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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1954-07-08, Page 2•1111 Dear Anne West: Like so mane fine families, my husband's are a grand group who have kept very close to each Other, We have always visited them regularly. Lately they seem to have ehang- ed toward me, and I don't under- stand it. "His mother confides unpleas- ant things about some of them, and repeats little digs they've made about me, I have no doubts She's discussed my faults (I've g'et many) and perhaps they are getting even ... I made the mis- take of telling my husband. New he doesn't ask me to go to see them. I. know he misses going; Is he waiting for me to suggest it? "If 1 again saw them often, do you suppose they ;night treat me as kindly as they used to? Or would you advise staying away? TROUBLED WIFE" HIS FOLKS ARE YOURS When a girl marries, she mar * ries her husband's family • whether she wants to er not. *, It is one of her duties to get * along with thein --as, 1 hope, * you have decided to do, * When a man is as devoted t0 his people as is your hus- * band, his wife does not dare P be unfriendly, in spite ot all * temptation, She has to admire * what virtures they have, and * minimize their faults, Now * that this unhappy situation has * obtained, you must do every- * thing in your power to over- * come it. ' Suggest 10 your husband " that you two resume your ac- * customed visits. While you are * in their home, try to forget all * your mother-in-law said. You * do not know her sources, so It * is best to take it for granted * that the others stili feel kindly * toward you. In this way you * can win them back, which is * essential to your husband's * peace of mind. If any further s unfortunate comment be made, overlook it, and let them sense „ your good will and kindness * You can clo this. I know. * Your letter (which I had to • condense; reveals a sympathetic * and understanding nature that * will stand you in good stead '" Take it for granted from now * on that they still like you, and * play up to the idea. I think y they cannot help but respond HER FIRST LIPSTIOE "Dear Anne Hirst: My 15 -year- old daughter and I are at sword's points because I forbid her to use $ipstick and powder. She claims that all the girls do — but you should see what they look like! Week's Sew Thrifty What n t ;;, Jlettu :to I)' don't WOO'', Whip im a new tor' Or skirt in e Li': 'r, eh ihk :a ww •asy pet ve.,' 1'-"0 right now sew the ch ,;eel ,erslen e-ith or Without. the tele,' Par, enil:,c For spool Corot,,, t re, 93,(1,: are, 1,, ! 111008*. 1 it girt 4„,7-1,1:-.0, ,ri,,;e ' Shaped `ie•• :.] ilet it in a eIto„ • Out' fabt•i'. .o.,, m, ,art ,new' t Size.. 11 r i. 13 o !-i•;' tit ifri : ,1 ,1, i , 1 t111 with tickers 3 el; 1 N.ard en ntrasf Send .,.i;Al'i't' I'IVE CENTS jfXF NITAIRER. 30c0*°p1tieid) ofior ti t'st.a,prilattate,raun. haitmbne ; Istinly SIZE,NAME, AD1DI%SS . Send Wck'r In Flog; 1 .13 .E;igtit Gtenth tit , *se x Toronto Ont, 1 { "Don't you think she is toe young? 1 don't mean to seem old- fashioned or obstinate, but neither do I want her to look like a clown. TROUBLED," * Since the girls your daugh- * tet' goes with use make-up, of * course slie wants to, Let her— * and help her choose and lase it 1. properly, Select a delicate phtlt shade * of lipstick, and show her how * to apply it lightly. A powder * that blends with skin is easy to * find, and a good hand lotion can serve as a base. Impress upon her the Inlpor- * tance of being immaculate; no * powder or lipstick can hide a * neglected skin. Her hair * should be washed regularly and '" kept shining by regular brush- • ing Elands and nails must show * care, too. The next thing you * know she will be demanding " nail polish; steer her to the na- e° tural tones instead of the vioI- * ent reds that attraet too many * teen-agers, " She will love you for this co- * operation. As for you - your * child Is growing up, and if • you're the first to admit it, you * two will be bound by the * strong cord of understanding. * One of a wife's initial responsi- bilities is to stay friendly with her in-laws, painful as it some- times can be. Overlook their um pleasant traits, cultivate t h e happy ones, and so keep your husband, and all ot them, con- scious of your good will Anne Hirst will help you to achieve this and other attitudes that will enrich your marriage. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eigh- teenth Si., New Toroto, Ont, At em Etiquette Q. What does a bride. to with her engagneni ring before the wedding ceremony? A. She eau either leave it at home when she departs for the church. or wear it on her right hand. The wedding ring should not be put on above the engage- ment ring. Q. is it correct to say, "Mrs. Wilson. have you met Mrs. Johnson," if you are not certain that the two persons are ac- quainted? A. Yes. Q. Should tete stater glasses be filled before the guests are are summoned to the table for a luncheon? A,' Yes, the glasses are filled and the butter is placed on the plates. Q. How soon after receiving an invitation to a large dinner party should one send one's ae- ceptance or regret? • A. Immediately. Nothing is more inconsiderate or ill bred than to keep a hostess • waiting for a reply, since she must have time to invite substitute guests. Q. if a girl, who is to be mar- ried, has no father, brother or male relative to give her away. would it be proper for her to ask tier fiance's father to pertorm this rite? A. The would bei quite all' right Q. flow far under the tabic: should the chairs be. pushed, when placing them for dinner? A. The front edge of the clean should be on a perpendicuiat line with the edge of the tabic Q. 1 served same homemade apple pie and coffee after bridge one evening, and one of our women guests ate only the apple lie the pie, bating the crust. Don't you think this was rude of her? A Not. di illi ft might have been.that the w:e, Moine. or !:hat she. had satntr n1 •fireel; good t'''*0)n toot r•r•!,eat the crust st Q. Is ;a htl•.ancssatarue l; rvafe• ,d to tell his seer'etai'y that s to eyerr;rets:.es and n50 ton-nl•ight mit keep? . A He lute, ie11 her Gist: st)L tui, 0istcdefintl to other employers and ties, he wooed eppre:iate tl f st!c. used lone rho::+n tu:r dr' -x and t'ttakea.p,. Q. Is it proper fur a girt to rive her klatlt'S' a roue' for :his birthday'' A.. Sines. fie is bei hu;uanci• to - be, this ia, entirely proper. Q. PTbat would be appropriate gifts for :r ,young man on fife graduation clay.? A. A 1dt'Clt. ring, fountain pen, rig cu't'e cdse. light 01, wallet, tram'. HELPFUL ,.reading here at t' asked the wealthy rrlat, f1•nttl fhf! del„he of lu+ For coat. "Fiona, sir,” replied the beg• gar. appealingly. C-uld?' "Frozen, it" "Ab. nor said the rlvh roan, "what l e r'nit 1,1 do is to jump :Mott e he Easy, Doc--Two-month-old Bob- by Murdock opens wide for den- tist Dr. J. M. Dollar as he pre- pares to clean a tooth which ar- rived 'way ahead of schedule. From Bobby's expression, it seems he's not any happier about being in a dentist's chair than ore many grownups. NOT SO FOOLISH When the Earl of Bradford was questioned by the Lord Chancel- lor in a test of his sanity, he was asked, "How many legs has a sheep?" "Does your lordship refer to a live sheep or a dead sheep?" "It's the same thing," respond- ed the Chancellor, "Oh, no," insisted the earl. '•A dead sheep has only two legs. The two 'forelegs ai'e shoulders, and there are only two legs of mutton." 1 alit quite .sure most of the farmers itt almost every district across Ontario are feeling very cheerful today. How could they be otherwise after the grand rain we had last Saturday, which, from till accounts was not just a local rani. Even within twenty four hours every kind .of vegetation seemed to grow a couple of inch- es. It will make a wonderful dif- ference to the pastures -- and the gardens, and the strawber. ries. Strawberries . . are you not hungry for a taste of good, homegrown Ontario strawber- ries? Imagine being allergic to strawberries as some people are . mustn't it be awful?? What queer creatures we are -- some of us can't stand this or that while it makes no difference at all to our neighbour across the road. Take poison ivy for instance ..- few people are immune to its effects and yet none of our fa- mily has ever. been allergic to it. Which is fortunate because 1 walked right through a patch of it the other day. But just let me meet up with a bee, a wasp or a mosquito and it is a different story. That is particularly an- noying to Inc because I love to tramp through the woods but if I do, even though I smother my- self with citronella, I certainly pay for my pleasure. Why in- clination and result should be so diametrically opposed 1'11 never know. Our little humming -bird stay- ed with us most of lass week but now it has gorses -- probably he - I muse the chestnut blossom is withered and brown. But the lovely little canaries, the chick ,does and wren; ere with us ,yet. Also .t few flies - but not too many, so far. 1 keen a fly -bomb bandy and that discourages diem quite a hit the Way I use it, Na doubt most of you have discov ered that flies no longer succumb to the effect of DDT. But I have found a new of getting around that little problem. If, for fn stanec, flies become troublesome in the kitchen it is a good idea to close the doors and go to work with the fly -bomb. Just a light spraying - not enough to kill the flies but sufficient to make them stupid. Then before they have recovered from the tempor- ary effects of the DDT you can go fly -hunting with a fly swatter. No fly ever yet built up a resin tante to a well -aimed fly -swatter. This method is considerably cheaper- that spraying to Icill and it also does away with the naus- eating necessity of living in a fly -poison atmosphere for an un desirable length of time. Forout. side use there is that foul -smell - Mg glass jar fly trap that really does a job. If any contraption ever lived up to its name, that one does. And while we are on the sub- •ject of hot weather devices have you ever discovered the many uses to which insulating mater- ial can be used, especially for families lacking a refrigerator or ice -box. I mean the kind of in. sulating material that comes tri baits. If you have any odd pieces around the house, don't throw it away. If you haven't any, it might pay you to buy some. Here is what you do. Get an empty carton -- the kind the grocer uses to pack up your weekly order, Line it with several layers of newspaper. Now *take pieces from your insulating batt, lay them fiat inside brown Ipaper bag., Sem will meet six or more cot the,.,' nods. one 0)1 each side of the box, stud one or two for the top and bottom - the more you ISO the better the lob, Now you have a homemade refrigerator i 1 which VIM Fall put your butter. preferably on 1* brick, quart jars of mill /4 4. efeaill bl'Itslis. Gr anything else that needs to be kept cold mid that has been previously shined, otherwise it is useless While you are at it you might as well snake two of them contraptions a smaller one to take to town lei take care - of thathie creme. brick you intend bringing Mune for supper and a larger one for permanent use at home, or for taking on 0 picnic, as the in: ula . . tion is just as good for keeping things hot as for keeping them cold. No need to have luke wau'w tea or half -melted ice -resit at your picnic if you have a couple of these insulated container* along with you. But don't forget insulating butts are dirty things to handle. If ,you care to take the time it would be fat befit.) to do a good job while you are et it and use old pieces of cotter to cover the batting. That Ivey - your pads will last indefinitely So now we have the 'a''tiy looked after, how about thedoes? Short -haired dogs are en:,ity looked after by ordinary groom- ing. But a long haired dog surely nothing could Meese hint better than to have some of hi:a fur clipped away. Honey. tier little cocker spaniel. is of I.he bread that has lots of 'leathers' around his feet and legs i' hick is exactly right for a show clog But we consider comfort before looks for Honey, so yesterday I went to work with the scissors and gave her a real brush -cut an pearance. I am'sure she is much happier as a result. Tippy Ilse to be satisfied with grooming. which is about all she needs any way -.- except for her btsbv bait Do ' ile9pkve Everything Yot.t See -- Strange Tricks Played Dy Refraction During the war in the Pacific, an American cruiser went into frantic action as a large Japan- ese air armada began to hurtle towards it. Radar had failed to pick up the aircraft; and ack- ack fire had no effect as. the giant Japanese bombers came steadily and swiftly on. The startled cruiser's crew were convinced they were face to face with a new and secret air weapon that made 'planes 'invulnerable to fire . . when the bombers suddenly vanished. It was a mirage - a reflec- tion of a Japanese air fleet many hundreds of miles away: • While British troops were fighting the Turks in Mesopo- tamia during World War I. the enemy broke and fled across the shimmering desert. On the Bri- tish gun -boat on the Rives Ti- gris, the captain saw the panic- stricken Turks and ordered his men to fire. "The Turks are finished!" he exulted. "Out' artillery will mas- sacre them!" He waited for the thundering roar of the British guns• None came. "Why don't we firer cried the captain. dos- • pairingly. "We've got them!" The British artillery nc v e r fired and the Turks ,'ore later able to regroup A great chance of victory had been lost. Was it a case oP military ineptitude? No , . for the British gunners had seen nothing of the; enemy The Turks had retreated anis disappeared into a mirage -- that layer of heutt'd air in desert t.ounfries which distorts light and make; it look like a tak1 nt inland 'n '•) a tl A d Sr .. • The British had been robbed of their victory by te1'ract:elm, Below their eye level had been a layer of hot air which had reflected the Inver omit nt the sky. lh•ai Wave_= or the wind had completed lien trirke,1•,! 0*' making the image IVO,' Extreme beiii nnd e 0 ' 0 do etlsngo things to light During the Crimean War r'eidier- were astonished enc. 1-1.0 ddy 11 Ser the whole 11111)si1 Fleet in the sky A:, th"u,.h tt;at. cis ,:n'1 enough Ilitide down, and ';r, were: OW tie- mistakable ;times n1 site*r' the rigging. In the polar region:, esplorere have i'1'1-ryu,ntl;• been 1)0110 by seeine whai they though Wt”, another sh'-p• :kiosks pouring front its Tunnels. appercnity only xt few rant. s away Whet, the., have. approached the phantom vessel, it rnrn'ehee it is. the 1•e. - flection 1,1 shit hnt,drod:' nl miles away - When Sir James Reese its the last 'Triton., sought ilea north - West piess't rte through the wastes to the north of C'anoda, he was turned ba,'k by chat be thought was 1t vat held area with tow - ening 11tet ni a nc J ate Admiral Peery sew i, s,lne rnotnttalnr and recorded them nit his chtn't, A lafetx1 r eiltien ient, by the American 1Vl l..erun et itral History found th, run, rnnnn- tains and was eh:tiding 1 0 r ie When the; sun dipped below the horirn, and the "mountains" vanished. All the explorers saw then was ice floes — long miles of then, Admiral Byrd flew over the North Pole in 1929 and photo- graphed a mountain range. He went back to the same spot twenty years latex' and found a mirage had fooled his camera. His mountain range was situated 200 miles away. The polar regions are a vast hall of mirrors. Explorers have • seen the sun apparently rise twice and even three times in erne day — and put up the same c perfm'rnance in 1 h e efantastvumingi Sir Ernest Shackleton, the po- lar explorer, recorded in hi s diary during his 1914 expedition to the Antarctic: "I had taken 150' sun for the last time and said we would not see it- again for ninety days. Then after eight days it got up again It had gone away and risen by refraction. On other days, we watched the sun set, come up again, and set over and over until' we got tired of it" Polar. explorers have also re- ported seeing phantom cities awaiting them on the horizon --with beautiful buildings, trees, gardens, and even people walk- ing about in them. Thomas It. Flenry,.Jai his book, "The White Continent," tells of one recent instance: "Crew mem- bers of a coastguard icebreaker pushing southward through the ice parer on New Year's Eve, 1946, saw on the southern hori- zon what appeared to be a green *hu c - shore, rC C10. a ntnw'It1•t u, ' ti - cw bor- dered det'ed byhedges, sloped ed gent v upwards into eiderdown clouds. It was a- reflection of an Am- erman city freakishly photo- graphed on fhe cloud:: frottl thousands of miles south. Nowadays explorers and sail - ore am rightly sceptical when they sec phantom cities and - :shies in the sky• But it is little wonder 1111± itt the past, when the world was less well-known, sailors. unaware of mirages, were easily deceived Such fantasies probably gai,e rise to the legend of the "Flying Dutchman," the ghost ship that is said to sail forever round the world, and to the belief in the faire r11y of the enchantress Nit -mean La Fay. star hundreds of years this city appeared to sailors in the Strait of Messina, between Italy and Sicily, floating in the air with miry towers- and building, and luring sailors to their doom. The enchantress was said to .lift her city from the waves when She wanted more people for it. Sailors orcasionelly still see her "city" •-- the "rata Mor - gene." But new they know it is a reflection of one of the cities on the African coast thrown on the sky just as at certain titin., the eastern shore of Lake Michigan has been thrown into the sky above Chicago, n many nan Y miles iiwav ott the lake's west- tin short ut,;ate A loan who knows his onions. Two Stars Don't ake Ago Entre Company Sir Laurence Oliver and Vivien Leigh are to join the Stratford -on -Avon Shakespeare Company next spring and sum- mer. No definite choice of plays has been made, and it is not known whether Sir Laurence and Lady Olivier will accompany the Stratford company to America when the season is over. But plans for an American visit of the Stratford company have long been in • the air. It had been intended that Sir John Gielgud should head the Stratford players in a visit to New York at the end of this year, but that plan has fallen through. Sir• Laurence and Lady Olivier would be a welcome, in fact a more than welcome sub- stitute. If it should happen that the Oliviers visit the United States with the Stratford players one hopes profoundly -that the mis- takes of the Old Vic visit of the 1940's will not be repeated. Mr. Olivier and Sir Ralph Rich- ardson were in that Old Vic company, which presented "Un- cle Vanya," the two parts of "Henry IV," and "Oedipus Rex." I have been looking through the complete New York press cut- tings of that visit. and 1 find that, of those four productions, the only one to be heartily ap- preciated by the leading New York critics was "Oedipus," writes Harold Hobson in. The Christian Science Monitor. "Uncle Vanya" in particular came in for very severe com- ment. It was said to be very badlydirected and ill played, il payed. The boredom of its characters spread over to the audience. That, at least, was what most of the critics asserted. In many ways that 010 Vic Visit was a great success, how- ever. Thousands had to be re- fused admission to the perfor* mantles, which were more than fully" booked up. Mr. Olivier's performance in "Oedipus' was enormously praised. So was Joyce Redman's as Doll Tear - sheet in "Henry IV." But it is impossible to go through all the New Yank criti- cisms without feeling that Ame- rica was disappointed in the Old Vic. The fact is that the Old Vic had had the wrong kind of pub- licity beforehand. Britain had at the time a Labor government. Ideas of equality were popular. These ideas spread Le the Old Vic. 'The Old Vic company was then appearing at the New Theater in the West End. On the boards outside the playhouse the names of the company were listed alphabetically. There was no star billing, Mr, Olivier and Sir Ralph came very low on the list, because of the accident of their names. There was great talk of team spirit and conpern- tiall and repertory work,as though all the players were of equal • merit, This sort of publicity preceded the Old Vic company to the United States, Some of the Ame- rican papers believed this publi- city, and declared the company to be the finest repertory h•nupe ever seen, But most of the lead- ing critics were not deceived. They said, what was perfectly time, that many better rester tory companies had been seen, and even raised, in the United States. The fact of tin' matter is that the Old Vic comnnny- rehires visited the United States con- tained many ver1c'drurr,• players, The real strength to the company was that it had ewe stars of the first mae;nillittde But this was ignored in tete vont - pany's publicity, and so the company came t•+ h- ;'ru,u,•i: misjudged. As I say, I hope this tnisteke• will not be repeated, The Strat- ford troupe is not a good reper- tory company, if ,by a good re- pertory company one me:1W a company in which every part is well played. All Stratford t'ont- panies contain some, even n sev- eral. actors and acts,, _ of heart -chastening ineptitude Bit t if the Oliviers go to Ameriee the company will have Iwo great stars. It is as a star eomp:mv that it ought to be judged It is the pertornlances ot its principles on which its reputa- tion will -rest. Unless this is realised, injustice will be done, and much pleasure will be lost through looking for virtues the company does not have and ,o missing those viribrx which it, has. IDISILLUSIONIEID He "lifted his elbow ' rather frequently, and in consequence suffered somewhat from his wife's reproofs Once she followed him to a bar and found hint stttine in into front of whisky_ gazutt ir space. Before she could 'start harang- uing him he offered her a sip. but she spluttered •at the first mouth- ful, "Flow can you drink that hor rible stu1T she demanded. "There you are," said her hus- band. reproachfully, "and all the time. you thought J Ives. +'njoying mvsel f." C'est Sabot -French fashion de signers are tapping out a now fashion note with the adapto tion of wooden shoes--sabots-- for use as handbags. A leather strap and cover is all that f* needed to transform the tradi- tional peasant Footwear.