETHEL M.
BE HER DAUGHTER
,. A husband has the right,
* certainly, to take his mother
* gifts so long as he is not de-
* priving his wife of necessities.
* But what a pity the presents
* do not arrive in your name,
* too.
• You may say, "I didn't
* marry his family!" but you
* owe his mother and his father
* respect and courtesy, if not
* true friendliness. You must have
* behaved badly for her to ask
you to leave so soon; after all,
* you were a guest there, with
* a guest's responsibilities. In-
* stead, you apparently made
* no friendly gesture, showed
* no intent to cooperate in do-
* ing your part as her son's wife.
* Dc you think she would have
* let him leave her house if she
* could have found a way to get
*..along with you?
* 1 do not place all the blame
* upon you, for I know that
* many older women are hard
* to live with, But they are
quick to recognize a your
* wife's desire to be popular
* with her husband's people,
* an d given a chance, they
* respond to any good will she
* shows.
* You are not welcome in
* your husband's family home,
* You expect to be married for
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* the rest of your life; much of
* the pleasure in your marriage
* will be lost if you do not get
* back in his mother's geed
* graces, Tell your husband you
* are going to try to,
* Instead of resenting his gifts
" to her, go with and help choose
* the next one. Ask him to tell
* his mother you did, and send
* it with your best wishes. Now
* that you are his wife, your
* thinking should be "we" and
* ours," and "us"; I'in afraid it
has been "0" and '`mine" and
* "me,"
" A few gestures like this, and
* S think you'll be invited to tic-
* company your husband on his
'' visits. When you do, put your
* best foot forward. Tell his
* mother, humbly, how sorry
* you are if you offended her,
* that you love her son, and
* want to love her. Few mo-
* thers can resist such a plea.
* From there on, you can win
* her over. Ask her advice and
* take it often. Show her the
* respect you want your husband
* to give your own mother. Go
* out of your way' to do little
* kindly, thoughtful things for
* her, and show that you want
* her for your friend. If you
* really love your husband, this
* attitude will prove it,
* This is a large order for a girl
* in your mood. But it can be
* done, and you will be wise to
start it immediately.
"Dear Anne Hirst: 1 have read
your column for over 10 years,
and I think it is one of the best
parts of the paper. I have no
problems to bring you, I just
want you to know that I think
your counsel is fair and wise, and
you are always kind,
"I have been happily married
for nine years, have two lovely
children, a beautiful home all
our own, and a kind husband. I
wonder what more one could ask
of life? When I read some of the
sickening heartaches you publish,
I only wish I could pass on to
such people part of our happi-
ness. We seem to find each year
more lovely than the last, and I
do give thanks for our blessings.
I wish you continued success,
CONTENTED WIFE"
* Your letter gives you away
* -•- how sweet to want to share
* the joy you have known for
* nine years! I expect that gen-
* erous spirit is partly respon-
* sible, at least, for the wonder-
* ful life your family knows.
* It is good of ,you to have writ-
" ten me. I thank you.
As a new member of your hus-
band's family, do all you can to
make them like you. Forget your
prejudices and any jealousy, and
try. Anne Hirst will be glad to
help, if you write her at Box 1,
123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto,
Ont.
Some Do's And
Does ''s For
Picnickers
DO .- Plan picric meals to
contain a variety of foods. If
food poisoning should develop,
symptoms will be less severe if
ether foods a •' ',sten with an in-
fected f ood
DC) Pack saiiissiehte and
ether picnic foods in small pack-
ages so the veld can penetrate
each package when refrigerated
All picnic food's should be refri-
gerated immediately after prepa-
ration and kept 85 Cool Sts pus -
Utile anti] eaten.
DO • Add plenty of pickles,
salad dressing, vinegar, lepton
juice or other acid fond to your
sandwich filling mixtures during
hot weather. The rlanger of food
poisoning bacteri:, [10111, loping
will be let's since they don't grow
Well iti acid media.
DON"I' levy unwrapped
broad or other unpackaged fresh
foods in an unfamiliar store, Play
418'v and buy sem/troy wrapped
bread. packaged rookies.. etmned
r'u'sts and other roods in cans or
peck:ne= when away from home,
DONT Taste food suspected
of being spoi!'d. Many food poi-
soniug bacl'ria and toxins are
tasteless and odorless. .It i$ best
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Anti the Roof Came Tumbling Down—The 600,000 -pound con-
crete roof of the new Sierra Nigh School is shown being hoisted
into position by powerful jacks mounted on supporting poles.
Moments later, the roof swayed and crashed to the ground
injuring seven workers, Officials drill through 10 -inch slab,
bottom, to make sure no one is trapped beneath it.
Lifei®uag Wait For
Lost Sweetheart
Who was the beautiful guest
for whom an Amer'can waited
for thirty-seven years in a lux-
ury yacht off the Essex coast?
We shall probably never know,
The man who waited all those
years is dead and he carried his
secret to the grave.
The yacht Valfreyia first made
her appearance off Brightlingsea
on the Essex coast in 1889. On
board was the owner, McEvers
Bayard Brown, an American mul-
ti -millionaire, with his full staff.
And for the next thirty-seven
years the Valfreyia was kept in
readiness to sail at a moment's
notice.
Built originally for King Ed•
ward VII, as Prince of Wales, the
Valfreyia was bought by Brown
for $125,000 especially, it is be-
lieved, for his beautiful guest, In
England he had met a girl with
whom he had fallen in love, and
legend has it that she and Brown
had had a tiff, but that she had
promised to meet him at Bright-
lingsea if she should change her
view about living in America.
'Brown endeared himself 'to the
hearts of the Brightlingsea folk
when, during the harsh winter of
1891, he distributed money to the
people to ward off the hunger
which threatened them owing to
the bad oyster fishing season.
No women were ever allowed
on the yachtfi and once when a
d i s t a n t female relative of
Brown's arrived, he met her at
the foot of the gangplank and
told her: Your train leave in
thirty minutes, madam."
Newspaper reporters from Lon-
don received short shrift. No in-
terviews were allowed. Once a
well-known reporter asked him,
"For whom are you waiting, if
you are waiting for someone?"
To which Brown replied, "Aren't,
we all waiting for someone?"
In 1911 the British Government
sued him for income tax, main-
taining that he was liable as he
was within British territorial
waters. He lost his ease and had
to pay. In 1914 he offered tlr.:
Valfreyia to Britain for war u :0
and after the war resumed his
vigil on the Essex coast.
As he aged the millionaire
grew more eccentric. In the town
of Wivenhoe, near Brightlingsea,
he was walking .along a street
one day when a woman, leaning
over a garden gate, smiled at
hint. "Madam," Brown -snapped,
"if I give you five pounds, will
you take your face away: I don't
like your looks." The amazed
woman took the 4::5 and ran in-
side.
A few days after his seventy-
seventh birthday in March, 1926,
he was found stricken on his
cabin foor•. Semi -paralyzed, he
wag nursed carefully. But on the
morning of April Ilth a cabin
steward found the .old mem half-
sittina on the floor against a
chair
In his right hand he held e
photograph which he had en
denvoured to destroy by burr:
ing. Although charred, the pho
togt'aph was distinguishable as
that of a young woman, and on
the bark a Irv. words were leg
ible: "love Patric , '
Brown v.1.: 1 'art the long
years o w :1 it+r Pctririe had
ended.
cepiible to food poisoning bacte-
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nic ahead of time whirr refrige
ration Is not available. Cheese
i and peeing butler. with or with -
1 pi.l:lee tarn or marmalade.
are ;111 sanr,wieli otter'.
DON'T • Be afraid to freeze
mordkind.; of sandwiches for the
Meek. or motor trip. Out of the
freeze..' and into the picnic basket.
they'll keep cool tend fresk nn
the warmest day,
WHY Bit CHAiNGBO
Johnnie Johnston swears he
hear two cowboys talking one
night in a Manhattan bar, and.
the conversation went like this:
The first cowboy introduced
himself: "My name's Tex."
The second one said, curious,
"You from Texas?"
"Nope," said cowboy number
one, "I'm from Louisiana, but who
wants to be called Louise?"
Expecting
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'All around ue these days there
is a typical story -book smell. By
that f don't mean the atmos-
phere of books but the smell that
is spoken of romantically in
books — the smell of new -mown
hay, Yes, I must admit fresh cut
hay is sweet and fresh -smelling
before the dew rises, After that
it becomes pungent and some-
what heady. In fact, insofar as
I am concerned a little of it goes
a long way. I am more con-
cerned these days as to how and
when the hay will be taken -off
the field and moved away in the
barn. The weather, as I write,
is. very sultry and thunderstorms
are forecast, so anything can
happen. 13u t of course, we
always hope for the best -- that
is part of farm folk philosophy.
'Without it we could not farm.
What I mean is so well given by
a little poem by Norman Gale,
quoted in the current issue of
:Home and Country:
"God conies down in the rain
And the crops grow tall.
This is the country faith—
And the best of a11."
That much I had written last
Friday. Friday night it rained
again. More wet hay. Bad for
the hay but it made it easier for
me to take my annual three-day
holiday! When it comes to the
last minute I hate leaving home
and generally feel like backing
out—and probably would except
that Partner, knowing this, in-
sists on my leaving things ready
for hits and carrying out my
plans. Every farm wife who is
the only woman in the house
will know what I mean,
This holiday of mine was in
the nature of a convention—To-
ronto and Niagara Fails, with
various invitations for lunches,
dinners and sightseeing tours.
The Niagara trip was wonderful.
We were taken to see the new
Power Development project—but
not all of it as there wasn't time.
Like you I had read about it but
seeing it was something else
again. Saturday night we had
dinner at the Refectory over-
looking the falls. From the same
place we also had a splendid
view of the illuminations. As if
that were not enough each guest
received a complimentary ticket
for a trip on the Maid of the
Mist and also one for the Scenic
tunnel — with the compliments
of the Niagara Parks Com-
mission.
The next morning I was the
first one down for breakfast—or
I should say `up' as breakfast
was served in the Rainbow Room
at the Sheraton -Brock Hotel—
ten floors up. It was the most
wonderful experience. There we
ware in a spacious dining -room
with huge picture windows from
which we looked 'down' to the
tops of the trees, and over the
trees to the Canadian and Ameri-
can Palls. To me that early
morning breakfast was one of
the highlights of my little holi-
day. There was hardly a car to
be seen and very few people. It
was obviously not the sight-
s e e i n g hour for honeymoon
couples. The paucity of people
was such a contrast to the day
and evening crowds that it was
almost unbelievable. Certainly
after that: experience I am con-
vinced that sight -seers should
travel before dawn if necessary
and view the falls in the early
morning hours,
I lingered for an hour over
breakfast and I was particularly
impressed with the difference
between the American and Can-
adian sky -line which isn't so
noticeable f r o ni ground level,
Beyond the falls 00 the Anted -
can side there are tali chimney
stacks, neon signsand unsightly
factories and industrial plants.
On the Canadian side there aro
beautiful parks, gardens, work:
derfui shade trees and restart -
rants and hotels that are archi-
tecturally attractive, For all ori:
which we have to thank the
foresightedness of the Niagara
Parks Commission, who, seventy-
five
eventyfive years ago reserved 3,000
acres for park lands, these are
self-supporting — no expense to
the Ontario taxpayer, This vast
area has been preserved
partly in its natural beauty—
as along the River Road to Fort
Brie—and partly as remarkably
well—kept boulevards, garden;
scenic roads and parks, and the
Niagara School of Gardening,
Looking down upon the scene
from a tenth story window it
was easy to visualize what thio
wonderland might have been
had it not been so well planned
and controlled.
After tearing myself away
from this vision of enchantment
I joined fellow -travellers for
our trip on the Maid of the Mist
and from the spray -washed
deck of the "Maid" we got a
close-up view of the mighty
power and majestic beaut y of
the Falls of Nigara. Then we
went down to the Scenic tunnel
and stood al: one of the look-
outs under the Falls as the
thundering waters carne tum-
bling down just as they have
been doing for hundreds—per-
haps thousands of years. One
needs to give one's imagmatioa
full vent to appreciate the awe-
inspiring phenomenon of the
mighty Falls.
But enough tor the pr eseitt.
It is Monday—we are expecting
the baler in and I have straw-
berries to can. 'Bye tor now.
HIS RECORD
"The defendant is so crooked,"
began the D.A. in his opening
to the jury, "that when he gets
up in the morning, he has to
screw his socks on. He lived in
one home for twenty years
He'd be there yet if the gover-
nor hadn't pardoned him."
Summer Snow—A touch of win-
ter is featured in this Adele.
Simpson brief -jacketed suit of
snow -flecked tweed. Prevueat
at a summer showing of fall
and winter fashions, the con-
tour jacket is finished with tho
new "Cavalier" collar, and tops
a slim skirt with a walking pleat,
"Atom"izers for the Navy --With all hatches, ports and vents buttoned up, the light cruiser
Worcester steams through maneuvers in Caribbean waters with her "atom"izers going full
blast. The sprinkler system, which is designed to free a ship of contamination when it is subject
to effects of radioactive dust and mist from an atomic explosion, was developed during recent
bomb testa in the Pacific,